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I'm a freshman in college and it's only the 6th week of school. I have several people that I'm friends with and hang out with but it's kind of scattered. I don't really have like, a defined group. It's weird over the weekends because I like to go to parties but I don't have a big group of friends to go out with, just like a couple of people. I want to make more friends, but how? Of course there's the cliche suggestion to join clubs and I do that of course, but there haven't been many events and I feel like you kind of just make aquaintances in those environments. I don't know, it just feels weird that I only have like 4 or 5 friends that I hang out with. Is this normal? Any suggestions and especially stories of real life experiences would be appreciated=) thanks
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Hey thanks for posting your question on here.
First off, having only about 4-5 friends to hang out with is 100% normal! some people like myself like staying alone and only have about 1 good hang out friend... in the end that's all we need to be happy and have fun. Tell me something... would you really truly enjoy having a whole crowd around you who you really don't even know that well? it's better to keep it nice and short 4-5 people is great... you know everyone pretty well to the point that you trust them... I say it is fine to want more friends of course... maybe you are looking for more friends to hang out with because you are not satisfied with the ones you are hanging out with now. Take the time to actually get to know some people and know your real friends from those who seem like they are but truly aren't.
Think about it... One or even 2 friends to hang out with is more than enough to go out with and have fun... and at the same being able to have time enjoying your college experience... the more people there are, the more the drama... also, the more peer pressure can occur leading you to do things that you might end up regretting.
Overall, learn who your true caring friends are, learn how to pick the people you hang out with... of course not everyone is perfect you can have your fun too of course but let it be with some cool trustworthy person!
- A well defined group is one who is trustworthy, one who you feel comfortable in, one who would look our for you to not get into too much crazy trouble...
- enjoy college without trying to be like other people... those who see this will notice you thus you will stand out.
wish you all the best and don't worry to much about hanging out with a definite group.. it's better to take your time figuring out who is worth getting to know and hanging out with than not doing so and end up in bad situations.
if you need anything else have questions about something let me know
best,
-trueadvice3
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