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Hiya, my name is Diane I'm 13. I really like this guy, lets call him Tom. Tom and I used to hangout every Friday and I mean we've kissed and stuff during spin the bottle but it has never ment anything. In november i was at my friend Joe's party. Joe was with his girlfriend, Joe's other friend John was with his girlfriend and I was just with Tom like walking around this park we went to. Since we were alone we talked alot and he put his arm around me for a good 10 minuets...until I kindof push him off. Anyway since then we've been really close friends. We flirt all the time even when his girlfriend walks by (one girl dumped him cause of that). And he tells people he wants to hangout with me, but I want him to make a move already I mean i'm probably sending mixed signals or something but how do I get him to make a move? (link)
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Hi there :o) Well maybe you should tell him why you you pushed him off after 10 minutes with his arm around you... Tell him you like him alot and then just see what he does... It sounds like he likes you!
GOOD LUCK!!
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ok i have this new boyfriend. well he really is not that new but you get the picture. well we just started to hug today like when i saw him in the morning and when we left school we hugged to say good-bye. well he says that he thinks that we are to young to kiss and stuff but i almost kinda wanted to have my first kiss with him but i don't think that that would happen because he thinks that we are to young to kiss. what should i do?
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Hi there! Well first you didn't say how old/young your are? :o) ... Try to tell him how you feel, tell him you really like him and that you would love to have your first kiss with him because it would be special... but don't rush things, enjoy the hugging for a while and then after a while if your still together (hopefully you are) then ask him if he would be your first kiss....
If he still doesn't and still think your too young then respect his feelings and wait till its the right time for him, im sure sooner than later he will want to kiss you even if he thinks your too young (just be the best girlfriend possible)
Hope I helped! :o) Goodluck!
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My best friend Shianne has now screwed me over 2 times. It seems every time I tell her I like a guy, she offers to "help me with them" and she always ends up giving them her number, and dating them behind me back!! But she doesn't even tell me until the day after they start dating!
She did it with a guy named Steven, and now Brandon. Then whenever she breaks up with them, she expects me to not like them anymore, and to not want to date them because "friends ex boyfriends are off limits to other friends."
What do i do?!?
Should I really consider her my BEST friend if she's done this to me two times already?
Should I wait to see if she does it again?
I honestly don't know what to do, and I'd LOVE for some honest suggestions.
-Thank you so much!-
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Hi there :o) hmmm... If I were I would take revenge!! hahahaha... ask her who she likes (but don't let her expect anything) then start flirting with the guy and then go on a date with him... maybe if she gets some of her own medicine she would stop doing that to you, if she's mad just tell her now you know how that feels, tell her you really like her as a friend and you enjoy her company alot but that hurts you if she does it to you because you are suppose to trust one another!
If she does it one more time DROP HER!! You deserve so much better, you deserve a friend who gets excited with you if you have a crush and who will only do things to help you get the guy ect..
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my friend's boyfriend has been harassing me since last year. He keeps doing things to my locker such as smashing a banana on it, putting tape all over, writing all over it, leaving long notes, putting signs with names such as boob girl or b***h etc. He would also spread all these rumors about me and call me all of these names. when my friend tells him to stop he refuses and he said that he wants to hurt me. she wants to protect her boyfriend from being suspended and she is trying to stop me from telling the GLC. He has been doing the same things to other people but they are too afraid of him to speak up. I really want to tell the GLC and take action but would I be doing the right thing by doing that even if I probably won't be friends with her anymore? also, I know that the GLC won't believe me since I don't have enough evidence to prove what he is doing to me. what should I do in this situation? (link)
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Hi there!! well if your friend doesn't want to to tell the GLC then tell her to tell her boyfriend to stop harassing you or she will break up with him.... If she doesn't want to do that tell the GLC as soon as possible! That guy is such a looser, and a bully and needs to be learned some manners!
