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Hello everyone, I am here to give the best of my advice... Any questions no matter the topic are always welcomed, I am serious about giving advice and helping people no matter who they are. you guys will get the purest and most truest advice from me every time. I take my time to answer every question and every single one asked, will get an honest answer. Don't hesitate to ask me a question about anything that might be bothering you or that you need to get off your chest, I am here so start asking away! I will reply as soon as possible. Best regards,
-trueadvice3
advice
i want to date some1 that will actualy kiss me, how could i find a girl like that?
wow this is what everyone wants... a true Kiss... someone who will kiss you because they truly feel something for you and not just out of lust... it takes time and most of all careful search for the right person... I say don't worry you will soon find a partner who appreciates you and truly cares so much about you. time is a pain... we all know it and sometimes we might feel alone... like we are missing something but we can only just let that moment come all on it's own when we meet that perfect someone nothing else can be done really... unless you have a friend who is willing to kiss you but that is not the same as a true pure kiss... you will find someone in the correct time and you will be happy... enjoying life together and trying to surround each other with positive energy to get the most out of your relationship.
best of luck!
-trueadvice3
ok im a guy that is going into highschool and i have caught myself thinking about guys and i know i like girls but i deny to myself that im bi because i dont think i am but dont completely know so am i bi or how would i know?
Like you said bro, you are entering High School and your hormones are all over the place at this particular time. Don't jump into conclusions just yet... what you need now is time to just get through this teen phase... once you are through this phase you can then take the time to analyze your true emotions and feelings on both sexes. Don't worry too much bro, just take it easy and give it some time you will soon realize your true emotions and most of all once you have come to a conclusion, be happy for who you are and don't let anyone stop you from being happy and enjoying life to the fullest!
-I wish you the best bro! and best of luck in H.S!
-trueadvice3
m/18
next feb or so i will be joing the army, and i really need to work on my cardio. I have a gym membership and i do 5 minutes on the treadmil, the bike, and the stair master. Every week i add an extra minute to every thing. My question is that an acceptable way to get better cardio? Also is there anything else i can do to supplement it or any other exercises i can do to help?
5 Minutes on the treadmill? this is noting bro! you have got to get that heart bumping some blood! do at least 30 minutes on the treadmill! do the first 5 just walking... the other 10 at a more faster(jogging paste) and the other 15 run the whole way! this will get you ready for the Army at least a little bit because you will do hardcore work-outs over there so what you are doing (5 minute on each machine) is nothing compared to what you are going to be doing over at the Army... don't go going full blast now... take it easy and don't push it get yourself started by doing what I told you only on the treadmill... you can do the same for the other machines and customize your workouts as well! but also know when enough is enough don't push it too hard lol I don't want you fainting or anything don't do anything you can't handle as time goes by you will get used to it and therefore increase the speed in which you run and the time you run. (endurance)
I wish you the best and if you have any other questions make sure to let me know take care and best of luck!
-trueadvice3
(female)
My boyfriend and i enjoy our physical time together, but i often feel that he has an overactive libido, always wanting sex... or some alternative to take care of his need. He tries to tame it for me, so often he just helps himself knowing he cant always expect it from me... because of course im not permanently in the mood like he is. But it makes me feel like i cant satisfy him, or that (even though i know he loves me and wouldnt cheat) he might end up finding someone else to help him out. Does he have a sex addiction? Because he gets pretty frustrated and agitated when he needs some
Hey I suggest you guys go visit a sex therapist to really get into the core of this situation... through this evaluation both you and your partner can better understand each other's needs and wants. This will not only be good for him but for you as well... further understanding him and him further understanding you. I wish you guys the best and always communicate your thoughts to each other this is key to a healthy and long relationship! :)
Best Always,
-trueadvice3
really random question - im evan and im 15 years old and im basically done with puberty. why does my voice still crack all the time??? what makes it crack and is there a way to stop it from cracking?
Hey Evan... what makes you think that you are "basically" done with Puberty? Males START ending their puberty phase at the young age of their early 20's so you are no way near done bro... you are on the early stages still... but don't get frustrated bro this voice cracking thing is completely normal it happens to every guy going through puberty... yes, it can be annoying and in some cases a bit embarrassing.
During puberty your voice is becoming deeper... the testosterone hormone causes this to happen this hormone causes your voice box to grow and your vocal cords to grow longer and thicker... only when your vocal cords are finished growing, your voice will stop cracking and squeaking. You will have a lower, deeper adult voice then. This process will probably last some time but don't worry... you will soon exit this phase.
