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There's a guy at school I like and I'm afraid to talk to him because I get nervous when I talk to a guy I like.He hasn't said one word to me at all this year and i want to talk to him (I'm too shy to). I need help and advice,PLEASE!(I'm 14)

Well when I started talking to people when I moved. I just complimented them! Like, maybe if he has a nice pair of shoes, pants, or a shirt. Compliment it. Like for example, if he has a "Britney Spears" shirt on, you can like say: Oh I love your shirt. Britney Spears is like my idol! :):) I'm the shyest person, EVER. So, it takes a lot of time. So, just take it slow. Maybe one day you can compliment his outfit, and then just smile at him for the next few days. Then a week later, say something like.. "So, what's your name?" Even if you know it. (: It's awesome. Lol good luck

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this might be long but i realy have a problem

me and my friend had been best friends since 4th grade and have been there for each other through thick and thin. last year around febuary she moved to a different state.. but we still talked every day. everything was going good up until the middle of october... when i would call her but she wouldnt call back, and shed say she was watching a tv show or was too tired.. well that got old pretty fast, so i sent her something that was like you act like you dont care about me anymore and i get a 'you know i care' we got into a big discussion because whenever we'd talk for a little bit it would be about her... so for a couple weeks we hadnt talked, and then we finally did when i called her and it turned into a hour of crying and saying she still cared. we got off the phone and she said shed call me tomorrow, suprise suprise i didnt get a call. ive tried making casual conversation with her but she is always busy and has to go. then a week later i get a text asking why i havent called her and 'you say im not being a good friend' then it just got into a war and how im making a huge deal out of this... and she turned all of this around to be my fault when i dont think it is.. finally i just told her id have my cell whenever she wanted to talk.

i havent talked to her since and whenever i try to say something shes always like sorry im doing something brb its just stupid and im not sure what to do its like she doesnt want to even be friends with me anymore randomly. she doesnt even im me when were both on... i just dont know what i should do so if anyone has any suggestions let me know... thank you

14/f

She's probably just got a lot on her mind. Seriously, like I just moved and left all of my friends, and they are constantly calling, IMing, sending me letters & everything. It's nice to know they miss me and stuff, but seriously sometimes I just don't have time to talk. & I don't want to have to explain to them I'm too busy to talk to them because I don't want them to hate me. So I may come off a bit rude.

Although I know what it's like to be in your position. When my friend moved away from me, she did the exact same thing to me, and it really made me mad. Until I moved I didn't realize why she wouldn't keep in touch w/ me. You need to write her a super long letter explaining how you miss how things used to be. Tell her that you think it's unfair the way she's treating you & you want to be happy for her, but at the same time she should have feelings towards you. She should want to talk to you.

Or you could, just give her the cold shoulder for a while. Then see if she talks to you or like misses you so much she NEEDS to IM you and all that stuff.

other then that, just give her some time. she'll come back, no worries.

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ok i have real bad acne. make up covers itbut i don`t want to wear make up. i want to noe that i can rely on myself not that make up, so how can i get rid of stubborn acne? the faster the better! please tell me something you KNOW will work -- frm experience please! i need it to be absoloutely workable. i rate high!

thanks

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Well, in 7th grade I had really bad acne. I don't have bad acne anymore, but I got a few spots here & there sometimes. But, in 7th grade I tried out ProActiv, because it looked like the best stuff on the shelves. But turned out to be CRAP! Like, it took away some pimples, but it was such a hassle to spend like 10 mins before going to bed, having to put all this crap on your face. Plus, it made my skin, dry. So my skin would peel all the time. It was nasty.

There's this stuff called. "bye bye blemish" you can get it @ CVS, or Walgreens. It's about $14. It works like magic, seriously it's like awesome. & it's definitely worth the forteen dollars, + you might get it cheaper. There's "Clean & Clear" Dual Action Moisturizer, $5-$6. It treats & prevents pimples, plus moisturizes your skin. Which you'll need because just using like a cream to get rid of your pimples doesn't help really, because you still need that one moisturizer, which I highly recommend this one, it's awesome.