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me & ryan ex boyfriend, we're realllyyy close. we used to hang out everyday and always talk on the phonnee. then about 2 months ago we stoped. he stoped calling and stoped hanging out with mee. then about 2 weeks ago a girl who likes everyone, started to like him. and i thought i could trust him and no that he wouldnt like her. well he told me he didnt and was pretending then 5 days after this girl sent me proof. a myspace message that he sent her. it said blahblahblahblah i love you. =[ it made me really sad because i knew he wasnt kidding. and he wasnt. i talked him about it and he was like "im sorry for lying and messing things up but there nothing i can do now to make us the way we were. so this is bye." it was very hurtful.=[ then 2 days after that day. i was walking in the hall (in school) and then he was behind me so i tryed to walk a little faster then he was saying my name i knew i shouldnt of awnsered. but i did. i turned around and was like yes... and then he just told me an inside joke he had with someone. i was like okay. but i think he kinda did that just to talk to me. but then that same day on the bus (were on the same bus) me and him were talking and i was like can i just have one more hug and he was like yeah. then while we were hugging my best friend emily said "do you still like her" and he shaked his head no. but he always says he doesnt mean anything he says when were in fights.
so im really confused. should i try to get over him. or maybe talk to him about this.. or something =/
ohh yeah and then the other day i was in the car, and then i relized i missed him alottt. and bursted out in tears.
--confused.
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Hi there!! write him a letter telling him exactly how you feel about him and that you miss him alot, tell him you miss all the goodtimes with him.... Ask him to write back in the end of the letter... If he doesn't write back or if he writes back and tells you he doesn't want to be more than friends or even just friends with you anymore... It might be a good idea to move on, I mean you want somebody that loves you just as much as you love him! Time heals all wounds! Try getting your mind off him by doing things with your girlfriends that you like, go to the movies, do some window shopping, eat lots of popcorn while watching dvd's at home... Fall inlove with a new guy!
Hope I helped! And hope everything works out for the best! :o)
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THANK YOU SO MUCH IN ADVANCE FOR ANSWERING THIS AND I AM SORRY IF IT IS LONG BUT I REALLY NEED HELP WITH THIS.
So i have a really good friend and he has been talking about suicide all this week and he is really starting to scare me. I talk to him about how much i care about him etc. but still he said i dont think ill kill myself just now. but later i dont know. IM SO WORRIED ABOUT MY FRIEND! and try to have some other answer besides tell someone because i know that and i am considering it. So please any other good ideas.. ILL RATE 5'S FOR ALL SERIOUS ANSWERS
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Hi there!! This is really serious! I know your thinking about telling someone, stop thinking and just do it! I would suggest you tell his parents, so that they can take him to a psychiatrist, they will decide if its just mild or major depression and they will give him pills (if he needs it) or help him acordingly... I know he said "I don't think I'll kill myself just now" but it can happen anytime if something really upsets him, when a person try's or comits suicide they don't think properly!! (I tried to commit suicide 1 year and a half back... I really never though I would do it, I didn't think I had the guts... but when my boyfriend and I had a fight I was really mad and sad and my emotions was so overwhelming I didn't think before I did it I just took a whole jar of pills and threw it in my mouth and started chewing and swallowing the pills)
Your friend needs help!
You were clever to come here and get some advice, I know this must be hard on you aswell!! Goodluck!!
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what's a way (that i dont have to buy anything for) to make my sagging boobs... not sag anymore. no stupid answers.
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Try sleeping with your bra on for a while, see if that makes a difference.... Other wise there really isn't a way except for push up bra's ... You would have to except them the way they are (everyone's boobs are different) make the best of what you've got!
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Ok so i have known this guy all my life! well a few years ago he moved ..but we still kept in touch occasionally. and also we have always considered each other bro and sis, well he moved back this past summer and everything was ok and all but now he calls me at a minimum of 8 times a day! and every weekend he is with me. now dont get me wrong i love the boy to death but he comes with me and my frieds on our "girls night outs" and then staurday nights he comes to my house then sunday he is hear to! and i dont want to be mean and i have even tried saying things in the past liek well why dont u go do this or that...and even trying to be mean dont work because he doesnt take me serious! please HELP ME i dotn no what i am going to do. and the other problem with him he tells me who i can and cant date..he doesnt liek me are anything he is just..i dont even no how to explain it. and GUys want talk to me alot becaus ethey think im dating him or there afraid he want liek him. (link)
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Hi there!! :o) Are you sure he doesn't like you?! Well try to get him a girlfriend, because if he has one he would want to spend alot of time with her and he would be spending less time at your house.... Also stand up for yourself, he hasn't got the right to tell you who you can date, you are your own person and you make your own decisions!
