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sry about the length but i need help!
ok well my mom and dad are divorced and my dad lives in west virginia and i go see him every other weekend..and i HATE going down there with a passion!
my dad is a very mean person, he cam be obusive at times but not towards me.. towards his ex-wife whcih are now just boyfriend girlfriend. well last weekend i did not want to go and alot happend he said something horrible.
my gram died a little over a year ago and him and my mom were fighting and he said "why dont you go die like ur mother did" and i flipped i dont thinik i've ever cried so much in my life.
well my mom says that i have to go one more time until she can get an attorney and go to court so i dont have to go down.
but i dont want to go down now esspecially now that, that happend. b/c i know he's gonna flip.
so what should i do? (link)
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Wow. I really don't know what to say. It seems like you don't really have a choice, so when you go just try to keep your sprits up. if me mentions something about what he said, just say you dont want tot alk about it. remember, its only ONE more time. just keep that in mind. good luck.
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Is there any way to make your hair grow really really fast? i want my hair to grow longer really fast. thanks
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Well, I've heard of a few products, but I don't think they really work.
They actually say if you get your hair trimmed ever 6 weeks it will grow faster because u wont have a bunch of split ends...so u could try that. Good luck.
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Is it true that if u sre a smaller girl you dont get your period until ur like older and if you are a bigger girl you get yours sooner????is that true or is that just a lie... or doe sit have nothing to do with how big you are its just the was your body develpos (link)
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It's nothing to do with your size. Actually, you get your period about the same times as your mother did, so if you're concerned, just ask her around when she got hers.
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when i talk to people i cant keep a conversation going or even get a good one going.. what tips could u give me for this? (link)
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Okay, all you have to do is complement them and/or ask them about something they are wearing. Say, "Those earrings are really cool, where'd you get them?" and "I love the way that shirt looks on you! I wish I could look that good in something like that!"
People like to talk about themselves. A LOT! Just remember that!! Good luck.
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I usually dont eat much. I eat maybe one small thing for breakfast and half of my lunch. I usually dont eat dinner. I usually exercise everything off if I eat a huge lunch or a huge dinner. I constantly worry about how much i weigh but im too scared to weigh myself cause im scared of the effect itll have on me. I usually exercise regularly. I run a mile a day, 30 pushups, 5 minute wall sit, and tons of other things. I'm also involved in Cheerleading so that kind of also is an excuse for me to exercise more often and burn off any fat. Ive been getting sick easier lately and idk why ive been sick for like 2 weeks now. Am i anorexic or what?
Oh also ive noticed my legs are smaller and so are my arms.. and ive noticed other things but i need oppinions i rate 5s. kthanxbye! (link)
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Wow. Well, I'm really glad you're asking for advice and that you're willing to accept the fact you could be anorexic.
In my opinion, I'd have to say yes, you most likely are. Do you even know WHY you're so obsessed with your weight? You really shouldn't worry about what other think of you, because anorexia is EXTREMELY unhealthy! People have actually DIED from it. No offence, but you might want to tell a parrent about this so you can get some help. Good luck!
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what is another way to begin a conlclusion paragraph without using a phrase like "in conclusion" or "to sum it up"? (link)
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You could say "As you can see..." or "In other words...". Those are realy the only two I know besides the ones you mentioned. Good luck.
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ok i listen to music like fall out boy, my chemical romance, hot hot heat, green day, 3 doors down, system of a down and all kind of music like that but im lookin for some new bands can anyone help me out?? (link)
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The Killer, Wheezer, and Jimmy Eat World are really good punk-rock bands. Of cours, you'll have to get used to them if you've never heard them before, but they're all great.
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is it true that if you were born in the 1990's that you cant egt your licences until you are 18? i live in california and i was wondering if it is true. thanks so much. i will rate. (link)
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Oh, no, that's not true at all, unles the President changes the law anytime soon! Nope, yo can get your licence as soon as you turn 16!
