i like guys but I think about gurls a lot.. does that make me gay?
No,not necessarily.It all depends on HOW you're thinking of girls.I read this article once that explained how women tend to look to other women in admiration or jealousy,and they tend to kind of get involved in their lives.They want to know who is this woman dating,where does she live,that type of thing,and pretty soon they start questioning if that means they're gay.It doesn't.It's kind of like a celebrity you admire,but it's just someone you know or see often.But if you truly feel a strong attraction to women,perhaps you are gay or bisexual.And there is absolutely not a thing wrong with that.Follow your heart,and do what makes you happy!Give it all some time,you'll figure it out!
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i really like this guy and we r kinda friends and i want him to know that i like him but whenever i talk to him i get really shy and im not myself...wut can i do?
This is where the fine(and FUN)art of flirting comes into play!Give him little hints,like holding eye contact a little longer than normal,smiling his way,compliment him on something,be flirty.Guy and girl friends wrestle around and act silly all the time,that's a good time to drop some hints.Maybe tell a mutual friend how you feel and have the word "accidentally" get back to him!If he doesn't pick up on your signals,then it's time to hunker down and let him know straight up.There are lots of ways of going about that.I'm a shy girl myself,so I know how hard this can be.Just let yourself be just that,yourself!!!!Don't put on an act,and don't throw yourself at him.Let him know that you like him,and if he's interested....you're there!And of course there's always the option of being bold and brave and simply making the move and asking him if he'd like to go see that new movie that you thought looked really cool,or out to grab a bite to eat!Keep your confidence level high!!Best of luck girl,and let me know how it goes!!:)
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Hey everyone 15/m here. Well as you can tell from my title, I just lost a special friend of mine. We used to go out for 3 1/2 months 'til she broke up with me and we've been pretty good friends since then, 'til today. All of this started cause I sent her a text message saying I had sex with another girl, but I really didnt. I just wanted to get an honest reaction from her. And of course she got mad...real mad this time. *sigh* If I knew this would have happened, I would never had done it. I talked to her about it tonight and the end result was that she didn't want anything to do with me, ANYTHING. So I told her if she really wanted it to be that way, I would get rid of all my contacts with her, and I did. I went from maybe getting back together with her(heavy emphasis on maybe), to being absolutely nothing in her life. She just means so much to me that I don't want to lose her, I still wanna marry her if I could. I love her, but I don't think she has any for me anymore. I basically cried my heart out again. Does anybody know what I could do to get her back? I don't wanna lose my angel. ='( Help me please...Life is meaningless to me right now without her.
Although this may not be what you want to hear,and it may be cliche,the world doesn't stop turning from a broken heart,even tho we'd all like it to from time to time.There really is no other way to say this,than to say you went about things in the wrong way!I can understand WHY you did it,really I can,but the better option would have been to simply sit down with her and talk about it.You said you guys were friends,so you could discuss those things,how would she feel if something like that ever happened(although,note to all boys;it's never a good idea to approach your girl w/"hey baby how would you feel if i got it on w/some other chick?").Now,you're in a situation where she can't trust you.But can you blame her?If you're lieing and doing sneaky things like this NOW,what's it going to be like if y'all got back into a relationship??Maybe write her a letter,let her know why you did it and that you realize your mistake.Let her know how deeply you feel for her and that you really don't want to lose her in your life.Then let her decide.Don't push,cuz you might just push her away for good.Also,in your own time,sit down and really ask yourself why you did that.At the end of the day you're only 15,and you will experience many ups and downs with relationships before settling down!
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Is it ok to eat once a day? That's about the the meals I eat a day.
It's really not healthy to eat only once a day.I don't eat much myself,but the trick is to eat several small meals a day.Maybe have 2 or 3 meals a day(or really you could get by with just one big meal a day),and have several small snacks throughout the day.Maybe a few pretzels,or a few strawberries,even a cupcake or 2!;) Whatever you preffer!That way your body isn't going for long periods of time thu the day,being deprived of food!!It's also a great way to keep your energy level up and calm your nerves!!
