I'm a fourteen year old girl looking to help you people out. Leave me questions and i can try my best to answer them.
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Ok, i'm not into that whole bf/gf thing, so unless you really like me or something weird like that, don't ask me those stupid does he like me questions. i can almost garentee you're not going to like your answer.
i'm a little crazy, but for the most part, i'm not going to screw with you guys like with jokes when it comes to advice.
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okay.. so i like this guy.. *joe.. and like.. weve kinda been doing "stuff" for a while, im not sure if he REALLY likes me or if hes just using me, ive asked him if hes using me and he said he isnt, but i dont know, tonight hes supposed to come over and i dont want to do anything with him if he doesnt like me and we cant have a relationship ya know? sorry if this is confusing but i really need help, btw i rate
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If he doesn't like you, don't let him do this stuff to you. That's not fair to you.
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im kind of going out with this boy secretly.i feel terrible about it.but if anyone ever found out they just wouldnt accept us.well we barely talk to each other anymore i dont know what to do.he always seems to be really busy.If we do talk its like for 10minutes really late at night.how can i spend more time with him or talk to him more with out anyone finding out?please help me.. (link)
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maybe he doesn't like this whole dating secretly. Is it that bad that the two of you can't be out in the open with your feelings? If it is, keep at it. Who cares what society thinks? I don't know, but you shouldn't break up if you two are really in love.
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Sorry this is so long, but u need the whole story to understand.
About a week ago, I had sex with my boyfriend. The next day, i told my best friend about it. Since im only 14, she flipped out on me. She told me I was WAY too young and I was stupid for doing that. She made me promise I wouldn't do it again until I was older.
She has always said she will respect what I do even if I do mess up. But she didn't understand that.
A few days ago, I had sex with him again, and didn't tell her. I talked to her on the phone last night, and I accidently told her I had sex again, and she flipped out. She asked me a bunch of stupid questions, but I answered them. I also let it slip that I gave my first blow job. She REALLY got mad about that, so I told her I was kidding about it and I had never done that.
I want to tell her I did all that stuff, but im afraid she won't understand. Is there any easy way to tell her? or is it best just left alone? (link)
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no, there is no easy way of telling her. you either tell her about it or you don't. Understand where she is coming from on this one, she's just worried about you, and that's understandable right? I mean, not every girl has sex when they're fourteen. She just doesn't want you to end up in a bad situation and get into trouble. It's because she cares.
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OK, I really like this guy, a lot like i cant stop thinking about him no matter what people tell me about him, like it doesnt even matter to me, but like, im not sure if he REALLY likes me, hes never said like "i like you" as cheesy as Im sure that would sound, but, hes always wanting to do stuff (btw i just asked another question earlier sorry :-/ ) and like, im okay with it, but how do i tell him that i dont want to take it too far unless were in a relationship? (link)
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Absolutely. Why should he want to "do stuff" with you if he didn't have feelings for you? If you're going to "do stuff" with anyone, you should at least be in a relationship first.
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Alright tp start this off, i`m 14/female. For about a year or so, I`ve been so down and sad/angry all the time. I never smile anymore, or things that used to be a blast too me, is no fun anymore. I don`t like hanging out with any of my firends anymore. I just like being alone all the time. Well, a few months ago my mom and dad took me to a conselour because they were concerned about me and such. They just said I needed too be on anti-depressants. I didn`t start using them right away, just recently. Well, I`m cutting myself now. I know its really bad too do and I know how stupid I am for doing it, but It just feels so right when I do it. I really need too stop or talk to somebody about it. My mom asked me what these marks were on my arm, and i told her is was eraser burns ( because they leave scars ) and she hasn`t realy noticed that more and more keep appearing. What should I tell her? I want too tell her the truth. I know she will probably understand but she`ll get really upset ( sad ) because she hates seeing me like this and i`ll feel really bad. What should I say too her? (link)
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you know you have a problem, and thats good. now you need more help. talk to your mom. Tell her you NEED help. keep taking your anti depressents though. If the conselour thought you hsould be on them, then you probably should.
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My friend is a suicidal massicist. She cuts her wrists. She was molested when she was younger. She also does drugs and gets drunk a lot and likes it. Her mom is suicidal and her dad is a pot head. She went to a therapist before but stopped because he was annoying and cost too much. I think her life is taking a large turn down into a huge pile of shit, but I don't know how to help her. She is insecure, clingy but outspoken and is willing to fight anyone who makes fun of her, and that is admirable. She is also bisexual which has caused other probs. Can I do anything?
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This is going to sound mean, but really, there's almost nothing you can do. She has to do it herself.
Tell her that you care about her, and that you want her to be happy, and not have this need to cut herself and drink and do drugs. Tell her you love her and that you'd do anything for her. Make her feel like important and loved.
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Okay im 17 i will be 18 n feb n there is this boy that i talk to on the net n like i met him a couple times n talked to him n he is 15 wont be 16 intill march n like i can tell him anything n i think im sorta getting feelings for him but i dont know if i should date him since he is 15 n younger them me .. n my friends what will they think> (link)
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If he makes you happy, and if he wants to go out with you, go for it. Everyone says age is just a number, but you know that's not true, however, your not that much older than he is. when your 27, he'll be 25. Who cares what your friends think. Just go for it. if things don't work out, then they don't, but you won't be able to say you didn't try.
