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Ask me questions, and i'll answer them. I'm smart so usually I`ll know the answer. I`ll tell you the truth, like almost every person with an advice column does, so don`t be suprised. I love my friends & family, I just love life, but don`t worry it took me a while to get here. My life isnt perfect & i've had a lot of deaths. I have a good perspective on things, usually if you ask me a question i've already been in that situation. I know life is hard & i know things suck but i also know that life is amazing too.If I tell you to just buck up and do it, I really mean it & i'm not just saying that becuase i don't know what else to tell you.
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Okay, lately I've been called moody.
Well if people weren't tards I wouldn't be like what the hell with them. I'm tired of people being like
"Soo Katie what grade did you just go into 9th..10th.." When Im in 7th! Yeahh im tall and look old for my age but if you really have no clue about my age why point it out??
My Aunt is driving me insane. No joke she's driving me up the wall and wonders why i tell her to shut up! okay, im big for my age everywhere im a regualr sizde its only my stomach thats huge.. i have a pot belly that runs in my family and my Aunt will be like "Katie you look pregnante." Omg and she doesnt expect me to get mad! I think like last weekend she brought it up and I completely bitched her out! She was drunk yeahh but that doesn't give her the right to open her dumb ass mouth when she feels the need. So I told her that and she thinks im a spoiled brat! umm no I just not a tard when I see it.
Im not going to hold my tongue, but im tired of them calling my a pot mouth when there the ones smoking and being called idiotic.. when they have the IQ of a 3rd garder. They want respect there gunn have to earn it.
I'm tired of there bull how do I shut them up for good??
Hmmm... well first of all I understand that they are the grown-ups and you are the teenager but I think that the only solution for your problem is that you have to act more mature then they are. If they say mean and stupid stuff that they have been saying, just ignore them. If you feel your anger getting really high then leave wherever you are and just cool down on your own for a while. I know they all seem really really annoying, stupid, immature, & hypocritical [ as you pointed out ] but, if you don't want to end up like them, you have to set your own path & act different. Don't worry, once you go to college, you can get away from them forever =D.
i saw something on youtube about "the death of jim helpart" or w/e. i missed the end of the season- did Jim die? or is this just a joke..
I'm a huge fan of The office, and no Jim did not die. It was probably someone who just didn't like his character who did that. Hope i helped.
Okay my boyfriend is in 8th grade & im in ninth so we never see each other & all his 8th grade friends hate me with a passion (there girls). when i try to talk to him after school i feel like we are so distant! like he notices me & talks to me but it doesnt last long at all & i never see him as it is. confronting this with him made it a little better but its still going on like he doesnt understand ! how can i fix the distance thing.
This may sound corny, but like plan times in the day that you can see him, try to be alone when you do this. This will make you and him less distracted so you can talk longer. Try to hang out with him after school, even if its only for a half an hour. Just try and see him as much as you can, and urge him to plan stuff too. I'm sure he'll follow your lead. If he doesn't then you have to seriously think if it 's worth it to stay with him. Good luck!
14/f
i'm a freshman and the guy i like is a junior and rides my highschool bus...he is so cute...i want to get to know him but i don't know how to without looking like a total dork...he don't even know i exist...what should i do?
One day, if he isn't sitting next to someone, ask to sit with him. Pretend you know nothing about him, first ask him his name, and then his grade. Don't show him that your intimidated by his age or looks. Keep the conversation going by asking him if he ever had the teachers you have now, you know school stuff. Keep it simple the first conversation. Build your relationship up to getting his phone number. Don't be discouraged if it takes a long time. Ask to hang out with him after you get his number and I'm sure you'll be on your way to getting to know him very well. Hopefully this helps, and good luck!
i know none of you are doctors, but i was wondering if someone has ever had this. yesterday i had the WORST headache ever. sortly after that i started throwing up. i could not sleep. one second i was hot and the next i was freezing. i didn't get to sleep until 11 this morning and only slept for two hours. anyone have any ideas?