- An important thing to know here is that we all have different bodies and so we all develop at different rates... you might be taller than most of your friends or shorter, or you might already have facial hair or hair on certain parts of your body and your friends still don't because like I said before, everyone goes through puberty at different speeds.
- One thing for sure is that you are still going through puberty and I advice you to not get too frustrated... all this is normal and your voice will stop cracking soon.
I wish you the best and I am always here for any other questions you might have. Take care
-trueadvice3
my dad keeps yelling at me and pretty much says that he wants my older sister and my baby brother,but he wants nothing to do with me. he yells at me and i have had enough. i am only a girl and my b-day is on friday and he doesn't even care, when ever something needs done he always has me do it, it feels like i have my baby brother more than my mom does. i would really like some advice to keep him of my back
hey your dad seems to have some sort of internal issue he needs to be taking care of soon... have you talked to your mom about how he treats you? does she treat you the same? and does she listen/do anything about it?
If she does not... you need to go to a counselor perhaps your school counselor and tell them what's going on because if this is effecting you in a negative way, you CANNOT continue living like this. The counselor or a therapist can work with both you and your dad/mom on what it is exactly that's happening to make your relationship a more healthier one.
- I wish you the best always and keep strong!
-trueadvice3
I'm starting college next year.
I have a lot of friends right now who love drinking, getting high, etc. In college, I'll probably be surrounded by MORE people like this.
The problem is I dont' drink and do drugs AT ALL. It's not even that I think it's wrong, I just feel I don't need it. I've tried beer and whatnot before and I didn't like the taste. I've never tried drugs but I don't really feel the need to get high or see a real point to it.
Anyway, how alienated will I be in college? I'm worrying that I'll stand out. Right now it's not too bad; I just don't hang around with my friends if they're going to be drinking and shit. But in college, will it be different? How do I cope?
Hey, first off I want to tell you that I am very happy that you are a strong minded person!
- I am glad you don't let the negative things people do get to you to the point that you go on and get involved in so much Kaos.
- I have had the same experience before when my "friends" drank, and did drugs and I just never felt that I needed any of that to be happy or have fun.
but at the same time these people where like the only ones I hanged out with... I did not know what to do... stop hanging out with them? or just keep hanging out with them and get lured into their crazy ways when they did drugs etc. and get into unasked trouble?... I ended up stopping hanging around them and slowly moved apart from them... yes I was alone now but I learned how to deal with it because I'd rather enjoy the amazing positive things life had to offer than be around uncomfortable situations where I felt I truly did not belong.
- I am in college now and I keep to myself to be honest... overall you are going to meet all types of people in college those who are friendly, those who like to party like crazy,and those who stick only to studying and doing college related work... I suggest you don't worry too much about this "Alienation" because you will have your chances to approach and at the same time be approached by different people who might be friend worthy and those who might not be so.
- Pick the people you decide to approach carefully, start a conversation about anything... if they are a freshman, senior, how they like the college, the classes they have etc. the opportunity's to make good friends are endless your "job" here is to know who to approach and basically know how to choose your friends... I know you can do it and of course I know you might be nervous to approach someone but you can do it... approach someone who you see all the time perhaps at the library/cafeteria, or it can just be someone who you think looks friendly... if it turns out later on that this person is not the type you want to be associated with, then let them go...
- Things in college can be different yes... bit it is ultimately up to you to make the best out of this new experience... surround yourself with those individuals who will mostly help you and note end up hurting you in any way... you are already doing great by not hanging out with with those other friends of yours when they are drinking... one important key to being/ enjoying life is to live it the positive way and you I can see are doing just that! I gotta say I am happy to know this... just keep the positive people/vibes coming and you will succeed but most of all, enjoy the amazing positive things life has to offer and you will live an amazing healthy yet, fulfilling life filled with great achievements.
- I wish you the best and I know you can do it keep positive!
Best Always,
-trueadvice3
Embarassing to talk about, but it is. I've been working out for a long time now and for some reason i just noticed this. Overall, i have a pretty medium build and i was already bothered about the fact that i have big arms but a small chest. I've been working out my chest hard lately and i've noticed that its still small, but my right is bigger than my left...
it isnt noticeable at all, only when i flex i can see the curve forming under my right pec, but under my left, there is no curve.
Whats even worse is that i have OCD and its difficult not to analyze my chest everytime i look in the mirror. I never only work out only one side, because thats just stupid, but for some reason whenever i work my chest, i always feel the burn more in my right. What should i do to fix this?
