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Q: hey, me and my boyfriend, were both 18, want to get married, and his mom has absolutely no problem with it, because she already considers me her daughter, but my dad is totally against it. what should i do

Your dad is not the one getting married. Personally, I would not get married right away and I think you should try living together for a while first to see if you can really handle marriage. But it's your choice, and your father has no say in it.

Q: ok so me and my boyfriend went out for 6 months... and then things started to change. so i broke up with him. then the next day he asked me back out and i said yes. and then after like a week i broke up with him again because it was different then before and i didnt like it. and he keeps calling me when hes in tears and i dont know what to do.. if i went back out with him ide be doin it because i feel bad for him and i dont wanna hurt him. more and more people are telling me "he'll change for you... he'll be different" and its all retarted and i dont wannna go back out with him.
any suggestions on what to do next???
thanks in advance
13/f

Don't go out with him. He's not going to change for you, whoever is telling you that needs to wake up. Tell him to stop calling you. If that doesn't work, you may have to get a new number and don't tell it to him.

Q: How can I get my breasts to be bigger without implants. 14/F.

You're only fourteen, so they're still growing. But if you really want to make them look bigger, try clothes. The way different clothes are made provide certain body illusions--this is true for everyone. You need to learn to use that to your advantage and wear shirts that make your breasts look bigger. Padded bras are also good, but if someone found out you were wearing one, they would probably tease you for being "fake". That's stupid, though, since everybody is fake...unless of course they are nudists.

Anyway, it's not something that really matters. If this is about guys noticing you, which I'm assuming it is, a lot of guys have different tastes. Some guys like smaller breasts. To some guys it doesn't matter at all. The ones who like their girls with huge chests are conceited.

Oh, and by the way...large breasts HURT.

Q: Okay well, alot of guys like me and i don't like them. My friend told me to talk to every single one of those guys and tell them that i don't like them. SO I did, well only to one of them. And I told him I didn't like him more then a friend and that was that. He said o. Sadly. Then he was like no one likes me. And i was like sure they do. And then he was like no they really don't.(I am thinking I really don't give a care.) And then he sad he was going to cut himself with a knife. I was like no please don't please and I tried to tell him not to but I think it was to late. Well, I told the friend that wanted me to talk to these guys and then I told her about that guy. She was like like I care.... and you are telling me why. I said I thought you would be happy that I talked to him and that I told him that I Didn't like him. She didn't care which I really thought she would. I don't know about her she says that I am her BFF in the whole world and I think she is mine but I really don't know if she really is. Also I am worried about this guy...what should I do?? PLease help~!

That guy is probably just being immature. He just wants your attention so he's saying, "Look, I'm gonna kill myself and it's your fault for breaking my heart." And I think I can see your friend's point of view. She probably just meant that she doesn't really care what you do with your love life, since that's your business. Though she could be a little jealous that you have a lot of boys who like you.

My advice is to stick with the girl, but forget about the guy.

Q: I'm a 16 year old girl, and I don't shave my legs or armpits on any regular basis. I'll do them for special occassions or if I'm wearing a special outfit, but most of the time the hair just doesn't bother me so I don't bother removing it. I figure that it's my body, and my time and energy that I'm saving by not shaving, but sometimes I worry that guys won't be interested in me because of this and I've got to the age where I wish guys expressed more interest in me. Should I start shaving, or should I just wait for a guy who doesn't mind me being me?

Shave if somebody is going to be looking at that part of your body. Otherwise, it's a waste of time.

Q: Does anyone know where I can find one of those tshirts that say "I need a hug" or something like that?? Or does anyone know where I can find any other cute tshirts that say cute stuff like that?? I've been looking for them for like forever and I cant find any!! Thanks!!

Wal Mart. And if you can't find any, buy a blank shirt and some fabric pain and write "I need a hug". It will look better anyway, 'cause nobody else will have the same exact shirt.

Q: I am an 18 year old male. My best friend and I have been talking on messenger and we have both realized that we have extra feelings for each other. She is coming to my college next year to be with me. The only thing is she is bringing a guy who I am pretty sure is her boyfriend. She says she wants to start something when she gets down here but now I'm afraid with this guy coming too that I wont get my chance with her. Should I confront her about this guy and see what she says? Is there anything else I can do? Thank you

Maybe the "something" she's planning is a threesome with you and the other guy.

