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Hello everyone, I am here to give the best of my advice... Any questions no matter the topic are always welcomed, I am serious about giving advice and helping people no matter who they are. you guys will get the purest and most truest advice from me every time. I take my time to answer every question and every single one asked, will get an honest answer. Don't hesitate to ask me a question about anything that might be bothering you or that you need to get off your chest, I am here so start asking away! I will reply as soon as possible. Best regards,
-trueadvice3
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i have blood in my semen when i jack off but i doesnt hurt and i cant see a doctor
what should i do
bro, you need to get to the doctor! thats the only place you will get that fixed once and for all. Sometimes we have to do things that we dont want to do but that are 100% necessary. Your health is on the line here buddy. go for it you can do it rather be healthy and live on than suffer the great bad consequences of not doing the correct thing.
I wish you the best bro, and I know you will do the right thing, if you want to talk about it im here just drop me a message
all the best,
- trueadvice3
i dont want to live any more. everybody thinks im so happy. they think i have a great life. even my friends dont know who i really am inside. im so miserable. i feel empty. i dont want to live any more. i went to school today and realized i just dont belong here at all. this is what i want to do. i dont want to live any longer. i dont want to feel this void any more. nobody knows how it is. everybody thinks i'm so funny and happy and inside i feel like i'm dying. i'm such a fake. it's like i'm stuck in this dark place and i can't get out and there's no other way to end this suffering of mine.
how can i end my life without causing a lot of pain or mess? i dont want to suffer any more. what can i do that is effective? this is going to be a surprise to so many so i'd prefer it to not be so messy so nobody has to like clean up a mess. nobody understands this feeling. im so alone
Hey bro thanks for posting your question one here. though let me tell you one thing... no one is going to tell you to ways for you to end your life... they are all messy and they are all more painful than you think they are.
Furthermore, I want to say that you are not alone at all on this situation... many many people have felt the same way you have many have survived this horrible life experience and many just gave up hope. There is hope where you least expect it bro, you are showing that you still have hope by posting on here and I applaud you for that. I know hoe horrible you must have been feeling and probably feel but I am here with you unconditionally... I want you to talk to me about what it is exactly that you are going through right now... lets talk about everything you want to improve and everything you are feeling... I might be a stranger but trust is an important thing and I value that a lot. let's analyze everything together and talk about a lot of things that you have inside of you waiting to just get out and make you feel liberated and better. I don't want you to suffer dude, not at all I don't want that for anyone and I am here for you so please give me a chance and let's talk about it.
- I know you are stronger than what you think you are I know you have it in you to be the best you can be... push this situation out of the way and show life just how much of a warrior you are... life can bring us many great challenges... we have to prove to ourselves that we are not going to let any negative vibes influence out existence here on earth... life is so amazing bro, you just have to be super strong in harsh conditions in order to move forward with life and experience the most amazing of experiences life has to offer.
- You are not fake... there are people who go through the same things as you are going through and yet, they have won the battle against evil vibes that threaten to put them down.
- I am here for you I want to talk to you about everything give me a chance. No matter what, I am here to listen and help guide you through this hardship that you are going through.
- You can beat these negative feelings... I know you can and I believe in you and your potential to NEVER give up no matter what obstacles life brings.
- You can get out of this buddy I will be by your side through all this. talk to me i'm here unconditionally
-trueadvice3
okay im not sure how this site really works but i need advice... im a seventeen year old guy and my girlfriend is sixteen. shes super into cheerleading, shes done it basically her whole life and is on the varisty squad and this super intense competetitve squad. well they had a competiton last week and i guess it was a pretty huge deal and her stunt group (shes the girl in the air) messed up or something and she broke her leg... yeah so they didnt place too hot. i took her home from the hospital later but she was sobbing the entire time and i didnt know what to say or do and i tried to compare it to losing a big game in football anddd breaking my leg all in one day but even then i still didnt know what to say so i just took her to get ice cream haha and she just cried and cried and i felt horrible. shes been depressed ever since. she cant cheer (and its basically her life) and she feels guilty cause she thinks its all her fault they didnt place well and shes super stressed because she wants to cheer in college and make a nation team but recovering from a broken leg takes a long time and so shes got a huge disadvantage because she cant train or improve or anything. shes just so bummed all the time and i dont know how to help her... i wanna give her space but i also just want to make her feel okay but nohting i say will help so what can i do???
Hey, Thanks for posting your question on here
Wow... first off I am sorry for what happened to your gf but I have to give you props for being there for her even in the hospital... says a lot about you as a person.
