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My bf and I have been together for about a year..originally he lived with his father & older brother: his father moved out & married into a new family & gave the house to his older brother to continue paying the mortgage. His father pays money every month for my bf to live there & my bf pays his brother every week as well to live there. His brother takes advantage of the fact that my bf really has nowhere else to stay & does extremely malicious things. His brother will get off work before my bf, come home, sit around & tan, smoke bongs for a few hours then decide to go to the gym until about 8-9pm and expects a home-cooked dinner to be cooked for him EVERY NIGHT by my bf. There's been times when he's thrown tantrums because my bf didn't cook dinner because he came home late. On top of this he also expects the dishes to be done & every morning/when he gets home leaves a FILTHY mess in the sink on purpose. He also NEVER cleans up around the house, my bf and i do everything & none of it is even our mess (we reside in the basement). This isn't even the worse of it; he makes significantly more money than my bf does and will raid our food/snacks whenever he pleases but if my bf touches ANYTHING of his, he freaks out (he freaked out over him taking one pop) and even had the nerve to say I NEVER TAKE ANYTHING OF YOURS! when he does.
but the icing on the cake was this: my bf got a day off from work & i stayed the night, his brother woke up early & was getting ready for work, noticed i was there & took it upon himself to call their aunt at 7am to volunteer my bf to set up a flat screen t.v for them because he's that jealous that he got a day off & he didn't so he makes it so that he HAS to go and basically work for the day.
i was FURIOUS because at first we were under the impression that she called at 7am to ask but once we woke up and looked at the phone directory, she didn't call at 7am...so he obviously did it on purpose.
there is MANY things he does, i couldn't even fit it all onto here but it's getting to the point where its affecting our relationship so much that we constantly fight about his brother...i know this isn't healthy...i've tried to express how i feel towards it & how i feel he allows himself to be walked all over by him but nothing changes.
i care a lot about my bf but i don't know how much of this i can handle...i don't want to freak on his brother & make a big scene even though i know it's what he deserves.
has anyone been in a similar position? what did you do? how did you get through it? or did you? thanks in advance for any advice. (link)
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In my honest opinion, I believe if you two want to stay together, start saving up for an apartment or something of your own. Don't even bother letting in the big brother, you're better off doing it secretly. Get a savings account and save up, once you start building up enough, start looking for places. They have places out there where you only pay rent and elec. Efficiency apartments are fairly cheap as well.
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So i went to the beach the first week in july and my 8g iPod touch was in the rain (the one without the camera). it was only out there for like 5 min? if that! maybe 2. But it was not like dead in the rain, it was under the 1st floor deck like in the car port area i guess. (does that make sense?) well stupid me i go inside the house and i try to turn it on. It flashes white and goes dead. So i charge it. and when i turn it on the touch screen does not work. Sooooo, i decide to put it in my suitcase and not worry about it until i get home. When i get home like July 9th (ish) i put it in a bag of rice and keep it in there for about a week. well probably like 2 or 3 weeks because i forgot about it. So i know it was dried out enough. hahaha. well, i take it out of the rice and leave it and then like a week or 2 later i guess, I plugged it up (because it was dead) and tried to "slide to unlock" and the touch screen does not work. Inside the headphone jack the thing is white. (PH paper?) my warrenty is wayyyy done. On youtube i have seen people say use fingernail polish remover in the headphone jack on a Q-tip. others say use rubbing alcohol. PLEASEEEEEEEEEEEE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ill do ANYTHING for my ipod to work again :''( thanks soo much in advance! :) oh yeah,,,
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The Screen is NOT working you say? Here it is... Simple explanation. You have to get a new one. Once an LCD screen gets wet, it short circuits and pretty much becomes useless. Which is why keeping screened electronics dry is VERY important. You can buy a brand new ipod, or you can order a new screen for it. Either way, fixing/replacing will cost money. I suggest if/when you do get a new screen/ipod, that you get one of those waterproof casings for it to prevent any future damage. Even if your warranty is over with, the people of the company will still fix it... for a price of course. Also, with the Ipod, the battery after time begins to deteriorate. Perhaps look into getting a new battery for precautions, or you could also take it to an electronic shop to see if they can possibly fix it. Since most do. It shouldn't cost anything to just look at it.
