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What there to say about me? I'm 27 and a graduate of UCSD. Throughout my life most of my close friends have been girls so I have a unique perspective on relationships and sex. I know a lot about computers as well as random stuff in general. Feel free to ask me anything and I'll answer it to the best of my knowledge.
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I am dating someone who is a year older than I am, and he is leaving for college in t-minus two months. We discussed at the beginning of our relationship that when he left, we'd part ways. He is not willing to do a long distance relationship. Our time together is running out. We both still really like each other, even after half a year of dating (both of our longest relationship so far). I know I'm young, and this will pass, but right now, it's hard, and it hurts, and I just want to be with him for longer. Not forever, just MORE. What do I do, and was I crazy to even start this? (link)
Well, two months from now... That should put it into Summer vacation for you right? Unless you are writing from another country or a year round school or some such. College shouldn't start for a few months though, so in theory, you could go with him and spend some time there until school starts? Many people do come back home for breaks during school, which could let you spend some time together, though I don't know if he is planning to do that. If he isn't willing to do long distance, there isn't much else you can do. Maybe try to go to the same / a nearby school to him next year, and if you are both still single and interested then see where it leads? Or maybe talk to him and see if he has changed his mind about the long distance thing?


Alright so I've very insecure lately. I've always been insecure, but it got worse. Now im taking pills. I just inferring what MGs are? I know it's milligrams. But what's milligrams? I took 2 cinnamon pill mg 500 each. And 2 green tea pills. I'm not too sure how many mg that is. It says Calcium (as calcium carbonate) -165mg
Chromium (as chromium dinicotinate glycinate) - 250 mcg
But at the bottom it says Proprietary blend - 882mg
So confused. Especially when I don't know what milligrams is. I take an everyday synthroid pill for my thyroid but I still don't understand. Can someone please help me? Could I overdose? (link)
Kind of hard to explain a unit without using other units... How about this, a drop of water is approximately 50 milligrams.
Mcg is micrograms. There are 1000 micrograms in a milligram.
Proprietary blend means it's an ingredient they are not revealing because of copyright or somesuch and they want to keep it secret so no one can steal it and make money off of it.
As for overdosing, as long as you are taking the proper amounts (as prescribed by your doctor for the synthroid and as instructed on the bottle for the over the counter stuff) it shouldn't be a problem.


Sorry I'm new to this and I'm sorry if this is forward. Okay, I'm 17 & the guy I've been seeing for almost 2 months is 18. We hang out for a little over the school week & then usually all day & night Friday and Saturday nights. Yesterday we hung out all day & then we went back to my house and we were laying in my bed & cuddling. We were spooning and I could tell he was already hard from that & we had talked about hooking up a few days before. We've obviously made out before but i haven't had the chance to really do anything to him because we're never in the right place for it. I decided to give him a blow job because I have my period and it's too early for sex.

He started kissing me and we were making out & it was getting pretty heated. He was really hard and at one point he was like ontop of me and humping me so I decided it was time to blow him.

Of course I've given head before, but I've never given him head and I was really nervous. My mom was downstairs and I was paranoid so I just went under the covers and blew him down there. It was really hot under there and it was hard to do a good job. I couldn't look up at him or see how he was reacting. He was breathing pretty heavily, but about halfway through started moving his hips around. Is that good or bad? I was feeling like I wasn't doing a good job after that. I had almost his whole penis in my mouth and I was also using my hand at the bottom and had pretty good rythm. He came and i swallowed all of it and when I came up, he was smiling and I was like sorry that sucked and he was like "no it was amazing" but didnt really convince me.

He kept smiling after and I was like why do you keep smiling and he said "nothing yu just make me so happy"

After that I was pretty confident that he liked it. He was snuggling me and tickling me. I jokingly asked him what his favorite part of the njght was. He said "to see your gorgeous smile" and then he was like "but you want me to say your blow job" and then said "it was good but you can do better" I was kind of offended. Was it good or not? Should I be embarassed if it sucked?

