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It's fine.Ask me a question. I like giving advice. If you don't like the advice I give, or the opinion I have, it's fine.
Sometimes you can't get through to people no matter how long and hard you try.
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I'm 16 and I've been going out with this guy for three months. We met during the summer and I was doubtful that things would continue into the school year because we go to cross town rival high schools. He is different than any guy I've ever met. He isn't much into texting, just a couple of texts a day, but he calls me every night. Recently he got sick and he found out he has mono. He hasn't been able to go to school and I haven't been able to see him. It's driving me crazy, because I like him so much! For about the past week he has acted uninterested in me. He hasn't called as much, but when he does, its like old times. Should I just assume this has to do with him being sick, or should I worry that this time apart has hurt us? I don't want to break up with him, even if I did, I wouldn't do it until I could see him and break up face to face. Should I ask him what's going on? Should I just wait until he is better and see what happens? Thanks for any help!
Well, from what I know mono makes you so fatigued that you're really not up for much.
Maybe you should wait until he's feeling a little better before you assess your feelings. I really don't think that the whole "uninterested" thing is something to worry about.
So for right now, just call him up a few times a week to ask how he's feeling. He might only feel up to talking for a couple of minutes, but that's alright. And if he doesn't call you, I'd say it's safe to blame it on the mono.
When he does get better though, and his attitude about the relationship hasn't gotten better, then yeah, breaking up is the way to go. Long distance relationships are never completely easy, but don't feel bad if you have to end it if it's just not working out.
Good luck!
Every time i talk to the the guy i like I talk to much and get really hyper! How do I stop?? && if theres other crush tipps let me know PLEASE!!
Thank You in Advance
Lol I do the same thing. Not exactly the sexy image you were going for right?
What I do to calm down usually is just pretend that you're talking to a guy friend, or don't make eye contact unless completely necessary. Appear to be looking at him, but really focus on his shoulder, or nose...
Good luck!
if you steal something from the abercrombie or hollister in the marketplace mall in rochester, NY do they have those stupid sirens tht go off? i know they have security tags but do they even have ink them? and will they set the sirens off?
NO SMARTASS ANSWERS SAYING IM POOR
SAVE YOUR BREATHE
Shoplifting is a serious offense and you'd most definitely go to jail if caught.
Yes, in most Abercrombie and Hollister stores the security alarms will go off. In fact, in any store the security alarm would go off. And those who don't have those "stupid sirens" have security cameras, which will record you stealing.
I really do not think that Hollister merchandise is worth the possibility of jail time. Would you really want that hanging over your head for the rest of your life? All over a pair of jeans or a shirt?
It seems like lately everything has gone wrong. I went from a straight-A honor roll student with a perfect boyfriend, captain and starting setter of the volleyball team, and a generally happy girl to a girl who got cheated on, is failing classes, and doesn't get a single minute of playing time.
I haven't slept in weeks, I'm always sad and crying, I break out every morning, I suddenly thing I'm huge but I can't stop eating, I fight with my parents, everything makes me mad, and it seems like my friends are just passing me by.
I don't have a best friend to talk to about this sort of thing and I'm just so sick of feeling sorry for myself. I've even started having thoughts of what would happen if I weren't here anymore.
What should I do? :(
I understand completely how it feels to have things all of a sudden turn around on you. It's definitely not fun.
There's a few things you can do.
1) Talk to a professional. As embarrassing to some people as therapy might sound, it's actually very helpful if you're willing.
2) Regroup. By this I mean try getting your life back in order in baby steps.
For instance, the boyfriend who cheated on you, well forget him. He's a jerk for doing that to you. The friends who pass you by, well maybe you could invite a few of them over to study for some of those classes you're failing? Like the person below me said, maybe they are waiting for you to call or you to talk to them about all that's happened. I know it might not sound fair to have to make an effort at the moment, but that's the only way something's going to get done. Maybe they're just not sure of what to say or do, so they're keeping their distance.
As for the constant eating, I definitely think that's in response to all this stress. There are a few healthier alternatives to eating to deal with stress. One of them being writing about it in a journal. Or if you really just need to punch something, try a pillow. You could even scream into a pillow if need be. That one always helps me out. =]
A few months ago, I'd started to think about what would happen if I wasn't here anymore. But I realized with the help of one of my friends that people would miss me. My family, my friends, my teachers. Sweetie, even if you feel like you're not as close to your friends and family at the moment, they would miss you if you were gone. They all love you, and I bet they would listen to you if you opened up. If you don't want to open up to one of your friends, try your parents. Family loves you unconditionally no matter what. If they don't want to listen, which I can't imagine why they wouldn't just tell them "No, I need to talk to you. It's important, I've been feeling terrible lately." They'll listen. Just try it out.
