Hello I'm a 15 year old girl , I have a lot on my mind but mostly my family my dad works out of province and mom mom works at my school , when ever my dad comes home he brings home a bunch of money but I feel that when its only my mom I feel broke and poor .... I would really love advice on how to tell my parents how a i feel
I don't think the title is appropriate-I was expecting something a lot different to this!
So you feel broke/poor? I think you need to take a different perspective. At least your given money-I'm not, and many other teenagers aren't, they just do without.
Secondly, what must you be spending the money on?! Save it up, and then you perhaps wont feel as poor.
Thirdly, never ask your parents for money more than once. If they're fully financially supporting you, this is actually quite a rude thing to do.
Fourthly, I appreciate the job situation may be difficult, but you need to start thinking about getting a part time job. Like applying just before you're 16. This will mean you'll earn your own money, so you wont have to rely on your dad giving you some, so then you wont feel broke and poor.
So I don't think you're family sound crazy at all. Just be happy you're getting any money-plenty of people myself included a few years ago, had to only have what we needed.
I suggest talking to your mum if it REALLY is upsetting you, but like I said don't harass her with money problems. Why not do what I do? Look to the future, get good grades in your exams at school, then hey, with a good job you'll never feel like this again.
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I don't want to sound like a total freak out, but he sees her at least 4 times a week to exchange clothes/toys. We are in our early twenties and live together. They text all the time, and I've gotten to a point where I am just really uncomfortable with the whole thing, and he knows that. He says I have to accept that he has a child with her. I understand that she will always be in his life because of that, but in a way I feel like a home wrecker just by being with him. I feel like the other woman, when I haven't done anything wrong. I am having second thoughts. Maybe he should try and work things out with her for the sake of the child. Is what I'm feeling normal?
I really feel for you on this one-after all its not you're fault he's fathered another womans child.
I think firstly you need to talk to him about it-communication here is key. I mean, it is normal for parents to get on for the sake of the children involved, but texting constantly? That doesn't seem right.
He has a right to see his child, but you also have a right to a normal relationship with him, not one with three people involved. Tell him how you feel. Although this is hard, the sooner you do it, the sooner you can move onwards and upwards, whichever that direction may be.
If he denies things and just says hes civil with his ex, but you still have your suspicions, then walk away. People like this will never change, and don't you deserve better? Of course you do.
So tell him how you feel, get any answers you may need, and move forward.
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Is it normal that I don't have my period and I'm almost 13 all of my friends have their period and there younger than me
Yeh this is normal, in a sex education class ages ago the lady said that if you dont get it by the time your 17, go see your doctor.
So you've got 4 yrs before something may be wrong, dont worry!
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I am 13 and have ADHD and anger management problems and me and my mom got into a huge argument and I hit her so she destroyed my Xbox. I got really mad and threatened to beat her to death. She then burned my shooting range membership and ran over all my guns with her car. I got really mad after that and punched her. She then slapped me, kicked me and threw me on the ground and drive away. This all happened like 5 minutes ago so she is still out
The user below said it right-you need psychological help, why not talk to a doctor-the good thing is you've recognised you have a problem.
Jeez, my mum shouts at me when I do nothing wrong...
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I hate you Americans.I am a Pakistani 12 years old girl.Why...Why are you killing Muslims.You all will go to Hell.Why are you killing innocent people.My question is that why are you killing innocent children.Someday,I will kill you all.If not me,than god will sent you to hell.
I'm English.
I think this is a very harsh comment to be making and I'd be very suprised if someone hasn't already reported you for it. It can be seen as racist for a start...
Plus, this is an advice site? For people over 13? Seeing as you're not asking for advice and you're not over 13, theres NO POINT in asking this question.
Wars happen, and like 95% of the population of America-more even-has got nothing to do with it, so dont make swooping generalisations.
If you didn't like them so much, why use an American website, created by Americans?
And your comment right there 'I will kill you all'? In my country thats a threat that could end you up in prison. Just be careful what you say young lady.
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So Over the past 2 months or something Around there. I've noticed that my the back of my throat is always white. And from time to time it hurts. And then the other day I realized I have a small white cyst-like bump. Should I be worried about this?