- What your gf needs right now is for people to stop mentioning anything related to what happened really... like anything having to do with competitions etc... she does not want to hear that at all as I am sure you know that by now... Furthermore, what she need right now is solid motivation... you need to give that to her... words like listen gf (don't know her name so lets refer to ger as gf) I know you are a strong person.. you have showed that to me and your squad as well... don't think that what happened was your fault.. things like these happen all the time... I know you are feeling sad and down but don't worry, life is all about the failures and great comeback stories of people just like you! I know you are a great competitor/cheerleader and you cannot let this situation step on you and bring you down whatsoever! chase that dream of yours! take this experience as something that will only make you stronger instead of weak and depressed... you are stronger than what you think you are and you are not seeing that but I am here to remming you of how great you are and how much of a determined person you really are. It will take some time to heal of course but your future goals are not going to be effected by this at all! you give it time for you to get stringer and fit... and when you do, you will get back in there stronger and more determined than ever! this is an experience that will make you notice that even the best fall down but when they fall, they get up and come back to the field stronger and more powerful than ever.
- She need to here these strong words coming out of you... something as deep, simple and strong as this will surely bring her up... especially if it is coming form the person she loves... and if when you tell her this you guys are alone and talking in a quite environment... you need to be serious but at the same time have a caring tone on your face... touch her cheek while you talk... or touch her tenderly on leg... this acts of kindness will remind her for sure that she is stringer than what she thinks she is sometimes... make her realize that things like these happen and when she gets better she will have a great comeback!
- I wish you the best... if you have any more questions or need any other sort of advice I am here dude no worries... now go have a private talk with your girl and make your speech as close as this one!
best,
-trueadvice3
I'm a freshman in college and it's only the 6th week of school. I have several people that I'm friends with and hang out with but it's kind of scattered. I don't really have like, a defined group. It's weird over the weekends because I like to go to parties but I don't have a big group of friends to go out with, just like a couple of people. I want to make more friends, but how? Of course there's the cliche suggestion to join clubs and I do that of course, but there haven't been many events and I feel like you kind of just make aquaintances in those environments. I don't know, it just feels weird that I only have like 4 or 5 friends that I hang out with. Is this normal? Any suggestions and especially stories of real life experiences would be appreciated=) thanks
Hey thanks for posting your question on here.
First off, having only about 4-5 friends to hang out with is 100% normal! some people like myself like staying alone and only have about 1 good hang out friend... in the end that's all we need to be happy and have fun. Tell me something... would you really truly enjoy having a whole crowd around you who you really don't even know that well? it's better to keep it nice and short 4-5 people is great... you know everyone pretty well to the point that you trust them... I say it is fine to want more friends of course... maybe you are looking for more friends to hang out with because you are not satisfied with the ones you are hanging out with now. Take the time to actually get to know some people and know your real friends from those who seem like they are but truly aren't.
Think about it... One or even 2 friends to hang out with is more than enough to go out with and have fun... and at the same being able to have time enjoying your college experience... the more people there are, the more the drama... also, the more peer pressure can occur leading you to do things that you might end up regretting.
Overall, learn who your true caring friends are, learn how to pick the people you hang out with... of course not everyone is perfect you can have your fun too of course but let it be with some cool trustworthy person!
- A well defined group is one who is trustworthy, one who you feel comfortable in, one who would look our for you to not get into too much crazy trouble...
- enjoy college without trying to be like other people... those who see this will notice you thus you will stand out.
wish you all the best and don't worry to much about hanging out with a definite group.. it's better to take your time figuring out who is worth getting to know and hanging out with than not doing so and end up in bad situations.
if you need anything else have questions about something let me know
best,
-trueadvice3
Have just taken more paracetamol. What else can i do to help me end my life
it seems like you are only playing games...
if you wanted to end your life already you would have... trust me when it comes to ending your own life, it is not hard at all. It is all about wanting really deep inside to do it. And I can see you really don't want to do that, I am here offering my help and unconditional advice. you are not taking this seriously. I can't help someone who does not want to be helped.
- I wish you the best my friend, I really do, if you want to be happy and the best you can be, I am here... it is all up to you.. your life is ultimately in your hands not mine it is a difficult choice you have to make but I am here if you chose to accept my help.
*WE ARE THE CAUSE OF OUR GREATEST GRIEFS
- Hey, take care
- trueadvice3
I really do want to end my life. I just want to know how i can do it and what methods i can use
Hey, yes maybe you do want to end your life right now but you should consider yourself smarter than than and most of all strong.
Any suicidal "method" is not pretty at all you end up in torture! no way is the best way at all... trust me. But... tell the reason of why it is that you don't find a meaning in life to the point where you just want to go... what's going on? tell me I am here.
