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Ok so I've liked this guy for the past four years (he used to like me in middle school but I hated him back then because he bullied me). I spent all of high school staring at him and he's stare at me and I'd wonder if there was anything to it but he was Mr Popular and I was a geek (but becoming "cooler" over the years) so something like that wouldn't have worked out in the ninth grade.
This all changed when we graduated and I started going to parties. I showed up to a party where he was there. We were all really drunk and he talked to me and my friend for about half an hour after while waiting for a ride and offered to give us a ride but we declined because his friends were drunk.
The next day week our commencement and when I walked in, he looked at me and started walking towards me but I kind of freaked out and ran away.
Last month I went to another party and he was there too. I basically ignored him through the whole party because my friend who was moving away was there but he was still lingering around sometimes and just when we were leaving, he was going inside and he said hi to me and my friend.
So my question is, I've spent about five years hung up on this guy and I'm sick of it. Does it seem like he's interested at all or should I force myself to move on? It's just that everytime I get a chance with him, I panic and I like him -a lot- and I want some kind of closure to high school. I just don't want to still keep chasing him if he doesn't care.

You'll never know if you never ask him,
not neccasarily ask, but just ask him if he'd like to go out for coffee or out for lunch. From reading what you wrote, it sounds like he likes you just as much back. Or that he atleast wants to be friends with you. If he made effort to try to talk to you one time, but you ran away, that sonds like he tries to care for you, and that you were on his mind. Dont give up, try and talk to him. You never know what could happen if you dont try.

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I like this guy named rudy.
And we used to be best friends in 3rd and 4th grade.
Now were not.
He now says that we never used to be friends.
I think he hates me now.
Hes popular. And im....in the middle.
Should I tell him and ask him why he is hurting my feelings by saying mean things and ignoring me?
Or should I just let him Trash talk about me?

Well things change a lot,
people change even more.
The sad thing is, he probably denys ever
being your friend because he thinks hes better than you now, which is horrible.
But, dont let him talk about you like this,
heres the hard part, act like you dont care, even though I know you do. If you keep fighting back, it feeds his desire to talk about you even more. Eventually he'll get bored with talking about you, so he wil stop.
Hang in there.

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i m from india.my friend nowadays is really worried. she says that she never had sex with her boyfriend but they only touched one another everywhere.
now the problem is she is not got her periods for past two weeks from the scheduled date.she says that her periods are very regular.
then what can be the reason for her delayed periods.she says that while touching his lower part if she had sperms on her hand and if by mistake she touched her lower part can this lead her to becoming pregnant.

I'm not sure whats going on,
but sperm dies when it hits the air,
so it doesnt seem possible that,
thats what happened.

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SORRY ITS LONG i think im becoming anorexic because i never eat and well i eat but not alot.Yesterday i tryed to throwup on purpous but i couldt.Im scared for myself also iv been getting depressed latly and thinking about cutting i used to cut but i stoped because one of my ex friends told the school. I would never kill myself because i dont want to go to hell. After i cut myself i always feel so bad but i think i just feel that way because i dont want to get caught again.Boys and girls are always saying how hott i am but i dont think i am.I think im fat and ugly and i hate myself.It started around the time i started going out with my boyfriend.I cant brakeup with him because hes suacidel and i like him a real lot also he says i love you to me and i need to hear it.I need help! i need someone to talk to.DONT say my mom and dad because my mom has a deadly sickness and they have unuff stress and i dont realy trust any of my friends because i dont want them to tell like befor.Ohh ya i love to get hurt because i love the Sympathy and so i make when ever has happened worce. THANXS

It sounds like you have self esteem issues, well you have a lot of issues going on in your life right now. I highly suggest you get help, not over the internet, not from just friends or family, but from a counsular, you may not like thee sound of that, but I go to one, and I dont have issues that serious, but it helps a lot, to be able to talk about things to someone who cant judge you. You know? And if you cant afford a counsular, you can always contact me on AIM or MSN - My aim is KaylehMae and my msn is on my advice column page. Or yahooo, or by email, just drop a line in my inboxif you have any other questions. :]

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Okay, I liked this guy for a long time, and while I was on vacation he tried to get a hold of me. I didn't know his number, so i e-mailed him and he said he wanted to hang out. He also gave me his number, and I gave him mine. I called him a few days later and left a message. One of his friends told me that he had been gone for a few weeks, so i waited for him to call when he got back. He never did, and i couldn't figure out what was wrong, but i didn't want to seem to needy so i still waited for him to call. It had been 3 weeks and nothing, so i talked to him on the internet and he seemed really shady and irritated. Not his usual self. What did I do wrong?
Female/16 years old

You didnt do anything wrong,
he probably lost interest. As sucky as that sounds you know? Since he hasnt called you back, well like the person said below, I guess he changed his mind. Dont try to dwell on it, thinking what you did wrong, because thats just torture for yourself, you wont figure anything out since you didnt do anything at all. Its his fault, in not being responsible and calling you back. I guess just dont talk to him, and if he doesnt seem to care, then from there I think you can make up what you wanna do.