This happened to me all the time.. I'm not a doctor so this could be wrong but i used to get HORRIBLE headaches and i would feel naseaus and would sleep for long periods of time. My mom, who is a doctor, said that it was sinus headaches. I never had allergies in my life so if you don't, then it still could be sinus headaches. Go to your doctor and he will prescribe you some nasal medicine or will tell you what you actually have. :) good luck! [And it will happen again if you don't get it treated.]
ok so i have a boyfriend and hes great but we fight A TON and like i love him so much, but he invited me over last night and i said that i would and then he ditched all of his friends to hangout with me.. i decided that i didnt really want to.. so like an hour before i was supposed to get there i told him that i couldnt go anymore becasue my mom was being mean. so like i went to a highschool football game and saw 2 guys that my boyfriend thinks that i like.. and they asked if thye could come over and me not thinking i said yeah. and they came over and my boyfriend found out.. his friends are all pissed off at me and now he is, he wont answer my texts or phone calls and i dont want to lose him but i kno hes probably going to brekaup with me but idk what to do.. please reply back fast.. i really need some good stuff to say to him
Thanks SooooOoo much
Tell him exactly what you just said. But don't be suprised when he doesn't take you back becuase you really really screwed him over. I know you feel really bad about it, but if he doesn't accept it, then try to accept you possibly not having him anymore.
ok I didn't know it but while I was sleeping, pimples started growing and when they do, my skin there is really itchy.
I have long nails so my nails dug INTO my skin and made this jagged line on the side of my nose.
It's been 5 days and there's no sign that it's healing or anything.
What else can I do? Is it going to scar?
def. put some neosporin on it.. Put it on like 2 or 3 times a day.. it shouldnt scar but if it doesnt go away soon then see your dermatologist becuase they might be able to give you something that will make it go away. Good luck! hope i helped.
I got these shoes from hottopic on clearance (they're not sold anymore,so i dont have a picture of them) They're really cute, zebra black and white print,with a bow,peep-toe flatts. But the problem is,i have no clue what to wear with them! any help? colors,shirts,jeans,anything! Maybe some pictures would be nice, and again sorry i couldn't get a picture of the flats!
thanks for your time :)
A super cute outfit w/ the shoes would be dark jeans, and just a plain white shirt. It seems like a really simple outfit but the shoes would def. top it off. Also, don't be afraid to wear color w/ it.. like hot pink would be really cute & yellow would be too. Like.. wear the Jeans and the white shirt but top it off with a hot pink necklace and bracelet.. you know what im saying? Just have fun with it!
No one understands me and I don't mean to talk about only myself. I don't want to come off as arrogant. I hate how everyone thinks I'm selfish [my mother mostly] but can't tell me why they think that. I want to ask them "what do i do that makes me seem selfish to you?" but I don't know how to say that. No one seems to see [except for a few people that have noticed my apparent "big heart", my grandmother and aunt] that I try so hard to make sure everybody's pleased, but I don't take time to do anything for myself, and I go along with what other people want or are doing because I want them to be happy. At home, my mother is planning on divorcing my father. I don't know the whole story, but she filed a domestic violence thing in May against him, but the judge just basically dismissed that and said my parents have to be nice to eachother and to come back to court at the end of July to follow up. Last I heard, my mom was going to file a divorce against my dad, which hasn't happened yet, but neither has the court at the end of the month. Things at home are horrible. My parents fight constantly and at times I think my mother has gone crazy. I love my mom and my dad, but they use me to get dirt on the other all the time. They also both talk to me and my [two younger] siblings one-on-one to tell me why the other parent is wrong/bad/etc. I can't talk to either of them about anything. My mother and I argue constantly because we are both always feeling sorry for ourselves and can't see the other's point of view with anything. My mother also favors my [younger 13-yr-old] sister, and even though my sister takes advantage of my mother and treats her much worse than I ever would. I know that it is a bad time at home right now and that my mom is stressed out and gets angry easily, but why does that give her special privelages to be a jerk to everyone, and if anyone were to be a jerk to her, it would be totally unacceptable? My mother doesn't care about how I feel about much of anything unless it's convinient for her, and even if she did care she wouldn't understand, or want to. My mother thinks that I have no problems and that my life is wonderful. She always tells me that I'm only feeling sorry for myself and that no one cares about what I'm saying, and basically that no one cares about me. Why is it perfectly okay for her to take me for granted? Why do I continue to do nice things for her when she hurts my feelings constantly and doesn't care? Why does she get to yell at me and fight with me all da and expect me not to say anything back? In the mean time, I am constantly feeling worthless and hopeless. It is the same feeling at home and at school. [even though it's summer] In my social life, I don't have any REAL friends. They all use me at one point or another. Most of them don't care about what I have to say, and hardly any of my "friends" want to, or will, listen to my thoughts, feelings, and opinions. People I'm not even close to take advantage of me. I don't have a lot of friends, either. I'm too scared, terrified, to talk to new people. I'm afraid of them and what they will think of me when I open my mouth. I think I come off as a snob or a jerk to them because in truth, I am too intimidated to talk to them, and as a result I don't say much of anything. I also have a habit of dwelling these personal problems on people that (obviously) don't give a care. I can't talk to anyone because I'm afraid of being seen vulnerable. I need some help, and I don't have anyone to talk to but myself through a diary. It doesn't help, and when I look back on what I've written, I just feel sorry for myself again and start crying.