Best of luck. You aren't the cause of all this, so yes you need to stop blaming yourself. Nothing gets solved with blame.
I like these two guyz: Travis and Jack. Ive known travis since last year and hes awesome! Last year he liked me and i liked him but he was too shy to ever ask me out..We were in the same english class and sat next to eachother so we talked a lot! Now this year we only have homeroom together and we never talk any more! i wanna talk to him but i dont know what i would say!!
Now this year i met this guy jack. Well we actually didnt meet he just made me laugh! im in his art class and i sit at the same table as him and he started sayin funny things so i laughed and then he started teasing me and he sooooooooooooooo cute!!! i think he mite know im interested but idk if he even knows my NAME! I wanna get to know him better outside art but i think if i went up to him and just said hi he would think i was weird and look at me strangley if he doesnt like me. Theres a slight chance he likes me because if i answer a question he always stares back and looks at me and sometimes i see him glance at me.
I Dont Know what to do or who to like! I need advice about Travis and Jack!!!!!! PLEASE HELP!
Well, for Travis, it's clear that you are both shy. And as hard as it might be to do this, just say hi to him in homeroom and ask him how his week's been going. Try slipping something in like "Wow, I feel like we never get to talk anymore. Isn't that weird?" Then talk about how you two never talk anymore. Maybe then you guys could plan to do something together outside of school?
For Jack, just try saying hi to him outside of art. If he gives you a weird look, so what? That just means he's the weird one, not you. There's absolutely no harm in greeting someone who you know. What do you have to lose? I've been through plenty of embarrassing moments with other people that would put your Jack to shame. ;]
The basic point is just to reach out, you know? Talk to them both. Communication is key. Just be confident, even though I know it might be very hard. If you act confident, Travis will want to talk more possibly even outside of school. And Jack will definitely remember your name. =]
Good luck babe.
Not sure if it is a problem haha, ok this is kina embarassing lol.
Well um
I Want a flat stomache right, but i know that i have to do sit ups and stuff like that but whenever i do situps my butt hurts me and i cant do so much of it is it alrite if i do it on my bed? and also when i do cardio workouts for my whole body i aalways feel like im doing nothing or a little.
Well, if you want a flatter stomach, I hear that you are actually supposed to do cardio. By cardio I mean walking/running, etc. Sit-ups won't get you a flatter stomach, they actually just build muscle. So sometimes, they might build muscle over the already existing layer of flab.
You might feel right now that you're not making progress, but you shouldn't see actual results for at least six weeks. Like, right after you work out one day, you aren't going to feel automatically in shape. These things take time.
So yeah, stick to whatever you're doing.
Good luck.
Okay, so I'm confused. Whenever I'm at school I always get this brownish/whitish discharge and it makes my panties look brownish. It's actually sort of gross. Now, normally I'd think "Oh, I should see a doctor and get that checked out." But the thing is, if I wear a pad to school (not on my period) I don't get the discharge and if I spend a day at home or a day at my boyfriend's or pretty much anywhere other than school, I don't get any discharge. Any ideas why this happens?
It could be stress-related. Are you more stressed out in school than you are at home or at your boyfriend's?
This may sound gross, but it could be sweat. I know, icky right? Lol. But I've heard from my doctor that girls can actually sweat down there.
But, I was just throwing out an idea. So yes, you're right by initially thinking "Oh, I should see a doctor..."
I really think you should, if it's something you're concerned about.
I had three dreams last night. Wake up then go back to sleep then wake up again. All of the dreams included a tornado and this guy i am talking to. My dad called me last night and told me he was driving through a tornado. (hes a truck driver) i told my friend and she said that im going to die from a tornado soon because i dreamt of one and i know that is not true but can you tell me what you think?
It's very odd that your dad was driving through a tornado..or was that part of your dream lol? I really doubt that the dreams mean you will die in a tornado. I believe that dreams are very symbolic.
The guy in your dream...was he protecting or trying to save you from the tornado? Sometimes in my dreams the guys I like or have a good relationship with are protecting me from some kind of evil or danger. I think it means that you want them to watch out for you.
Anyway, I went on to DreamMoods.com and found a few examples of what tornadoes can mean:
"To see a tornado in your dream, suggests that you are experiencing some extreme emotional outbursts and temper tantrums. Is there a situation or relationship in your life that may be potentially destructive?
To dream that you are in a tornado, signifies that you are feeling overwhelmed and out of control. You will be met with a series of disappointments for the next week or so. Your plans will be filled with complications."