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oh ok so I have this friend named karen and she is really nice to me but whenever we hang out with my other friend she trys to act like all popular around her.The thing is I don't know why she does that,that is not the karen I know,i mean I nvr see her act "all that" around me and thinking that she is bigger than me.only around my other friend she acts all snobby.I think I know how to solve this problem but I need some second opinions.

It seems like shes not authentic around other people. Maybe she thinks they wont accept her for who she is, since she thinks shes not "cool" enough or something you know? If this is really bugging you, you need to talk to her about it. Communication is the key, and tell her how you feel, and why you dont appreciate it.

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Is blow drying bad for you hair?

Is shampoo bad for you hair?

Why?

Thanks guys!

Blow drying can be bad for your hair if your holding the dryer too close to your scalp, and its too hot. It will dry out your scalp, and make hairs fall out and sometimes itch. But if you put it on warm - cool, and dont use too many things that can damage your hair/dry it out, like straightners and curling irons.
Shampoo isnt bad for your hair, it cleans it, and restores oils in your hair. :]

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My friend and I are arguing about the differences between punk, goth, emo, and indie in music and otherwise. I am not sure who is right. Can anyone help clear the topic up?

They are all labels to describe the type of music it is. Punk is more well punk, thats why they call it that, it has its own feel to it. And emo, isnt not neccasarily winey and sad, like most think, emo is a musical term for like music you cant describe the words for, emo is not short for emotional either. Emo (an abbreviation of "emotionally-driven Hardcore punk") is a term now broadly used to describe almost any form of guitar-driven alternative rock that expresses emotions beyond traditional punk's limited emotional palette of alienation and rage. It is also used to describe fans of this genre, most commonly teenagers. (e.g., emo kid).

Indie, a pop group not affiliated with a major record company . And is usually more laid back.

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Ok, I'm 14/f and I'm going out with this wonderful boy. It's already been a week and we've been hanging out like every day. I want to kiss him soooooo bad, but I'm afraid because this is my first kiss. Would he find it sexy/a turn on if i asked him to teach me how to kiss? Thanks!

I honestly wouldnt do that.
If you want to kiss him, just go for it,
dont play around with silly things like that.
Because there is a 50/50 chance he'd like it.
Or he'd be like what the heck?

:]

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Does Bare Minerals work good?
Is it worth paying $60 every two months?

Well to be honest, its better for older people, not younger like teens.
It doesnt do much to your face unless you have things to hide.
And I think it can go bad, thts why you pay 60 every two months. To replace it.

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sorry if its a little long.

Me and my best friend always fight. Like i know friends fight and stuff, but not like us. We are always yelling at each other. Well when we fight i just get mad at her but she gets REALLY mean. She will start sayin all this bad stuff about me and it really hurts my feelings. I dont think she understands that. Like today we got in a fight. she wanted me to go somewhere with her and i was like well im gonnabe honest and not make up a lie, i just dont really feel like going. Thinking that because i was telling the trush she would be like okay. But instepd she was like thats stupid your borring im gonnna invite someone elese your missing all the fun and like rubbing it in and all this stuff. I dont understand her and it makes me mad. I dont wanna keep fighing like this. what should i do?

Obviously shes imature.
Only a imature person would say something like that, either that, or shes hurt, so she tried to make you feel bad, so she bragged about it.
Next time she does that you need to say "I didnt mean to hurt your feelings, but I honestly dont feel like doing anything."
I also can see where your coming from, I've had people who've done that before too to me, and I'm like, what isyour problem? You cant FORCE someone to hang out with you if you dont feel like it. Right?

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I took some pictures on my Digital Camera and I want to transfer them on my computer. I have a Compaq computer if it helps. I know you have to plug a cord into the camera and computer but that's all I know. I need really detailed intructions please. And I have CoolPix4300 camera if it helps.