You have a lot of major problems in your life, some that you didnt bring upon yourself that you can't fix, and some you do that you can. Let's start with your home life. Your mother is alot like my mom at times, except her meaness only happens when she's tired. Your mom and dad are going through a rough patch right now. Yes, your mother seems awfully selfish and only see's her own pain. Your parents are acting like children and are not setting you a good example as to how you should live your life. I believe, when the divorce happens, and when they both go their seperate ways and get out of eachother's lives and settle down in a new home somewhere, they will calm down and go back to their normal selves ( if their normal selves are nice?) Your having trouble finding someone to confide in. I wouldnt try confide in your mother anymore becuause she just makes you feel worse. Wait till she's over the divore thing before bringing any of your problems up to her again. Your aunt and grandmother seem really nice and understanding so try and talk to them more. If they live far and you can't visit them often, try email or the phone. Try getting your mother & father ( in seperate sessions w/ you!) to go to a family counselor, that might clear some things up. Don't worry about your sister and how your mom favors her, you know your a better person & thats ALL THAT COUNTS. While your parents are in turmoil, try staying away from the house as much as possible. Pick up some activities in your neighbrohood, volunteer at a kid's day camp or try a summer sport. This will get you away from the constant bickering at your house and make you some new friends. You need to get away from your old friends, why have friends that make you feel lonely & alone? I went through the same thing with my old set of friends. Don't worry about making new friends right of the bat. When school starts, try talking to some new people and don't worry what they think about you because the people who don't like you, don't matter & the people who do, are the ones you need in your life. Talking to new people does'nt make your arrogant at all. It makes your friendly and outgoing, everyone loves a person like that. When you start hanging out w/ new people, don't attach yourselves immediatly to the first people you see, keep our options open and see who proves to be a better friend in the end. Find people who are accepting & caring. Those are the best people. Everything will work out in the end :) good luck!
Im 13/f and i have this cousin you see her name is Gracey and ugh she just gets on my nerves so much she just keeps trying to give me advice on everything in my life and im like what the heck who asked you? Its really irratating how can i get her to stop?
You know, to solve our problems, we must look at ourselves and what we are doing first. Say, you might be the one actually needing advice for your messed up life. Shes just trying to help. I'm sure all of your family loves her and would trade her in for you anyday. And your dog loves her more too. Tell your brothers to wash their feet. (Jimmy is in real need ;] ) Soo anways, your cousin sounds great & i would like to meet her, my people will call her people. And also, Tell your mom i said hi. -- HOPE I HELPED. ;)
I'm 15, turning 16 soon. I weigh 115 and im 5'5". When ever my dad sees me he always makes a suggestion like, you shouldn't eat that, you're just getting fatter and fatter. And if i ask for money for new jeans, he says, we'll stop gaining weight so you can fit back into them. I wear a size 0, and i'm growing, what does he expect? How am i suppose to cope with this? It's been bothering me so much lately. My sister, whose 20, is like anorexic skinny. She's my height but doesn't even reach 100 pounds. And my dad always compares me to her. What am i suppose to do?!
Everyone else has pretty much covered the fact that your not fat & your perfectly healthy and shouldnt take anything your father says to heart, becuase its the farthest thing from the truth. Make an appointment with your doctor immediatly, explain to him/her what your father says to you and they will tell you you are perfectly healthy. Get them to talk to your dad about how your body is changing and how your appetite, size, and emotional state are changing. He seems pretty uneducated of what women's bodies go through, which is understandable becuase he's a guy. He won't believe anyone other then a proffessional, so get professional help. Also print out things from the internet about your changing body & whatnot, it might be awkward, but it will help. He will start to take the hint and will understand more and you will probably get those new jeans ;) good luck, and remember, stay as healthy as you are!
16/F junior in High School
I'm usally good with guy advice, but I can't seem to figure this one out..
There is this boy I really like. Ok well I don't like him but I do. I love the feeling I get when I'm with him but when were not together we ever rarely talk, and my cell has a special ring for him when he calls/texts me and I get SO excited my stumoch drops. Though I don't want a boyfriend but I still want to hook up with him and everything I just dont know how I should feel about him. I have a CRUSH and I never ever crush or think anyones HOT and I think hes hot. If anything I think I'm only attractide to his looks, cause otherwise his personailty for girls..sucks..HE LOVES GIRLS..and I dont get jealous..but he makes me want to kill other girls. I just don't know what to do. ( a major factor might be the fact we had sex, hes the second person i did it with but i dont feel like that is a reason i think about him 25/7) I am honestly undecied about how i feel..and its freaking me out..