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About a month ago I bought a 5 month old large female brown hooded rat. We hit it off nicely, she's very spunky and gentle and smart. Since then she's learned her name which is Tetra, she comes to me when called and learned to walk across a tightrope along with playing dead. For the last 9 days she's been very restless and constantly chewing at the wires of her cage. When I walk in the room she springs up and clings to the wires squeaking. It's cute but has gotten rather annoying since she does it for long periods of time until I take her out and or give her a snack. She stares at me constantly when ever I walk in the room. I recently got a new job so I leave at 6 am and get back around 5 or 6 depends on traffic. I am very worried about it. I take her out for bout an hour when I get home, it's just me living alone with her and my two cats and a dog. So could it be she's lonesome? She always has fresh water and food and I treat her once in awhile, more recently this past week. What can I do now that I've started this job. Her cage is quite big 30" x 18" x 36", I don't want to get another rat since she doesn't get along with others. She nearly killed my best mate's rat. Any help much appreciated. (link)
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When introducing a rat (especially female) to another rat you MUST take specific precautions, as they will NOT get along right away. There are help topics on "introducing" your pet with a new "family member" online, so google it sometime. But, the way it sounds she has grown to be very fond of you, try taking her out for longer periods of time, as well as providing her with chew toys, as rats NEED to chew or it can be very hazardous to their health. It is also highly possible that she may be in heat. This is when the female rat begins to act strangely. (At least strange from what you are use to seeing). Perhaps do look into gaining her a male companion, so she is 1 - not lonely, and two - less annoying ;]. But remember, should you get her a companion, look up proper techniques in properly introducing your new friend with your old friend.
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How long should a person wait to have sex with someone? (link)
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I believe a person should wait to have intercourse until both of you are ready. There would be no sense in jumping into it right from the get go. Also, it would NOT hurt to really get to know them as well. You don't want any regrets in the future, right?
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how difficult or possible will it be for a pregnant woman surfring from pile to give birth. i and my fiancy has decided to have a child but i think i have pile and am really skied..22f please any advice will do (link)
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Ok with "Piles" and pregnancy. They are surprisingly quite common during pregnancy. Many women get them, and still are capable of giving birth regardless and without any complications. You can have them removed, but I would suggest waiting until AFTER you've given birth, because should you get them removed before giving birth, after you've had your baby more will appear. There is no reason to be scared. If you have any major concerns, go talk to your physician and state your concerns. Remember, when visiting your physician, don't ever hesitate to ask questions, even if you are embarrassed. Physicians are there to help you, and if your current physician seems uncaring, find a new one.
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So i am a freshman in college and am appart of a sports team with several other girls. ive known them for some time prior to getting here but i still dont feel like im really apart of the group. the older girls are great and everyone is nice but the freshman girls are cliquey and really not my style. my roommate isnt much like me besides the fact we both play lacrosse. the only time im really enjoying all of their company is when were drinking and going to parties. i just feel like none of the girls really get me and i dont know how to get across to them.
about me..
im extremley laid back. i am neither bitchy or cliquey. i accept everyone. im not overly happy but i have been nothing but nice to all of them.
i tend to get along with guys better because they are not so bitchy. i take a while to really open up to people. im alwways nice and friendly but im a little more guarded when it comes to what im really thinking or feeling.
and i know the girls do not dislike my apperance or anything like that because i am a pretty girl and completly normal. we all wear the same type of clothes and enjoy going out the same. and of course we are all teammates. we all have a lot in common so i dont understand why i constantly feel like the outcast in the group.
the other girls are a tad more hyper. and like i said...very cliquey.
im for the most part always included in everything they do together. they just dont seem to care if im there or not.
im telling you all this because this is a hard adjustment. im states away from home and am away from all my close friends. i just feel like none of them get me, and i hate feeling like the outsider. they never really seem genuinley happy to see me and i just dont understand why. i dont want to make a big drama about this and it is only the 3rd day. im just confused and really just kind of lonley. school and sports and everything is already soo stressful i really dont need the extra stress.
so any advice in these matters would be greatly, greatly appreciated. (link)
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It takes time to get properly acquainted with people. I suppose just hang out with them as it goes perhaps it'll change, if not then perhaps they are really not your types to be around or vice versa. Perhaps look into your hobbies and look into "after school activities". I feel its better to have friends that you have more in common with than friends who are really just there.
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I'm planning on getting on birth control soon but my boyfriend is coming home wednesday and i want to have sex with him. Obviously we're gonna use a condom but should i take plan b too to be extra safe? I definetly can't do pregnancy right now. and how much is plan b ? (link)
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I would honestly suggest waiting until you have been on your birth control for at least one week. Should you decide not to wait until your birth control, Plan B can be used AFTER intercourse, and up to 3 days after. Plan B varies in price from area to area. But typically no more than maybe 60 dollars for what I believe is a two pill packet. You can obtain plan b from any drug store, such as CVS, Walgreens and the like. In most states you HAVE to be 17 years of age or older I believe, and that is with possible parental consent. You could always call and ask your local pharmacies as well to get the information you need.
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i really wanna have sex with my guy the next time i see him but i'm freaked out about getting pregnant. obviously we'd use a condom but is just a condom enough? (link)
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A condom can be enough... But there are also faulty products that can break and still cause pregnancy. If you are not ready for pregnancy yet still ready to go that step, go to your local wal-mart, walgreens, cvs, whatever, pick up some spermicide. Also, after intercourse, you have 3 days and you can always take the morning after pill, it's a bit pricy though. Ranging from 25-50 dollars. You can obtain these from your local drug store as well. I believe it's called the Plan B or something like that.