Hey there, you have nothing to be worrying about bro, this is completely normal! as we all know we humans are not perfect at all we are all not proportional at all.
- I think it is great that you are working out not only to be looking good but most of all to keep healthy.
- Furthermore, when we work out if we are basically a lefty, we will always feel "the burn" on our most dominant side. There is nothing to worry about here just keep doing your regular work-out routines and don't get too stressed out/worried about something that isn't even too noticeable to others but yourself! even if it was noticeable, we are not perfect and sometimes we can't alter the way our bodies are.
- The only thing I can suggest to make your chest bigger is something you probably already know yourself... I say do more bench presses using more weight than usual and get on the Incline and Decline machines that work out the chest using the weight that you can handle.
- And remember NOT to OVER-DO it on the amount of weight! do what you can handle of course and as you get more used to the weight, elevate the weight only then.
- I know with your OCD things can be difficult to deal with but I know you can do it bro just let it be because this "issue" is ONLY noticeable to YOU no one else even notices it and probably doesn't even mind! because they themselves might be having the same situation and or like I said... it is only in your head and nothing else.
- Enjoy your workouts and live life the healthy way! don't get too frustrated over this because other people at the gym might be wanting to have a body like yours but don't have the genes to develop big biceps or the "cut/ripped" body you have and the same goes for you wanting to have certain features in this case "a bigger chest" that other guys at the gym might have. But again like I said, it is all in the mind and you might claim that you don't have a big enough chest but the woman might be dying for you and other guys might be envying you for the certain featured that you have and they don't and vise versa!
- Laugh about this situation because it is indeed funny! I laugh at myself because I go to the gym as well and do my workouts etc. but some days I am ok with my results and others I am like um... yea about this "issue" ha ha when in fact other girls and people "envy" my physique and I have actually gotten compliments from both guys and girls so in the end I just laugh at myself for being to hard on myself so now I just enjoy my workouts and love the results I have gotten from all the sweating because the things I claim to not like so much, are other people's envy so it is all ok in the end bro.
- So don't be so hard on yourself and just analyze things the positive way... we are more than what we give ourself credit for.
- I wish you the best bro, enjoy life and smile at the world...
Best Always,
-trueadvice3
Hey guys I'm turning 19 on june 30th. And I have no clue what to do. My parents are not doing anything for me they could care less, and all my friends are out of town. So basically I want to do something fun by myself? Or maybe with one of my cousins. And I don't have money.and I don't like clubbing I'm a good girl haha. So yea I know this sucks but I want to make it fun atleast for me. And my parents are horrible they have never cared about me so its not a surprise they won't even remember. I also work but I'm gonna take that day off to do something fun?? Any ideas !! Thanks guys :)
Hey, I think that the most great thing to do when you don't have money but want to have a relaxing day especially on your B-day, would be to just enjoy time alone. Go for a long walk on your favorite park, enjoy and admire the beauty of nature... if your nearest big park is far away and your home has a roof where you can lay down and look at the stars, go ahead and spend the night looking the the amazing night sky filled with stars and soon your mind will start racing with thoughts about the world/universe... you might want to take your MP3 with you and listen to your favorite music and or think of just what a young person you are becoming now that you just turned 19! take this day to spent it alone or with a close somebody analyze your life at this point in time... make a list of the things you might want to change and or improve on. Plan this day to be as relaxing as possible to you surrounded by nature and it's mystery's look up at the sky in the morning, if you have a camera, take pictures of the blue sky and the cloud formations then at night when you look up at the stars, take pictures of these and have them as a memory of how the sky looked on your 19 B-day! both by day and by night! I bet the sky will look amazing! this will be a reminder that you are an amazing person and you want certain things in your life to take a positive change, like the relationship between you and your parents needs to be worked on for a positive permanent change.
- Certain things might not work out for the better but you will at least know that YOU gave it a shot and nothing else other than your efforts to make things right should matter.
- One important key to being happy throughout life is to remain positive no matter the harsh situations that life brings upon us.
- Live life the positive way and many unopened doors will open just for you.
- Help others, help yourself, spread love around! and you will be rewarded with the most amazing experiences a human being has ever undergone.
- In other news...I wish you an early healthy B-day! enjoy your day thinking of your accomplishments and how far you have come!
