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My family is crazy
Hello I'm a 15 year old girl , I have a lot on my mind but mostly my family my dad works out of province and mom mom works at my school , when ever my dad comes home he brings home a bunch of money but I feel that when its only my mom I feel broke and poor .... I would really love advice on how to tell my parents how a i feel
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I don't think the title is appropriate-I was expecting something a lot different to this!
So you feel broke/poor? I think you need to take a different perspective. At least your given money-I'm not, and many other teenagers aren't, they just do without.
Secondly, what must you be spending the money on?! Save it up, and then you perhaps wont feel as poor.
Thirdly, never ask your parents for money more than once. If they're fully financially supporting you, this is actually quite a rude thing to do.
Fourthly, I appreciate the job situation may be difficult, but you need to start thinking about getting a part time job. Like applying just before you're 16. This will mean you'll earn your own money, so you wont have to rely on your dad giving you some, so then you wont feel broke and poor.
So I don't think you're family sound crazy at all. Just be happy you're getting any money-plenty of people myself included a few years ago, had to only have what we needed.
I suggest talking to your mum if it REALLY is upsetting you, but like I said don't harass her with money problems. Why not do what I do? Look to the future, get good grades in your exams at school, then hey, with a good job you'll never feel like this again.
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Dad's working hard to bring home the cash and keep a happy home. But think of what your mum's doing here. OK, maybe her wage isn't so big. But she's there for you. For all the little, and bigger day-to-day things. She's making you 'rich' in a way your dad would probably love to...but can't just at the moment because he's out earning the cash. At fifteen you've probably got one foot in the adult world and one still in your childhood. So try to look at it from the adult side. We'd all like enough cash to do everything we need, most of what we like and have all the time in the world to enjoy doing it. But in 9 out of 10 cases there's a bit of compromise needed. When or if you discuss it with your parents try to keep yourself from accidentally taking sides or playing favourites. You're a unit, not three individuals. And that world of proiritising and compromising because we have to, isn't as 'crazy' as it might look at the moment.
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