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THANK YOU SO MUCH IN ADVANCE FOR ANSWERING THIS AND I AM SORRY IF IT IS LONG BUT I REALLY NEED HELP WITH THIS.
So i have a really good friend and he has been talking about suicide all this week and he is really starting to scare me. I talk to him about how much i care about him etc. but still he said i dont think ill kill myself just now. but later i dont know. IM SO WORRIED ABOUT MY FRIEND! and try to have some other answer besides tell someone because i know that and i am considering it. So please any other good ideas.. ILL RATE 5'S FOR ALL SERIOUS ANSWERS
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Get your self some Niacin you can get it at any GNC or vitamin shop.
It is why suicidal patients get better. Look it up.
Its your only option Most people will be totally cured from depression im a matter of weeks.
I have tried every thing there is and this is the only thing that works.
Dont stop taking it. With out Niacin it is impossible to get better.
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its tough when a friend goes through rough stages in tehre life but you just have to stay positive try and offer him to come out and enjoy life tell him or show him taht problems are things you can get over and there is always tomorrow. show taht his life is worth living and dont doubt yourself just know that you only have one life so have a good one
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okay these situations are not easy at all. I am going through the same exact thing with my friend. He told me he wanted to commit suicide and this is what I told him...
Why do you want to kill yourself? You have your whole life to look forward to and your just going to let it go over something as stupid as that? Your a great guy and you have to realize that. If other people can't see that then theyre just idiots...
Hope I Helped
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Ok I had this some problem before. Well what I did is I like cried right in front of him and told him all the good things about him and all he has done for me. People say they don't care what you say but in the inside they really wanna know that you care for them and will do anything for them. Tell him that he doesn't need to do sucide cause he is not only hurting himself but his family and friends.I really hope I helped some cause I know how it feels to have someone close to you say that stuff it is scary.
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When someone admits to suicidal thoughts, it's usually a cry for help. Since you're already considering telling someone, I'll not say anything on that. Try to keep your friend's spirits up. If he's sitting home moping around, get him outside into some fresh air and new activities. Remind him of all the things he'll miss if he takes that step, not to mention how hurt you'll be to lose him. If he's told you the reasons behind these thoughts, try to help him find a less drastic solution. Encourage him to talk about his feelings either to you or a trusted adult.
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Take this seriously. Someone who used to go to our school just committed suicide last week..its very sad..i only met him a couple of times but he was a really great guy. My point is, wouldnt you feel terrible if he did something stupid and you didnt do everything in your power to help? I bet you would be very upset with yourself for not telling anyone.
Along with telling someone like his or your parents,trusted adult,school counselor,etc..stand by him through everything. Hes going through a tough time and he needs you. Show him the beauty of life..maybe make a list *a lonnng list* of why life is beautiful. Hang out witth him,talk with him, give him hugs, make him a card..keep letting him know you n lots of people care! take this seriously...please!
i hope i helped..please inbox me with further questions/updates
-melissa-
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Ok i know lots of people have already given you an answer. I trust you have probably done the right thing by now aswell. I just want to make sure you knwo something. Your friend doesnt need you to worry about him. He doesnt need anyone (especially his friend) to think hes crazy or in need of mental help. He needs a friend. Obviously he feels his life is lacking meaning and purpose. Help him discover it. Help him be his ideal self. Talk to him, act around him the way you would normally. Listen to him, you never know he might just want attention (and dnt beat him up about that - everyone does at some point). Be there for him, thats all youc an really do. If you tell someone, get his consent, you dont want him thinking you betrayed him somehow. If this doesnt seem possible, make sure he knows you had good intentions. Dont take all of this advice to seriously. You know your friend, no one else does. Take the advice but dont betray your instincts. Good luck xxxx
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Hi there!! This is really serious! I know your thinking about telling someone, stop thinking and just do it! I would suggest you tell his parents, so that they can take him to a psychiatrist, they will decide if its just mild or major depression and they will give him pills (if he needs it) or help him acordingly... I know he said "I don't think I'll kill myself just now" but it can happen anytime if something really upsets him, when a person try's or comits suicide they don't think properly!! (I tried to commit suicide 1 year and a half back... I really never though I would do it, I didn't think I had the guts... but when my boyfriend and I had a fight I was really mad and sad and my emotions was so overwhelming I didn't think before I did it I just took a whole jar of pills and threw it in my mouth and started chewing and swallowing the pills)
Your friend needs help!