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Okay well I'm 15 and a female just so you know that. Heres what i need help with. I love my bpyfriend..I really do, but it seems like all my guy friends are putting moves on me and suff. One of my really close guy friends wrote this to me awhile ago, " I really like you alot, but I dont want to jepordize your relationship and I just don't know what to do because your like the perfect girl for me you know? I can't think of anyone I'd rather be with than you " I don't know what to tell him because I love my boyfriend and I don't want to hurt him or hurt our relationship. Thanks. xoxo
That is a really hard situation,I've been there before.Well,first off,you HAVE to be honest w/your friend.No sense in leading him on and letting him think he might have a chance,when right now you are in love and dedicated to your boyfriend.Let him know that you really care about him and you value and cherish his friendship,but you are in a relationship where you are happy.Tell him you are very flattered an that any girl would be lucky to have him,but it's just not you,for right now at least since I don't know if you have ever thought of him in that way!! Basically make it very clear just what you said,that you don't ever wanna hurt him!!
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hi its me from the best friend question, well u see i think ur right a break would be good but every time i mention it she starts to freak out. but everytime she mentions it im calm, yet she still get madd at me???
Yes that all sounds familiar.That's the time when you have to be strong and stand your ground.If you don't want the break to be on bad terms,I would let her know that you do still care about her,but her behavior lately is just getting unbareable for you,and this is something you just have to do.If you don't really care if it becomes a fight(which to me is pointless because anger and hatred is a negative waste of energy)then you can choose to be more blunt about it.That's what I ended up doing @ the time,I had just had enough and I called her up after school and really let her have it!!Let's just say we were at seperate lunch tables the next day,lol!Normally I don't do this,but for you I will,here's my AIM ~~> AnGeLbAbY51529.IM me anytime if you need to talk about it more!!!K?Take care hun,and remember,be strong!! =)
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hey ..ive got a real prob ...my friend lied to me about having breast cancer not once but twice and i got so fed up with her and i told her that i didnt wanna be friends with her if shes gunna lie to me ! and she said that she was going into operation to have things checked ! but a couple days later i asked her how she was and wut she was doing this week and she said working all week when she first told me that she was going to have an operation! like i said u knoe wut i dont wanna hang out with sumone whos gunna lie to me constantly ! and i hung up on her ! was i too harsh ? plz help should i try to patch things up with her !
No you weren't too harsh!!!That's a terrible thing to lie about!!Lieing is terrible period,but that topic is really taking it to a whole new level!!It sounds to me like she's craving attention.However,she's going about it in all the wrong ways!Have you ever asked her WHY she lies about this??Hope to hear back from you soon!!
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okay im 16/f n im a virigin
ive have known ma man for 3 1/2 years and he really wants to do it and so do i.but im so scared b/c its my 1st time and im so scared of gettin pregnant. he told me that we will use a condom and everything but still im not 100% sure.can anyone tell me how can i be 100% sure that i will not get pregnant.
Get your butt to Planned Parenthood or a similar clinic in your area,and get on birth control!!!They are very nice and will answer any and all questions you have!Definitely make sure he wears a condom,and as for the condom breaking,yes that does happen sometimes.Sometimes it can be from getting a lil' too rough,other times it can be from it not being put on properly.That's all the more reason to go get yourself on the pill,or the shot,whatever form of BC you preffer!!!The pill is 99% effective when used PROPERLY,meaning that you take them around the same time every single day.It's easier if you just pick a set time each day or night to take your pill,and eventually it just becomes habit!!Condoms are 97-99% effective when used properly.So,the combonation should have you covered!But also never forget about STD's and staying safe from them!!!!!If you need anymore advice or wanna talk,feel free to post in my column!!