From: http://www.dreammoods.com/dreamdictionary/t2.htm
tHERE IS A GUY I LIKE ONLY IN A FRIENDLY WAY BUT I THINK HE IS INTERESTED IN ME THE ONLY THING IS THAT HE IS NOT THAT ATTRACTIVE AND HE IS OVER WEIGHT. I KNOW HE WOULD MAKE THE PERFECT BOYFRIEND BUT i JUST DON'T KNOW IF I CAN BE WITH HIM WHEN I CAN NOT SEE MYSELF MAKING LOVE TO HIM. i FEEL LIKE IF HE WAS CUTE WITH THE CREDENTIALS AND ATTRIBUTED THAT HE HAS I WOULD DEFINENTLY BE INTO HIM BUT THE ONLY DILEMNA IS THAT HE IS NOT ATTRACTIVE. CAN YOU ALL GIVE ME SOME OPINIONS ON THIS.
Well, it's not all about looks sweetie. If he would make the perfect boyfriend and you like him, then why not?
"HE IS NOT THAT ATTRACTIVE AND HE IS OVER WEIGHT"...You're being shallow here don't you think? So what if he's not that much to look at?
Maybe you're not ready for a boyfriend if you can't look past the "unattractiveness" to see what a really makes a great person.
Hey, I am 16f. I have a pretty good school. The only things bad about it is that my "so called" best friend is back. She totally disgusts me from touching my brother, flirting with him, and totally making out with him (long story short) She just totally dumped me for my brother who is a jerk, who drinks, and has two other girls besides her. He doesnt really care for her, but she still is crazy over him, and it is making me frustrated, even though im trying my best to ignore them. My brother graduated last year. My point is she was at my school for the longest time, We were BEST friends. But now after school she comes over every night and makes out with my brother. At the beggining of this year she decided to switch schools which was the best thing for me, since she and him still bugs me, expecially since I have to look at her decieving face when she comes with my bro, you know? Anyhow, now she has came back to my school and is very loud in class (it comes naturally), is rude, and is so blonde (really) she had to ask what two times two was one time. Another thing is, our classes are all split now, grades 10/11, 11/12, and 10/11/12! I have no idea if I am actually learning grade 11 material, which is why I was considering switching schools. My mom had asked me if I wanted to switch to a school 15 minutes away, and said I had until the end of the semester to decide.. but now she said she found forms and I have to decide TOMORROW. What should I do?! At this moment, im thinking its too early to decide.. and I've been at this school all my life. Maybe im just worried about leaving my confort zone.. But what do you think?
Well, I would say that you shouldn't switch schools just because your ex-best friend bugs you. Sorry if there's more to it than that. Just going by what you told me.
The thing is though with that girl and your brother: Your brother is going to have girlfriends. It's a given. I know that it's got to be wicked uncomfortable when its one of your friends. But that's not your friend (ex-friend)'s fault. I wouldn't say she was betraying you or anything by dating/making out with your brother. Gross, yes. Betrayal, no. Things happen. Most times, you can't control who you fall for.
If there's another reason why you two don't get along that you didn't mention, then I'm sure it's a good one.
Now back to the switching schools thing. Academically, if you don't feel like you're learning at the right level, then yes by all means I would switch. I know however that in my school, it's all pretty much the same level every grade(the high school level), just different subjects. And then you can choose to challenge yourself more by taking an Honors or AP course. Not sure if that's how it works in your school though.
The point is basically that you should feel comfortable in your school. But remember that everybody goes through frustration and unpleasant times in any school. It's part of growing up. While you might not have to go through the same exact situation again, there's bound to be something else that will spring up somewhere. And you can't just keep repeatedly switching schools every time you hit an obstacle. You learn to work with them. ;]
Good luck.
What is the dffernce between catholic and christian religion?
There is none.
Catholicism (Catholic) is a sect of Christianity. Meaning, it's a smaller branch of Christianity.
Maybe you meant the difference between Protestants and Catholics? Or Judaism and Christianity?
Well, Protestantism and Catholicism are again different sects within Christianity. They believe essentially the same things, just how they worship is a little different. You can find more information by searching Google, or even Wikipedia. ;]
Judaism and Christianity worship the same God. However, Judaism doesn't believe that Jesus Christ is the Messiah, while Christianity does. The Messiah is the savior. So, Christians are followers of Jesus Christ who believe that he is our savior. Those are the basics for the most part. I am no expert on Judaism, or Christianity for that matter, so I again suggest Google.
why does everybody say suicide is not the answer? that's all you say! suicide is not the answer.. suicide is not the answer.. that's not a good enough reason for me.
why the f-k not??