Don't give up on life no matter the situation.. you need to be stronger than that.
I am 42 and i want to commit suicide. Im down and at rock bottom. Advise me how i can do this
hey, thanks for posting your question here... even though it is not a good one so to speak... first off I want you to know that there is always a way out other than suicide to someone's problems in life...
Listen, you have to be strong, you cant let the negative things in life win this battle.
Life is all about surviving it and then moving on to being the best individuals we possibly can. I know you are a strong individual I can already tell that! by you posting something on here I can already tell that you have signs of hope of having someone to guide you and or advice you... I want you to know that I am here for you no matter what, I want you to talk to me and tell me what it is exactly that's been bothering you... I don't care how long your explanation is 2-3 pages or more! I will read it all and be there for you to help guide you and make things a bit better you know? ease things down... you need to take serious time to take a deep breath and let me know what it is you are going through... I can help you but I cant make you want or give my advice a try. But like I said, I am here for you no matter what, you can tell me what it is that's bothering I will without doubt give you the best of my advice in hopes of healing you a bit through what seems to be not so good days for you right now.
- You show signs of wanting someone to talk to.. someone who will take the time to actually help guide you and be there for you.
I am here but if you don't want my help, you can always contact a suicide hotline and give that a try... although I know that if you wanted to do that, you would have already done that in the first place so here I am my friend...
you are stronger than what you actually think you are I can already tell... it's just an external person sees more than the internal person (you)
- And if you are the same person that posted that you want to start to smoke, then I understand why you would want to do that but just don't... take it easy and I wish you the best! hope you message me back and we can get started on some amazing healing!
all my best,
-trueadvice3
Well not exactly a bad person, I just feel like a weird creep inside. I don't hurt anyone, I never get into trouble either. The thing is that I think I'm kind of slow, I miss good opportunities & I'm shy. I'm m/15. There is this addiction I have. It's not drugs or anything, it's pornography. And after I finish, I feel like an evil, dirty, creep. Then I highly regret looking at it. BUT after a day or so, I feel a need to look at it. I try to quit but I keep breaking the streak. I feel as if pornography messes up my soul & social life. It's like I'm tired of doing it, but I cannot stop. It's also a weird kind of pornography. I don't consider it gay, I DO NOT GET TURNED ON BY GUYS, I WOULD NOT EVEN THINK OF EVEN getting with one, no interest at all. I love girls. But the pornography type it transexual. I started by accident too. I was scrolling down thinking it's a girl then suprise. I do not look at gay porn. See I think the femininism & unusualness turned me on. But I cannot see a guy nude. I cannot stop.WTH!
Hey bro, thanks for posting your question on here that says a lot of good things about you. One of them is that you want to stop this addiction that is stopping you from being the best you can be.
It becomes a hard thing to stop doing when one becomes addicted to anything as we all know... I suggest you take up a hobby or hobbies such as a sport or after school activity. Not only will it help you get rid of that addiction but it will keep you busy and active. You will meet a lot of new people and at the same time be doing something fun and productive with your free time. You can do this I know you can... don't feel bad it happens to a lot of people you know?
the key here is that you have noticed that you have a problem and you want to change this because think about it.. it has basically stopped you from getting out there and meeting really cool people and being the best you can be. you need to get involved in a sport, or practice and find something that you might want to try and learn. This will help you keep busy and you will slowly forget about watching all that stuff. If you are committed and really want to change, you will make it. I am here if you need anything else don't be afraid or stop yourself form asking me anything that might be bothering you or thats on your mind. I wish you the best man! I know you can move on.
- trueadvice3
I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.
I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?
Sorry if this is too long!
hi, It is obvious he is not taking your relationship seriously... he is not a person to be trusted and if you feel that he has been hiding anything from you, then you have been doing the right thing which is to confront him about it. He has not manned up about the whole thing and so, this proves he is not worth-it at all.
