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Losing it, completely
It seems like lately everything has gone wrong. I went from a straight-A honor roll student with a perfect boyfriend, captain and starting setter of the volleyball team, and a generally happy girl to a girl who got cheated on, is failing classes, and doesn't get a single minute of playing time.
I haven't slept in weeks, I'm always sad and crying, I break out every morning, I suddenly thing I'm huge but I can't stop eating, I fight with my parents, everything makes me mad, and it seems like my friends are just passing me by.
I don't have a best friend to talk to about this sort of thing and I'm just so sick of feeling sorry for myself. I've even started having thoughts of what would happen if I weren't here anymore.
What should I do? :(
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I've been there, I know what you're feeling. I went through this phase last year and it was hard as hell. I know that it seems almost impossible to feel like you're going to get through it, but trust me you will. Take one thing at a time. Start with you friends, to me this is the most important thing. Try not to think about all the horrible things going on in your life when you're around them. Say to yourself, "Just forget about it, I'm having fun, there's no need to drag my problems around with me." Get in the habit of this and you'll be fine. As for grades, you probably have this attitude of "oh whatever screw it" but trust me you need to turn this around before it's too late. Put a little more effort each day, week, whatever. I'm really sorry about your boyfriend and I'm guessing that that was what caused all this. Enough sulking, it's time to move forward. When you think about it, where is moping around and eating everything in sight going to get you anywhere? I say this because like I said, I've been there so please don't think I'm being too harsh. If you continue this, then you're just letting your ex win. Show him that you can deal with it and you're not affected by it. You'll get through this, I promise. You just have to stay focused and keep positive. Good luck! Hope I helped :]
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I understand completely how it feels to have things all of a sudden turn around on you. It's definitely not fun.
There's a few things you can do.
1) Talk to a professional. As embarrassing to some people as therapy might sound, it's actually very helpful if you're willing.
2) Regroup. By this I mean try getting your life back in order in baby steps.
For instance, the boyfriend who cheated on you, well forget him. He's a jerk for doing that to you. The friends who pass you by, well maybe you could invite a few of them over to study for some of those classes you're failing? Like the person below me said, maybe they are waiting for you to call or you to talk to them about all that's happened. I know it might not sound fair to have to make an effort at the moment, but that's the only way something's going to get done. Maybe they're just not sure of what to say or do, so they're keeping their distance.
As for the constant eating, I definitely think that's in response to all this stress. There are a few healthier alternatives to eating to deal with stress. One of them being writing about it in a journal. Or if you really just need to punch something, try a pillow. You could even scream into a pillow if need be. That one always helps me out. =]
A few months ago, I'd started to think about what would happen if I wasn't here anymore. But I realized with the help of one of my friends that people would miss me. My family, my friends, my teachers. Sweetie, even if you feel like you're not as close to your friends and family at the moment, they would miss you if you were gone. They all love you, and I bet they would listen to you if you opened up. If you don't want to open up to one of your friends, try your parents. Family loves you unconditionally no matter what. If they don't want to listen, which I can't imagine why they wouldn't just tell them "No, I need to talk to you. It's important, I've been feeling terrible lately." They'll listen. Just try it out.
Best of luck. You aren't the cause of all this, so yes you need to stop blaming yourself. Nothing gets solved with blame.
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If you weren't there anymore, it would affect alot of people. Like your parents and your sivvlings (if you have any). First of all do not let yourself get sucked into deppression. I know it sounds cliche but do not tell yourself that "its all because of me". First of all, if you feel your friends are passing you by, its probable that they are waiting for you to talk to them about it. Do you really take the initiative of calling them up or do you keep waiting for them to do so? Answer yourself honestly. You may think that your parents dont understand you but if you think of it, right now they are the only ones you can talk to.
You start your day by crying. How the hell do you think your day will go smoothly. Do this: When you get up early morning meditate. Just breathe in, out five times. That's all.
You have to get yourself involved in a lot of activities. Swimming, Gym IDK...Something that will get you active and help you keep your mind of alot of shit.
Just remember if you are having a tough time now, you will see better days. Just dont give up so
easily.
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