Hope I helped! :o)
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I have this friend, who told me that she thought she might like this guy, and added him to her 'list' of guys. There were maybe 3 guys that were on her list of people she could potentially like. I knew all of them, and found out that one of the guys was in my homeroom and one of my classes. I was supportive of my friend's feelings for all the guys on her list, and kept away from them, but I found myself sort of attracted to this one guy. I started to like him, and my friend found out. I felt (and still feel) horrible, and apologized in person, over aim, over the phone and i wrote a really long letter, but she ignored me every time. She also brought a bunch of my other friends into it and they took her side, and pretty much stopped talking to me. they were my four best friends, and now they hardly even look my way. i don't know what else to do, so i've sort of just...given up. but i couldn't help it, i felt terrible, and tried really hard to make it up to her...is it so much my fault that i deserve to lose those friends?
by the way: i'm a freshman in high school, girl, 15. (link)
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Your friend is being really childish! I mean she has 3 guys on a "list" that she just might like.... You have the right to like anyone you like, even if you like one of the guys she likes.... If she is a true friend she wouldn't make such a big deal about it, I mean she still has 2 other guys that she can crush on... Try one last time, maybe you can win her over by setting up a date with one of the other 2 guys she likes as a surprise (get one of the guys to ask her to go to the movies with them) If she really starts to like just one guy she might forgive you :o)
If she's still mad at you after all your effort, Try to make new friends because then she isn't really a good friend, because this is really a stupid reason to be mad at you!
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well i had sex with use of condoms but after da first time he used soap n washed da dick but the second time before putting the condom he placed da dick in n ma periods r delaying ????????????/ (link)
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Well... too all the people who said you don't speak idiot and didn't awnser the question you guys are the idiots! because anyone can understand what she was trying to say even if she didn't type it in normal english!
Well I don't think your pregnant (your period can be late for a number of reasons) try to wait it out for another week and see if your period starts and if it doesn't then I would suggest you take a home pregnancy test...
Try not to start having sex without a condom, it can be dangerous and causes unnecessary worry's (there is a thing called PREcum and that can contain sperm sometimes)
Goodluck and try not to stress toooo much, Hope your period starts soon!
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Next week I turn 21. No big deal really, I was legal at 19 were I live.
A while ago me and my boyfriend agreed for a whole bunch of reasons to not focus on our birthdays too much this year, just do something nice for valintines day. Which was totally cool with me. But now my girlfriends want to take me out for my birthday.
The thing is everybody, even myself, wants this to be a girls night thing. I don't even think my boyfriend would want to come to the place they have in mind, but I'm not sure how to tell him that I want to spend my birthday with just my close group of girls. What should I do? (link)
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:o) WOW!! happy birthday!! Im turning 21 this year aswell... Just tell him that you want a girls night out, maybe see him an hour before you go out with the girls, and then promise him a date the next day? Im sure he will understand, suggest a boys night out for him :o)
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i like this guy and he likes talking on the phone, but i don't. i just never have anything to say so it ends up being a boring and silent convo. what are some ranodm topics i could talk about so it's not akward silences the whole time? (link)
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Hi there!! you sound alot like me!! (im very quiet and sometimes that can be a problem) Try asking him some questions to get to know him better, you can then awnser your own question aswell.... ask him what movie he saw last, ask him what type of movies he like, ask him what his favorite colour, food, animal, sport is ... ask him what type of music he likes.... talk about things you both like.... You will find its not that hard to think of things to talk about the more you do it...