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i'm not going to i'm 18 but just out of curiosity how much does it hurt when you have sex for the 1st time? does it sting sting or does it feel like a bruse? how long does it hurt for? (link)
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Well I've never done anything like that, but I heard that it totally differs for different people. Like, for some people it could be a really bad pain, but for other it might not hurt at all. I know this wasn't much help, but it's the truth.
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Whats the best way to approach a guy your wanting to ask out. I don't just wana go up to him and say " Hey ya wana go out?" Thanks in advance! (smartasses get 1's!) (link)
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I think it depends on if you're already friends or not. Is it a guy who barely knows you? A guy who you talk to sometimes, or someone who's a great friend? I believe all good relationships are based on friendship, so I'd try that first.
But if you don't want to go through all the hassle of trying to become the guy's friend...Asking one of your friends to mention something to him could help. Or you could write him a note just asking "Hey, what's up?" Then write some stuff and end like, "So what's new with you? How's it going with your girlfriend?" and if they write back they dont have one, ask him! just say "i think ur really cool. maybe we can hang sometime?" Good luck.
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this is long. i rate high for good advice ;D
okay, i've known my best friend for about 4 1/2 years. were extremely close. i can tell her anything and shes the same way. were practically sisters. im a year older than her.
shes been going out with her boyfriend for about a year (they had their anniv. last weekend) , but theyre not that close at all. they only saw eachother twice over the summer, and each for like maybe an hour at the most. and i was there too. they dont act like bf & gf at all. they never go out, hang out, or even call eachother. yet, they act like their sooo in love. hes cheated on her like 3 times, and shes known about it. he even liked me before. she doesnt realize that she can do sooo much better than him. he always talks to her about getting married and stuff .. ( theyre in EIGHTH grade ) and i know she doesnt want that. shes not ready for a serious relationship. she still has years ahead of her to date and everything else. also, she wont stand up to him. if he does something to make her mad she wont say a thing about it. and after it gets bad enough, i will. im not the type of person to sit back and let people run over me, or other people. which causes fights, because he thinks its not my place to give him advice on his relationship, which i agree that its not. but if shes not going to do anything about it and shes not happy with him, then its just making her feel worse. i honestly think the reason she wont break up with him is because shes afraid of change. she'll feel empty or something when she knows shes not 'dating' him. also, practically all of his friends are girls, and he'll invite them to hang out before he will her. they've only been on one date without any of her or his friends. and they've barely kissed. and he doesnt even save her a seat at lunch, or talk to her between classes, or anything. hes so mean to all of her friends too, me in particular. once, he told her that if they got married and i came over that he would shoot me and tell the police i was breaking in. immature, i know. then he had the nerve to ask her if she'd divorce him after that. why would she want to be with him after that? hes really controlling. i want the best for her, and i know this isnt it. she knows i dont like their relationship, and no one else does either. i dont know why they stay together.. (link)
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Wow, okay, well...
It seems to me like your friend won't break up with him because she thinks she won't be able to get another boyfriend. I agree that she's WAY to young to be talking about marrage, but you REALLY need to let your friend know that there is someone else out there for her, and she doesn't have to stick around with him. He seems way too controling.
I'll say again, I think she's just afraid she won't find anyone else, and you need to prove to her that she can and will. Good luck!
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OK there is this guy(lets say his name is X) who is going to ask me out. I like him a little bit but theres this other guy(name:O) I like love. I dont kno if the guy I love likes me but we are best friends...Should I say yes to X or wait for O...b/c if O doesnt like me I dont want to be alone b/c I said no to X...What should I do? (link)
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I recommend you say yes to X. If O is your best friend and you start dating X, O will TOTALLY mention something to you, but O might make try to make it un-obvious. If O gets bothered that you date X, then you'll be able to tell. Good luck!
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omg my pores are like the sise of mount everest what can i use to make them smaller? any ideas on products? thanx for the help its greatly appreciated (link)
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Basically anything that's related to Clearasil works really well. And if you have a lot of acne and want to get rid of it fast, use Clearasil Ultra, and it reduces acne in 3 days flat. Good luck.