Best always,
-trueadvice3
my cousin tried to overdose herself last week and yesterday i was telling her about when i was depressed and tried it myself- and I told her that if she ever needed someone to talk to that wouldn't judge her that she could talk to me...and then she rung her sister and told her what i had said...and Gemma told her that i had said that i wanted to hang myself, and I didn't, I did tell her that i think about it sometimes but i would never do it again. Now my most of my family is pretty annoyed at me for talking about suicide to her so soon after she had attempted it. I was meant to be staying at her house that night but my sister rang my dad and had him pick me up as soon as Gemma told her what i was saying. All I was trying to do was tell her that i was there for her if she needed to talk. And now it's been blown out of proportion and I am getting those feelings back because i just want to escape from all this.
i actually have no idea what to do..
Hey,
First off, I am glad you even tried to make your cousin feel better. As we both now now, it did not work out at all.
You might be asking yourself what did I do wrong? or what mistake did I make for this good intention to come out the wrong way?... well what you did was basically talk about your own thoughts of suicide and how you still think of doing this but you would NOT do it again. When giving someone advice on something as serious as this topic, one should not tell the other person that went through the same thing that you yourself, still think of doing it... what this other person wants to hear are words of encouragement and feelings of being cared for. you offered her your help and advice but at the same time you let her see a great weakness in you which are your suicidal thoughts still. What she needs to see is a strong person that will do anything and everything to get better soon. Someone to model positive behavior through this can still be you... the only thing you have to do is prove to everyone that you are indeed moving on with life and leaving behind such negative suicidal thoughts... work on healing yourself first and then you will truly be able to help others because they will look up to you and go to you for advice on how you yourself dealt with your problems.
- I say have a talk with your parents and let them know that you only meant to talk and that you will do your best to move on yourself because lets be honest here... you yourself are having a bit of hardships right now. This is totally fine! the thing here is... enough is enough! start enjoying the amazing things life has to offer! smile and start experiencing the most unimaginable moments hidden in life! you are the one that ultimately decides your path in life... be part of the healing process I guarantee you that once this process is over with, you will feel a sense of freedom and many un-noticed positive things in life will begin to surface making life more enjoyable and most of all, giving you the tools for you to give others a hand.
- I wish you the best of luck you can do this with dedication and through talking things out with your family in a calm manner. Open up to the like never before stay relaxed and they will see that you are more mature than ever.
- I am always here to answer any other of your questions or concerns
Best Always,
-trueadvice3
I am from london
Lol this is crazy, but who knows I can find some god advice here!
Ok, I'm a guitarist and songwriter who has achieved alot this year in LA, the city I love. Now that the summer has arrived I have two choices. 1) stay in los angeles and have the time of my life but put my music dream to the side...also i have no job so ill be spending all my money...also dont know anybody but count on my social skills...b) go home to dreary london and lock myself up in a room all summer studying music...dark and depressing but when come bk to la next semester im all ready to conguer the music world!
so both are extremely amazing yet both have their serious down sides...
whats more important? should i go home and study or stay and have fun?
tx for ur time people :)
This must be a tricky decision for you to make my friend but I suggest to reach your dreams and work hard what do I mean? I mean go back to "dreary" London and get to work ASAP! no one becomes successful just by fooling around and having fun bro! this career well, any good career takes time, patience, and most of all dedication! don't waste your money and most of all time fooling around in L.A NOT working on what you love to do best!
- I say go back to London awwww... yes indeed go back and get to work on creating amazing music for the world to appreciate and love... in the end all your work if done correctly and with patience will pay off like you have never imagined! hey! you might even say to yourself: "I am so glad I did not waste my time here in L.A one time when I coud have been working... look at me now! THIS IS AMAZING!" ha ha
- I know it might not seem like a good idea to you at all but life is all about making important sacrifices to get closer to ones greatest goals.
- In the end like I told you, it will all be worth it because believe it or not, you might just end up living in L.A! haha
- Don't let anyone or anything stop you from being the best you can be in order to achieve your greatest dreams dream big and act big! get to work my friend! and share your music with the world in a later future when you will be having true fun in L.A!
I wish you the best bud and keep strong.
-trueadvice3
AHHHHH!!!!! ok now that changes everything bro!
- I say make sure they are serious about working with you and most of all that they believe in your work! they might just be offering to help you for the money and that's just not a correct thing to do.
- If you think you are ready, (by me saying ready, I mean that you MUST feel it in your heart bro) if you are confident that the material you have right now is up and ready for the world, and it is an honest representation of you as an artist, then go ahead and do it.
