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Q: i have a crush.. A HUGE CRUSH!! but the only problem is i have a boyfriend....and the boy i have a crush on is sits behind me in one of my classes.. and my boyfriend doesnt even go to the same schooll!! but me and my bf have been on and off for over a year and three months.. and just two days ago he wanted a break, then he called back the next day and wanted me back!!! omg!! what should i do??? PLEASE HELP ME:(
well try telling your boyfriend that you two should have a break, get to know some other people and you can try to see if this other guy is right for you ..and if things dont work out with your crush i guess you can go back to your boyfriend

Q: if you like someone but have a bf/gf is it considered cheating? jw.
well not exactly.. if you do anything like kiss them or something then it will be considered cheating

Q: so my prom is in 9 days, saturday april 22nd. i just got a cold sore today, i've been putting carmex on it and its not getting bigger but does anyone know any quick fixes?

thx!
cold sores dont last that long but just dont touch it that much and put medicine on it and be patient.. dont worry, itll be gone before your prom!

Q: I'm a bit of a slob, and while re-organizing my closet (aka picking my clothes up off the floor), I found a whole lot of mouse poop. I don't really keep food in my room, and when I do eat in my room, it's not in the closet.

So how do I get rid of the mice? I keep my clothes in this area, so I'd rather not use strong chemicals. I also don't want to be picking up dead mice. So what's the most humane, safest way to get rid of them?
you can get a mouse trap and put your clothes in a different area for now until the mouse gets trapped.. if you dont want the blood to get around the area just put newpaper under the trap and just put a little food on the trap so then itll get caught! good luck!

Q: 13.f
I got a really bad haircut.
I really regret it. I had beautiful long hair and I got it cut and now its way to short. This happened yesterday. And now I've been crying for an hour about how ugly it looks and now i hate myself. I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO?
i know how you feel.. i had that done by a friend and they totaally messed up and cut my hair so short it was like 2 inches lower than my shoulders.. well i really liked my hair down but since it was so short i had to put it up everyday and that kinda helped.. but you can try different hairstyles if you want.. if ididnt help.. sorry but good luck!

Q: Hey, Ive already searched google, you can try it yourself..there's no results. So does anyone know what song it is where they sing "I want your body, so baby dont tease me.." its an rnb song I think. And then there's another REALLY GREAT song where the dude sings "if she says she wants it, if she says she needs, don't you keep her waiting, give it to her please" (something like that)

If you could tell me who sings it or where I can find them I'd be so greatful!!!!
Thank you!
i couldnt find anything for the first song but for the second song i got -- give it to her by metro

Q: I'd like to get Advice on sex and also I'd like to hear people who had sex and After that got depressed and if your wondering I'm a he or she i'm a he and lately my girl-friend was having too much strees after sex is that normal
well.. maybe shes just going through alot of emotions? personally, i havent had sex yet so i wouldnt know how she feels.. but i suppose its cause it was probably her first time? and maybe she feels different cause now shes not a virgin.. i dont know though.. im sorry if i didnt help but good luck!

Q: What do I do if every one is Thinking I have a mental Problem and By the Way I do have Mental problems and I don't want Every one Knowing I have mental Problems
well first, your friends should accept you for who you are but if you dont want them knowing.. try to act normal and be happy and act like how other people are acting.. maybe that will lead them to think you dont have a mental problem.. im sorry if that didnt help though, good luck!

Q: Okey this is the deal, in short my father is really mad at me, lik not teenage-mad but mad as in hasn't-spoken-to-me-in-3-months mad. Won't even look at me. Talk to me or even about me. And don't tell me to communicate with him because in my culture things don't work that way,trust me..you have no idea. Now the thing is, his birthay is coming up..and what do I do? I don't even know if he'll accept a gift from me, and if he does - what do I even give him? And when I give it to him, what do I say? "Happy birthday dad, love you, *hug*, hope you dont feel like killing me anymore" (?) Any advice - PLEASE??
so basically:
question #1) What do I get him?
question #2) How do I act?

By the way, I'm 15 and female. And I have no other family member that I can talk to or that can help me (again, its my culture!) so thank you for advice on how to deal - because I REALLY can not "communicate" so don't suggest that one. And I can't appolgize either. So just "what do I buy?" and "what do I do when I give it to him?"

Thaank you ♥
you can get him something that he likes or something he really wants.. and when it comes to his birthday be really nice to him and smile to him when you give him your present.. i dont know though.. hope i helped! good luck!