Hi!
My throat is like this too-dont worry.
And the white bump I think sounds like something I have-tonsil stones. They're harmless and come out when you eat or swallow hard. Its just an excess of bacteria on the tonsils (nothing to worry about)
Though it is good to be curious over this kind of thing just in case.
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Soooo basically, I liked this guy for a very long time and he knew. I sort of thought he liked me back because of all the blushing and staring ( he was extremely shy)but he had stopped talking to me because there were rumours he liked me back. but then this really close friend of mine asked me out..and I realized I had feelings for him too so I said yes to him. Later, the guy I had liked found out and he seemed shocked but was laughing and he randomly asked my bf about me in a teasing way. However, recently, like YESTERDAY, he began talking to me after FOUR months...like totally random and while he was talking ( it was about studies) he kept looking down, wouldn't meet my eye and kept smiling. What does this mean?
Soooo if you were truly happy with your current boyfriend why would you even care what this other guy thinks?
Before you look into this you need to decide which guy you like and want to be with-without basing it on who you think likes you the most.
It sounds like this other guy may have feelings for you, but like I said you shouldn't look into this too much as you are in a relationship with someone else are you not?
Also, you may be pouncing on every little thing this guy does and blowing it up to mean he likes you, because you want him to like you. And you want him to like you because you can't have him as you're in another relationship-we all want what we can't have.
Try to look at the 'signs' from a rational perspective, and if they still seem irrational then yeh the guy likes you.
But like I said-if you're happy with this new guy why care?
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Okay so I'm 18 years old female and I'm still a virgin yet I masterbate every single day, but not alone I meet random people on this website and give them my kik and have dirty sex talks with them i currently have a boyfriend who thinks I'm not a virgin and lives in a different state I also have a "daddy" he also doesn't know they do not know about each other I sext my boyfriend everyday and have fone sex with my "daddy" every dady but I recently met a guy who knows I'm a virgin and constantly have fone sex although he is 27 and my "daddy" is 47 and my boyfriend is 18 I love my boyfrined so much and I also love my "daddy" but this other guy likes me and accepts the fact that I am a virgin but I am very sexually active with myself and I wanna get rid of my virginity with this new guy bhut I dnt wanna cheat on my boyfriend or lie to my "daddy" what should I do som1 help!!!
This will seem rude-do you have any values?
Sorry. but this is just my opinion so rate it a 1 or a 5, I'll say it anyway.
You don't want to cheat on your boyfriend. So dump him, get with this new guy and then its not cheating.
If you don't want anything serious and just casual-this sounds like the case, then I suggest for now not having a boyfriend at all, else he will get hurt anyway. The thing is, if you have a boyfriend-its supposed to be just you and him!
So obviously theres something not right about this relationship with your 'boyfriend'-something that makes you unhappy and not want to have sex with him and lose your V to him.
For me, and most people. virginity is a special thing as once its gone, well its gone. I don't know without knowing you personally quite the right advice to give, other than to say I have values and would want to lose mine to someone where there was a mutual affection, not just to say you've lost it.
Your libido seems quite high so its normal for you to be masturbating this much, and healthy for your age.Whatever you choose to do...its your decision but personally I'd cut of ties with two of these guys now you're in a relationship
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I'm a girl , 17. So I talked to someone online tonight, and it started completely innocently. I didn't give any of my details out to him and we had a genuinely nice conversation. I don't know why, but the conversation started getting more sexual and it got reasonably full on (it wasn't his fault I kind of started it) - I guess I was feeling lonely?
Now afterwards I'm really regretting it and I feel really disgusting, like unclean. I feel like I've wasted my first time at something like this, and I basically feel like a bit of a slut. I've always thought people that do stuff like that are disgusting but now I feel like it myself. I don't want this to overtake my mind all the time because I feel guilty about it. I feel like I can never get my innocence back, how pathetic is that.
Hey!
This happened to me recently-I'm 17 too as well.
So it was on this website...I'll just say it as ppl always talk about facebook on here-girls ask guys.
Its weird, because you get an account and ask an innocent question, and then random guys from the other side of the world add you, and talk to you about sex.