- If you know for sure that you still need to work on some things making them the best of the best, I say take your time and don't rush it at all, the people offering you to help you record your material will understand if they really want to help you and will continue the offer if they are interested in you.
- I think it is important to know who you are working with and sit down or give them a call and if you are ready, let them know and get working! =)... but if you come to the conclusion that right now it is no the time, then let them know that there are things you still need to fix/and or think through before you take this HUGE step because you are going to record bro this is huge and it can ultimately make or break you... and of course you want to bring your BEST material to the table!
- If you are READY, go for it and make magic bro if you are not, give them a call and they will understand and keep in contact with you for when you are. If they have a true interest in you, they WILL NOT just let you go think about it if they do, they are not worth it and I am sure you will get another offer because of your hard work!.
- If anything feel free to E-mail me and let me know how everything turns out and or is going for you.
- I wish you the best bro!
take care,
-trueadvice3
17/m
just so everyone understands, i am deeply spiritual in an occoultic or light-worker manner.
There are two main people i am torn between as leaders of two different groups, one from out the other. One in my original group is my teacher, Becca, and the other one has been a second mom and a confidant in the past, Summer.
These groups arent neccessarilly the same as cliques but psychic circles. Becca and summer have been at eachothers throats lately. Its for the same reasons as it has been Becca vs. whoever in the group. I left beccas group thinking it was time to do so, and joined Summers group. A sin against Beccas group. But then i started to feel closer to becca, i started praying for her and the group. I even started drawing wolves (symbolic to her as it part of her nickname. I felt a mix of emotions, thinking i have headed in the wrong direction. I have saved a chat log of summer, myself and a guy named Daniel talking and planing on the new group. Days later when i returned to the old group I had discovered Daniel had leaked some sort of information to Becca, and another person of leadership had enquired information from me so I had to show him the chat logs. I had intended to hide it but figured if Becca knew, it might bring eople closer together and know the true nature of those who left.
Some people in Beccas group are untrusting of the intentions of others. While I tried to leave with a whisper instead of a bang, a bang was percieved.
So i have lost a "mther" and one of my better friends, Daniel, is paranoid of me.
Im really not sure whats up with me because my heads been in a haze and my heart as well.
Along with my normal levels of impulsive insanity this is the worst display. Which impulsivenss is not my ownly insanity. Ive been contemplating suicide.
please do not condemn me as a sinner, i do that enough to myself.
hey
first and for most take a deep breath and relax...
I know what you are going through is pretty much hurting you and the people that said they cared for you seem not to care at all.
- I know you are an amazing person and some of your ex-group members are showing signs of jelousy which is not at all healthy for any sort of relationships.
- I say, know who truly cares for you and know the people that want to help you through this issue.
- Don't worry, life brings all of us great challenges and it is up to us to fight for our happiness and well being. You are a warrior and I know you know that being surrounded by negative people is not going to do you any good.
- You are staring to realize who these so called "mother" and "best friend" truly are.
- If they deserve to be called this, they will want to fix things with you and move on. If not, then it is going to hurt YES it is... but you will have to move on to better peopole and be surrounded by those who love you for who you are and appreciate all that you have done for them.
- Live life doing positive things and learning hoe to deal with hardships in a positive manner dont give up and let this situation get to you.
- Relax, keep yourself focused for a true enjoyment of the many amazing things that life has to offer surrounded by true caring people and away from negative thoughts and actions.
- I know you can do it make your decisions into a loving environment away from jelousy and hatred and into love and positive change
-you are not a sinner at all sometimes religious cults are too hard on people and I think that is not fare.
- follow your heart into a loving life path I know you have so much left to experience in this world and so many things to learn.
- I am here as well if you ever need to talk, you are welcomed any time to express your thoughts and ask me any questions that you might be finding hard to answer during this hectic period.
- I wish you the best always and looking forward to getting an E-mail or a reply to my answer and your question.
-Keep strong I know you can do so much to make everything better.
-atruefriend3
How do I shave my penis i think it'sreally ugly and needs to be shaved right away, im self concious
this is quite a question because I think what you meant is that you need help on how to shave your penis hair not how to shave your penis! lol but at least you posted it on here and I know what you meant lol Well, to answer your question you basically just use a razor and if you don't have one then just use scissors and trim it down. Now don't go using a razor if you dont know hoe to use one! you gotta be careful ask your dad to teach you how to use one first. of course you are not going to go into detail with him of why you want to know because you might be shy about it but ask and you will know. - on another note...Don't worry bro everyone is and can be self-conscious about there body and hygiene.