Hiding things in a relationship is never a good sign... make sure you know this... move on to someone else you deserves your respect and trust. someone more caring and trustworthy. be the happiest you can be.
if you need anything else I am here,
BEST of luck!
take care
-trueadvice3
18/m
My gf and i have been together for two and a half years. In the beginning, things were going so great and we really loved eachother. But lately, i just dont even enjoy spending time with her. we argue about everything. I don't want to be with her anymore. On top of that, there's another girl that ive been talking to that i really like. I told her that we could be together once i leave my current girlfriend, and i really do want to be with her. The problem is, i cant bring myself to break up with my current girlfriend and hurt her. I know thats stupid, because ive been hurting the girl i really like all along by telling her that she and i can be together, and im having a hard time maning up and doing the right thing. Also, im leaving for college in a few days, and its 6 hours away. Any advice at all would be awesome. Thanks :)
The problem with relationships not working out is the fact that people these days do not know how to communicate with each other... all they do is argue and say hurtful things to each other... both sides want to have the last say... why throw a 2 year relationship away? was that relationship even really true love? just ending everything just like that due to arguments and no one stepping up to make things right? hmmm... I don't know but if you really don't love her or care for her in a romantic way, them maybe breaking up with her is the correct choice... the thing you have to do is basically sit down and talk to her... tell her you don't feel the way you used to feel about her anymore due to the constant arguments and negative vibes surrounding your relationship... I mean, they can be worked on of course but if you truly don't love her like that anymore than go ahead and tell her you want go your separate ways.
If she starts to beg or say why? than just tell her straight up you don't love her anymore and basically your relationship is not working out and you are just moving on. She will understand of course because like you, I am sure she is aware of all the issues you guys are having... sometimes things between people end up not working out... and that is the reality of life... she has got to accept that... if she really loves you, yes... she will feel sad but at the same time if it is not meant to be... it is simply just not meant to be... you can't force someone to be together with someone one does not love anymore... let her know as soon as possible and get all this drama done and over with... you are about to go to college... you need to be focused...
as for the other girl, hopefully this experience helps you realize that you need to have communication... talk about what you guys don't like and like about each other and work towards improving such bad qualities... this will make your relationship a much more healthy one as well as a happy long-lasting one as well. don't just "solve" things by saying oh, I think we should break up! I mean if you really love each other why end it all? I know it is very very annoying to deal with it all but in the end, it will be for the better... rare is the person who finds true love... don't just end things if what you feel for the other is really LOVE even though so many arguments take place... work on solving the issue instead of walking away from solving what could have been an amazing relationship.
I wish you the best if anything I am here
best of luck in college!
- trueadvice3
So I have GAD (general anxiety disorder). I'm on Paxil CR right now for it, but I'm switching meds soon because this one cause me to become very depressed.
Here's my problem: I started school about a week ago. I have to get up every morning at 5:30 AM because I had to take an early pre-period class...the thing is, by me getting up at 5:30 I'm constantly exhausted and I feel like I'm not getting enough sleep. The earliest I'm ever able to fall asleep is around 10, but usually 11. I can turn off the TV, turn off the lights, and just relax but I still can't seem to fall asleep until around 10-11.
And this is where the anxiety comes in...all summer I had really severe anxiety attacks. I'd wake up in the morning, just go through the day feeling anxious until around 12 AM at night I'd finally fall asleep after having multiple anxiety attacks. I started Paxil CR in July..and at first I DID notice a difference but as of a few weeks, I've been feeling really depressed and anxious, which according to my doctor is most likely due the Paxil. So today I have an appointment with my doc and I will be switching meds. Anyway, when I don't get enough sleep...my anxiety is usually 20x worse.
Just last night I had a VERY severe round of anxiety attacks from the time of getting home from school, till around 11 when I finally fell asleep. I wasn't able to go to school today. I feel like a big part of this is because I'm just not getting enough sleep.
I don't know what to do. I can't drop the early morning class, because I have to take it. 5:30 is the LATEST I can get up in the morning. I'm just wondering if anyone has any relaxation techniques to help me calm down earlier in the night and be able to fall asleep earlier? Or if anyone has any other advice on what I can do about this anxiety and sleep.
Thanks.
hey there thank you for posting you question on here.
-I am glad you are going to go see your doc today to change to a different medication... the Paxil CR seems to obviously be making you worst than better. I think you are doing the right thing already by having this medication switched.
- now... my advice to you for better relaxation and tranquility before you go to bed, I recommend taking a nice relaxing WARM not cold or semi-cold or too hot but a nice WARM bath... because warm water helps relax the muscles in the body allowing you to feel light and stress free...take your time to just lay in the tub, close your eyes and enjoy the silence that surrounds you. make sure to place a towel behind your head for better comfort this is a time for you to relax your muscles and your body before heading off to bed... if you want, you can even have your I-pod and listen to some great relaxing music while closing your eyes... take your time and let your mind be free. Having a relaxed body before going to bed is a great start to being able to have a good nights sleep.
- I also recommend doing some exercise... jogging or running is great... you will get home tired and fall asleep really fast after a warm bath or quick shower. but warm baths helps one relax better than showers.
- You can also try meditation... listen to peaceful music and close your eyes... while taking deep breaths in and out... you can do this siting down on a comfortable sofa or chair as well as laying down on your bed or any soft comfortable smooth surface.