GOOD LUCK!!! hope this guy falls madly inlove with you :o)
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just to let you guys knwo im not using the real peoples names but still the situation that is going on.
ok at the beginning of the year i was really close with three other girls (Jessica, Lisa, and Natalie) we were all really close and kind of had a little clique thing. we told each other everythin but i was kind of closer to Lisa and Jessica and Natlaie were close together.
as the year went on it kind of split off into me and lisa and jessica and natalie.
we always had stupid fights which ALWAYS ended up being misunderstandings. like me and lisa thought they were ignoring us and they thought we were ignoring them. whatever. so these problems kept on happening
eventually me and lisa jsut sort of gradually stopped talking to Jessica and Natalie.
then the other day natalie let my friend see her phoen and my friend saw a text message that jessica sent to natalie saying "i hate samantha (me) and lindsay" this really through me off guard.
i mean i knew we had some problems but come on hate is a very strong word.
my question is i dont know if i should try to work it out with jessica and natalie i mean we were all really close or should i just stop being friends with them. i really dont know what to do please help! (link)
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Have a talk with Jessica and Natalie... tell them what your friend saw, tell them you still like them both very much, name a few things that you like about each of them and ask them why they said they hate you, ask them what you did to make them feel that way.... I think they would feel sorry for saying that... but if they don't then maybe its best not to be friends with them anymore...
Hope I helped!
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Okay, my boyfriend and I had went to wal-mart recently and he saw his ex girlfriend there. She's 14 and I am 17. My boyfriend is 16 (and they dated for about 9 months and broke up cause she cheated on him twice). Anyhow, he didn't speak to her in the store, he just waved. Now I've been nice to where he can still be friends with her like on the phone, but she took things into her own hands. She called him this morning and told him that she loves him and misses him, and that if we don't work out, that she'll still be there waiting for him....anyhow he says to her, "Do you think I am gonna break-up with for you?" And she got quiet... then she says to him "Well would you go back out with me if that happened?" And he says " I don't know..." ( and as my boyfriend is telling me this I'm thinkin to myself...what do you mean?) So then as we were going to our separate high schools, I gave him a kiss and I told him I loved him... and the he goes "I love Rowbyn (that's the ex's name)" And I knew he was doing that to make me mad... but as I was walking him to his school, I remember him saying "I'm gonna feel funny the rest of the day". So I am wondering if yall think he may leave me for her, or does he still have feelings for her. Any advice I am sure would help! THANKS FOR READING! (link)
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Tell him how you would feel if he left you for her, Tell him you really love him and don't want to loose him... Then just ask how he feels about you and then ask him how he feels about Robyn... I think his reaction to those questions would give you the awnser...
Hope I helped, I hope he doesn't leave you and that everything works out for the best!
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14/f...What's a good way to make a move that is NOT SO OBVIOUS on one of your good guy friends? A way that won't totally freak him out and is like dropping hints?
I RATE HIGH!!
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When you talk with him just smile and look him directly in the eyes.... start playing with him by messing up his hair, pumping him softly in the ribs with your elbow... just try to think of any playfull excuse to touch him....
Hope this help!! :o) Good luck with this friend!!
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okay well i met this guy like .. 2 months ago .. well i had been VERY hurt before & to b perfectly honest.. i didnt have much interest in this kid i was mad & wanted to leev my house so i told em to come get me liddle did i kno wat was happening.. well we ended up hittin it off we were perfect for eachother.. weird eh? .. well we ended up kissing & it just all felt right.. well still i was worried of my image at school cuz it was liek a complete random hook up & wat not.. well we ended up gettin together.. & all was GREAT i loved being with him & he always said the right things & wat not well one night to much liquior & sweet talkin led to sex.. i was SO SO SO scared to open up like i HAD A HUGE TALK with him the night before & hes liek u gota trust me babe im different i promise.. & i bought it all well next day.. we broke up i culdnt figure it out he swore he stillw anted to b with me he juss needed to think i culdnt figure out wat i did that was oh so wrong but i dont kno.. well he invited me over that night nothin reallty changed we still kissed & stuff.. school eh okay i guess kinda embaressed but okay i guess well we spent the next month off & on till i got so fed up with i ignored him more & more then one random night he came back & told me he wanted to b together & he was really sorry bout it here we go again all up hill.. he called em everynight & called me baby & there i was fallen again.. & i was so ready to be his.. well i went to his house a few days later.. & he told me he was in love with me i didnt say anything i thought he was jokin but i juss sat there so he walked off then no lie 5 minutes later & he told em he didnt like me at all.. so there i was cryin hurt cunfused & it didnt get much better a few calls & kisses still back to the start,, well then it got good again sorta.. we were supposed to hang out & i was so totally happy all day a HUGE smile ! well then he text me & said dotn ever talk to me again... & supposevly one of my guy friends said i promised i wuldnt talkt o him & now he wont talk to me & he said "i want nothin between us juss friends i cant deal with you" so i spent the entire night cryin i didnt go to school i culdnt face him i cant let go im stuck i have no idea wat im doing so wrong && i love him alot .. i really do it sounds dumb but i do & he was juss in a long relationship & the girl broke his heart so i feel terrible liek i cant amount to her i wana juss show him i love him & i wana b okay.. but i cant.. & i kno he'll coem back but i cant do it again & he leaves at the end of the year .. so im screwed i just wish i never met him.. im sorry this is long but i need someone out there to help me.. & sayin "get ocver it" wont work ive tried so so so hard.. i love him i need something better.. thanx....... (link)
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His just messing with your emotions.... what ever you do, however it must hurt DON'T go back to him... this isn't a healthy relationship! You deserve sooooooo much better!! Try moving on, find another guy (someone cute, sexy, funny) fall inlove all over with another guy! ignore any calls, text messages (dont even read the message just delete it if you see its from him) from that guy, get rid of all his stuff or anything that reminds you of that guy... cry, feel bad, miss him but think of all the bad stuff he has put you trough all the hurt... go out with girlfriends .... This guy is only going to hurt you again!