But that's extremely rude, telling you she's coming to see you and bringing another guy.

It could be her brother, though. I think you should definitely talk to her about it.

Q: I helped my friend get a boy, who is also my friend. She said she really liked him and totally wanted to go out. So I hooked them up. The boy is really sweet and really likes her. The day after they were together. She says to me that she's going to break up with him because she's in love with her ex from like a year ago. (And he doesn't like her like that.) She got me to hook them up, and she's going to break his heart after he admits his feelings for her. I don't think thats right. i told her she said she'll give him 1 week tops. I don't know what I should do

PLease help

No offense, but your friend sounds like a slut. And she's going to be that way no matter what. She's the type of girl who thinks boyfriends are toys and throws them out when she gets sick of them. Since she's going to break up with him, you should be there for him. But be her friend, too, and don't let her relationship choices affect your friendship. Also, in the future, don't set your friends up, because if they have a rough breakup you will probably be caught in the middle and that is never fun.

Good luck.

Q: I like this guy i work with so much it hurts. He tells me all his personal stuff about his family and and his ex giirl fiend.We have a lot in common. He even gave me a mix CD. I give him free potato chips from the store that i work in. He always seems happy to see me. When he walks in he has a great big cool aid smile on his face. But there is a problem he never asked for my phone #. What's with that. I am way to shy to ask him for his. My question is does this guy like me? Or does he see me as just as a friend what am i doing wrong? how do i get him to take me seriously?

Maybe he doesn't have a phone.

He gave you a mix CD and you gave him chips, I think he really likes you so you should ask him out.

Q: I have a friend that ive known for several years. She lives a very long distance away from me and theres nothing i can do physcially for her. Her father makes her have sex with him on a nightly basis. Is there any way i can help her get help. Shes afraid of going against him, because he is paying for her college and everything. I love her to death. What can i do?

Her safety is more important than her education.

Here are a couple of websites that can help:
http://www.feminist.com/askamy/violence/
http://www.stopfamilyviolence.org/sfvo/index.html

It's wonderful that you are there for her. Keep supporting her. Best of luck.

Q: Hey, I'm 13/f and I think that my best friend might be gay. I mean, she's rather stalker-like, won't stop givin me stupid out-of-the-blue hugs, and keeps telling me online that she loves me. It's making me feel really uncomfortable and I have NO clue what to do.

I rate 5's for everyone..

She is probably just confused. About her sexuality, and also maybe because she thinks she has feelings for you. The best thing you can do if she has a crush on you is just to be a supportive friend and maybe introduce her to other people. Eventually she will get over you, but I hope you are still friends.

The only other thing I can think of is that maybe she feels pity for you, for whatever reason, and she wants you to know that you are loved.

But if it is that she has a crush, reject her nicely and don't break her heart.

Q: Okay, lemme give you a little background. I'm 17, and a girl, first off. My boyfriend is 18. We've been together for over 15 months.
In my last relationship, the guy lied to me, and cheated on me, then lied to me about lying to me and cheating on me.
That combined with my mother's constant "He doesn't mean it, words don't mean a thing" kind of spiels involving my boyfriend has made me completely untrusting.
But the problem really, is it's hurting our relationship. I mean, I'm not jealous. I'm not controlling, and we have a great thing going here. I'm just afraid to trust him. There's always this little voice in the back of my head, saying "he doesn't mean it," or "he has some ulterior motive". It's driving me absolutely crazy, this constant dread in the back of my mind that he'll go up to me one day and say "Oh, by the way, I met someone else. Have a nice life."
I mean, most people have the problem that they trust blindly and get hurt, but NOOO. I don't trust at all, and hurt the other person, and I HATE to do that. It's hurting me to hurt him. I love him with every fiber of my being, and I'm sick of being afraid to trust him - to trust anyone, really.
Relationships need to be based on trust. Without trust, there is no relationship. I hate my trust problems, they're kinda...not good.
Anyone have any advice?

Firstly, talk to your boyfriend about it. Don't say that you don't trust him, just explain that you are paranoid because of your last boyfriend. Maybe he can help you learn to be trusting again.

Also couples counselling is always an option.

Q: well me and my bf have been goin out for like a little more than 2 months and we really like each other... but he seems shy when it comes to kissing or something...wat does this mean?