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A few months ago, my greyhound/lab dog mix died. Me and my dad have breifly discussed getting another dog. We definitely are. But the question is when, and what kind.
I recently came across YouTube videos of this aborable Shiba Inu puppy. We've never had a puppy before. We rescued the two dogs I've had from shelters when they were at least five years old already.
The thing is, I have two cats. We got the cats (twin brother and sister) when they were just about eight weeks old, about two or three years after we got my dog that recently died. She was already with the cats. Obviously they would get into some fights occasionally. But for the most part, they left each other alone.
How do Shiba Inus interact with cats? I think if we got a puppy Shiba Inu, and rasied it to be nice to cats it would be fine. Opinions?
Also, how would I go about finding places nearby Warren County, New Jersey for this bread?
Links are extremely helpful.
I'd like to have as much information as possible before I bring all of this to my dads attention.
Also, if anybody could list some other dogs. Preferably medium sized, that get along well with cats that would be fantastic. Just to keep my options open.
Also, if anybody could give me information about getting a dog that's not extremely expensive would be great. Single parent family with a mom who isn't paying child support here.
Also, I have 15 acres of land. So exersise is covered! (link)
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Ok with dogs, they are pack animals (You know, wolves always go in packs) but any who, with dogs, its not so much who they cling to due to gender, they cling to who seems to be "The Alpha Dog" and since your dad (sorry to say) is of course your superior, he would be the alpha male. Hence the reason why they are always "up his butt" so to speak. My dog is the same way with me and my boyfriend, my boyfriend is the alpha male, and our puppy is clingy with him. But he still is protective and loving with me. But, if you want mutual clinginess, do more for the dog than your dad does. Take him/her out for good walks, spend a lot of time with him/her playing or even just snuggling up to him/her and talking (I talk to my dog a lot), be the one to feed him/her, but remembering not to over feed ;D. That way, you'll both be equally loved. Also, if you get it as a puppy, chances are it'll end up mutually clinging to both of you.
Also, if you get a puppy, and raise it with the cats, with proper training, to be kind/gentle with the cats, will in time teach him that they are not food, but friends. Though Shiba Inus can be aggressive regardless.
Some Information about breeds.
Shiba Inu - Shiba Inus are generally independent and intelligent dogs. Some owners struggle with obedience training, but as with many dogs, socialization at a young age can greatly affect temperament. Traits such as independence and intelligence are often associated with ancient dog breeds, such as the Shiba Inu. Shibas should always be on a leash, unless in a secured area, because of their strong prey drive. A spirited boldness, a good nature, and an unaffected forthrightness, which together yield dignity and natural beauty. The Shiba has an independent nature and can be reserved toward strangers but is loyal and affectionate to those who earn his respect. They can be aggressive toward other dogs.
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The Great Dane is a large dog, but in my opinion a wonderful breed.
Great Dane - The Great Dane's large and imposing appearance belies its friendly nature; the breed is often referred to as a gentle giant. Great Danes are generally well-disposed toward other dogs, other non-canine pets and humans, although, when feeling threatened, have been known to attack humans. This is usually brought on by a person that is unfamiliar to the dog. Some breeds may chase or attack small animals, but this is not typical with Great Danes. The great dane is a very gentle and loving animal with proper care and training. They are also very needy, always needing someone. Some may find them frightening because of their huge structure and loud bark, but they generally have no intention of harming people.
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Newfoundland - The Newfoundland dog is legendary for its calm and docile nature and its strength. It is for this reason that this breed is known as "the gentle giant". International kennel clubs generally describe the breed as having a sweet temper. It typically has a deep bark, is easy to train if started young, and makes a fine guardian or watchdog. It is exceptionally good with children, giving it the nickname "the nanny dog." The breed was memorialized in "Nana," the beloved dog guardian in Peter Pan. The Newfoundland is also extremely good with other animals.
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Leonberger - First and foremost a family dog, the Leonberger's temperament is one of his most important and distinguishing characteristics. Well socialized and trained, the Leonberger is self assured, insensitive to noise, submissive to family members, friendly toward children, well composed with passersby, and self-disciplined when obliging his family or property with protection. Robust, loyal, intelligent, playful, and kindly, he can thus be taken anywhere without difficulty and adjust easily to a variety of circumstances.
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The temperament of the Golden Retriever is a hallmark of the breed and is described in the standard as "kindly, friendly and confident". They are not "one man dogs" and are generally equally amiable with both strangers and those familiar to them. Their trusting, gentle disposition therefore makes them a poor guard dog. Any form of unprovoked aggression or hostility towards either people, dogs or other animals, whether in the show ring or community, is completely unacceptable in a Golden Retriever and is not in keeping with the character of the breed and as such is considered a serious fault. Nor should a Golden Retriever be unduly timid or nervous. The typical Golden Retriever is calm, naturally intelligent and biddable, with an exceptional eagerness to please.