- if you feel it doesn't look attractive and shaving some hair down there might help, go for it there is nothing wrong with that many guys do this your not the only one.
- Best always and take care!
-trueadvice3
I met this girl in February. Had a great time with her, we went out a couple of times, then school hit her and I didnt get to see her for months.
Last friday we went out and had a great times, but a part of me feels like perhaps I didnt give her enough attention. She was with her friends, so when I wasnt talking with her, I would talk with them.
Anyways, since Friday I have been struggling. I cant get my mind off of her and I dont know how to tell her I miss her. She lives 2 hours away, so I cant tell her face to face. I have no car here, so driving there is out of the question. I would love to surprise her, but I would end up just feeling weird, like a stalker.
I wanted to sned her a text, but I feel weird doing that, however other than facebook, its all I can do... I was going to send "I miss you so much. I dont know whats happened to me, but I cant stop thinking about you..."
She has told me a couple of times, she misses me. But I just cant let this feeling be held up inside, its torturing me...
Hey,
I can tell the feelings of care here are mutual.
She cares for you and you care for her (love her)
- Now... she has even told you that she misses you and this is something to take great note of because now you know how she feels and so should not be afraid to express your own feelings to her. She has opened up to you and I think it is only fare that you do the same.
- Something to take IMPORTANT note of here is that the key to a happy/successful relationship is to be honest and express each others feelings to each other... doing so will enforce feelings of care and love that you both have for each other. If this is not being done, the other might think that they are not truly cared for by the other and so feelings of care and love might start to fade away.
- I say express what you feel inside for this girl let her know that she is loved, let her know that you care about her. She needs that positive feedback from you and of course you will be getting that positive feedback back from her since she is being aware that you do care for her.
- Once you have said all the feelings you have been building inside of you to her, you will breathe in fresh air and be amazed of how "free" you might feel for expressing all the amazing things you feel for this girl.
- I don't know how she feels towards you because I am not psychic lol she might only feel a friendship love towards you or a romantic love towards you.
- YOU are the only one who knows this for sure because you are the one spending time with her and depending on the things you guys have been doing then it can be considered romantic or just friendly. This is your call, so if you know FOR SURE or just THINK you guys have a romantic connection, then go for it buddy! open the door to many amazing experiences that are yet to come out of this love story ha ha :)
- either call her and talk to her VOICE TO VOICE (NOT TEXTING THAT'S JUST NOT RIGHT IN MY OPINION)
having her listen to your voice will be better because it is coming 100% from you and not from some machine. but if you want to text her and can't do voice to voice, that's completely ok as long as what you write to her is coming from the heart and if it is, LET HER KNOW that what you are saying IS indeed coming from your heart and thoughts... she will really like that.
- I wish you the best and let me know how everything turns out if you have the time.
Best always,
-trueadvice3
I'm a marine.
I was looking at the memorial ceremony for a guy I knew and they were showing pictures of his wife and I just want to know why I survived and he didn't. Why was I sent home to a bitch that cheats on me when he could have been sent home to a wife who loves him? WHY?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!!?!?!?
Hey,
- As you know, life is all about coming face to face with the most craziest and difficult of all obstacles. Sometimes we don't deserve the certain things we get but at the same time, we are the ones in charge of weather we want to move on for the better or if we want to submerge ourselves in complete grief and be miserable for eternity.
- Your situation is devastating and I am sure you are lost,confused, and angry for what your partner did to you.
- I say take it easy, you know the truth now... better to know than not know at all for the rest of your life and still be with her.
- You are going to have to make the decision of leaving her or giving her another chance. If you haven't made the decision, think things through... ask yourself why she did this and if the pain is too much, then you are better off with someone else who truly appreciates you for the amazing person you are.
- Don't waste too much time thinking of why certain things happen, the thing is they happen (weird and cruel but they happen) there is nothing one can do but move forward and enjoy life surrounded by LOVE and those who love you... friends and family.
- I am sure you will find someone who you can give all the love that you have to offer to them. Someone purely, and truly worthy of your love,care, and respect.
- I am sorry for the guys death and I am telling you not to let this bring you down get back up, enjoy life like you are dying help others in need just like you are doing.
- Most of all, see this experience as an opportunity for a new fresh beginning away from that person who hurts you when you only want love from them.
- The key is to forgive this person and move on no matter how hard it might be. You have shown just how much of an amazing person you are by staying faithful to her. It says so many good things about you and I think you should know this.
