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I'm 16 years old and a junior in high school. I like giving advice so feel free to ask me any questions. Everybody has been through different situations and I could try and help you by what I've gone through. Ask away :)
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i'm with my very first boyfriend. i've been with him a couple weeks and everything has been great. except one thing, i hardly ever see him. i've only seen him once and we've been dating since the end of Febuary. I really want to see more of him, but i don't really know what to do. almost all of my friends have a girlfriend or boyfriend (guys and girls btw) and they've already been saying "i love you" and stuff. I guess i just feel kind of prude because i've never even got kissed before. i'm kind of afraid to be kissed too..even though i know he wants too. and i really want to go for it. but how do you do it? (link)
I know it would be hard since you see everybody else having fun with their bf and gf but you have been with him for a couple weeks right? You don't want to go fast into everything. And if you are scared to kiss him you don't have to you can wait till the right moment. Hey maybe this web site might help...

http://www.links2love.com/dating_tips.htm

Hope it helps!


so theres this guy i like but we never hang out i guess u can say we're from different crowds but i love talking to him but i cant tell if he likes me too we have so much in common and he makes me laugh so hard so how do i tell if he likes me (link)
These are some of the more subtle clues - keep your eyes open - you may have more guys flirting with you than you realize!!!

He remembers little things you mention in casual conversation.
It may take you by surprise. You might have been talking when he was around and two weeks later he'll say, "Well, you like orange fizz..."

His voice changes when he talks to you in a group. He may say "Hey." to everyone with you, but the "Hey." to you is a little different.

His voice gets softer when the two of you talk.


Sometimes he stares straight into your eyes.

His eyes get 'soft' when he looks at you. They change slightly or get relaxed around the edges. It's subtle, but you can tell if you watch...
(You may already be aware of it at a subconscious level - that's what made you start wondering if he likes you...)

When he's near you or talking with you, his eyes travel in a little circle around your face and land back on your eyes. (Like he's looking at your whole face - then back to your eyes.)

He watches your lips. (Dead give away.)

His friends start asking you questions - if you haven't met him yet - they may ask what your name is. Or may ask you what you think about 'him.'

If his friends are paying attention to you after he's been staring at you - it can mean that he's been talking about you.

He tells you that you smell nice...
(No hidden meaning here - it's a good thing.)

He might act weird around you or seem very nervous. His behavior may just plain change when you're around.
If he's normally quiet, he may get louder, or vice versa. It's the difference in behavior that's the clue.

I hope everything goes well for you!


hey. i have liked this guy for a while..last year i liked him and everyone thought he liked me but i wrote him a note asking him if he did and he never wrote back & my friend would bother him about me ( which i didn't really like.) we're both shy & even though he is popular he is pretty quiet and is kinda known for not showing alot of emotion. this year, we still look at eachother and make eye contact alot and one of my best friends thinks he might still like me. me & the guy never really talked so i don't know what to do. how can i tell if he likes me? last year i thought he did but then some stuff happend and i kinda gave up..but i still like him and i need some advice on what i should. thankss ♥ (link)
Well yeah whenever a girl likes a guy they want to know if the guy likes them. And alot depends on the type of guy is is and his personality. Like you said the guy was quiet right? So he might be harder to to tell. Flirt with him a little bit and see what his reaction is and if it seems good he'll probably flirt back or he just might not know what to do. Here is a web site that might help you.

http://www.links2love.com/teens_flirting_3.htm

I hope everything goes well for you!



how do you become famous (link)
Well you can't actually become famous. Like when you hear like you need to audition for movies and stuff. Also like find out if your mom or dad can help you figure out where to go and stuff. Well I actually don't know how old you are and if you live with your parents. And being famous actually isn't fun when you want to spend a little time being like you know normal and walk around freely without having a crowd of people come running up to you so its basically just for fun unless you just want the money and fame but you don't really get to have a life.


Hey,

I am a freshman girl, 15 years old. I am OK looking, people tell me im pretty, i am not flat (hehe) and im like 5 2 ishh. There are way prettyer people in my skool tho. I have this hugee crush on this senior boy. Hes popular!!! Iv spoken to him once and it was awsome. Then the other day me and myf riend spoek to him!! We laghed and spoke!! it was awsomee!! Now i dont know what to do the next time i see him!!! Do i wave? Say hi? Nothing? Did it mean nothing to him? He ( i think knows) i love him!! ( a lot of people no i like him) i really like him!! i hope he says hi to me next time he sees me!! lets say i say hi to him and he doesn;t anser? WHAT DO I DO!! HAAHAH!! and also, theres an all school retreat thingy. like we sleep in a hotel from friday to sunday and i want something to happen!! but seniors and freshman aren't really friends and all, and there are way hooter girls then me!! uch i need help.