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Ok well last year i had my period for a week as normal in august and i waited for the longest time to have it again but its been a year now and i havent had it again!my mom told her docter about it and she said it wasnt normal. i dont wanna see the doctor...ive never seen a doctor since i was like 5 years old lol so if anyone knows wat could be the hold up i would like to know :D
Thanks! (link)
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I'm actually more shocked that you haven't been to a doctor's for 5 years. You really need to keep up with things like that. Hopefully your "problem" isn't something serious, but maybe if you had gone to the doctor's sooner then they could prevent whatever;s stopping your periods. You really need to go, and don't worry about being embarassed. Doctor's have dealt with things like that forver and they won't think anything of it.
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Ok me and my ex broke up last tuesday. yesterday me and him got into a big arguement and now he hates me. but now I miss him a lot and i dont know what to do anymore.. I dont want to miss him but its hard not to because hes my next door neighbor.... and yeah, so im lost. he has a new gf and not to sound concided but he went from a girl (me) who is rated about a 9 to a girl who is about a 4 or 5 and I picked on him for that but im just really jealous and i have to walk home with him every day!! HELP ME!! what do i do?! we used to argue everyday because i used to say he doesnt care but i realized he does!! omg im really confused!! please help and what can i do to get him back?!
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i miss him. (link)
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Dear I Miss Him,
If you have to walk home from school with him everyday, there's your opportunity to talk to him about your relationship. Just say, "Hey ____, I sorry about our fight, and I hope we can stay friends. Is that okay with you?" and if he says yes, bring up his girlfriend and try to be like "Well, I wish you two wouldn't have started going out because I really miss you." Hopefully he'll get the picture and you guys can work something out.
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ok, i feel really stupid asking this, but what do you do in a my space account? i have it set up and now it's just sitting around, so if you could help that would be grate! i rate 5s! (13/f) (link)
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A MySpace account is a blog, or in otherwords, an online journal. Basically you just write about your life, like you would do ina diray, it's just online so more people can see it. Don't worry, it wasn't a dumb question!
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My friend i kinda like and i went to his house yesterday and he came ut without a shirt on just a towel around his neck.... we talk and talked about how our friends see a guy and a girl talking and they thought they liked eachother but didnt and them i heard tweo more of my girl friends coming down the rode...He said" o ill be right back i have to go get a shirt on' .. y was he okay having no shirt on with me but not his other two good girl friends????? does he like me or does he just feel more comfortable about me (link)
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I'ts a possibility he likes you, but I think he just fells more comfortable around you and thought "Hey, she won't care." So, it could be either, but I'm guessing that he just feels comfy around you. Hope that helped!
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If you were to enlist in the part time Army, would you enlist in the Army Reserve or Army National Guard and why? (link)
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It depends on how much action you can handle. I think the Army Reserve would probably be more active and hands-on than the National Guard, but both are great to enlist in. Just go with your gut.
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I have a problem, I get feeelings for girls more then i do guys. No body knows because i've never told anyone. I just need to know am i a lesbian?
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Well, I think you should take the time to REALLY ask yourself a few questions. Do you have a feeling a lust more towards girls? Like, is it physical attraction? Or do you conncet with them more emotionally? If you like girls physically, then you probably are one. But if you like girls AND guys, you could just be bi-sexual. Hope that helped a little!
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I need help... I have really suicidal times... and tonight was the worse... I almost slit my throat... my girlfriend didnt seem to care... she says she loves me but she wouldnt talk to me and kept ignoring me and making it worse... i tried to tell her i needed her but she rushed me off and hung up... what should i do... (link)
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Okay. I don't think your girlfriend intentionally meant to come off as mean as she did. When you were on the phone with her did you TELL her about your suicidal thoughts? If you did, that probably scared her and made her uncomfortable. And if she doesn't know about your situation, I suggest you tell her and ask her for support. If she TRULY cares about you she'll be willing to help you out. Now, don't take this the wrong way, but if you're worried abut your self, maybe you should talk to a psychiatrist?
Please don't do anything to hurt yourself. Committing suicide doesn't solve any problems and it will just cause other to feel pain like you are. I'm here if you have anything else to say.
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