time heals all wounds!
You will get over him!
Hope I helped and good luck!!
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ok this is really random..but im so sick of all the same websites i go to all the time! anyone know anything new or that they like that i can check out? (dont tell me anything like bored.com, thats so stupid.) the things im already doing are like myspace, tagged, seventeen, emode, and this site. thats all i can think of really. so anyone know anything i would like? (im into fashion, music, clothes, celebs, meeting new people, anything!) (link)
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Hi there!! :o) try Neopets.com, facebattle.com, tickle.com .... hope you like that sites!!
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The guy that I like is about 25 pounds overweight and isnt athetlic at all. I asked him if he wanted to play tennis with me because I have been taking lessons. The whole time we played he critized me, saying mean things like "your stamina is terrible", what kind of lessons have you been taking", and " I thought you would have been way better". He was really upsetting me so finally I said that I was still learning and to give me a break. The thing was that he was a lot worse than me, and I was trying to say nice things to encourage me.
A couple days later he told me that he thought I should lose 15 pounds. I am average, not fat. He is way more overweight than me and I have never said anything to him because I know it would just hurt him. My feelings were very hurt with all his negativity. Should I move on? (link)
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Hi there!! :o) .... His just being mean... You deserve someone who makes you happy and says nice things to you!! If you really like him try working things out by telling him you like him but it hurts you when he puts you down like that... If he keeps doing it leave him because he wouldn't be worth your time! Get someone who respects you and who makes you feel good about yourself!
Hope everything works out for the best! :o)
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I have known this girl since kindergarden right. Now we are in 8th grade and for some reason, this year i really seem to like her. I mean she is nice, funny, smart, and very beautiful. How can i not like her. But the problem is, i have trouble finding the courage to ask her out. I am good with girls in the sense of friendship, but when it comes to love life, im a mess. I am 14 and she is 13. i am 11 months older than her but i really dont see that as an issue. But i always get nervous when i tcomes to askig a girl out nd i did it once, she said ye, than rejeted me the next day. (that was a different girl). Is it normal to be that nervous? Oh and one more thing, what do you ask when you want to ask her out. I really am not good with "pick-up" line. Thanks (link)
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Hi there :o) well tell her that you have grown to like her more than a friend and you would love to go out with her.... tell her exactly what you told us "she is nice, funny, smart and very beautiful"
Invite her to a movie and some pizza, give her a compliment like for example you like her dress, shirt or whatever. And just have fun, don't be to nervouse!!
:o) hope I helped and GOODLUCK!!! whishing you the best
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Hey me and my boyfriend have been going out for a year now and we are very protective of eachother. Like if he thinks im looking at another guy then he get mad @ me and it ends up into a huge fight. I cant talk to guys either. We are just soo over protected and it gets us into huge fights everyday. Got any suggestions on how we can stop this jealousy and fighting and be less protective? (link)
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You both need to except that there is always going to be other beautifull people, you need to trust eachother and get some self confidence!!!
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