Exactly that--he's just shy. You've only been going out for two months, you don't know each other that well yet. He's probably never kissed before, or he could be afraid that you do not want him to kiss you. You should let him know that you are fine with it by showing him. If it still makes him uncomfortable, talk to him about it. Make sure he knows that you support him 100%.

Q: My boyfriend thinks I like all these guys because they like me and it's getting annoying. I think he likes other girls too but he just says some are attractive. How do I get this "thinking" to stop happening? I am a glirt but he is too.

He's being hypocritical, and the sad truth is you can't change him. Get out now before it gets worse.

Q: Everytime i talk on the phine with my boyfriend and we discuss sexual stuff, like maybe taking our relationship to the next step, i start to shake and i shake like i'm really cold, but i'm not..and even hours afterwards i keep shaking. What's going on?

You're freaked out about the topic of sex. Try meditation.

Q: ok well i have been going out with this guy for a while now and every thing is going really good but i want to take it to the next leave and i dont know what to do can anyone help me

p.s. i dont really know how to give a guy head or like how i am supposed to let him fingure me can anyone help me please?

This might be considered "sexually graphic", but it's what you asked for.

How to give head: Pull down his pants and put your mouth on his penis. Lick and suck, but don't bite. That might hurt. Might want to touch it with your hand for a bit to get him excited.

How to let him finger you: Pull down YOUR pants and say "Okay, now finger me."

There are many other things you can do, and they are easily learned by watching or reading pornography or simply waiting until you are married to a guy that knows a lot about sex.

Q: I've figured out that i am bi...but i am a christian..and i realize how wrong it is...and i hate myself for it...im trying to change myself.....but its hard for me to completely stop liking guys....but its so wrong...in the bible it says that doing stuff with another guy is an abomination..and they should be destroyed..that scares me..so i am trying to fight it off..i have a gf...and she's helping me thru it too...but my ? is...is it really wrong to be bi?..

It isn't wrong. The Bible doesn't really say that it is wrong, that is a lie made up by homophobes who take everything literally.

Do not hate yourself. Do not try to change yourself. Your attraction to other guys is perfectly normal.

Being bisexual is fun because you get to experience the best of both worlds! Sometimes it's better to be with someone of the same sex, because they tend to understand you better.

And if you are bisexual or gay or whatever, it has nothing to do with your relgion. Religion is a choice, sexuality isn't.

Q: my lil bro is 7 we share a room and i have a double bed and sometimes he gets scared of thunder cause hes a light sleeper and im not so he gets woken and i dont ANYWAY he got freacked by some thunder and so did i so i didnt object when he hopped in next to me but i got woken up a bit later by him touching my penis and rubbing my leg with his foot neither of us have said anything what should i do

He is probably emulating something he saw on TV, and really doesn't know any better. You should explain to him exactly what was going on, hopefully your parents can help. But he could also be disturbed, in which case he should have counselling. But more likely he's copying something he saw, and hopefully not something that was done to him.

Q: ok, well I just turned 13 not to long ago and I have a boyfriend. But if my parents find out they would kill me. If I'm on the phone with a guy or whatever and my parents ask who I'm talking to I always have to lie and say one of my friends names thats a girl. And if a guy calls me and I don't answer the phone everyone keeps asking me questions about why there calling and stuff. I really love my b/f tho and when i wanna go somewhere with him I have to tell my parents that I'm going sumwhere with my friends. I just wanna be allowed to have a b/f so i can hang out with him all the time and everything without having to have at least one of my friends there. What can I do?

Tell your parents how you feel. They can't have complete control over you, and hopefully they won't really kill you.

Q: I think my best friend is calling my ex-boyfriend behind my back and she is calling my new boyfriend 2...she is telling my new boyfriend that I'm messing around in school with my old boyfriend...which isnt true....now my new boyfriend is mad at me....i think she is mad that my old boyfriend still likes me and he dont like her and i have a new one....i think she is jealous....when i was going out with my old boyfriend she told me she liked him a lot and she was talking 2 him on the phone everynight....which she shouldnt have been doing because he should have been talking 2 me...but now she says she dont like him and i think she is lying and i dont know what 2 do...i dont think she should even try 2 go with him cause me and him went with each other 4 a long time....What should I do about her? Im 15 and a female

She's a horrible friend!

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