really appriciate itt!!!
luvv uuu!!!!
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Yeah just say hi to him and if he doesn't answer it usually means he doesn't like you for some weird reason or he didn't hear you. And if he says hi then you can just start up a conversation like, "Oh something funny happened during class today!" or something like that you know. And at the school retreat thing well you guys will see each other right? So you can smile at him when you see him or just say hi and start talking. And it doesn't really matter about prettier girls. But make sure he doesn't have a girlfriend that wouldn't be the best thing. So I hope everything goes well for you!


ok so i have known this guy for 9 years + he is my neighbor and when we were little he would come to my house and we would play with eachother not thinking that we were different genders and we were playing house and we..made out. he liked me liked me when we were younger and i blew it. now i like him but he has a girlfriend. i have mixed emotions for him. what should i do, should i wait til they break up to tell him because what if he still likes me? it would ne so great for us to go out because then he can come up tp my house whenever he wants, that would be a great relatiponship. Help!
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If he has a girlfriend then I think you should leave him alone. I mean you don't want to hurt the relationship that he has with his gf right? There are also plenty more guys so you might have a chance with them even if you might have it nice relationship because he lives next door. So I hope everything goes well for you!


well today my bff called me a pendeja(its a bad word in spanish)when i walked away she told me that she was just joking around and that i take everything to personnal she said that i was like her mom then she said that she was just getting revenge for freshmen year when i got mad at her for wat other people said(we are in 10 grade now)then 2day after school she waited for me but i was so mad at her that i walked ahead of her she then her friend asked why i was doing that she said that i was mad at her i just left and she just stayed wit her other friend.Wat should i do? (link)
You need to talk to her about it. Yeah she may not understand but just try. And if she still doesn't just forget about the whole thing and hang out with her again. If she does something like that again then you need to ask her to stop. And if she doesn't then you need to find a new friend that won't hurt your feelings.


I have come to the point where I cant write, concentrate, derive pleasure from anything, have difficulty remembering things, have blurred vision, eyes seriously hurt, sometimes have severe headaches, most of the time dont know what I am talking especially with my elder brother. I have nt got father and mother I live my elder brother and his wife since 6 years. I am 26/M an MBA had a successful career but now since six months things have been deteriorating. I cant bear it any more. Plz tell me the easiest way to commit suicide which hurts less and is quick and doesnt make much of a mess. (link)
Please do not kill yourself! Life isn't easy at all everybody knows that! You can ask anybody in the world if they ever had something bad happen in their life and they have! Life will get hard for everybody. And you would say well "Nobody is in my position right now" Well somebody may even have it worse than you. Just please don't kill yourself your wasting your life away. Trust me killing yourself won't solve your problem. Please don't do it!


i have a boyfiend, but we never talk. we dont even say hi in the hall, we just kinda smile at eachother. i like him alot and i no he likes me, so thats not the problem.
he is i guess really shy and im kinda shy too so we both don't really have the courage to go upand talk to eachother. i really want to like after classes and stuff and i try to get myself too but i just can't!
how do i get my self to talk to him and once we say hi what should we talk about? please help! (link)
I use to be shy like that too so I know where your coming from. All you need is courage! Just one time you say hi and stop to talk then probably the next day you can do it again then it would be an everyday thing! Well the way you can do this is when you come out of class just say hey or something. And then like bring up something that happened in class earlier and then after that talk about what you like if you guys have enough time after class! I know it would be hard to say a single hi but just keep trying and you'll get there. Good Luck!


can anyone help me relate the terms:

united kingdom (u.k.)

great britain

britain

england

britons

anglo-saxon

also, what is an english accent? like english people from england, right? but what is welsh and do the neighboring countries speak english as well and in relation to Americans, what accent do they have?

thanks guys (link)
Well what I can tell you they have like you know Australia accent. Its more slanted I guess than in America. That the best I can do so good luck!


13/f. i loved butterflys 2 years ago and have never had a boyfriend so my mom said i was a lesbian. and she wasnt joking or anything. now i like black and dark colors she says im gothic and she says goths like peircings~i have had both my ears double peirced for about 4 years~and now since she says im gothic which im not she took all my earings and made me take out my earings to make them close up. she reads my diary and makes sure about wat i do or think or anything my friends do or just everything and makes sure i do nothing bad. so one day i wrote in my diary 'mom since your reading this and i no you will leave me alone i hate you i always have u give me no space' i got grounded for a month and she told every1. she doesnt have to read it and espesially not tell my whole family and cusins. its my diary shouldnt it be private? did i do sumthing wrong or what? (link)
Some moms are like that. Its just that she is suspicious and she dosn't want you to do anything to happen to you. You just need to talk to her about it and maybe something happened when she was younger and she dosn't want it happening to you. Just talk to her nicely and calmly about the situation. Also don't write in your journal for a little bit unless she wouldn't let you talk to you about it or didn't understand. So write in your diary telling her that you love her and explain why its bothering you but you know in a sincere way. Diarys sometimes should be private, to some people its out in the open. And about when you wrote in your diary about you hate her and she gives you know space that wasn't the best thing to do but just talk to her about it or write it in her journal or maybe not directly to her. Just try something like "Today my mom has been acting strange and she is saying I'm gothic because I have my ears peirced and like the color black, and its weird." Well I hope everything goes well for you!