And for your pimple cream, I'd definitely use "Clearasil Ultra, Acne treatment cream - vanishing." It's great. seriously.

And I just use soap for cleansing my face @ first, because I use a moisturizer so my face doesn't dry up therefore it doesn't matter. :)
Good luck

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I'm 14 yrs old girl and my boyfriend has changed he doesn't act the way he used to. Should I suspect he's cheating or that his feelings changed about me? or should I break up with him anyways I kno I should but I like him to much to do it. What should I do?

You need to tell him you hate the way he's acting because it's really starting to make it obvious that he might be up to something, even if it's not.
My boy-friend was like that, the past two weeks, and I finally asked him about it tonight, and he said he didn't realize & he'd change his attitude. :) Yayy. But, you shouldn't suspect anything just yet. You need to talk to him to find out what's on his mind. He'll be happy you want to know what's going on in his life. But, don't break up with him either. He might just be having a bad time right now!

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Her name is Allison, and she is AMAZING. I would ask her out, but I have one problem. I'm shy. What do I do to get over it?

Here's a website. :) It tells you everything you need to know :) Good luck!
http://www.romanceclass.com/miscr/howto/shyness/index.asp

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I wanna show the nation my appreciation: Girl your my angel, your my darling angel. Girl your my friend when I'm in need, baby

does anyone know the name of this song...and who sings it? easy 5

Angel, by Shaggy.
Hah, I didn't even have to search for that one. I used to love that song.

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where can i get a really cheap ipod? & for how much??

My friend claimed he got his from Ebay for $100, for a 10 GB. Which should be around $300. But good luck finding one, because I couldn't =/ If you look at stores that sell Ipods, they can range anywhere from 200-300! So, I agree with the person below me. Get an MP3 player. That's what I got instead. It was only $65 & it's like the same exact thing as an Ipod, just not as big as a fad.

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I'm getting a 6week old basset hound on thrusday and I'm not sure what i want to name it. I was thinking of Mya. any one got any unique names for it. Its a girl

You could call it, Thursday; since you're getting it on a Thursday, lol. That's totally unique! :) All of your friends will be like, why the hell did you name it Thursday? & You can explain it to them!

Here's a website. I'd name the one's I like. But that's not fair, when you could see like thousands of them! :)
http://pets.htmlplanet.com/girl-dog-names.html

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I read your column. I saw you claim to have lost a pretty good amount of weight. Would you kindly tell me how you went about it? And please be honest, no matter what the answer. I'd really like to set realistic goals, and I don't want to get my hopes up. Also, how long would you say it took to shed about 30 pounds? Thanks SOO much for any and all help!!!!!!

Oh yeah!
Well, I was really overweight to begin with, and I was made fun of, ALL THE TIME. So, it was pretty easy for me to shed a lot of weight, because of how much I wanted to show all the people who made fun of me for like five years that I could do it.I don't know if you're overweight or if you're just interested in shedding a few pounds. But, if you DO get picked on. You know how much it can potentially hurt you. And getting made fun of from 4th grade to 9th grade about your weight, by everyone including your friends & having no one to stick up for you really DOES suck. Even my family members: my Grandmother would call all the time, living in England she never sees me, and only met me once when I was ten [when I started gaining weight] Would ask my parents if they're doing anything to control my weight, yet. & Would tell me my sisters call me fat behind my back and told her & she was just wondering if I lost any weight yet. I was TEN!! That's the worst part about it. Anyways, basically from that paragraph, I meant that you need self confidence in yourself first. You need to literally stand in front of a mirror and pick out things you like about yourself, just to lose weight. As stupid as that sounds. It works.