- Yoga helps a lot too!
- You might also try something known as Guided Imagery... with this technique you can use your imagination to visualize improved health... some great Guided Imagery videos can be found on Youtube. choose the one you like the best... I personally like this one... here is the link...http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1iRd45dirYk
I wish you the best! and no worries! the change of medication might help a lot in you being able to get some good nights sleep. Along with the above techniques I gave you, you are sure to hopefully feel way better. Positive thinking can work wonders... keep the positive vibes coming into your life and you will be surprised at how much better you feel and enjoy life.
If anything, I am here any other questions are always welcomed. take care! :)
-trueadvice3
Okay, first of all I'm sixteen.
Here is my question: My best friend who is a girl(I'm a guy) asked me a couple of Saturdays ago if I would ever date her. I said yeah sure. Then the Monday of that week she kissed me, and I liked it. We hung out on Wednesday and Friday that week and we kept kissing, Wednesday was probably the most intimate kissing though. And I don't know how I feel about her and I don't think she likes me. But I can't stop thinking of her kiss. It's pissing me off also how she is acting to it. She is being kind of mean to me and telling me she doesn't care anymore and that makes me feel bad. I just want to sort out my feelings because now she thinks I like her, and I honestly don't know because I'm confused. Plus her friend whom I dislike knows I "like" her. And I think my best friend told him. ._.; And I don't want this stupid thing to go further, But I don't want to lose her friendship. Please help.
Hey, thanks for posting your question... I think you should really have a serious talk with your girl friend. Let her know how it is you truly feel about the whole situation... tell her what it is you don't like about her, and tell her what it is about her that you like... let her know how you feel thus asking her as well to be honest with you and let her tell you how she feels towards you.
You might be confused about liking her as something other than your friends but that is totally ok... you might have liked the kiss you guys had but that is not "love" sounds more like lust than love... this is why your talk ( serious talk) with her is important as well as having not only you opening up about how you feel but having her opening up about how and what she feels towards you... if it is meant to be kept as only friends, then that is fine... if it is meant to start a healthy partner relationship, then so be it... you can't fight your feelings the important thing is that both of you get this out of the way so everything can be as clear as water... :)
- you friendship wont be lost of both of you handle things in a respectful, and caring manner... there is nothing to worry about... just talking about it will help answer many question that you might want answers to. no worries bro, take it easy, have the talk and hopefully everything turns out great.
- I wish you the best if anything, i'm here PM me and we can take it from there.
take care,
Best,
- trueadvice3
Thank you for your feedback it made a lot of sence.iv had a rough life not just with my parents and siblings but as well with my ex wife she had a son from a previous mariage who I pretty much raisd since he was a year old up untill 6 .I tried everything to raise him up proper but he would see his real dad every other weekend and of course his father resented the fact that I was raising him on the fact he was mexican and I am white .two different coultures .but the child was out of control defieng everything I. Tried to bring him up as I saw right .and his mother now my ex did not like me disiplining himwhen he got in trouble so my wife at the time left me for another man {a registerd sex offender] who was shacking up in a motel . But let's go back a little I had a daughter from her to who was 3 at the time I tried to get my daughter but was thretiend with kidnapping .she told the police I was beating the kids but it was her boyfriend who did I didn't have a whole lot of money to get an attorney so I got one from the state who did nothing for me I was charged with injury to a child twice and now I have a fellony ane am not alowed to see my daughter I haven't seen her since she was 3 now she's 12 so you can see that everything is tooken from me my whole life and I live with this every day
I gotta say, that is an interesting story...
I have to add that I can understand the guys resentment towards you for being the one who raised his child... who wouldn't get jealous of having the image of a real father taken away from them?
- I can tell you one thing, you did an amazing job trying to raise that kid from up to the age of 6 and you should be more than proud of yourself for doing so! your ex probably was not liking the idea that someone who wasn't the real kids father yelled at him or spanked him when he misbehaved. But that is understandable though you did your best and that is all that truly matters in the end... nothing else but your great efforts.
it says a lot of good things about you as a human being. You have a clean conscious over that and you should give that situation a rest... you did what you could and if the biological father wants to raise him then so be it, hopefully that kid is in good hands you did your part let them do theirs.