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Labrador Retriever - The AKC describes the Labrador's temperament as a kind, outgoing and tractable nature. Labradors' sense of smell allows them to hone in on almost any scent and follow the path of its origin. They generally stay on the scent until they find it. Labradors instinctively enjoy holding objects and even hands or arms in their mouths, which they can do with great gentleness (a Labrador can carry an egg in its mouth without breaking it). They are also known to have a very soft feel to the mouth, as a result of being bred to retrieve game such as waterfowl. They are prone to chewing objects (though they can be trained out of this behavior). The Labrador Retriever's coat repels water to some extent, thus facilitating the extensive use of the dog in waterfowl hunting.Labradors have a reputation as a very even-tempered breed and an excellent family dog. This includes a good reputation with children of all ages and other animals. But some lines (particularly those that have continued to be bred specifically for their skills at working in the field rather than for their appearance) are particularly fast and athletic. Their fun-loving boisterousness and lack of fear may require training and firm handling at times to ensure it does not get out of hand—an uncontrolled adult can be quite problematic. Females may be slightly more independent than males. Labradors mature at around three years of age; before this time they can have a significant degree of puppy-like energy, often mislabelled as being hyperactive. Because of their enthusiasm, leash-training early on is suggested to prevent pulling when full-grown. Labradors often enjoy retrieving a ball endlessly and other forms of activity (such as agility, frisbee, or flyball).
Although they will sometimes bark at noise, especially noise from an unseen source ("alarm barking"), Labradors are usually not noisy or territorial. They are often very easygoing and trusting with strangers, and therefore are not usually suitable as guard dogs.
Labradors have a well-known reputation for appetite, and some individuals may be highly indiscriminate, eating digestible and non-food objects alike. They are persuasive and persistent in requesting food. For this reason, the Labrador owner must carefully control his/her dog's food intake to avoid obesity and its associated health problems.
The steady temperament of Labradors and their ability to learn make them an ideal breed for search and rescue, detection, and therapy work. They are a very intelligent breed. They are ranked # 7 in Stanley Coren's book " The Intelligence of dogs". The AKC describes the breed as an ideal family and sporting dog. Their primary working role in the field continues to be that of a hunting retriever.
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Also, as for purchasing a pet within your area, look into local breeders, find a proper site, and type in your zip code, as well as look into local pet shops, some pet shops will order your pet for you if they do not carry what you're looking for. There are purebreds, but also there are the "mutts" as they are called. (My pup's a mutt, but the sweetest ever :D) But typically people have many pets for sale, I suppose look in local newspapers, or the thrifty nickel, as well as bulletin boards in grocery shops. I hope I was able to be of some help. Happy Dog Shopping :)
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Ok, I've never done this online "ask for advice" thing, but oh well. It's worth a try I guess. So, back when I was two years old, my mom left my dad along with me and my younger sister to live with my grandmother in a small town city in a completely different state. She left because of his cheating and non-bill paying butt. He'd always accuse her of cheating on him because he said we were too white to be his kids. (Black daddy, white mommy...what do ya expect dude? Mixed kids.)My grandmother would only allow us to live with her if we went to the church every Sunday and got baptized.(Morman church...not to be dissing on Mormans or their church I know not all people are like this but it wasn't a pleasant experiance for me. Growing up in a small town we were the only kids of a darker skin tone than most there and the comments made by those seemingly innocent kids and their parents was unbelievable. They say that they're people of god and treat everyone as a brother or a sister and the things they said and did was awful.) So, growing up with my mom's mom was hell for us. Our grandmother isn't the sweet old lady next door type if you know what I mean. To shorten it all up I'll just say she's a very hostile woman and very hard to please in anything. The only time I feel she's truely happy is when your beaten down to a pulp and overshaddowed by deppresion because of solitary confinement. People say, "words can never hurt you" but they can. And so do hands and objects. She was like that with my mother and her brothers and sisters and she's like that today. She's the reason when I was 8yrs old was the first time I'd decided I didn't want to live anymore. I did't even know what suicide was then all I knew was that I didn't want to be living on the earth anymore. I stayed sane because of my little sister and writing books. They were the only two things that could make me happy there. When I turned 9yrs old my father popped up out of nowhere (surprise, surprise) wanting visitation rights from my mom for me and my sister after years of no contact. (Almost...he visited 3 times when I was still really little. Trying to get my mother back) Within months the judge enforced a year-round system of our dad getting us for every other birthday and every summer. (we both have July b-days) He lived out of state so each year's been flying 9hrs there and back for summers. He'd gotten married to a my step-mother 4yrs after my mother left and in that entire time he had to tell her about us he never did. He has two other children, my half brother and sister who are both 4yrs older than me, which he told her about, but no not us for some reason. To many kids to deal with at once. My