Q: how old should i be to have sex in your opinion (f)?
well when your ready is the point but you should have sex when your mostly responsible and know what will acutally happen and the consequences.. around age 18 or older possibly

Q: so as most of you know i WAS in a relationship with a abusive guy and i told him that i want to break up with him..and he brok two of my ribs...and gave me a cuncution...:-(

but on the flip side hes goin to juvey!! and i realized (thanks to ALL of u!!!!!) that he was an a** hole. plain and simple..and all i get are threatining letters/phone calls..but what i am afraid of is his friends. his friends stick by him 100%..and my house got TP (toilet paperd) and lilke a dead rat was on my door step (says my mom) and like i got threating letters in my locker saying "bitch if u tell ill kill you" or "we know you told hoe, were ganna do what jake did" (jake rapped me.)

so PLZ help!!!!
you should definetly tell someone about this maybe the guidance councellor or something? maybe even contact the police ..maybe you can talk to your ex and tell him to stop because you two are not together anymore and you'll leave him alone and hell leave you alone.. hope that helped but good luck!

Q: my sound just....stopped working. like it's turned up and everything but it won't work. i restarted my computer but it didn't do anything...does anyone know what it might be?? 5's
it might be muted or maybe the plug to the speakers arent plugged in right

Q: Can u get an S.T.D. or any kind of disease from giving head?? i never had sex b 4 but i gave head b 4 and for like the past year i have this red bump on my vagina its on and off? I havnt told any one dont knwo what it is or what to do..
like the other people said. yes giving head can get you an std but the bumps down there are probably razor bumps if you shave.. if not then theyre just pimples i guess

Q: is it true that guys are only your friends if they are some what attracted to you .. like theyd only be your friend if they like your of if they think your hot is that true? - 15/f
well im not sure but i dont think thats true.. cause i mean some guys are probably like that but some will probably like you for who you are and not by your looks

Q: does anyone know what age it is legal to get a belly button ring in new york?
gracias!
well if your over 18 you can get it done by yourself and dont need a parent but if your under the age of 18 you will need to have a parent come with you and sign the paper

Q: Hey everyone!
For some reason I feel like reading I would really apreciate if you people would recommend some of your favorite books and a little bit on what it is about =)
Thanks,
well gossip girls were pretty good.. i havent read it yet but i heard it was really good.. go ask alice was also a good book, it was about how this girl went through all this trouble and drama involving drugs and sex and all that stuff

Q: Okay so i am nearly 200 pounds overweight...i know i need to lose weight but i have no motivation...does anyone know of anything that could really motivate at 15 year old girl? Thanks
usually when im looking through magazines and there are ads for like stores or something there are usually skinny girls and i tell myself that i need to lose some wieght so i can look like them.. usually that helps but sometimes it doesnt

Q: ok, stupid question.

do you think 14 is too young to get your upper ear peirced? my parents say i'm too young for a peircing like that...i don't know why... but i was just wondering if you think so?


i don't know. just wondering.
personally i dont think your too young for that.. i got mine done when i was like 12-13. but no your not too young for it! just ask them again and tell them that many other people your age have them

Q: Okat so i haave like a lot of problems and i need your help.

First one- I was at a school dance. my parents are rlly protective if i dance with people n stuff..well theres this boy, lets say Kyle, and he snuck in to our dance. he is in 10 th grade. he skipped 2grades though so heshould be in 8th. well, he asked me to dance so i said yes. n we danced for what, 30 seconds? n my friends all saw me. n i guess one of them got in the car and was like OMG my friend *me* danced with this rlly hot 10th grader. her mom spazzed out and called my mom. i said i didnt because rlly, what is 30 seconds? n now my mom n dad believe me.. but i talked to my friend who told her mom n i told her to lie to her mom.. n now her mom is like well all these chaperones saw me. i mean seriously, how could like 5 chaperones see me in 30 seconds.. come on! do u think her mom will call mine again?

Second Problem- So at my birthday party a couple of weeks ago, 4 girls were completely being mean and just hung out in my closet like the WHOLE time bad mouthing me and the other 3 girls. before my party, the 4 girls hated eachother.. n now they r having a party tonight... n they didnt even BOTHER inviting me.. n they talk about it in front of me too...

sorry this was so long. i am just sooo stressed out n i rlly didnt know who to go to..=[
well since your mom and dad believe you, you shouldnt worry that much and if they call just tell them its not that big of a problem and it was only 30 seconds and you didnt do anything else other than that.

for your second problemm.. that really sucks. but maybe you can find some new friends, hang out with them instead of your other 4 friends. they seems kindaaa mean.

Q: Ok so I shave likea almost every 2days....sometimes everday. I have some questions:
1. How many times must you use a disposable shaver?
2. Is soap good for shaving?
3. When I shave I always use St. Ives Whipped Silk for Extra Dry skin and wen I'm finished it absorbs relly fast and it gets dry again so I was guessin to put more. Should I? And if not what is another best cream to put on ur legs?
1. you should probably use it for 1 1/2 - 2 weeks
2. soap can be used but personally i think shaving cream works better..
3. maybe try another kind of lotion? i dont know any good types so i cant really help you with that

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