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Him moving his hips is probably a good sign, if he was trying to get a better position, he probably would have tried to move your head with his hands.
Secondly, unless you're biting, it's pretty hard to give a bad blowjob. If he came, it means he orgasmed, which means he enjoyed it.
By "you could do better" he probably meant various little tricks some people do/like like tongue flicking or what not.
Basically, don't worry too much. He said he liked it, and he came, which should be a good hint that he liked it.


Ok so I keep seeing this book EVERYWHERE, but I need the name so I can find it online. Here's the criteria:
main character: I'm pretty sure it's a teenage guy who gets entered into a mental facility and there's a girl who's scarred her face with scissors, a 'self elected president' who I THINK is Mexican (his name is Antonio or something), and a sex addict person (I think they're all teens). And I see it a lot in places like the Barnes and Noble teen section.

I'm sorry but I only know bits and pieces of it, but thank you sooo much if you can figure it out, thanks! (link)
You're looking for It's Kind of a Funny Story by Ned Vizzini. It was also made into a movie a few years ago.


15/f my friend said that their is a birh control pill for cramps and their is another for being sexually active but im pretty sure its all the same pill..am i right? thanks (link)
There are many different brands, and some (like Yaz and Yazmin) are more targeted towards women with painful cramps, but they are all the same basic thing. The only pill I can think of that is for cramps but not for being sexually active is Midol (or other painkillers) but that's generally not what people are talking about when they say "the pill." Birth control pills are primarily for birth control, and while plenty of women who aren't sexually active take them for the other benefits, there is no special pill for those that aren't sexually active. It wouldn't really be possible anyway, since birth control pills are primarily composed of just two hormones which both relieve cramps and prevent pregnancy.


I have a 2007 Jeep Liberty, and I can not, for the life of me, figure out how to check the automatic transmission's fluid level!

The only place I can find where it looks like there should be a dipstick, there is a plug, or cap that says something about dealer use only or service use only.

How can I check the transmission fluid, if there is no dipstick?

Can someone please tell me what I should do? (link)
I searched some Jeep forums and apparently a lot of cars are now no longer coming with dip sticks. Apparently people have been taking the dip stick from the 06 Liberty and sticking that into where the plug is.


Im 13 and a girl im related to a boy i fancy we are related throuugh marage can we have sex and not be inbread (link)
Yes, inbreeding only happens for physically related people. You'd probably still get funny looks from people though because of how society looks at it.


I wear yoga pants and leggings alot for their comfort.and i have nice legs and butt. Although i.realized that my crotch is shaped funny. Like i think someone called it a camel toe before? how can i get rid ofit? (link)
Camel toe doesn't mean your crotch is shaped funny, it means it's visible through your pants. You could try buying a bigger size, or not pulling them up so high. Also, you could wear a pad (either an actual menstral pad, or just some soft padding or whatever) so the pants are so flush against your crotch and it won't be visible.


This question is for all the guys out there
My boyfriend is 17 and im 16 but i was just wondering, do guys really like eating out their girlfriends? I know they like the girls reactions or whatever but do they actually get turned on by the action of doing it? Same goes with fingering their girl, do they really enjoy that too? If so, why? And be honest please theres so many curious girls out there with this question! (link)
Some guys do and some guys don't. Some guys will do it just to make their girlfriend happy and some won't do it no matter what. It's pretty much the same as girls and giving blowjobs.


Hello,
I will be going to the states this summer (I am from Europe) and I was wondering whether it is acceptable or reasonable to ask for half sized portions when ordering a meal in restaurants?

I am not much of a big eater and also trying to watch my portion sizes and I know here it is perfectly acceptable to ask for such a request and I was just wondering if this is also fine in the US? As I will be travelling around and staying in hotels, I'd rather not have the leftovers boxed...
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We here in the US love our huge meals, so asking for half portions isn't really done, unless it is explicitly listed on the menu. (This is going by Califronia where I live, it might be different in certain other states.)
Fast food restaurants have kids meals that you can order that would be smaller.