You were right to not give away too much info about yourself. At first, I made a complaint about being sp
oken-or typed to in such a rude way, but then I realized-this is just the nature of sites like this.
You shouldn't feel guilty about it-at the time you felt like you wanted to have a full on conversation about sex-well you're a teenage girl-we cant be expected to think pretty all the time as its unrealistic.
My advice would be to not feel ashamed of yourself, and to not worry about it-as you can't change anything about what you typed that time, so its no use overthinking it.
If the person still makes you feel uncomfortable, then block him/her.
I dont know about you but I never worry too much about something that at the time I was comfortable with. You're still innocent-you have your dignity and self respect as you didn't type anything to reveal your identity. Dont worry!
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Will 5-8 sleeping pills make u fall asleep straight away if u aren't trying to sleep
It depends-if you just lie there then they should take you down but if you keep getting up and are anxious then they may have no effect.
It seems to me that all of a sudden there are a lot of questions about taking sleeping pills as a means of committing suicide. I suggest, whether you feel suicidal or cant sleep so have to take such heavy doses of sleeping pills, talk to a doctor-and go to A&E 24 hour mental health unit right now. It's not normal, and you don't have to suffer with whatever trauma you're going through...
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I am 18/M and i want to have sex with my neighbor. whenever she is outside we talk ( i live across the street) both of us go out of our ways to talk to eachother. How do i get into the conversation of sex? how do i get her to have sex with me?
You can't make anyone have sex with you.
It depends if she's into you as much as you're into her. Is she single? Are you? Is she Catholic or anything? Finding these out is the first step.
It sounds like you want no string attached sex rather than the meaningful kind. Only a select few girls are up for this kind. You can't just blurt out the taboo topic of sex randomly, you need to build up to it.
A good start, in my opinion would be to be straight and honest with her. Tell her you like her-flirt a little. If you see the response is good, then get a little closer to her. If the response isn't so positive, leaver her alone.
Also though, make sure she knows whether you want her as a friend with benefits or something more.
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How many sleeping pills would a 13 year old girl who weighs 45 and is 155cm have to take until she dies?
How long would she sleep for if she took about 8?
How would she feel the next morning( eg.tired,nauseas ect)
Would she die if she took 8?
How would she look the next day?
If she took it at 9 would she wake up at 6:30 the next morning if someone had to wake her up?
This is NOT for me or anyone I know its for a school thing
I'm 17, and I had trouble sleeping for like a month, and put it this way-the doctor STILL wouldn't give me any sleeping tablets because of my age and my petite frame.
He said that one would knock me sideways (be asleep for ages) so 8? Or even 9?! Thats way too dangerous.
Also, it depends. If she has slept fine for the past few nights, and takes these then it'll be a shock to the system. If she doesn't die, then she'd certaintly have a deep sleep.
I don't think anyone on this site will have knowledge as to what would happen to be honest-it sounds like a pretty extreme school project you're conjuring up
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My last period was in January not too sure the exact date but I know it was,the beginning of the month. February is almost over and I still haven't started my period? Is it too soon to take a pregnancy test or should I wait? If so, how much longer?
This must be pretty worrying for you :/
Just so you know, it takes at least a week or two after having sex before a pregnancy test will show it as being positive.
If you have had sex without protection then yes I'd definitely take a pregnancy test.
If not then it's pretty normal for girls to be late with their periods-I wouldn't worry.
And if the test does come back positive, theres always a way forward. If you're period hasn't come in another week or so, I'd buy the pregnancy test then. If you're not pregnant and it still doesn't come, don't panick-lots of girls miss periods from time to time.
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I need to get my life together. I have all the tools...just a little push. The next year and a half is going to make or break me. I'm a junior in college and I'm trying to get into graduate school. If i don't get my act together, get straight A's, and make my resume as amazing as possible...I don't see that happening...and my lifeplan will be shot to hell..
SO....this is where you come in...
ANYONE
its not much i would appreciate ANYTHING from ANYONE.
I just need some motivation...
It could be a movie that really inspires you...a song...a book..a quote....something your grandma said last week.