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Im having this party for my birthday but im not sure if i should invite one of my friends because im kinda worried that she might end up trying to hook up with my bf. Shes had a crush on him before i went out with and it seems like she still does. Ive talked to my bf about it and i know that he wont try anything with her but like i said... its her hooking up with him that im worried about. She knows that i MIGHT be having a party but that im not sure. We are friends but i barely talk to her since she goes to another school. Should i invite her?
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if your not going to have a good time with her there, don't go out with her. IF your not going to have a good time with out her there, invite her. Do whatever is going to make you have a good time.
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okay so there is this boy that i went out with b4 as friend he was really rough like we always wrestled and stuff and i just thought it was his way of flirting so i let it go when he asked me out i said yes cuz i thought the rought stuff would cool down but it didnt and that lead to a break-up. but now i really miss him. and i found out he likes me back and so i really wanna go out wit him again but im scared that hes still just as rough with me! how can i get him to treat me more gentle and not like"one of the boiz"?
please help me asap!
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If he's physically abusing you, you shouldn't go out with him. If its just like cute little arm punches and stuff in good intention that you don't like, tell him. But really, if he's hurting you, like hitting you when he's mad, don't date him at all.
Good luck
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Hey, I'm trying 2 figure out how 2 link my advice column to my profile. every time i paste it, nothing shows up. and ive tried it a million times! HELP PLZ!!! (link)
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make sure the backround in your profile isn't blue. maybe u have to many charecters in it already. try deleting some and pasting it.
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Hey does anyone have any good screen name ideas for a girly girl =P (link)
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XoXPrincess(your name)XoX
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my mind is always racing so fast . im so stressed i fall asleep at like 2:00 in the morning . is this normal (link)
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Absolutely. I'm doing the same thing. Try meditating in bed before u fall asleep. Yeah i know it sounds weird, and it doesn't work that wellfor me, but maybe it will work better for you.
During the day though, try playing some highly competitive sports like basketball or football or something like that. Exercise. Swimming jogging ANYTHING!
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Hey Im 19 and I have blonde hair, green eyes, im 5'5, and 100lbs. My bf says he loves me but I think he only likes me for my looks. He is always telling me how pretty i am and stuff. Everytime I ask him why he loves me, he jus doesnt answer the ?. He loves bringin me places to show me off to his friens. Everytime one of his freins hits on me, he jus laughs and keeps talking. One time his friend tried cybering wit me on here and when I told him he didnt believe me. (link)
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dump him if you think he likes you only for your looks. Its a stupid reason to say you love someone. Tell him to ship up or ship out
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my friend...... is so depressed.. i was, but now im happier than ever. It feels so good being happy. I want her to feel that too, but its so hard. I just want her to live. and not let life pass her by. i donno wat to do. (link)
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Just be there for her. Depression is a tough tough thing. It takes time and she just need to know your there for her. Tell her you love her and that she means the world to you and you just want her to be happy again.
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ok, im a 12 year old girk and ive neva officially gone out with some1. well, this nice guy, whoz a grade older than me asked me out. well, i had known him 4 awhile and i thot he seemed like a great guy. well, i said yes, partly becauz i just wanted a boyfriend. now im not sure if i shud continue goin out with him. i mean, and i goin out with him 4 the wrong reasons. i just dont no. i think i shud continue goin out with him but wont other people in my grade think im weird if im goin out with an 8th grader? well, i dunno if i shud break up with him or just give it a try.... HELP!!! he also always acts shy around me, i try 2 get him 2 loosen up but he still acts weird. THANZ I RATE!!! *****:) (link)
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If you like him even just a little keep going out with him. Otherwise, you're just playing with him and thats not ncie. You don't want to hurt him by only pretending you like him. No, other kids don't think its weird. And if they do, who cares? Give it a try. Boys are weird, thats not his fault ;-)
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How do I get a popular girl to like me, she flirts with me all the time, but claims she doesnt like me, what should I do? (link)
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You can't make some one like you. It doesn't work like that. Just flirt back, alot and maybe she'll think you're fun and stuff and maybe she'll want to go out with you because your fun and she likes you because you flirt.
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K well there is this guy i like ALOT, he lives on my street and well he used to like me. he is 15 and im 13. Im moving in 3 days and everytime i ask him to hang out he doesnt want to. or he has something else. i dont know how to get his attention and i really want him to like me again. what should i do to get him to come here or him to invite me over. I know its maybe not as big of a problem as most ppls but well i never got a boy to lik me before and well this is one of my only chances.. how can i get him to like me in 3 days and to make him hang out with me today or tomorrow.?? PLEASE PLEASE HELP! (link)
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he's probably worried about you leaving and that he's really going to miss you. Just lay back a little. Don't hound him but just call him and be like HEy wuts up?
Just have a convo with him and then ask him to do stuff.
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I really like this guy. I like to flirt with him and stuff all the time. I think that if I told him how I feel, we would be going out. The problem is, it's my B/f's ex! I don't know how she would feel! Should I tell him I like him or what? (link)
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who's more important ur bf or him? Remember: Boyfriends come and go, but best friends don't ever leave you. Don't just screw her over for some fling that might not last.
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Well I'm going withtwo guys at the same time!!I love both of them and they don't know bout each others presence.But the thing is that I don't want any of them to come to know!!Could u plez advice me on how I can go out with both of them at the same time?? (link)
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don't go out with either of them. a girl doesn't need a guy to be happy.
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I have a boyfriend but my parents don't know! I'm only in 7th grade so I don't know if they will be angry. I'm the only girl in my family so my Dad may make me break up with him! Should I tell my parents? (link)
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be honest with your parents. They'll appreciate it, and know that they can trust you.
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