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I have cancer and my brother hurts and makes fun of me?
Hey everyone. im evan and im 15. i have melanoma skin cancer and my 17 year old brother makes fun of me all the time. he physically hurts me (punches me in the chest and in the junk) and calls me names like "mole" or "cancer boy." hes always trying to put me down or hurt me in some way. we've never gotten along but since my diagnosis its only gotten worse.
This is also kind of a seperate question but some of my friends treat me different like its some contagious disease that they can catch if they get to close to me. What can i do to get them to treat me like they used to?
And most importantly what can i do to get my brother to knock it off and treat me with respect? I tell my parents but they dont think mitch could be like that. they think hes perfect and im the problem.
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i totally agree with OhMyLucyDarling. sit down and talk with the whole family. you can also try and talk to your school's guidance councler or some adult that you really trust. as the others said, he may have some emotional problem or he may be jealous, are you getting all the attention because of your cancer? he has ABSOLUTELY NO RIGHT to do anything like that to you, that is assault.
for your friends, i would do the activities you all like to do and that you all used to do. and if they act weird you can just plain tell them, "it's not contagious, you don't have to act weird around me"
i hope i helped :) <3
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wow you need to really stand up to him. he might have some issues with his feelings. that or he is seriously mental. try to seperate your self from him. or get him to hurt you infront of a parent. or maybe throw up on him... blame it on the cancer.. or sit on his bed.. ooppps im sorry i went to the bathroom... darn cancer...
your friends dont want to get close to you because you have a life threatening illness.. like you might die.
people suck.. you will find out who your real friends are. they will never treat you the same.
:-) stay tough kid.
maybe if you bro keeps it up ill swing by n teach hima lesson.. nothing worse than getting beat up by the chick
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Sit down and talk to your brother, Explain to him that you are going through a hard time right now in your life and you need his support.
If this isn't possible to do, Then sit down with your parents and your brother and explain it. Approach it in a way (Mom, Dad..I have something I really need to tell the family) Sometimes people don't realize how important something is until they hear it. Your brother has no right treating you like this, It's wrong. I would also show your parents any proof of your brother hurting you. If you think it would be easier on you maybe you can even write your brother a letter. However, If you do try to make it straight forward on how it has effect on you. Don't swear, Don't use anger..Just write it calmly.
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Your brother has no right to treat you like that.
One possibility is that he is scared and worried about your health, and is taking his fear out on you. Or he could just be a jerk.
In either case, you need to find a way to prove to your parents he is hurting you. If there are cuts or bruises from his attacks, show your parents. They need to see some solid evidence so they can believe you and deal with your brother's behavior.
If someone sees your brother hurt you, have them back you up.
You can even hide a video camera and hope to catch him on tape, if nothing else works.
As for your friends, explain to them that skin cancer isn't contagious. It sounds like they don't know any better and are worried they might get cancer being around you. This is ridiculous, of course. They can't catch cancer from you.
Once they realize that, things should go back to the way they were.
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Hi Evan I think your brother is very childish and ignorant for his age! have you tried to talk to him on why it is that he treats you this way? if you have before, then maybe you really need to do it again and let him know that he is hurting you instead of helping you. Let him know that what he does to you hurts you and it makes you sad that your own brother treats you this way. Your parents seem to be very blind and ignorant as well if this is so, let your doctor know what is happening between your brother and yourself and she/he will know that this treatment is only hurting you further and it is NOT good for you at all! you need to be surrounded by people who love and care about you and not only say "I love you" but actually SHOW IT! by caring for you and treating you with respect and most of all care and understanding. you really need to express how you feel to your brother, if he still doesn't seem to understand then you need to consider having and or getting a family therapist and or just try and stay away from him because his negativity is no good for you at all. try and make your parents see that your brother's behavior is making you feel bad find some way to make them see that certain things that he does are hurting you.
- As of your friends treating you differently I can only say that kids at this young age for the most part are very immature and do the most stupidest things that hurt people and they might not be doing it intentionally at all it's just that they aren't aware of how serious your condition really is. The only thing you can do is to talk to your friend and let them know that it hurts you that they are treating you this way and inform them about your health condition... so they can educate themselves more on this and understand you a little more. Your TRUE FRIENDS will take the time to listen to you therefore understanding you more and do there best to stop treating you different. All you have to do is talk to those that are making smart remarks express how you feel to them and like I said, if they are true friends, they will listen and stop the different treatment. I wish you the best Evan! I know you are a strong person... don't let anyone bring you down or make you sad... enjoy the positive things life has to offer! I am here if you need anything else just ask me any other question or E-mail me anytime take care and keep strong buddy!
-trueadvice3
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