- The situation with your daughter, let me explain something... sometimes the evil people take advantage of the good people... do not worry you have gone through false accusations but you will survive... she might be away from you right now but do whatever it takes to win her back! do not give up on this great possibility. you have the right to see your daughter but due to your felony charges you are pretty much can't at all. I suggest you start to take legal action, raise up some money and get a good lawyer so that you and your daughter can see each other again... write letters to her meanwhile ( if you legally can)tell her how much you love and care for her... express your true love in these letters and if they never get to her, at least you know you had her in your heart and one day when she grows up she will want to find you and you can show her those letters you have written to her that never got to her for some reason. I don't know how bad or evil your ex-wife is but if she does not like playing a fare and respectful game, do not give up whatsoever fight for the right to see your daughter! enough of letting people bring you down and not appreciating all that you have done..
- Hey, but take it easy do not let you anger or mixed emotions get the best of you! control yourself and do not do anything that will hurt you rather than help you. Keep positive and do everything the right way. Have patience and courage and you will finally start to improve your life.
- You will get to see your daughter sooner or later don't worry take it easy and have patience... if your ex-wife is not a good mother like she seems to me is not a good human being, then you can get all the factual and necessary prove that she is not able to take care of her daughter... start to establish yourself... get a good job, work hard and earn money for you to be able to prove to the judge etc. that you are a good person and even though you have a felony - a fake one at that, you can still take care of your daughter. you might even be able to prove that your "felony" is a fake! maybe you can get your ex-wife to admit it in court or something if this is really true.
I wish you the best!
if anything I am here
take care
-trueadvice3
Iv been serching my whole life for happyness but nothing fufilles me .I know growing up I had strict parents especaly my father who was a police oficer for 20 odd years .I was naglected and emotionaly and physacaly abused .my whole life I was rejected by family and acused of things that I did not do but hafd to live like an outcast .my family said all the time we care abut you but I wasn't treated fairly .now as an adult its hard for me to open up to anyone on the fear of rjection
hey there first off thank you for posting your question on here.
I gotta say your family treating you the way they did has something to do with how you are feeling right now. You have low self-esteem and therefore are afraid of opening up about certain things in your life and thus, you are not getting the appropriate guidance and or advice you should be getting.
- Try to move on now with life, be string and do not let anything not even this self esteem issue get in the way of you being the best you can be.
- Get help from someone you trust or from your doctor... this will help you break that shell of yours and further move you towards a more happy and productive life.
- You just need to remove this life block and you will be ok... we all have difficult times but we can all get through them... including yourself.
- this fear of getting rejected is normal due to your family experience but if anything, I am here so ask away!
I wish you the best take care and keep strong we can achieve anything we set our minds to.
- trueadvice3
18/male
Lately I've been thinking alot about just killing myself. Also i have always been a very emotionally detached perosn and Im not depressed or anything. furthermore, I have asked some very trusted people who assured me I dont act or sound depressed. Even so, I keep getting that feeling of just saying fuck it and killing myself. lately I have been partying alot more than I used to and my life probably has never been better, but I just keep feeling like i should just end it. any reason after 18 and half years of little or no emotion, i might be feeling like this now?
Hey there, you must be feeling frustrated and just about to give up on everything but my advice to you is to keep strong and fight this great obstacle that is stopping you from enjoying life to the fullest.
Ask yourself questions bro, take the time to sit down ALONE... just you and your thoughts... analyze your life by asking yourself questions such as: What happened to me in my past or what is happening in my present life that is maybe triggering these negative thoughts? do you have someone who you can truly trust and sit down or just talk to about the things that might be bothering you in life?
You are missing something bro, and you need to figure this out! take your time to really truly think about things and find the answer that will help you enjoy the amazing things life has to offer.
DO NOT whatsoever give up no matter how difficult and confuding life might be right now. I can help you bro, we can do this together... I am here for you if you need to talk and I will always give you the best of my advice that comes from my heart... I won't just say to pick up the phone and dial 911 which in a serious case you should do ( if you feel that you REALLY can't handle it anymore on your own) but I know you have it in you to be the happiest you can be... just take a deep breath and try to find the thing or things that you might be missing in your life right now... you said you have been an emotionally detached person... ask yourself WHY? and how can you slowly improve this... I know you might not seem depressed or sad to other because like you said... you have been partying like crazy! ha! lol but people just can't see how others feel in the inside... like I said, take your time to figure out the reasons behind your emotions and hopefully this will make things more clear for you... if you already know and you trust me enough to tell me why... leave me a message on here or E-mail me and I can further help you understand your troubled thoughts. I am not going anywhere bro, I am here just help me so I can help you... looking forward to hearing from you... take it easy and I wish you the best.
