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dad = mad, birthday coming up soon, how to deal?
Okey this is the deal, in short my father is really mad at me, lik not teenage-mad but mad as in hasn't-spoken-to-me-in-3-months mad. Won't even look at me. Talk to me or even about me. And don't tell me to communicate with him because in my culture things don't work that way,trust me..you have no idea. Now the thing is, his birthay is coming up..and what do I do? I don't even know if he'll accept a gift from me, and if he does - what do I even give him? And when I give it to him, what do I say? "Happy birthday dad, love you, *hug*, hope you dont feel like killing me anymore" (?) Any advice - PLEASE??
so basically:
question #1) What do I get him?
question #2) How do I act?
By the way, I'm 15 and female. And I have no other family member that I can talk to or that can help me (again, its my culture!) so thank you for advice on how to deal - because I REALLY can not "communicate" so don't suggest that one. And I can't appolgize either. So just "what do I buy?" and "what do I do when I give it to him?"
Thaank you ♥
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what i think you should do is go to your dad and give him the biggest hug you have ever given him in your life and tell him how much you love him and how you miss him and need him that is my advise and when you do this you should meen it k get back to me and tell me how it went you could do ths for his b-day but i would do it before than make him a cake lol get back to me please P.s if you dont mind me asking what is your culture
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I completley understand what your going through, I come from a middle eastern family..and the communicating things dont work for us either. So, I think you should get him anything that intrests him. His favorite sport, movie, game, etc. And have a card that just says stuff like "Dad I love you, I hope we can be on good terms" etc. etc. Or you could just write him a long letter, saying happy birthday and then explaining how you feel..I mean dont you miss him? I'm sure you do. He cant abandon you...Your family! Hopefully I helped a little? Good luck.
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Just to reiterate smcheerleadingx's advice which i think is pretty awesome. Something like a scrapbook that you've put a lot of effort into will mean much more than anything bought and show how much you care without either of you having to talk. I made my dad a scrapbook of the two of us in photos together from when i was a baby to present day and he cried lol. Hopefully something like that will remind your dad that your relationship is worth holding onto no matter what's happened.
Try to leave it somewhere where he will find it when he's on his own so he is free to actually get a bit sentimental instead of having to put on a big angry man-of-the-house act to save his pride (aren't men terrible for that? :)).
Best of luck, let me know how it goes x
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I suppose just try as hard as you can to act normal and like his silent treatment isn't phasing you. You could get him a present and write something in the card along the lines of, "I know you're angry with me still but I still love you no matter what. I hope we can smooth things out soon. Happy birthday."
I'm not sure what you should get him because I don't really know anything about him... just try to think of something he really likes and play off of that. Or you could go for useful...maybe his wallet is getting old and beat up, so you could get him a new one. Anything that you put some thought into and shows that you kept his interests in mind generally works.
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i deffinitely understand this thing with your dad, and about how you dont want to apologize or communicate. in a way, i dont think you should.
this is a hard question to give advice to but here's what i got in mind:
i think you SHOULD still get him a present. try giving him something small like a framed photograph/symbol/picture/object that will remind him of a good memory between you guys (like an inside joke). afterall, you ARE his daughter.
then if you want, you can write something in a small card like "i hope we can work things out".
it might be hard to give him his gift up front and personal so if i were you, i would leave it somewhere where he can find it. im not sure if wrapping it completely up is a good idea because he could possibly ignore the offer. maybe set it in an opened cardboard box or if you want, keep it out in the open. if he know's that you're really concerned about this on the inside, he might loosen up.
i really hope everything turns out okay.
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you can get him something that he likes or something he really wants.. and when it comes to his birthday be really nice to him and smile to him when you give him your present.. i dont know though.. hope i helped! good luck!
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