step-mother had two kids of her own he was raising, so that makes sense kind of, I guess. But, still. So, it was a bit of a suprise to her when we we began visiting so often. She hated that with a passion, but I don't care for her much either so too-shay. Those first two times we visited my father for summer I hated his guts as well. (By 11yrs old I'd had my first furocious panic attack and unexplained aches and pains) Moving forward though, my mom having no where to go really, and always out working full time along with collage classes on the side. That left me and my sister to be practically raised by our grandmother up until I turned 12yrs old. By then my mom had enough connections, education, and money saved up to leave and find a better place elsewhere. Which by the way required leaving to another state. We ended up moving around three more times after that, the third time (me being 15yrs old) me and my sister deciding to move in with my dad. Actually I live with my dad's mom, my grandmother on his side, while my sister lives literally with my dad. He lives 2miles away from her so I see them often enough. (Long story short, I decided to give the guy a chance to put a father figure back in my life. I'd never really been around men contact wise like that anyway. The year befor living with my mom I'd become intensely depressed and solitary. I feel bad for that because my little sister had no one to lean onto, but one of her irresponsible friends. That I regret. My panic attacks had gotten more frequent. My mom had gotten married to a guy and he'd act as if we didn't exsist. He was in it for my mother and that was it. He didn't get the concept that a MOTHER is a package deal. She comes wither her kids. Also, The previous school I'd gone to was a complete mess for me because people,and a specific teacher, were always trying to make school life hard on me. I'm terrible with everyday social skills as well....thanks for that grams -.-) But, now I'm 16yrs old and attending my second year at the same school which is kind of weird for me since I'd switched around a lot. I'm fine with the school and most of the people in it but now home life is so off again. My step-mom loaths me and my little sister living with her along with my father and is constantly fighting us, physically and mentally, about not being good enough to be there. She's always throwing things in our faces about how we'll never be as smart or as educated as her kids and how much she "does for us" and how we should be "grateful" that we have her right now instead of "that bitch" you call a mother. (MY biological mother) Her son is a complete snitch and an unconscious liar. Every chance he has to get us in trouble he does in one way or another. (My grandmother on my dad's side is the same way. Snitches all of 'um.) My dad's always agreeing with my step-mother and allowing her to treat and talk to us however she pleases. (I'm not a weak person, I can handle myself for the most part, but there's a breaking point for everybody. For me, that's my baby sister. DO NOT hurt my little sister. NO ONE EVER hurts her.) My dad's constantly making promises, serious ones and then breaking them. Then, any collages or appartments Im looking at for when I turn 18 he and my grandmother both are always telling me that I'm not smart enough to get into a school that good and the job im gonna get is going to be minimum wage my entire life. They say I'm going to have to spend that money on keeping up the house and taking care of all my relatives. Everytime I aim high they make me take five steps back and I feel overwhelmed by my current lifestyle. (My panic attacks have gotten even more violent. One happening during my english class last year toward the last month of school. Super embarrasing...hated every second of it.) I don't know what I'm expecting people to give me advice on this with other than....just what do you think I could do to better my situation and outlook for right now? I'm not usually one to complain, but to tell the truth I've run out of ideas. I don't know what I'm supposed to do from here and I'm sick of putting up with everyone's crap, I'm just done. I can see myself doing ok if I make it out on my own someday (hopefully within the next 3yrs), but everyone in my life has been trying to keep me close to them. As in they NEVER want me to leave. I need to grow up! I can't stay here like this anymore, but I have nowhere else I can go for now. (link)
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I truly understand your situation, I went through that when I was growing up. I was very protective of my baby brother. He was hurt a lot, and in time, I would do things worse than he did just so he would get a break from the abuse. But I digress, I want you to realize, it's YOUR life. You don't have to sit around taking care of ANYONE that you do not wish to care for. If you are going to save up for an apartment, and college, do it. Do it quietly, so no one knows. If you are hiding your money anywhere in the house, DONT. Quickly take it and move it somewhere where NO ONE will find it. I mean who knows who could be digging through your stuff right now. Also, there is emancipation. If you can gather proof of domestic abuse, and what not.. You can file for emancipation, meaning, you are legally an adult (only capable of living on your own, not buying alcohol or cigarettes) also, you'd be able to have your sister live with you as well. Also, when you are capable of moving out, I suggest do so immediately. The life style will only get worse. If they try the guilt trip on you, just remember all the hell they put you and your sister through. There are times, yes it can be difficult, when you have to really put your foot down, really stand up for yourself and your future. Being a persons (who you don't care for) care taker, is not a life you want for yourself right? Or your little sister? Ignore what those people say about you being "stupid" and what not. You are NOT stupid, you can make something of yourself. Also, when you do make something of yourself, rub it in their faces, and if they ask for help, tell them the address to the public aid office.