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is it normal for girls 2 masturbate becuz its normal for guys??
It's a totally normal and healthy thing to do.It's not something that's restricted to just guys!Hehehe!!Heck,Britney Spears and Cyndi Lauper each wrote songs about it!Heeheeheeheehee! ;)
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alright, you might all think i'm crazy but don't judge me CAUSE YOU DONT KNOW ME! anyway..sorry but umm i'm 8 months pregnant and no one knows, not my parents, not my friends- no one...i've been able to hide it pretty well with baggy clothes and the fact that i'm a little big as it is naturally..since it's getting pretty close to my due date- and i havent seen a doctor once, yet...does anyone have ANY advice..please i'm in desperate need...and i'm really scared...i don't live at home beacuse my dad used to beat me and my mom was having an affair..so i moved out and i live with a friend..im 15 but my friend is 19..and he's not really good with this stuff..please help me !
Get yourself to a doctor QUICK!! Prenatal care is SO important!!!It might be a hard thing to do,but you need to let someone know.You should be going over your options,meaning whether or not you want to keep the baby,and if you do,you have a lot of things you need to do to get ready for the baby.You'll need all the necessities to take care of him/her.Sounds to me like your parents are pretty unstable as it is,so they might not be the best support system right now.Go to your closest friends who you know will support you in whatever you do,and love you no matter what!If you need to talk any further at ANY time just leave your AIM or Yahoo name in my column and we'll talk all you want!!I certainly won't judge you!
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i have a best friend and i love her so much as a friend that i call her my sis and i always have to talk to her like every hour and always be around her! i think im obsessed about our friendship and ive tried everything to stop being so obsessed over a friendship by trying to call her less and stop having her spend the night all the time and trying to not be around her everywhere she walks but its really really hard and it doesnt work! WHAt CaN i dO? Please help me asAp!... and thanks you!!
It's totally normal to adore your bf,I know I love mine!!!:) But you should always keep in mind that spending every second of every day together is not healthy for the friendship,cuz believe me,y'all WILL get on each other's last nerves,and that might spoil the entire friendship!!Spend some time with other friends @ the mall or the movies,or an arcade or something,somewhere where you're keeping busy.Spend time with family,watch a movie w/your rents or go visit Grandma for a weekend.Also spend some time with just YOU,indulge yourself in the things you like,whether it's watching reruns of your fav. TV show or playing soccer.Whatever it is.That way,when you and your bff are together,it will be that much more fun and exciting cuz you'll both have something new to share and talk about!!!!
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I just found out that my best guy friend of 3 years has a crush on me. At first I was so confused about how I felt about him... I told him that I didn't know if I liked him back. But after I thought about it, I realized that I do like him. I would ask him out, but here's the problem: He went out with my sister *she's only a year younger than me* & he was pretty jerky to her. He'd hit on me right in front of her, and as if that isn't bad enough, he broke up with her by calling her from another friend's house (who was a GIRL btw.) Then a day after their breakup, he came over to my house & starting apologizing & crap, saying that his friend made him do it. He was so mean to my sis, so I'm afraid to get involved with him. But I think he might've changed. Should I give him a chance?
Hmmmm,I'm wondering why this guy is your "best guy friend" after you've seen what he did to your sis!!He sounds really immature to me.Sit back and think,is this someone you really wanna put all that energy of being in a relationship with?!Recall how your sis felt after he was such a jerk to her!!Don't put yourself in a position where you're begging to get hurt.Find a guy that will love,appreciate,and RESPECT you,not a guy who sounds full of it!!
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my boyfriends b day is coming up hes 15 what should i get him? he has the 'punk' look, umm likes quads and stuff i just dunno what to get him...
Well,you could always go for a CD from his favorite band,or some cool vintage tees(possibly also featuring his fav. bands!).Maybe there's some equipment or something he needs for his quads?As long as it's from the heart,he should love it!!