I am 14;f and my boyfriend is 16;m. We are doing great, and I am in love with him. He has alot of other friends that are girls and same with me & guys. Recently one of his older "girl friends" asked him to go to prom with her. I trust him 100%, it's just I don't know her, and I don't trust the other people at the highschool.

I don't want answers like, "just talk to him about it" because I don't want to seem like the green eye'd monster. I just want to know, is it bad to be jealous of him going to prom without me? Any answers are greatly appreciated. (link)
Yeah you don't want to seem jealous because one of his girl friends want him to go to the prom with her. So I will assume she is just a friend right? And they never had a relationship right? Well if thats it then there is probably nothing to worry about. And I agree with Bethany2007 about have a friend watch him. But not like so noticeable. You can do that but if he finds out somehow then he will think that you don't trust him but you do so maybe its not the best thing to do but that is your choice. It isn't bad to be jealous if he is going to the prom without you its actually natural to feel that way. But also the girl that he is taking to the prom might be a flirty type of girl if you get what I mean. You know how girls can life persuade a guy to do anything they want basically guys fall for that. But I hope everything goes well for you!


My eyes used to be what I would call "normal" before I screwed up my vision by

using the computer too much
not turning on the lights completely when reading
not getting glasses even though I have some astigmation and nearsightedness in one eye and am a little nearsighted in the other
not sleeping much-swolleness
or as my dad says, sleeping/using my right side of my face more?
or maybe i never exercise and i need to lose weight to fit my small frame and somehow my fat distribution is not right on my face?
my hair is blocking my left eye..

because my left eye is smaller and uneven compared my right? when i took a picture of myself, both eyes look a little crossed. sometimes i have trouble looking other people in the eyes because it makes me uncomfortable and sometimes reading is painful

but i look normal in the mirror? in the mirror what you see isn't what everyone else sees, correct? but in pictures is what everyone else sees.

should i ask the eye doctor

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i have allergies

someone mentioned strabismus? (link)
I would reccomend the eye doctor. Thats the best thing you can do. If you need to take something then they will tell you what and whats wrong with your eyes. Well I hope you feel better.


sorry this is long but lpease read itwell me and my cousin sings together like a group and i write or pick songs to sing and choreograph the whole thing we did this new years party and i should her all the dances and stuff and everybody said oh stephani is the best and she did all the work after i heard that i was pissed i told stephani she just said so i did do everything i just want to punch her and everybody found out that it was me that did everything and they said i was the better singer but when we are both together they said we both are great but she sometimes gets the credit and goes to far what should i do (link)
Just forget about it. Someday when you do something great then you will get the glory. Yeah I know it stinks how people act like they did it and everybody else thinks that too but its life, alot of people are like that. You don't need the glory from everybody as long as you do it. If you weren't in it then it wouldn't be as great. And if she goes to far again let her know how you feel but calmly and nicely. She probably won't as far next time


hi im 14/f
&& ive been going out w/ my boyfriend for 7 months. && thats like a long time for my high school. but anyways... i still love him A LOT but it just seems like our relationship is getting a little boring. is there any way that i can add a little more fun to our relationship? (link)
Take him somewhere fun like bowling or something you know he likes. That should make a day funner for the two of you! Sorry this was short but I hope you guys have fun!


im getting a new puppy in march
its gonna be an american bull dog
any cute name ideas?
thanks xo (link)
Well here is a link to a site where there are dog names. I hope you have fun with your new puppy!

http://petrix.com/dognames/


ok my best friend's birthday was on friday. for her birthday, she went to the movies with her other best friend( my xbest friend) and she spent the night at her house, yaddayaddaydadda
well my problum is, my friend barely even TALKED to me durring the weekend.
whenever shes around her other friend, she doesnt really talk to me too much, either.
also, for her birthday, her other friend baked her cookies and made her a card with a picture of her and pictures of all of her friends around it(my picture was mysteryously hard to reconize and a dark gray color) and i only had time to give my friend a cherry-cream filled hershy's kiss.
my point is, i dont want my friend to think her other friend cares more about her than i do, and i dont know how to show her that that isnt true. could some of you please give me some advice?
thanx much xoxo (link)
You can't do anything to show her how much you care for her unless you spoil her to death but don't do that, that might be trying to hard. Maybe she wants to spend more time with other people too. But call her just to talk and maybe make plans for you two to do something together somewhere fun. Also find time to do stuff by yourself. Like for spare time teach yourself a magic trick, go to the library, volunteer work, get a journal or diary, go outside and shoot some basketballs, even reorganize your closest! But also make sure to not fight over your friend with the other girl, it wouldn't make things the best for your friend. You can also find other friends for you to hang out with so if one friend is busy maybe the other one is free. And its fun with more people right? Well I hope everything goes well for you!


