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my boyfriend's brother is a complete jerk-off..
My bf and I have been together for about a year..originally he lived with his father & older brother: his father moved out & married into a new family & gave the house to his older brother to continue paying the mortgage. His father pays money every month for my bf to live there & my bf pays his brother every week as well to live there. His brother takes advantage of the fact that my bf really has nowhere else to stay & does extremely malicious things. His brother will get off work before my bf, come home, sit around & tan, smoke bongs for a few hours then decide to go to the gym until about 8-9pm and expects a home-cooked dinner to be cooked for him EVERY NIGHT by my bf. There's been times when he's thrown tantrums because my bf didn't cook dinner because he came home late. On top of this he also expects the dishes to be done & every morning/when he gets home leaves a FILTHY mess in the sink on purpose. He also NEVER cleans up around the house, my bf and i do everything & none of it is even our mess (we reside in the basement). This isn't even the worse of it; he makes significantly more money than my bf does and will raid our food/snacks whenever he pleases but if my bf touches ANYTHING of his, he freaks out (he freaked out over him taking one pop) and even had the nerve to say I NEVER TAKE ANYTHING OF YOURS! when he does.
but the icing on the cake was this: my bf got a day off from work & i stayed the night, his brother woke up early & was getting ready for work, noticed i was there & took it upon himself to call their aunt at 7am to volunteer my bf to set up a flat screen t.v for them because he's that jealous that he got a day off & he didn't so he makes it so that he HAS to go and basically work for the day.
i was FURIOUS because at first we were under the impression that she called at 7am to ask but once we woke up and looked at the phone directory, she didn't call at 7am...so he obviously did it on purpose.
there is MANY things he does, i couldn't even fit it all onto here but it's getting to the point where its affecting our relationship so much that we constantly fight about his brother...i know this isn't healthy...i've tried to express how i feel towards it & how i feel he allows himself to be walked all over by him but nothing changes.
i care a lot about my bf but i don't know how much of this i can handle...i don't want to freak on his brother & make a big scene even though i know it's what he deserves.
has anyone been in a similar position? what did you do? how did you get through it? or did you? thanks in advance for any advice.
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In my honest opinion, I believe if you two want to stay together, start saving up for an apartment or something of your own. Don't even bother letting in the big brother, you're better off doing it secretly. Get a savings account and save up, once you start building up enough, start looking for places. They have places out there where you only pay rent and elec. Efficiency apartments are fairly cheap as well.
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