My mother was the same way to be honest. She put all of us through hell, always me and my baby brother. She would tell us both, we would amount to nothing, we weren't smart enough to do what we wanted etc etc. Just physically and emotionally abused us. In the end, we're both now living happy comfortable lives, my baby brother is now attending college, and I'm living a happy life with my child and boyfriend. When my mother asks for any type of assistance (money, a ride, use my appliances, because she now lives in a abandoned house with no elec or water. teehee) For the money I tell her "I only donate to charitable causes" for a ride "Take the bus" and for my shower, I tell her to wait til it rains.
What I am trying to tell you... Don't listen to them. Things only get worse before they get better, and once they are better, life will feel more beautiful and worth living. Just endure the pain a little longer, and you'll later be capable of rubbing it in their faces. If you apply to colleges, use a friends address, or perhaps get a p.o. box, so this way they don't hide your mail, or whatever. Be strong. Not only for your sister, but also for yourself.
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I recently had a one night stand with an acquaintance. We have a lot of mutual friends and I have met him before but I wouldn't say we are friends. During all this the condom broke and I took plan B, unfortunately I was on some medication that the Dr. thinks might have interfered with it working. And as it turns out I'm pregnant. I really don't know what I am going to do about the baby. I am not sure I am ready in life to have a child etc. But my biggest dilemma right now is whether or not to tell the guy. He is moving in less than 2 weeks and I am just not sure it is worth telling him. Advice? (link)
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Telling him is in my opinion a good idea.. Unless he's a worthless dead beat, then don't. Also, if you aren't ready for a child, there are women out there who try desperately to conceive but cannot. Adoption is a very good option, they have a couple forms of adoption (I.E. Open adoption and Closed Adoption) Open adoption is where the people take in your child, raising it, but you can still visit him/her. Closed adoption..well it's where they take in your child and you never have to see or have anything to do with the child. Also, with adoption cases, you get to interview the potential families, and you get to choose who your baby can or cannot go to. If you are positive you do not wish to keep the child, do look into adoption.
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I wish to wear a Gothic Lolita dress for a convention that's coming up in a couple months. I know I look good in black and red, so that's sorta what I've been searching for, maybe something to about my knees. But I have no idea where to start because amazon.com doesn't have a very wide variety and I've heard very bad things about milanoo.com, so are there any English sites where I can purchase a lolita dress for under 100$? (link)
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Http://www.fanplusfriend.com
This site has a large selection of clothing. As for prices... In my opinion (My whole wardrobe was bought from this site) The pricier the outfit, the better quality it is. Meaning it won't fall apart unless you really try to. Anyway, The pricings... It really ranges from 20.00 - couple to a few hundred dollars. If you want a good lolita dress, You'll want to spend more than 100.00.... But.. There are always the lesser quality dresses. Or you could always make your own. Buy a pattern online, or if you're good at sewing, memorize the pattern of the dress you like and make it to your liking.
Oh I also forgot to mention, with some of the dresses, they allow you to choose colors, but most are pre-chosen. Hope I was helpful in some way.
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14/f(i turn 15 in September)
So...im just gna jump right to it! My friends always say im relli pretti, but i feel like im a ugly monster! Im blonde with brown/dark green eyes and i have a slightly tanned skin. Im short(i dont know how tall i am because its too depressing to measure myself)
And i weigh about 143 pounds(65 kg)...I hate how i look!!! Ive had more then a few relationships but none of them lasted very long, back then(about 3 years ago)i wasnt skinny but i wasnt fat either.
Sine ive gone to high school(im in the 9th grade)i haven't had even one relationship.
Plus, my friend is really skinny and pretty, and i feel like i will never be good enough for any guy, while im friends with her...I love her very much and she is like my second sister....I dont know what to do!? please help me (link)
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At your age, relationships won't last long. So don't worry about dating. Don't worry about your looks. If her friendship is that important to you, forget about dating. "Guys come and go, but friends are forever." Is a saying my late friend told me while we were in high school. Don't ruin a friendship just because you want to date a specific guy. I mean, really... Think about it.
You finally got a boyfriend, he's great... at first. But in order to get said boyfriend, you completely abandoned your best friend. Then later, he becomes a (pardon my language) worthless prick who treats you poorly. You leave him or he leaves you.. Then you're pretty much stuck. You lost your boyfriend, and you no longer have your friend because you ditched out on her to date said male.
Is abandoning your friend to get that one boyfriend who will probably only last at most 3 years, really worth it? Sorry to put this bluntly, but if dating is more important than friendship, you have a sad future ahead of you.
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About 4 weeks ago i was diagnosed with bacterial vaginosis and put on antibiotics to treat it. I am also very sexually active but have only had one partner. I was finished with the antibiotics a couple weeks ago and about one week ago i started using rephresh to balance my ph balance. Its not a douche or anything and is completely safe but today i noticed a thick clumpy white discharge. There is no itching or odor, so i didnt think it was a yeast infection. Im going to the doctor in a few weeks, but does anyone have an idea as to what could be causing this? (link)
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Unless your vagina is uncomfortable or has a pungent smell then the discharge is normal. It is the vagina lubricating and protecting itself. Also, if you had recently masturbated or had any form of sexual stimulation, it could also be your cum. Yes, women cum as well as men, and some women do so more than others. It is nothing to worry about. But should it start to smell or if your genitalia begins to get uncomfortable in anyway, I would get it checked to ensure that it is not any infection coming back, or starting up.