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ok so i had anoriexia for a while and i recovered. i am at a normal weight now, and i have these 2 best friends. 1 went on a diet and is thin now and the other isnt as thin as my other friend but is very pretty and fine the way she is. so now she said started dieting and she doesnt eat alot. like..hardly anything. she always brings it up it seems like she wants attention and she always says stuff like "hey i ate something today!" she also said she is doing this to be thin like we are, and to impress us. no matter how much i talk to her and tell her how bad what she is doing is, she doesnt listen. and she alwwayyss brings it up. i am going to go crazy and idk exactly what to do.
help if u can
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Let her know of all the pain you went thru,and that you don't wanna see her go thru that.Tell her all of her good qualities and let her know that you and your other friend love her,and there is no need to impress you,she impresses you already.Tell her what would really UNimpress you is if she continues this cycle!Let her know how beautiful and loved she is and that she is more than fine the way she is right now!!!If she continues this cycle it may be time to step up and reccomend professional help.If it gets too bad,go to her parents,or a counselor,or trusted adult that can help you to help HER get the help she needs!!!My thoughts and prayers are with you and your friend,please let me knw how she's doing!And congratulations on your recovery!It takes a very brave and hard-working person to step up,admit they need help,and get it!I really respect you for that!!
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ik this is dumb but i am really paranoid about my bf. we dont see eachother a ton becuz it is summer and we are both busy. i saw him 4 days ago but today like we didnt talk at all i have relatives over and etc. i really like him and i want to go out with him but if we dont see eachother i get all worried he will dump me or not like me or whatever. it sucks. then he has this pretty friend and blah blah blah i am just overreacting i hate it.
any advice? thank u
Maybe you should sit down with him and try to figure out ways for you 2 to spend time together.If necessary,go over each of your schedules and see when you can make it happen.Maybe you could even include him in family plans,like when you say you have relatives over.Let him know tho that you hate not hearing from him.Don't harp,just say something sweet like "I really hate it when I don't get to hear your voice".I would say at least a 5 minute check in call each day wouldn't be asking too much,even on days when you're really busy.One of you should take 5 minutes out of your day to call the other up just to at the very least say hi,and see how the other is.But also remember that going a day or 2 w/o talking is NOT the end of the world and doesn't mean the end of your relationship.As far as his friend goes,if she's really truly a big concern for you,sit him down and let him know straight up how you feel.But if you have no evidence or signs of any hanky-panky goin on between them,it'd be kinda silly to confront him!!Best of luck!!!!
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so i have had bfs before and went to movies with guys or w.e but i never really tt my mom about it its just not me. i am 14 btw. so the other day i went to the movies with my bf and came home and then i wanted to go again 3 days later and my mom said no becuz i went before and she doesnt want me going alone with a boy becuz i am too yound and it is so annoying. i need to see my bf or we could break up or something. its just all screwed up. plz help me
thank u if u can
First of all,understand where your mom is coming from.Even tho you're growing up you are still her little baby and she doesn't want anything to happen to you.She's just protecting you,that's what mom's do!!;) Sit down with her and give her some good examples/reasons why she should trust you.Let her know that she has done a good job in raising you and you know right from wrong and all of that.Maybe let her meet your bf so she can see what a great and responsible guy he is!!It's always important to keep lines of communication open with your mom!B/F's will come and go,but you only get ONE mom,and they can be the best friend you'll ever have!!Let me know how it goes!!
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ok im 16 me n my boyfriend who is 17 have been going out for just over 2 weeks now.. everytime i think about him i get sweaty palms.. and all i can do is smile.. i feel like the only thing that could hurt me is him leaving me and i get all teary just thinking about it... am i falling to hard to fast?? i really think that im falling in love with him but ive seen so many of my friends go through the same thing and get hurt so im afraid to really open up.. am i being to guarded? should i end things before it gets too serious??