-atruefriend7
Hello, I'm a girl who's pretty confused at the moment. See, I like relationships (hold on dude. That's not the problem... ^-^) but once I get into them I find myself craving more independence. I think half the reason I feel this way is because I'm attracted to guys who like to be close, ya know, the let's-just-sit-here-and-cuddle kind of guys. Once I get more serious with them, I start to feel claustrophobic. It would be simple if I could find a guy who doesn't squeeze me so tight to where I can't breathe and yet likes me enough to be there when it counts. It must be my fault (obviously :p) but what can I do to fix it?
Your advice would be much appreciated :)
wow... this is quite the situation you have here... well, I think you don't want to have anything too serious with guys right now maybe because you just don't want that type of commitment yet. You probably just like the thought of being loved and cared for by someone but at the same time you don't really want any strong attachment to the relationship because you are just not that type of person... you might just be looking for a very very good guy friend who you can have an OPEN-RELATIONSHIP with meaning you have a relationship but it is just not that serious to the point that you guys are always together and start feeling claustrophobic... you guys can take it easy go have your fun and not always be together but when you guys need each other, either of you can give each other a call and you will be there for each other no matter what.I think before you head into a relationship, you should let the person know just how you are and what it is exactly that you are looking for once in a relationship... if you dont want anything too serious but still want to be loved and cared for, let the person know... and when you need each other when it counts, agree to be there for each other no matter what. Know what rules you guys are going to have in an OPEN RELATIONSHIP so that no misunderstandings take place and no one gets hurt of course it is up to the both of you to ultimately respect each other, give each other your space, and at the same time love each other, care for one another and most of all respect each other. I hope the idea of having an open-relationship is a good idea for you I think this kind/type of relationship will work for you if you have not given it a try... it can be something beautiful if managed the proper way but love itself, is one of the most beautiful things a human being can experience you are lucky you have someone who really loves you so much if this is your case. But if you want, you can give this a try and if you have any question, let me know I will be glad to help you. I wish you the best! and take it easy no worries I am here to help you :)
-trueadvice3
Erm,hi first time being here...I want to ask some advice here since no one in real life wanted to help me...You see,i''m 13,female and i'm all what you category are ugly and fat.Sure you must be thinking that 'geez,of cause people hate you because you're fat and ugly' sure sure sure,i get that a lot of times in other websites but i hope here will be a little different.
You see,i maybe fat and ugly but i have brains,i got the 3rd highest score in my class despite my sportsmanship score.I'm an artist too and i don't get mad easily or easily be offended but this problem has gone too far.I've been told by my friends that i'm perfect from their bullshitng lie,they talk at me and make friends with me but when i needed help or when i approach them they would "Shoo shoo you ugly pig,we don't know you".BUT when i don't talk to them they would scream or yelled at me calling me names like an anti-social pig.Seriously,is someone who is ignored by a friend is labeled as anti-social,from what the dictionary said it is not.
And what worse is,they act kindly at me but in own territory,they would plot to make my life more miserable.Just like 3 days ago when they 'accidentally' slipped an un-washable paint on my REPORT CARD.If its anything else i wouldn't mind,but my report card is everything i got in middle school.And what sickens me the most,when i report to the teacher,guess what?The teacher said that i'm the one who in fault!I protest and told him truthfully and i almost cry and beg to him that i am clean and to renew my report card but hell no,the bastard teacher practically took out the ranking list and put a "FAILED" chop on my name!And to think that i studied like mad to get the highest score and now all the hard work is lost,gone like the wind.
I asked my parents for help and drag them to the principal office to make a damned report.Hours and hours of discussing and instead of advising and helping me.The so-called justice principal suggest to my parents to kick me OUT of the school and go find a psychologist.I'm not mad,they are!Seriously,am i that hateful to them?just because i'm a 'pig' doesn't means that i can't change.And so,my parents take actions with the director of the school who thank god who is my uncle.The school agrees to take me in but in one condition that i start failing and be an outcast of the society.Now that got me mad,really mad.Being an outcast in one thing i totally can do but failing my only hope in life in outrageous!...
And so,i'm here sitting on the computer chair just to wait any calls from other school to say that i'm accepted to their education haven. So before i go to any new school,can anyone tell me how NOT to be hated and how to change my physical appearance?
wow, I gotta say you have gone through quite a journey, a crazy one at that! I can tell you one thing though people are always going to be rude and ignorant so don't worry too much about what people have to say... don't even react to it... keep a positive mind and go on move with you day and life be happy by going through life the positive way and not let anyone or anything at all get in the way of you being the best happy person you can possibly be! I know you are strong and I know you can manage to enjoy life and the amazing things it has to offer. You do not need to change your physical appearance to make others happy... if people are indeed you true REAL friends, they will accept you and love you just for who you are and not make fun of you to the point that it really hurts you. Yes people are going to make fun everywhere you go but you have to learn how to be strong and not let that effect you in a negative way instead, laugh at the world! take that negativity and laugh at it! make fun of their remarka they are foolish and they are the joke! not you! people like that are not worth bothering with because they themselves are not as happy as they can be. be friendly to others and dont get too angry or react in a negative way when people have something smart to say just talk to them and explain how you are feeling and tell them to stop talking to you like that or to stop making fun of you... let them know how it is you feel when they say those things and surely and hopefully if they are real friends they will stop.