There is a place in the back of your computer tower, where the UBS cord goes in.
There is only one place it can fit, so when you found the place where it fits, you've got it,
make sure your camera is on, and that the switch is on to viewing your pictures, not taking them. And it should pop up on your computer to select what pictures you want to upload.

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ok so here it goes me and this girl met like 3 years ago on this chat room and since then wev hit off prtty damn good. btw im 16 shes 15. anyway one day we admited that we where in love with each other. but heres the thing shes like 5000 miles away from me. we said we would meet in two years. but now i found out if her parents ever found out about us then she would be kicked outa the house. shit man what should i do help:(

Call me crazy, but I can relate having feelings for someone who lived a long long way away.
Well I suggest if you really want to meet her, do it. In my opinion love is love and if her parents ask how you met, make something up. Now I'm not one to say lying is good, but thats what I would do. Or, come clean - love is pure. Tell your parents, and have her tell hers. But sometimes that plan backfires, so be careful.

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What are some good songs about best friends?

All at once - The Fray
How to save a life - The Fray
BratPack - The Rocket Summer (REALLLYGOOD)
Burn This City - Cartel

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My name is Nickie i'm a 13 yr old girl.Ok, I started going out with this guy named A.J.(13)
He was so amazing and I think I really loved him, but..... he was being a little bit of a jerk. Like when I would call because he would ask me to call him back he would always be like, "What do YOU want?" And just childish stuff. So I broke up with him. Then I started going out with my next boyfriend Clarence(14), after 2 mths. Well, I have really fallen for him, but all my friends say he's cheating on me and we're drifting apart....so I'm starting to fall for my old bf again and I really miss him, but I'm pretty sure he wont take me back. So, someone PLEASE help me...I dont know what to do.....

Oh hun,
Dont go back to your ex, and just be single for a little bit. You probably miss your ex because if your other boyfriend is cheating on you, you dont want to end up alone.
But truth be told your thirteen, and thats quite a young age to be worrying about relationships. I know it feels like your mature enough and everything since your probably in like what? 7th grade? I remember being in that grade - thinking I was everything.

Anyways, I suggest just moving on. I know its really hard, because if all your friends say your boyfriend is cheating on you, its most likely the truth. It happens a lot that we jsut dont want to see the truth, but end up seeing it when we get hurt. Be careful with your feelings and who you trust them to.

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How do I tell what is acting interested in a girl and being annoying toward her? I work with this girl at a college we both go to and she went back home for the summer. I really care about her a lot and, if this isn't love, what the hell is? I call her about once every three days, I try to show I care, but not up in her business all the time. What do most girls like as far as calling and stuff like that? Also, what are a girl's signals? They claim they send them, but I have no idea what they are. Thanks, ladies.

Well girls like it when you call them when its unexpected, or when you tell them you will call. But dont call on a certain day at a certain time so its so predictable, and when you call have something nice to say. Bring up something you guys talked about a long time ago, that will show her you were listening to what she was saying. Girls signals that she likes you, well obviously flirting, the way she moves her eyes (that you can tell a lot about) her overall body launguage, like if they arent intersted in you, they will blow you off, and be constantly smiling with their eyes shifty and slouched over, you know? Some of our signals arent that obvious, but that is the point. :)

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Ages of children: (boy)6 (girl)8
My age:14
Entertianing? Cooking?(breakfast and lunch)
any ideas?

Try googling some recipes for
french toast, or toad in the hole, special choclate chip pancakes.
Make sure you have some dolls or coloring books for the girl, and for the boy maybe pop in a movie or bring some of your brothers toys if you have a brother. Like matchbox cars, or go outside and play with them, with a ball, or in the sprinklers :)

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whats with this we got more bounce in california. is that like a song? if so, by who?

More bounce in california - Soul kid #1

This is the song right?
http://www.wsiam.com/Download/07%20More%20Bounce%20(In%20California)%203.mp3

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hey, does anybody know that song SCOttY DOESNt kNOW from EUROtRiP?
i would like that as my ringtone, and i dont mind paying for it.
****if i could just download it to my computer, that would be even better :)

Yeah
Scotty Doesnt know is by a band called Lustra

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Well me and my girlfriend have been going out two months on the 23 of this month and i'm trying to think of some good gifts that won't cost a fortune(i'm 13 she's 13, low budget)
I was thinkin of gettin her rose's but i'm not quite sure if i should get her anything else.
any suggestions? I'd apreciate it
Thanks

Roses is a great gift, how about chocolates & a card? :)

Very good idea!!

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