im a girl im 13.i grew up with all brothers and only boy cousins.im very rough w/ every1.i have mainly guy friends.ive never had a bf.i just really wana bf.but im ''one of the guys''.they dont think of me as girlfriend material.yes i wear really baggy pants but tight shirts.i snowboard.i wana bethought of as more girly. ~help me~ (link)
Well it would be harder for you since you grew up with boys and hang around them too. Even if you havn't had a boyfriend and they don't think about you as girlfriend material, they like you for who you are. Being girly dosn't always get the guys. Being you is what they like and maybe they don't like the girly girl type. Maybe one of them like you right now too, you never know. Plus if they see you turn more out like that they might think what happened to her, she's changed....Well yeah you get the point but if you really want to act more girly then here are some ideas: Wear more prettier stuff, like you said you wear baggy pants maybe wear a skirt for a day or something. Snowboarding is fun so you shouldn't change what you like doing to be more girly so stick with that. Maybe wear necklaces, earrings, braclets or something. That should help a bit! Well I hope everything goes well for you. And everybodys different, don't forget that.


There's this guy, Andrew. I don't really know him, but he goes to my school. We talked on facebook for a while, but now I'm afraid that he was doing something that wasn't quite right...
There's also this girl, Jenny. I don't like her, and she doesn't like me. I was thinking that she may have had something to do with this...
Here's how our conversation went, somewhat:

He commented me first:
"Nice, your birthday is in may"
his is too.
then we talked for a while, and it all seemed pretty cool. We were getting along pretty well.

A few days ago i fell in the hallway... and he commented:

Andrew: "oh i'm sorry, but i had to laugh when you slipped in the hallway this morning"

Me: "hahaha you were there?
that was the funniest thing. my entire left side was soaked."


Andrew: "haha yeah, i didn't want you to see me laughing becuase i didn't want you to think i was a jerk since i jsut started tot alk to you"

Me: "oh haha well i was laughing too
but yeah good thinking"

Andrew: "yeaupp, just could'nt make myself look bad right away"

THENNN i see, on his wall, a comment from Jenny, and she told him not to talk to me and called me a loser...

a while later...
Andrew: "umm jenny is wierd."

Me: "haha whatever."

Andrew: "but don't worry i don't like her at all
i depise herrrr"

which I thought was soo weird, because who says that they despise someone(and that's not something that he has EVER openly expressed) ON FACEBOOK?

so thennn he asked if i had a boyfriend, which was weird because my facebook says that im single.


and then we were talking about vacation, and I said that where he was going was cool, and he goes
"haha thanks kfc"


1. what does kfc mean?

and 2(more importantly). Do you think that he's messing with me? (link)
Well I don't know what kfc means, sorry that I couldn't answer that. Well its sounds that he does like you since he asked if you had a boyfriend. I think he's interested in you. And I think Jenny is getting in that to somehow. I think she dosn't like you for some reason or something. And she is trying to get him away from you since he might like you. That might be it. Well let me know whats going on! Thanks and I hope you find out what going on too!


I'm a college second year student.
Right from the first year, I fell in a relationship with a girl who had already a boyfriend but, he was away from her for almost one year who had gone out side the country. She made it clear that, her boy friend will not return back to country . And also she said, that she had a boyfriend in class 9th for 5 years but he had brutally left her.
Despite these things, I agreed upon a relationship and for two years, we spent life like more than a husband and wife. I was used to her. I was intouch with her no matter where I'm,,,even if in the loo!!! For one day, she didn't call me, I felt hell and prosecuted her and found that, she has resumed her school boy friend who had brutally left her...I started fighting with her with misery untill I was given a warning from her resumed boyfriend a warning that, I should not bother themmmmmmmmmmmmmm...since then I'm like not having feeling to live anymore!!! I hope you gave me a strict advice on what to do!!!Do I need to misbehave with Boy? Or shall I scandalize the girl? Please advice me ASAP.
Sosan. (link)
So she fell for the guy that had left her before. She must have really liked him then. If she really cared for you then she would go back to you. But if she dosn't realize you are a great person its not your fault its hers. Just forget about her for now. If she wants you back then see if she would ever go back to one of the guys that she had before then don't go back, there are plenty more girls in the world. If she tells you that she wouldn't go back then you can probably tell when she is lying. So I hope everything goes well for you!




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