- as of your health, loosong weight and keeping healthy is key to making life easier so go ahead and work-out take a 30 min. walk or jog or even get into some sort of sport! you are a creative person already! go for it live life and be happy you and every person in this world deserves to be.
I wish you the best!
-trueadvice3
hey so im 16 , straight, and i still wear whitie tighties. i get made fun of for them alot (depantsing, wedgies). im not very tall and im a little overweight. theyre tommy hilfigure and ive worn that kind since i was little. ive tried wearing boxers but they arent comfortable for me. should i wear boxers even tho they arent comfortable or should i stay with my briefs which are comfortable? i only have one pair. what age should guys start wearing boxers. most of the people in my school started in middle school i think. thanks
you only have one pair of briefs? wow! that's not good bro, good hygiene is important too.
well I say don't mind what people think man, if you feel comfortable wearing briefs then show them off and be proud! no need to make the switch to something that you dont feel comfortable in just because people make fun of it... if you want to give boxers a chance, then go ahead! but if in the end you are really truly not comfortable and do not get used to them I say stay with the briefs and buy more than one pair! :)
Best Always,
-trueadvice3
i just want my family to know how much i love them i am greatful to have my mom cuz shes been there for me my whole life n my dad he hasn't always been there but i know he is right there by my side leading me on n i am lucky to have my sisters because i know i can rely on them to always be there when i need them so can you make a poem that can explain all that
You are asking us (someone else) to make a poem that can explain this important emotion you feel for your family?
- I think you can do this all by yourself... only YOU know how you truly feel about your family and only you can give life to an amazing poem. Listen to your heart and let the tender words of love come out... you will be surprised at the amazing things you can do if they come from the deepest part of your being. You can do it! all you have to do is to let the words come from you!
Hey everyone. im evan and im 15. i have melanoma skin cancer and my 17 year old brother makes fun of me all the time. he physically hurts me (punches me in the chest and in the junk) and calls me names like "mole" or "cancer boy." hes always trying to put me down or hurt me in some way. we've never gotten along but since my diagnosis its only gotten worse.
This is also kind of a seperate question but some of my friends treat me different like its some contagious disease that they can catch if they get to close to me. What can i do to get them to treat me like they used to?
And most importantly what can i do to get my brother to knock it off and treat me with respect? I tell my parents but they dont think mitch could be like that. they think hes perfect and im the problem.
Hi Evan I think your brother is very childish and ignorant for his age! have you tried to talk to him on why it is that he treats you this way? if you have before, then maybe you really need to do it again and let him know that he is hurting you instead of helping you. Let him know that what he does to you hurts you and it makes you sad that your own brother treats you this way. Your parents seem to be very blind and ignorant as well if this is so, let your doctor know what is happening between your brother and yourself and she/he will know that this treatment is only hurting you further and it is NOT good for you at all! you need to be surrounded by people who love and care about you and not only say "I love you" but actually SHOW IT! by caring for you and treating you with respect and most of all care and understanding. you really need to express how you feel to your brother, if he still doesn't seem to understand then you need to consider having and or getting a family therapist and or just try and stay away from him because his negativity is no good for you at all. try and make your parents see that your brother's behavior is making you feel bad find some way to make them see that certain things that he does are hurting you.
- As of your friends treating you differently I can only say that kids at this young age for the most part are very immature and do the most stupidest things that hurt people and they might not be doing it intentionally at all it's just that they aren't aware of how serious your condition really is. The only thing you can do is to talk to your friend and let them know that it hurts you that they are treating you this way and inform them about your health condition... so they can educate themselves more on this and understand you a little more. Your TRUE FRIENDS will take the time to listen to you therefore understanding you more and do there best to stop treating you different. All you have to do is talk to those that are making smart remarks express how you feel to them and like I said, if they are true friends, they will listen and stop the different treatment. I wish you the best Evan! I know you are a strong person... don't let anyone bring you down or make you sad... enjoy the positive things life has to offer! I am here if you need anything else just ask me any other question or E-mail me anytime take care and keep strong buddy!
-trueadvice3