I need a trigger to get me started
I have been so depressed lately that I can barely get myself out of bed. Mostly because I've been very lonely... but I can't whine about being alone forever I need to DO SOMETHING.
HELP A GIRL OUT!
Hey,
Recently I was very ill will a mental thing and needed some motivation-so heres what helped me get better:
1) Uplifting songs-things like fighter by Christina and Today my life begins by Bruno mars-listen on youtube
2) Assessing how much I love my mum/dad/sister/friends and imagining how it'd make them feel if I was successful
3) About the A grade thing-this worked for me as I finished up with all A's-well you know how people our age go out and party? Sacrifice this for study. At first its like woah that's a big commitment, but what would you rather straight A's and a life long successful career, or a few drunken nights on the town? Besides, once you get your dream job THEN you can go party-work then play
4) Look up to celebrities. Aim to reach celebrity status but in your own field of expertise. If youre good at maths. be the best in the class at it-do extra reading on the next lesson and make sure you have that extra knowledge to make you appear the brightest. This will lead to you having confidence in your own abilities.
5) Sorry-this is long! Tell yourself YOU CAN DO IT. I always think theres no such thing as not being intelligent, its just lack of ability to try. But yeh have self belief, and find that within yourself. What inspires me is thinking about myself being a success in the future. Sure, its a lonely road, but that's the lonely road to success which is why not many people are successful.
Good luck-and even on bad days-don't let them put you down, because successful people have the get up and go to carry on regardless.Check out that Bruno Mars song now :)
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I am 27, I am an introvert and I also suffer from depression.
I have no friends, I have not had real friends in about 3 years now. Each time I think of the idea I seem to shoot it down. I even had oppertunites to hang out with a few people and I find myself with very little interest in proceeding what seems to be no more then hi and bye. I ask myself " Why aren't. I interested in friends?" I can't seem to find a real valid reason other then they are drama and always hang out. I am young and should have friends but don't really want them?.
You sound like a very independant person-which is a positive thing as it means you are fully able to find your own happiness.
However, something has to be doen, because the fact you've got no friends DOES bother you, else you wouldn't've asked this question right?
It could just be that because you're introverted, you find it a struggle sub consciously to do the whole getting to know people proccess. I'm the same, you see. Most kids are taught by their parents example how to make friends and stuff, but I was never 'taught' as I always had by twin to rely upon.
It could be that you don't know anyone who's so much like you that you want to be bothered talkng to them-or maybe the people you normally see are just boring.
I don't think theres anything wrong with you-despite it being the human nature to be social, I guess there are some exeptions.
My advice would be to work on your depression, as this will not be helping you. I would say then to work on being an introvert, but this is never going to happen because extraversion/introversion is a pre-disposition, mostly inherited that we can't change. But hey-if you look hard enough there are lots of introverted people out there to.
Obviously if you want to continue friendless then dont follow my advice, but I presumed you didn't because you asked the question. THe main thing is to not be friends with someone for the sake of 'having a friend'. I think it's important to have a few close friends to get you through the hard times-but if you really dont want any then thats your choice at the end of the day.
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How can I make a push up bra at home without cutting the one I have? I there a way to do it without buying pads and stuff like that? I am a 34b and hoping to get up to a C or even better a D but anything will be much appreciated! Thx.
Without buying one from a shop-and they don't cost that much, I don't think theres much you can do.
You could try wearing putting tissue in it or wearing tight tops to make it look like they're larger, but really this is impractical.
However I didn't answer this question to tell you 'there is no way'. If I were you, and what I did, was pyshically made them abit larger. I'd advise you to consult a professional before carrying out ANY exercise as I'm not a doctor/fitness trainer, but I did some chest exercises and things to build up the breast tissue.
It worked for me-and it's much more natural than wearing anything fake.
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My mum recently said we need to get me a bra. This is very awkward for me and was just looking for some general advice on how to survive the fitting! Thx
Hey
I remember when I got my first one-it is kinda awkward because I guess you're now seen by your mum as being something which could be of desire to a boy, so a bra is nessessary...
I'm guessing your english because you said mum not mom-I suggest going to Marks and Spencer-I did.
its very private, as its in the back corner of the shop, usually upstairs.