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I am interested in getting my tragus pierced. I've only actually had my ears pierced, so I'm kind of nervous about a more invasive body piercing.
Has anyone had this done? Did it hurt a lot?
And what about the healing time? Are there any special precautions or cleaning methods I'll need?
And if you did get it done, how much did it cost? I know each piercing place is different, but I would just like an idea.
Thanks! (link)
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Getting your tragus pierced is like having your cuff pierced. It'll take up to 6 weeks to heal, and it's going through cartilage, so it'll sting. I've never had them done myself but I have done them plenty of times. Many customers told me it only pinched a little, or didn't hurt at all, but everyone has a different threshold for pain.
Prices of piercings very. But I've never seen a piercing cost more than 25 dollars, and no less than 5. Cleaning the piercing is like cleaning your other ear piercings, ensure to keep it clean by properly rinsing it in the shower, as well as applying the ear care solution. Also, piercers and tattooists typically give you a pamphlet or a small sheet of paper with proper care instructions. It also doesn't hurt to get to know the people you'll be going to to get said piercing. Know that they are clean, and never use the same needles and what not.
Sources : Myself, Body Piercer/Body Tattooist 9 years.
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18/f
I just masterbated by rubbing my clit. At first i went in the vagina and did the clit at the sametime and orgasmed. Then when i just focused on the clit to orgasm a 2nd time and i coudlnt. My clit was really sore and hurt alot. It also kinda burned a bit too. But i dont know if the burning was cause i had a bit of discharge on my finger and rubbing my clit and it irritated it or something. I couldnt orgasm the 2nd time cause my clit hurt wayy to much and was kinda burning. I was not shaved and i think that the hair mayeb irritated it too? Has this happend to anyone before and is this normal. I looked afterward and my clit area was slighty bleeding and really red. Was it cause i went too hard?
Does anyone know why this happend, it has happend a few times? im a virgin if that changes anything. Is this normal?
Thanks for the advice in advance. I really appreciate it :) thanks. (link)
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Being a virgin doesn't have anything to do with that. Also, I don't believe it was your...clitoris bleeding. But I think it would be best to let you know, Many women bleed after an orgasm. Especially after clitoral stimulation. When you orgasm, from masturbation or any other reason, your uterus contracts and if there is any blood in there at all, it will be squeezed out. And, being as how women genitalia is designed, it may have come from your vagina, and "slipped" onto your clitoris, giving you the idea that you're clitoris was bleeding. So ask yourself, when was your last period before self stimulation? If you are sure it wasn't due to menstrual residue, it could be a cervical illness of some sort. I would suggest going to a gynecologist and getting it checked up on. Remember, you can always choose your obgyn as well if you are uncomfortable with one you have, and just like doctors, be sure to ASK QUESTIONS and state your concerns. Never be embarrassed with any doctor, because if you hesitate, and you do have a condition, it could only worsen.
As well as the burning/hurt clitoris, your vaginal fluids will have no negative effect on yourself, chances are you went a little too hard while stimulating yourself. Also, yes pubic hair can also irritate your clitoris if it is rubbing against it.
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I have a male friend that I have a crush on but I'm not sure how things would work out between us. He doesn't seem like the relationship type he just seems like a big flirt to me. He cool person to be around he's a lot fun and very attractive and I wish I could be with him and I hope he feels the same way but I have all these doubts. So I try to get over him and I do mostly. I actually haven't thought about him in awhile But I had 2 dreams about him that left me confused. In the first dream he kisses me and the second dream I'm at his house just hanging out. When I woke I was confused and it made me think about him and then my feelings starting coming back. What are my dreams trying to tell me? (link)
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To dream about your crush, is a literal reflection of your attraction and fascination for that person. To see your crush in your dream, represents your current infatuation with him or her. If you find yourself thinking about him during the day, then it is not surprising that his image will appear in your dream during the night. If you dream of your crush frequently, then your dream maybe be telling you that it is time to let this person know how you feel, especially if you are dreaming of him or her in a good way. Only good things can happen from you telling your crush. Even if he or she is not interested, at least you can move on and stop wasting time on him or her.