Definitely sounds like love to me!!!!I can understand how you feel like you need to be kinda guarded.I've been hurt bad before myself and have a little bit of that wall still up around my heart.But you have to realize that not all guys are the same.I wouldn't worry about falling too hard too fast,so long as you don't lose track of the things that make you YOU!Like your friends,any sports or activities you like/take part in,the things that you enjoy in life that are not related to him.It's important to always keep a good grasp on who you are and make sure to never lose that.Give this guy a chance,he's already got you sweatin after 2 weeks!!Hehehe!Enjoy him,and enjoy your relationship.Make sure never to let him use or abuse you in any way,but also make sure not to push him away!
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Me, and my friend have been fighting alot. Lets just say her name is ellie, well ellie and me have been best friends since the 3rd grade, so now thats about 4 years of being best friends. but now shes starting to get a little bossy, saying stuff like im getting to comfertable with her family like i dont say thank you enough. that kind of stuff tho i am fine with. but this morning she started to say that i was getting to comfertable again, and saying was acting really bitchy and all i did was i was hangin out with her brother, and her neighbor, but i was leaving her out. But besides this morning shes been fighti with me over a lotta little thing, and im starting to get really stressed out. i dont kno wut to do anymore. PLZ PLZ PLZ HELP ME. should i break the friendship, or try to work with it. im starting to feel like i cant breathe.
Wow! This sounds SO familiar!!! I went thru something like that with a best friend of mine.We had been nest friends for 3 years,and we were as close as 2 bff's can get,we spent all our time together!!But then I started to take notice to what EVERYONE had been telling me for ages,that she was bossing me around,telling me what to wear,how to fix my hair,she decided where we were going and when.Long story short,I hear ya and I understand.One day I just had had enough,and it ended in a big blow up.But I'm thankful to say that although we are no longer glued @ the hip,we are friends again,and we addressed our issues and will always be there for each other!My advice would be to try giving your friendship a little break.Give her and yourself some room to breathe.Explore other avenues,other friendships or even other hobbies or activities you might not have done before because she wouldn't have liked it.Then after some time,agree to sit down and calmly and honestly discuss how you feel,and where you want to go with your friendship.This is really familiar for me so if you'd like to talk more leave me an AIM or Yahoo SN in my column and I'd be glad to talk to you anytime!!!Hope I could be of some help!!!
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How can i get a boyfriend? See in my school the only whey u can get a boyfriend is if ur pretty skinny and popular. And i have none of those 3 things. So please tell me how i can get a boyfriend. And im 12 and a female
Well,first off we need to work on that self-esteem of yours girl!!!Look in the mirror and point out all your good qualities to yourself!But I know it's hard,I remember when I was your age,I felt awkward and out of place.But as far as how to get a boyfriend,I don't think there is any real trick.Just live your life to the fullest,hang out with your friends,participate in sports or drama or whatever you're good at and enjoy.Smile,laugh and love life.Guys are more attracted to a girl who is having a great time living her life and is laughing and not trying too hard.They like to know that you won't ALWAYS need them there,that if on a night they wanna hang out w/their boys,you'll be fine and not clingy.And always remember,the fine art of subtle and cute flirting!!!If you need anything else please write me back!I'll be here as always!!!
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my boyfriend is moving to new jersey at the end of this month..we're both 13 and we really like eachother but i dont know if i should break up with him..right now we live on long island..but should i break up with him since hes moving to new jersey? i have NO idea what to do!!! please help!!
Well,long distance relationships can be rough,especially at your age when you're just getting into the dating world.Maybe it would be best to say 'let's stay really really close friends and see if after some time apart we still have such strong feelings for each other'.Keep in touch with him,talk to him,write him,talk to him online,but don't forget about your own life.Have fun,hang out with your friends,and see where your heart leads you.I'm a firm believer in destiny,and baby you're only 13,your whole life is ahead of you!Anything can happen!!Write me back and let me know how it goes!
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