* enjoy the many amazing things life has to offer leaving behind with hard work those that are hurtful.
- This might be just one of the many challenges life has for all of us in this case yourself.
don't let ANYTHING stop you from loosing faith and enjoying life to the extreme around people you care so much about.
- I wish you the best now and always,
-Take care,
-trueadvice3
All my attempts to improve my life or move forward just set me back. All my acts of kindness are misunderstood. Nothing I thought I was good at succeeds.
Be honest, is there just a point in life where you should stop caring about anything and wait patiently for death? Because that's what I'm feeling.
Male, late 20's.
Hey bro, hows it going?
first and for most I applaud you for posting your question on here and I am more than happy to help you.
- I want you to know that there are points in life where everything we say and do seems to be pointless and most of all useless.
- But at the same time, life just will not get tired of bringing to our lives the most difficult obstacles possible that we must face like brave warriors.
- I know you might be frustrated and angry/impatient with yourself and the people around you right now but all you need is time to think things through and talk to someone that will be there to listen to you.
- Your acts of kindness might be misunderstood by many but you know you are only wanting to do good and that's all that really matters.
- tell me, what acts of good have you done that have been misunderstood? maybe it is all just about knowing how to do such acts so as to not make them seem like you are wanting to do harm to others.
- I know you are a strong person I believe you can overcome this issue and I am here to help you out and most of all listen to anything that might be bothering you in this world.
- Believe it or not, there is indeed a potent reason for you to want to continue your life! I know so... it is just that right now you are too confused and have given up hope but I am here to bring that hope back and be here for you to talk about the many things that are stressing you out.
- I need more details on your issue to be able to fully help you and I know you can make things better... it is all about working on certain key things that will ultimately make you feel better both physically,mentally, and emotionally.
- Life is can be amazing and truly pure... full of bad and yet glorious and superb experiences, it is up to you the warrior to fight through any obstacles that come your way with a little bit of help from people that truly want to help others, these warriors can become the best they can be.
- I wish you all the best and looking forward to your response to my question I am here to listen to you.
-trueadvice3
so he said cheyenne and my name is courtney. not cheyenne. so then he aske dme who my crush was and i said "u" then he said "sry i gtg sry" so then the next day here is our convo. me/ hey/ him/hey you wanna come over to my house and have sex/ me/ awwww i wish i could but im at mmy gmas/ him/really???/ me /yesss/ him/ prove it/ me/how/ him/send a naked pic of yorself or come over/ me/eeeeew no and i told you im at my gmas/ him/ well if you came over it would be a diff story but your too goodie goodie/ me/no im not wheneever girls start sexting bad things happen/ him/nothing bad will happen/ me/yess it will and your not getting the pic. so ever since then we havent been textin as much as normal. what do you think is going on with him. please help me. since your a dude. thankyou in advance.
no problem take care!
me 13/f him 13/m now i know that you are a male but you have given me really good advice before so i wanna ask you this. it might be long. ok so there is this guy i have a MAJOR crush on. hes my neighbor and we go to school together. were both moving on to the 8th grade. and at the beginning of 7th grade he asked me out. i told him i wasnt aloud bc my mom dont want me goin out with my neighbors. so then we didnt talk for like 2 months. but now weere talking almost everyday and texting everyday. and whenever we wlak home together he touches me. first it was my butt but now its my boobs.so i know hes got a crush on me. so now that was the back story the resent stoory is......... we text all the time during the summer and we were texting one day and i asked him who his crush is and his reply was "chey i guess" and cheyenne isnt my name. i will continue thos story on another question.
Hey, I don't think anything too serious is wrong with this guy. The thing is... he is very,very young and at this age a males hormones are pretty much acting up every single day from the time they wake up! the same applies to you in that you are still way too young and might get blinded by someone elses true feelings and intentions. This guy might not even want something too serious with anyone at all other than just touch females and get something more out of them if you know what I mean. Someone who truly cares,loves you and most of all RESPECTS you... will not go as far as to be touching you in inappropriate ways! you yourself no matter how you feel towards him should ask for respect and to be treated like the young lady you are. Trust me, the majority of what guys want at this age is to just mess around and don't really care at all. You have got to be careful and analyze peoples true intentions and should NOT be rushing into things at all. If it is pure love he feels for you he will like I said respect you, give you your space, take you out to dinner, take you out to just hang around town, have fun going to the movies or going to a fare but not doing anything inappropriate at all. Love is a beautiful thing wait until you really are sure (100% sure) that you have found the most caring, respectful and loving person to even think of going out with them. At this age you are a bit too young I say what you have to do now is just analyze/study the way guys are so in the future when you are more mature and ready to go have a boyfriend, you know exactly what type of guys to stay away from and avoid as well as what type of guys you are more like;y to date and go out with.