You were clever to come here and get some advice, I know this must be hard on you aswell!! Goodluck!!
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Yikes... ok. First off, prepare yourself to make a call to 911 immediately if there's any hint whatsoever that he will go through with this. Suicide threats are nothing to take lightly. Second, (and you're already considering this) is to tell someone... a parent, teacher, school counselor what's going on. Not only will they seek to get help for your friend, but some support for you in dealing with this would be welcome too. Now...with that said...
Good news is that he seems to have put his thoughts on hold for a bit. This is a good sign. Use this time to listen to him, find out what has brought him to this point. He may not need, or even want, you to solve anything for him. Often, just a caring ear goes much farther than trying to offer advice. Reassure him that he's not "weird" for feeling this way, or that it's stupid or anything like that. Help him understand that there are many ways to deal with things other than suicide. Ask him if he'd be willing to talk to someone about this with you. He might not be willing to see someone on his own at this point, but having you there might help get some of this out in the open without putting that initial burden on him. Try to get him to make a pact with you ... that if he is really planning to do something, that he doesn't do a thing without talking to you first (if he ever gets to this point, have that phone handy to call for help immediately!). Use some gentle humor to coax him away from these thoughts and towards getting some help... like.. tell him you're going to chain yourself to his leg so he doesn't do anything. (Not in a kinky, weirdo way or anything) Or, that if he kills himself, then all of his underwear will go to Goodwill and will eventually end up being worn by old men that smell like Ben Gay and he'll never be able to rest in peace knowing his underwear are running around town in the pants of strange men. (At this point, he'll realize you're crazier than he is, and try to get YOU help). Just kidding :) Tell him that if he kills himself, you'll kick his ass! (It's a caring sort of humor... which might help lighten his mood a bit and help him let down his defenses and be willing to get help)
Seriously, just get him talking. Listen and support him. Don't be afraid to ask questions.. help him clarify his thoughts not only to you, but to himself. He might even work some of this out on his own if he can talk through it. Encourage him to get some help from a professional who knows all about this and understands. Ain't no shame in this at all! It's the smart thing to do! Take the initiative to get him some help if he doesn't himself. Just continue to be his friend!
Hope some of that helps! I wish you and your friend the best. Hang in there!
G.
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This is a really tough situation. Sadly, I've been there before. If you go running to an adult (which is the right thing to do!) your friend is going to find out and feel like you betrayed his trust. If that happens, he's probably going to be upset with you when he needs you the most. You must also consider the fact that since he's not going to do it for the time being anymore that he may just be looking for attention and sympathy. In other words, he might not really be serious. This is still, though, quite a dire situation because there's still the chance that he could be. He needs to either learn that suicide is very serious and not something to pretend about or he needs to get help. My advice for you is to keep supporting him like you have been. You also need to try to get him to get help on his own. If he won't, you should confide in an adult. Probably a counselor at your school, a minister, or other professional would be the best choice. If you do tell someone make sure that they understand that you don't want your friend to know that you told them. I hope I helped and good luck.
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Look, this is nothing to play around with. You need to call someone and get him some help. If you dont, and he does kill himself, then youll feel real bad because you didn't give him what he really needs. Its going to be hard, and youre going to think that he is going to hate you.
Call these numbers.
1-800-SUICIDE
1-800-273-TALk
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tell him you might commit suicide.
just be like i think i will to.
use all his reasons.
<w/e they are>
it will make him think about
how stupid his reasons are
and just maybe you can be like.
'lets neither do it.'
tell him that he can tell you everything
and anything...
-jodie
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