Here's why it isn't the answer, and take it from someone who knows:
Because there is more to live for other than problems that you feel you cannot solve. You might be feeling overwhelmed and afraid and alone. But you have got to realize that if you talk with someone about it, those feelings could, while possibly not go away entirely, lessen dramatically. If you keep on pushing forward and working through it, you'll be immensely glad that you didn't end your life.
I am telling you this because I know for a fact. I know how your issues might seem like they are crushing you and that you are just too overwhelmed and want everything to stop. But if you do in fact make everything stop, EVERYTHING stops.
That means there goes the good times you might have had. There goes birthday parties, late night phone calls. There goes first jobs, promotions. There goes a happy marriage, raising a family. While you might give up all the pain you feel right now, you give up all the joy you are sure to feel in the very near future.
Suicide is not even a lesson you can learn the hard way, because once it's done...it's done.
I want to commit suicide but I don'twant pain so I want to tak a bunch of sleeping pills I am 14 and a female. About how many do I need to take to die in my sleep? My ffriend that's like a brother to me went out drunk as a fucking skunk to jump off a cliff because he was really depressed and I couldn't stop him no matter what I did. I know it's "not the end of the word" and shit but I don't care! I waited all night and morning and ect but he never got on again so spare me the bullshit about not doing it and trying to convince me not to because everyone knows it doesn't work so spare yourself the energy and help me please.
I think that by asking this question, it's your subconscious reaching out.
Just hear me out and read the whole thing babe:
There are other ways to solve your problems sweetie than suicide. I know that you must be feeling very sad right now, because I've been there before believe it or not. It's hard, I know. But hopefully I can convince you to not make a terrible mistake.
Like people said below me, suicide is absolutely permanent. The way that you are feeling now, I promise you it will pass. With just a little time and by talking about it to someone, anyone, that can help.
Even if your friend really did die, wouldn't he have wanted you to keep on going?
I refuse to "spare you the bullshit about not doing it", because deep down, you know that's what you asked for.
Talk to someone. A friend, a counselor, maybe even your parents. The point is to reach out, just like you did here to us.
Please think about it.
OK im 13 but i only weigh 76 lbs and i don't have an eating disorder because i eat all the time
why dont i weigh normal oh and im only 4'8
I was the same exact way. Annoying isn't it? I always seemed to weigh at least 20 pounds less than everybody else. But, you aren't a weirdo. It's really nothing to worry about unless you do actually in fact have an eating disorder. And if people ever start rumors that you do, well that's because they're jealous of your amazing body. =P
But anyway, the basic thing is that of course you will grow. You'll probably always be one of the smallest, but trust me, that can come in handy. I finally hit a hundred pounds just this past year (I'm fifteen), and I grew to 5' 4". And don't worry, it wasn't just 30 pounds overnight. You'll grow gradually (taller and heavier), so just wait it out and relax. Everyone's different. =]
I don't know what I have...
I think that it might be a problem but I don't even know...
My symptomns:
Tired ALL the time
Very forgetful
I shake all the time
Anxious about everything
Fluxuating eating habits (eating a lot then not anything at all)
Developing a very short attention span
Weird aches and pains
Moody (I am a girl if that helps anyy)
Can you help me? Have you seen this before? Have you had any or all of these symptomns? I am very confused and I am very afraid of what the docc might say...
IM me at ashleymarie854 if you need more infooo (via AIM)
You should really go see a doctor and tell him all the symptoms you just listed up there.
It's very important, because a doctor can know more about your case. We don't know your medical history, and that could have something to do with what's wrong with you. Also, a doctor can actually see you face-to-face, and sometimes that helps.
You said you are very afraid of what the doctor might say...So why aren't you just as afraid of what we might say? It would be so much better to get an actual diagnosis from an actual doctor.
Be well.
So, I have a Nintendo Wii and have been looking for new Nintendo Wii games for it. I was asking for some suggestions for the best Wii games available and the Nintendo Wii Fit was mentioned.
Can anyone give me their reviews about the Nintendo Wii Fit and if it was worth the money? Should I buy the Nintendo Wii Fit, especially for exercise purposes? What do you think about the Nintendo Wii Fit--good idea or bad?
I am fairly inactive and am wanting to lose some weight. Is the Nintendo Wii Fit acceptable for this to start with or is it a waste of money?
Playing video games, even the Nintendo Wii Fit, is not going to be very much help in losing weight.
Going for a walk or run is a whole lot more worthwhile.
I've heard from my friends this game is fun. So I think it is worth it. Just don't expect a drastic change in weight because you play this game every day.
Again if you really do want to lose weight, try just going for a walk around your neighborhood a few times a week.