-Don't be blinded especially at this age please take it slow and don't get too excited and or rush into things
- like I told you LOVE is something beautiful that if truly pure, one needs to know who is truly worthy of their love by just waiting until a more mature age say... 17 0r 18 to make a final decision and start going on dates
-your parents are only going to want to protect you, trust me so don't get angry at them or anything they only want you to be happy and not get hurt especially at this young age.
- I say, Crushes are an amazing thing to have but once you analyze the person you have a crush on, you might find things that might turn you off... so know the person inside out and demand respsect at all times because you are worth more than what others might think.
I wish you all the best always and remember your ABC'! *Avoid Bad Company!- no matter if they give you butterfly's in your stomach- better to live happy and safe than to go through grief at a young age.! always take care of yourself and value you for who you truly are.
-trueadvice3
I have read tons of "Don't commit suicide" pages, and I fully understand how "wrong" it may be to commit suicide, but what you people don't understand is how much of a failure I am. All this, "It's going to be ok" Or "I love you" Or "You'll make it!" is nothing but a load of crap. I'm not going to make it, I'm going to continue to mess up, and be a failure, there is no hope, and there is no reason for living. If I am going to live, it's going to be for me, not for my family or some random friend. There is no point in living if I can't be happy, do what I want, or eventually get what I want. Basically, my life is worthless, and I was wondering if anyone who has been suicidal in the past has any experience to share. "See a doctor" and "Take medication" are on my to do list, but I don't see how they can fix my crazy. And even still, I don't think they can fix my constant aptitude for failing.
Hey, to fully understand and help you, I need a detailed explanation of why it is you consider yourself a failure?
as well as a list of the things that might be bothering you at this point in your life... it can be anything from school, friends etc.
- feel free to add anything else that you think might make me fully understand your situation I really want to help you.
- I know you can move on I just need YOUR help to be able to do give you the most solid advice I can offer you.
- I will reply as soon as I get your reply
looking forward to hearing from you.
-trueadvice3
13/f
To me death is soo scary. When I was little I would stay up half the night crying bc a thought of death entered my mind. I know nobody knows what happens when we die bc nobody has been through it to tell anybody else. But I have a few theories.
1.) that when we die we just get reincarnated into someone else. That there is a heaven but only for people who truely deserve to go. Bad people go to hell. REALLY good people go to heavn and the people in the middle get reincarnated.
2.) that when we die thee is ABSOLUTELY no heaven and you just poof and your gone.
So can anyone help me. I hate having to wake up in the middle of the night bc I'm crying of watll happen. Does anyone support my theories. Please help. Thx in advance.
wow that is truly something...
what I can say is that no one truly/purely knows what happens to us/souls when we die... but I don't want you to be sad or bothered by this at all.
I asked myself the same question once I wondered and wondered just like yourself but then I said to myself...I know that no one in this world is perfect NO ONE! but I know that I have NOT done any bad to people and I am good to the ones that are around me as long as you live life the positive way.. this being: not killing anyone or being racist and treating people bad, and doing your best to help those in need and being there for them if they are going through harsh times. stay away from negative people and do your part to make things right when someone is in trouble and or is being treated unfairly.
- doing your best to go through your life in the most positive way possible, is key to not fearing death and being at peace at least with yourself that whatever happens after death, you know you will go to a place full of wonder and tranquility because you have been a good person throughout your human life.
- DONT get me wrong! there are people who do bad things and yet can still be at peace with themselves when they die because they end up repenting and being truly sorry for there negative actions in life... no one is perfect but YES there are those committed to hate and suffering in this world and then their are those who are committed to help those in need of help and spread LOVE across the face of the earth.
- Do your part to be at peace with yourself and help those around you who need help
- Don't worry so much as to where you are going after you die because one should not be worrying about this but be enjoying life on this amazing earth helping those in need and spreading messages of love and peace around it.
- This should be enough to grant you a wonderful place after "death" which to many can be a scary thing but if one does good things on earth, they have NOTHING at all to worry about!
- There you have it! I hope you have a better understanding of this concept and can stop worrying so much about this phenomenon... you are in charge of where you go after your life on earth is over... weather it be heaven, a peaceful place, another planet etc.
-trueadvice3