You don't seem like your happy with your "just friends" relationship. You might want to take it to the next level and ask him to exclusive date because then he won't flirt and do that other stuff he does with girls. You seem like you really really like him, becuase of your excitement when he talks to you.
what are the projects that people grow up in?
The "projects" are public housing developments, apartment buildings that the government or city builds for that town. They tend to be bad and have alot of drugs and murder.
there's this guy who has liked me for a long time, and i'm going to tell him i like him too tomorrow. what do you think his reaction will be? i want to prepared for anything.
thanks in advance!
He will most definitly ask you out, and be really happy about it. Have fun :D
my girlfriend and i ha ve been going out for almost 9 months now and the school year has just ended. i spent most of my time with her during the school year and now summers here and her friends want time in to.
i dont have a problem with her friends or if she hangs out with them but im not used to sharing her so whenever im not with her i get depressed and sad. do you think she might want to break up with me if i continue act like this??
Yes, it could be grounds for a break-up so i would suggest you hang out with some of your friends when she wants girl time. Some space will be good for the relationship. Pick up a hobby or something & just relax, its summer 8D
14/f
okay there's this guy (17/m) ive liked for a while now, and all the time he's been giving me signs that he likes me more than a friend and i got scared off and he keeps giving me signals but i dont reply because i always felt shy so i tried to keep myself from liking him..and now i heard a lot of girls asked him to prom (he didnt go with any of them and decided not to go to it) and a lot of girls are flirting with him and its NOW that i realized i do like him a lot (it's like infatuation fueled by jealousy trust me, i know how bad that sounds) and now im panicking BECAUSE WHAT IF HE DOESNT LIKE ME ANYMORE? and it's the end of the school year and i want to ask him out and that will look so ..bad, i know. omgg.
i need advice. support. SOMETHING.
and do you think he'll think bad of me for asking him out on the last day of school?
I think you should ask him out. You could also talk to him before that & say that you messed up & didn't realize you liked him until he was missing. It happens all the time. He might be over you, & you have to understand but that doesnt mean you will never have a chance to be with him again. He won't feel bad about you asking him out on the last day of school, personally i think thats a good way to kick off the summer. Good luck 8D
I suck at writing essays! Any tips or advice on what to write/what not to write?
Well, this is what i do, i always think of my beginning first in my head, i let the ideas come to me. You HAVE to have a really really good beginning. Once you have a really good beginning written down it really sets up the rest of your essay. Since i don`t know what it is about, i really can`t tell you what & what not to write. Every paragraph is different, so don`t repeat ideas until you conclusion where you kind of review your main ideas. Don't sit at your computer and strain for ideas becuase then your going to come up with a sucky essay. Have a general outline of what your going to write in each paragraph before you sit down at the computer. Good luck ! :)
How many people think having a relationship with your best friend is a good thing or a bad thing?
If your friendship sparks and you know each other for 10 years or longer. Will it last or mess up your friendship?
I hear that sometimes when sex is involved it wouldn’t be the same. Is that true?
It really depends on the people, if you guys are really close and even if you broke up, you would still be friends for sure, then go for it. I dont think its a bad idea unless you know that a break-up would be messy and ruin your friendship forever. Sex will definitly make you look at him different, and he will look at you different but it can be in a good way. I would make sure your really ready to have sex with HIM before you do it.
I'm on the atkins "diet" and i was wondering what sweets/desserts i can eat that are low carb. My other question was how can i resist the temptation to eat bad stuff like cake, doughnuts, cookies, etc. Because my family and friends eat this stuff sometimes and it's SOOOOO hard for me not to dig in with them...usually i'll give in, eat some, and then feel very guilty later. So i really need to know how to just...not eat them and how not have such an urge to want to eat this stuff in the first place!
Quaker has really good low carb snacks. There are these granola chocolate balls that are SO good. There are alot to choose from. My advice is to stay away from the kitchen / whereever they keep the snacks until you have to go in there for meals. You can also post a picture / number of what you want your weight to be on the fridge or door of the closet where the snacks are kept. This will definitly keep you away. Having another alternitve that good & healthy will remove your urge to eat unhealthy snacks after a while. Good luck on your diet! :)
I play the drums and me n my friends have made a small band.So one of my friend was givena oppurtunity to be in the band but he said no. But now he wants to take my place of drumming cos he sed he lyks it so much n wants me to stop drumming cos he wants to drum.I dont no what to do?Can som1 help?
Tell him no, you were drumming before him & there is no problem with you both drumming. Tell him that you love it too & it would be like asking him never to start drumming. He will understand. & i play the drums :) its awesome.