One thing to remember is that the woman (it will be a woman) who fits you will NOT be able to see your breats, as they can measure you up without actually seeing them.
Also, what I did was got one as soon as I needed to-because then you can be sure the smaller sizes fit, so in this case a fitting may not be nessessary.
Buy a non wired one because they're more comfortable-it'll feel strange at first but you do get used to it.
Just remember, you're jsut another customer for the person who measures you up-no big deal. And your mum will have been there herself one day, and could well be glad you're at this stage now.
It'll be fine!
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Billie Joe Armstrong. I know-yesterday, he turned 41, and I'm just a teenager. I know every thing about him, and Green Day and Sweet Child and ... Billie. I'm not asking for advice on how to stop liking Green Day since I spent more than $500 of Green Day/Billie stuff just this year, plus having every song of him possible, plus tickets to see his AI show in my area soon but ... is there anything wrong with me? I'm sorry if I disturb you, like, I know he's married, but I've had these dreams and all kinds of ... oh god, I'm ranting, I'll stop. Should I tell my parents, since they already know I like Green Day and all, and my friends like Green Day too. I feel stuck. I have a journal filled with Billie Joe Armstrong drawings and lyrics and desires and entries of why I like him and all ... btw, I'm a girl, just thirteen, and anything would be good. Thank you.
Theres nothing wrong with you! In fact its very normal to have a crush on someone like that at your age.
I dont see what would be the point in telling your parents in detail about your dreams with him? Idk, but honestly its just the kind of thing you keep to your self.
What may help is going to one of his gigs/concerts or even (!) meeting him in some way as a VIP? This may calm your obsession down abit.
If you're going to be a proper fan girl, then you deserve to meet him after putting so much money into the Greenday fanchise!
Its totally innocent to have a crush on some one like him, but also I think its important you recognise its all just fantazies and will new happen. What you're actually doing by relating yourself to someone as famous as him is boosting your ego/confidence. Whilst this is ok, you need to find other ways to boost your confidence than Billie Joe Armstrong. Because, with as with any belieber or direcioner out there, there will come a time when they are happily married themselves and just laugh at their little fan girl antics when they were 13. SO yeh start a new hobby or do something else to make you feel as good as he does, so that you dont hit rock bottom when you cease to fancy him anymore.
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i have in doing gymnastics for a long time know and at a high competitng level. the training is staring to get really difficult and the traveling is unberleaveable. i spend more time at the gym then at home and im getting really tired at school and when i get tired at the gym i start to train bad and that is when my coaches will start having a go at me they will make me stay late and i live 1 hour away from the gym and i finish at 9:00pm so im inly getting home later, really need some advice should i quit gymnastics.
I used to do dance-and I dont know how old you are but you're obvoiusly of school age. So education is getting serious now right?
I left dancing school when I was 13 after 10 years, and although it was hard it was the best thing I ever did-because I needed to focus on the work.
It depends. Do you want to do gymnastics as a future career? If so dont quit it. As you move up in your education, they'll be school clubs and uni clubs in things like cheerleading and gymnastics. So you can still keep it up as a hobby.
My personal view is that yes you should quit-in 10 years time you'll be a working woman! And with no disrespect-jobs surrounding gymnastics couldn't be more limited. Its best to concerntrate on your studies to get a really good job in the future. Who knows, although you may not be able to compete competitivley anymore, you may be able to do it as a hobby again-but in your well paid job.
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I am young and want my period I also want to masturbate
How do I do this
Dont know how old you are-I'm guessing 13-14, because any younger and you're not allowed to be on this site and also this is about the time a period starts.
Your period will come when it comes, I'm afraid-its 100% down to mother nature. That is, presuming you've not already started? It tends to come within a year of developing the pubic hair.
Presuming you are as young as 13/14, its illegal to buy or watch any sexual films/over 18 videos on youtube, and I'd hope no one on here would tell you where to look for that kind of stuff anyway.
If you feel the need to masturbate, you may have a high libido for your age. Consider eating fats and carbohydrates. I'm NOT a doctor but this does lower your libido, so may make your urge less.
Idk but in my opinion its always best to wait untill you have your first boyfriend...
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