Well, basically when I wanted to start losing weight, it was seriously impossible. I was 15, living in a stupidass small town consisting of 700 people. With nothing but a movie store, grocery store, & a pizza shop. NO attractions like where I could exercise or anything. So, I decided to stay in the house & try out Pilates & Tae bo. Don't get me wrong, they both worked greatly. I felt great after exercising. I was eating different portions and everything. Drinking diet drinks. But, I wasn't losing ANY weight at all. I was actually gaining. That's when my rents decided to take me to a nutrionist! They told me I had an oversized uhh shiit I forget what it's called. But, it's something in your throat, that controls your weight, height, and just about everything else. If I remember, I'll leave it in here later. I'll have to ask my parents what it's called. Anyways, since it was oversized that's why I couldn't lose weight to start with. So, I started taking pills that automatically made them smaller. Which caused me to lose 10 pounds to start off with. I don't count that with the 30 pounds I lost myself though, because I didn't lose that 10 pounds myself which sucks.

Now, it was really hard for me to lose weight at the beginning because I was just beginning & I was embarassed to run in front of everyone, even my family. So, I'd wake up everyday at like 4am & go running down the main street I lived on. I came from a shitty ass small town. So when I see Main Street - I mean a street that connects us to ANOTHER small crappy town. So, there wouldn't be any cars that would pass, which would be awesome. :) I stopped drinking soda for one, I just drank water all the time. 10 glasses a day :) Awesome. I didn't eat fast foods anymore. Like McDonalds, which was horrible because I loved McDonalds. :( I wouldn't even get their salads. lol. It was awful. I didn't have to worry about not eating candy & chocolate anymore, because I didn't eat it anyways. I just don't have a sweet tooth anyways. :P

I would have four small meals, a day. I'd wake up & have a bagel. Go to school - @ lunch I'd have a turkey sandwich, when I'd get home I'd have like cereal or something. Then at dinner time I'd have something else small, like chicken or tuna. That helped. Because, eating 4/5 opposed to 3 meals a day can speed up your metabolism. & Helps a lot when wanting to lose weight.

When I moved to this huge city, San Antonio. I knew I'd have to keep up the weight loss, so I joined a gym! It's been helping me a lot, now. Plus, I met a really good friend at the gym who's pretty much been in the same situation as me. And I'm helping her through it :)

To lose that 10 pounds from the pills, it took me about 4 days. But, the other 30, I'd have to say it took me 2 months. I lost about 15 pounds a month. Which is actually pretty good. Seen as I lost about 3-4 pounds a week.

My advice to you, if you're serious about losing weight. You really really really need to see a doctor about it. My doctor helped me SO much with weight loss, and I seriously wouldn't have been able to do it without her. You need to diet, portionize your meals & stop drinking soda & fatty foods. Start exercising, if it's only running around your house, or doing a video exercising program thing. See if you get results from it.

Good luck with losing weight, and seriously YOU can do it. I'm sorry if I forget anything, or if there's anything else you need. It's 7 in the morning lol. But just leave one in my inbox, if you need help again.

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What style of sunglasses are in style right now? I've googled and nothing came up. Are big square frames or aviators better for a petite brunetter? Black or white? Thanks so much!!

Aviators - white.
Sexy. :)

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i am about to go to this really important dinner but i have no idea how to use all those forks and spoons and stuff...which one do i use for each course? help me i rate high!

Hehe.
Smaller fork: Salad.
Bigger fork & Knife: Dinner.
Big Spoon: Soup
Smaller Spoon/Fork: Dessert.

Although the Salad & Dinner forks might be the same size, so then it doesn't matter which one you use. Or, usually if you're going somewhere nice to eat they should be placed in order, so you just go from the left to the right. :) Good luck.

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what does 143 mean?

143, means I love you.
Basically because, I have 1 letter. Love has 4 letters, and you has 3 letters. =]

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OMFG i just have to say that this Lost eppesoide rocked! but does anyone know what Walt was saying and what the wispers were saying and just like does anyone know anything! i love this show but i hate the suspence lol

Hey. I watched it too. Basically it's supposed to be that way because it's suspence and it's supposed to keep you thinking after the show's over. You can't exactly make out what they say though. (:

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If you had to pick one over the other, would you pick diamond earrings or a pearl necklace?

earrings--http://www.tiffany.com/shopping/item.aspx?c_id=WEB1&c_it=52U4&start_id=66&CategoryId=501&category=Diamonds&

&&&

necklace--
http://www.tiffany.com/shopping/item.aspx?c_id=WEB1&c_it=57I5&start_id=91&CategoryId=66&category=Jewelry&

I'd go with the earrings. Because, they're really really pretty. & I don't like pearls very much. But, the pearls look nice. :)

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I have AIM. How do you put buddy info for your friends to see.