Good luck and have fun with the Wii. =]
hey well my best friend is a guy cuz we relate really good. but we are also ex's so sometimes it gets kinda wierd and we are allways thinking about eachother. i really miss him, i haven't actually in person talked to him 4 a while now and sometimes i wonder what could have been. and well i'm kind of starting to like him again so i wanna know if he likes me without actually asking him...oh and i dont want him to know that i like him. 14,girl
It's totally normal to wonder about your ex and what could have been. Sometimes though, it's more a case of not quite getting over the relationship than actually wanting to try it again.
"i really miss him, i haven't actually in person talked to him 4 a while now". Being away from a person for awhile sometimes makes you build them up in your mind to be better than they actually are. Just saying. I've done that a few times.
If you are sure that you want to get back together though, you're going to have to talk to him about it. I know that you don't want him to know that you like him, but that kinda won't get you anywhere. ;]
Just put it out there. You guys are best friends, as you mentioned above, so he shouldn't take it and make fun of you or stop talking to you. Take the chance and make the first move.
Try something like, "Listen Bob, I've been thinking lately about when we were going out. I really miss it and I'd kinda like to try it again..." Short, sweet, to the point.
I can't think of a better way to find out if he likes you other than asking him or just telling him that you like him (as I said before). Because honestly, asking a friend to ask him doesn't usually work. Besides, this way it shows confidence. =]
Recently I've been having a lot of dreams where I'm with the perfect guy for me.
When I wake up, I can't help feeling so disappointed and sad.
I have a sort of a boyfriend but things aren't easy between us at the moment.
The guy in the dream is some guy I don't know but yeah...
I know it sounds really stupid but is there any way I could stop having these dreams or stop feeling disappointed/sad when I wake up?
Thanks.
I used to have a dream like that. I'd wake up and feel all upset because my boyfriend wasn't anything like "Dream Guy".
That's the thing though, no guy is going to live up to your dreams. Your dreams idealize boys, which just isn't fair to you or the guys.
Things aren't going so great between you and your boyfriend? Well, what relationship doesn't have problems? Dream relationships might not, but in the real world unfortunately we have to deal with junk like that. And that's okay. If everyone was perfect, life really wouldn't be much fun. And then your dreams wouldn't be so awesome, since you'd be so used to perfection in your waking hours. =]
So what can you do? Basically just accept that dreams are dreams and boys are boys. Never should the two collide. ;]
So, I've been dating this girl for a while now. She's really great. I love her and care about her and everything, but I have feelings for this other girl. This other girl is out of this world. We'll call my girlfriend J and the girl I like L ok? ok. Well L knows I like her, and L really likes me. I never see L though. But I get so happy when I talk to her. J pisses me off a lot of the time. We fight over everything. We tried taking a break, but it didn't work out. We missed each other. I care about J, but I have these strong feelings for L also. I don't know what to do. I can't bring myself to end the relationship because I don't want to lose J. J has become one of my best friends, and I don't want to lose that. At the same time, these feelings for L wont go away.
Can someone help me?
(Don't say to sort out your feelings, cause I sorted them up there. I feel confused. And no, who would you rather be with. I get that all the time from my friends.)
Thank you.
Sticky business. I'm going to give you a few different ways you can look at this:
..When you date anyone for awhile, you're bound to have your problems. I don't know of anyone who has a relationship for years without a single issue. And if you did, you wouldn't be growing as a couple.
..The new girl girl in your life is just that: new and exciting. She's a fresh face, which is most likely one of the reasons you're so drawn to her. But, going for something new just for the sake of it isn't always the right thing to do. I bet J was new and exciting in the beginning also ;]
..However, if you do fight with J all the time about silly stuff, maybe it is time to move on. You said you tried taking a break but got back together because you missed each other. Maybe you're so used to the relationship that you can't stay away. It's normal, comfortable, feels safe. Understandable. But don't stay with someone just because you're used to it. That could keep you from new opportunities.
..With L, you should figure out if it's infatuation that will pass quickly. You wouldn't want to throw away a relationship for someone you'll not like in a week. People can have feelings for other people while in a relationship, but that doesn't mean they should act on them all the time.
...But other times they should. If you really are unhappy with J, the right thing to do would break up with her. It wouldn't be fair to her to lead her on. If you do break up with J, don't immediately move on to L. Give it time so nobody gets hurt.
Good luck, hope it all works out.
On youtube, people edit their videos and you can tell. How do you do this?
Most computers come with the software already there.
For instance, if you have a Windows computer, the program is called Windows Movie Maker.
If you have a Mac computer, the program is called iMovie.
Both these programs work essentially the same. You can load in clips, edit, and add effects.
Have fun with your videos!