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suicide
my cousin tried to overdose herself last week and yesterday i was telling her about when i was depressed and tried it myself- and I told her that if she ever needed someone to talk to that wouldn't judge her that she could talk to me...and then she rung her sister and told her what i had said...and Gemma told her that i had said that i wanted to hang myself, and I didn't, I did tell her that i think about it sometimes but i would never do it again. Now my most of my family is pretty annoyed at me for talking about suicide to her so soon after she had attempted it. I was meant to be staying at her house that night but my sister rang my dad and had him pick me up as soon as Gemma told her what i was saying. All I was trying to do was tell her that i was there for her if she needed to talk. And now it's been blown out of proportion and I am getting those feelings back because i just want to escape from all this.
i actually have no idea what to do..
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I understand that all of the feelings that you used to have are coming back now after knowing your cousin has attempted suicide and also talking about your experience with depression. I dont think your cousin realised that you was trying to help her and make her realise that you used to have these feelings but got past them and she can too.
Try and talk to your family (dad, sister and cousin) and make them realise that you were not trying to make her feel bad but that you were trying to help her by explaining that you too have been through the same feelings and thoughts and you thought by doing this she would realise she isnt the only one who feels this way and that she could speak to you when she is feeling down or upset.
Please dont think about taking your own life, you have so much to live for and you and your cousin can help each other. Imagine how upset your family and friends would be and Im sure it will make you think differently. In time things will be better I just think your family have blown things out of proportion and are looking for somebody to blame, I also think your cousin is telling one side of the story.
I hope this helps and I hope that you and your cousin will realise that taking your own lives is not the answer.
Much Love x
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Gemma is the sister?
For one night, will you just go outside, when it is pitch black, and will you look into the sky.. and see the moon, and see the stars... and can you wonder how such was created, can you wonder why such was created.
for if they're too many stars, earth would not be, and if we had fewer stars.. earth couldn't be
fewer stars too much gases
too many stars no oxygen
Don't feed your desire to end yourself, and don't let others feed it as well.
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Hey,
First off, I am glad you even tried to make your cousin feel better. As we both now now, it did not work out at all.
You might be asking yourself what did I do wrong? or what mistake did I make for this good intention to come out the wrong way?... well what you did was basically talk about your own thoughts of suicide and how you still think of doing this but you would NOT do it again. When giving someone advice on something as serious as this topic, one should not tell the other person that went through the same thing that you yourself, still think of doing it... what this other person wants to hear are words of encouragement and feelings of being cared for. you offered her your help and advice but at the same time you let her see a great weakness in you which are your suicidal thoughts still. What she needs to see is a strong person that will do anything and everything to get better soon. Someone to model positive behavior through this can still be you... the only thing you have to do is prove to everyone that you are indeed moving on with life and leaving behind such negative suicidal thoughts... work on healing yourself first and then you will truly be able to help others because they will look up to you and go to you for advice on how you yourself dealt with your problems.
- I say have a talk with your parents and let them know that you only meant to talk and that you will do your best to move on yourself because lets be honest here... you yourself are having a bit of hardships right now. This is totally fine! the thing here is... enough is enough! start enjoying the amazing things life has to offer! smile and start experiencing the most unimaginable moments hidden in life! you are the one that ultimately decides your path in life... be part of the healing process I guarantee you that once this process is over with, you will feel a sense of freedom and many un-noticed positive things in life will begin to surface making life more enjoyable and most of all, giving you the tools for you to give others a hand.
- I wish you the best of luck you can do this with dedication and through talking things out with your family in a calm manner. Open up to the like never before stay relaxed and they will see that you are more mature than ever.
- I am always here to answer any other of your questions or concerns
Best Always,
-trueadvice3
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