On your buddy list, at the very top click; my AIM, then scroll down to 5th line where it says "Edit Profile." Then create a profile box will pop up, click Next>> & Next>> again. Then put whatever you want in the empty box! :)

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naimee,

you used to weigh 30 lbs more then wut you way now? whyd u loose weight? you look so skiny i cant picture you bein fat. tehe.

I'd rather you use the term overweight & not fat. A lot of people might be offended by that. I lost weight because not only did my dad have diabetes, but he had other health related problems because of him being overweight, but, I was also made fun of A LOT from 5th-9th grade, so I decided to do something important for myself. Which is why I lost weight. And I was overweight. So, picture it.

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OK I am about 5'0 or 5'1 and I weight about 140 ilbs. Im big and I know. I want to get a flat stamach the fastest I can. I love coke but i am willing to give it up. I just can not stand water. So what is somthing I can drink? I do not like most vegies, but I love all kinds of fruit. I do not own a bike. I would be willing to walk alot each day but it needs to fit in between homework and computer time. I love the computer so like yeah. LOL. How many crunches should i do also? I rate 5's!

Thx! *** Michelle

You're fat. HAHA

I'm sure you only rate me a three, what a bitch.

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have a big problem...i'm 15 and i'm goin to be 16 soon, i have never had a boyfriend or kissed a boy...is something wrong with me? what should i do?

Hey, i'm 15 too! almost 16.
And pretty much I've been in the same situation as you. Except I've kissed a boy. But, I haven't had a serious boyfriend girlfriend relationship! A lot of my friends haven't even kissed a boy yet and their like 17. So, there's absolutely nothing wrong with you.
My advice to you would be to just date around. Like, every girl can find a boyfriend, and I'm sure you're pretty enough! :) Just find a boy that you're really interested in & start hanging out with him. Then you'll have a boyfriend. It's not the easiest thing in the world, and it won't happen over night. So, don't worry about it seriously - our times will come (:

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Hey! How can I lose thigh weight? btw i`m 14/f Im skinny but I have big thighs ..and i really want to lose it. what are some indoor exercises without machines that I can do? Or are there any foods that help?? thanks a lot!

- The only way to lose fat
off your thighs, hips & butt
is by changing your
eating habits

- If you are overweight
and you want lean thighs
lean hips and a lean butt
you must follow a
sensible weight loss diet

- Although each of us has
a unique bone structure
and basic body shape,
which we can't change,
we can change our
weight and fat

- If you have a lot of fat
on your hips and thighs,
you MUST be patient.
Fat thighs do not
disappear overnight.
However, if you follow a
sensible weight loss diet,
ALL your fat will
gradually disappear

- A sensible diet is a
balanced eating-plan which
is high in vegetables,
fruit, and other complex carbohydrates, low in fat and moderate in protein.

AKA. Basically it means that eating veggies, fruits, milk, and everything low in fat & exercising will help you lose fat off of your thighs & hips.


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I'm completely fed up with tampons. I want to use them but I think Im putting them in the wrong way. Can anyone tell me how exactly you know its the right place/ right way and why they don't go in all the way when I try to push them in?

Hey. Well it's hard to explain it over the internet. But basically you take the tampon out of the packet, then you take your thumb & index finger and hold onto the grip right before the long stick you have to push in for the tampon part to come out. Then you just push until you can't anymore, and there ya go. I personally like put my leg on the toilet & put it in that way, but my friend just spreads her legs, [don't know how she does it, but she does.] hah! But, here. I found you a few websites with how to use tampons on them, and how to put them in and stuff. Plus, if you buy a packet there should be directions on how to use them! =]
http://womenshealth.about.com/cs/azhealthtopics/ht/How_Insert_Tamp.htm
plus, visit this site it'll tell you what you need to know about tampons. http://www.tampax.com

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