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I was with this guy for 1 year and 8 months, no details.. all you really have to know is that we were best friends/lovers/brothers/sisters/ basically everything to the other person.he ruined it completely, he was confused , wanted his freedom, and basically threw me out of his life, i wouldnt leave him alone until one day i jus did, i didnt contact him for a month, and he came back saying he regrets it, and hes sorry and i told him i dont trust him, and i dont know who he is anymore, and all that.. but i said maybe i can try and trust you, and hes been working hard to gain my trust and now we always talk, he totally broke my heart, i felt like there was no reason to live after the break up, it was horrible, and idont know if me giving him another chance is right, my mind tells me everyone deserves a second change, and my heart tells me hes just gonna break it again, i dont know what to do, should i give it a try? or should i stop talking to him and tell him things will never be the same? alot of things happend between us, he lost my trust ALOT, im not just telling him this, i litteraly DO NOT trust him what so ever, maybe ill trust him again? should i give it a shot or would that be stupid going back to someone who hurt me? i dont know what to do, my heads all over the place, im a mess.. i cant be with him or without him, im so inlove with him not much people will understand it.. thats my FIRST question.. my second question is, i need tips to get over my jealousy issue completely, yes it sounds retarded hes never really been close to friends that are girls uptil we broke up, which was a huge mistake because its normal to be friends with the opposite gender, and if i want this to work i have to have to have to get over it and i dont know how, whenever i hear him calling his friend cool or "were so close" i get all jealous and pissed off and i KNOW its wrong, i just dont know how to get over this. Sorry if this was long. (link)
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There can be no good relationship without trust. If you don't believe you can trust him in a relationship with you, tell him so. Don't continue leading him on. And it's perfectly normal for people to want to "broaden their horizon". Especially if you're both still young. Also, if you're getting jealous, even while you were with him, you never truly trusted him to begin with. Without trust, there can be no real love, without love there can be no real relationship. If you harbor bitterness, happiness docks elsewhere.
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13/f
Well i want to look good for my new school. Im currently moving in with my mom.
Witch is in sort of a bad naborhood, and she really has no yard.
I know you all say eat healthy. But she believes i'm fine how i am and she really only eats junk food.
Before you say i'll grow into it, my doctor said im done growing.
Im 4"10 taller than my mom and as tall as my dad. But im doing this for my person reasons. To feel better about myself and accomplished. I'm not one of those people who think there fat when there not. I'm not fat, but i do have a very excessive amount of fat on my thighs and my stomach. Its not all around to where i have a flat stomach. its in one small area but there's allot of it (Stomach, thighs) i even have some stretch marks on my thighs, but surprisingly there's not that much fat on my thighs.
I was thinking of starting to run, but its a bad naborhood. I would get into sports too but my mom doesn't have that much money. Any ideas? Besides excersizeing inside. My mom thinks i don't need to and she doesn't want the noise. (link)
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If you wish to lose that excess belly/thigh fat, there are exercises you can do to help with those. There's one exercise where it works both stomach and inner thighs.
First - Lay flat on your back, on a mat, or whatever. You can put a pillow under your head for comfort.
Second - Have your hands at your sides, palms flat on the floor.
Third - Keeping your legs together, lift them up to a 90 degree angle, spread them as wide as you are capable, close, and lower to about 6 inches from the ground, hold for 5 - 10 seconds and lift them back up to the 90 degree angle. Not allowing your legs to lay on the floor. Of course at least until you're tired or feel you need a rest.
You will of course feel pain. But this is your body breaking and rebuilding "damaged" tissue. Also, while exercising you will be burning fat, as well as toning your body. (So you know, losing weight without toning will result in stretch marks as well as "flabby" skin)
Also, be sure to go bike riding, or even jogging every day or every other day to help continue burning body fat. Cardio is a great way to burn calories as well as body fat.
Continue doing this. Remember : Perseverance and Will are very important to obtaining what you wish for. I know you know about this, but also eating healthy will also help, as well as drinking ICE COLD water. The reason I emphasize that is because when you drink 8 ounces of ice cold water, you burn at least 200 calories. Of course do not over drink water, because this can make you ill or even kill you. So all in all, drink no more than a gallon of water a day.
If you wish to know how I know so much, I use to weigh 320 pounds, and with a strict and strong will, I was able to go from said 320 to 140.
Just keep at it hon and you'll get what you want ^_^ Remember, dreams aren't worth dreaming unless you're willing to work hard for them.
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okay. i know alot of people say that being a homoselual is a sin. or in proper terms an abomination. Im gay and i would like to have a relationship with god and christ. but could i really have salvation, being what i am. I dont know because i hear reverends from both the liberal and conservative christian faiths give their " biblical facts" and i just dont know. any help will be great, thanks. :)
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I am not a very religious person, but I have a friend who is in your same position. He is a very devout Christian, but, like you he is also a homosexual. He still had children, but later his wife left him due to his "problem". He has never been with a man before, as he believes strongly in god. He just goes on with his life normally. Granted, he doesn't have a mate now, but he feels even if he is a homosexual, that so long as he kept himself from doing "impure" deeds, god will accept him regardless. Just believe strongly in your faith and still try to go on with your life.
(Please forgive this latter answer)
If you feel that you cannot keep yourself from doing such deeds, perhaps you should consider (I'm sorry) denouncing your faith in Christianity.
I hope I was able to help even just a little in your plight.
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