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Why me?
I'm a marine.
I was looking at the memorial ceremony for a guy I knew and they were showing pictures of his wife and I just want to know why I survived and he didn't. Why was I sent home to a bitch that cheats on me when he could have been sent home to a wife who loves him? WHY?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!!?!?!?
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Hey,
- As you know, life is all about coming face to face with the most craziest and difficult of all obstacles. Sometimes we don't deserve the certain things we get but at the same time, we are the ones in charge of weather we want to move on for the better or if we want to submerge ourselves in complete grief and be miserable for eternity.
- Your situation is devastating and I am sure you are lost,confused, and angry for what your partner did to you.
- I say take it easy, you know the truth now... better to know than not know at all for the rest of your life and still be with her.
- You are going to have to make the decision of leaving her or giving her another chance. If you haven't made the decision, think things through... ask yourself why she did this and if the pain is too much, then you are better off with someone else who truly appreciates you for the amazing person you are.
- Don't waste too much time thinking of why certain things happen, the thing is they happen (weird and cruel but they happen) there is nothing one can do but move forward and enjoy life surrounded by LOVE and those who love you... friends and family.
- I am sure you will find someone who you can give all the love that you have to offer to them. Someone purely, and truly worthy of your love,care, and respect.
- I am sorry for the guys death and I am telling you not to let this bring you down get back up, enjoy life like you are dying help others in need just like you are doing.
- Most of all, see this experience as an opportunity for a new fresh beginning away from that person who hurts you when you only want love from them.
- The key is to forgive this person and move on no matter how hard it might be. You have shown just how much of an amazing person you are by staying faithful to her. It says so many good things about you and I think you should know this.
* enjoy the many amazing things life has to offer leaving behind with hard work those that are hurtful.
- This might be just one of the many challenges life has for all of us in this case yourself.
don't let ANYTHING stop you from loosing faith and enjoying life to the extreme around people you care so much about.
- I wish you the best now and always,
-Take care,
-trueadvice3
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aw that is so sad. i don't understand how life works sometimes either. i'm guessing your still young though and you have time to live and find someone else. make sure you be as supportive as you can to his wife i can only imagine how hard that is :/
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I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you may have received and may continue to receive from others.
I believe you are going through what the doctors call Survivors Remorse. I am not a doctor and I do not know much about this particular problem other than it is something that affects military people more often than civilians. We have probably seen it in every war that has ever been fought. It was during the Korean War or Vietnam I believe that the doctors actually put a name to it.
It is not the type of problem that time will heal or that you can take a pill for. You need to speak with a professional therapist trained to deal with this problem and help you work through it. Contact your VA representative and ask for medical assistance with this problem.
Thanks for serving and I am always here should you want to talk or have a question I might be able to help with. Just select my mail box on this sight and direct you question to me.
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There is no answer really and it sucks. Life is what it is and you have to enjoy the things you have while you have them.
A friend of mine who is in the air force recently lost his 28 year old wife to a brain hemorrhage. They honestly had the best relationship I have ever seen first hand, like a fairy tale. It really affected me but I try to learn what I can out of all of life's experiences. This one definitely is being able to enjoy the things you have right now. Make changes to make your life better NOW. You have one life to live and you don't know how long it will be. Even though he died, just like my friend, she probably wouldn't take back the life she had with him just because this was going to happen. It was worth the pain she feels now. So make your life what you want it to be, do the things that make you happy and enjoy life. It's a ride of ups and downs you just have to roll with the punches and make the best out of it.
Try to help her through this time and give her as much support as possible, but when it comes down to it, she has to heal on her own. As far off as it may seem she will be happy again and you will too. Try to remember the good times you had with him and not the sadness his death brings. Keep his memory alive, not his death. Good luck. You all are in my thoughts.
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