Hey guys
So i have a question, when my boyfriend fingers me how do we know when he is done? Because for guys its different since they have an "endpoint" lol. But for girls it could go on forever right? So my question is, how does he know when to be done? What if he gets bored cuz he doesnt know when to stop? (link)
Uh no, girls have an endpoint too, if it's not obvious to him, it should be obvious to you (at which point you could tell him to stop.) If it's not obvious to you, then he is doing something wrong, to which you should better show him how to get you to orgasm.


15/f i've wanted birth control for a year becasue i honestly get the worst leg cramps when on my period. im not dramatic at all about physical pain i can take it but it literally is so bad and my mood is horribly like one second im so happy the next im crying and i eat like crazy. i just would like my period to be a little more regulated. my two older sisters take it becasue they are sexually active so they need to take it, but they said dont take it for your period because you could gain weight and your moods could be even worse. but now that im dating my boyfriend for a while i dont know when it could happen but probably sooner than later. im very mature for my age and i put a lot of thought into it. so i am going to the gyno soon for something because i think a have a yeast infection. but anyway..should i just ask the doctor about birth control? like i know my sister is on planned parenthood so i would ge ton that. but im a little worried that my mom would freak that i would be having sex but i mean im trying to be really responsible and careful and i dont want it to hurt me and my moms relationship. he would also wear a condom but still i want birth control so what do i say? because i also dont want to put myself in that position that it just happens when im not on birth control i want to at least be prepared. advice? thanks (link)
Yes just ask your doctor. The doctor by the way isn't allowed to tell your mom, so if you get it yourself she never needs to find out. If you do want to talk to her about it, you could just tell her its for your cramps and mood (which is true anyway) lots of girls take birth control just to alleviate period pains (I have a friend who started taking it at 12 for the pain, but didn't lose her virginity until 19.)


Hi, it's me again. I asked before how to get rid of the AOL toolbar, and it worked.

But now I need to get rid of this stupid advertising thing called Supreme Savings or something like that. I have no idea how it got on my computer, but it's throwing advertisements all over my websites, so I can barely use them and most of them have sound too, so it's ruining my concentration. I went to the add-ons thing for Firefox, and removed it, but the advertisements are still there. How do I get rid of all of this? (link)
That's adware and is a bit harder to get rid of than a regular toolbar.

Download Spybot and run it, and it should get rid of it for you.
http://www.safer-networking.org/mirrors/

If that doesn't work, use Malwarebytes.
http://www.malwarebytes.org/


I am a little worried as I am pregnant and in my first trimester and I need to habe an mri scan on my knee...im so
worried that it wi harm the baby can aanyone shed some light of this please Im so scared


Many thanks (link)
My (admittedly quick) research shows that there is no evidence of risk to pregnant woman from an MRI itself, however some have mentioned there is a possible risk associated with the contrast/dye that is sometimes used in MRI's. You should double check about that (asking if it can be done without the dye) with the doctor that ordered the test.


I tested hiv negative after 10 months exposure back last march 2012, but having smptoms aches joints headaches slight reddy rash on neck abit of dihorrea stomach ache problems and chest and back pain i think ive got aids, solely because i have not produced any hiv antibodies to detect beleive i only have a slight trace and i dont think the hiv test has picked them up because of that. (link)
No test is 100% accurate, however it is highly unlikely that you have developed symptoms after only 10 months. For most people, it takes 5-10 years. Also, those don't really sound like AIDS symptoms (though I'm no expert on that.)
I would recommend going to a doctor. Although you most likely don't have AIDS, it is possible you have something else that needs treatment.


I recently made a website with all of my songs in it, with nothing to back them up. Tonight, I tried to go to it because I couldn't remember any of the lyrics to my best song in my opinion, but I couldn't find it anywhere. I know that I had the right site too. Is there any way to recover my work? The website I used to create it btw was simple-different.com Please tell me that there's hope!! (link)
Looks like they delete unused websites after 21 days. I couldn't find a contact email address for them but they do have a facebook page so you could try that.

Try going to here: http://archive.org/web/web.php
and plugging in your website and see if they have it. You'd have to copy all the lyrics manually off of it.

Remember to backup next time for things this important.


I want to be able to play old Nintendo 64 games from my computer using a game controller adapter. But I'm not very computer-savvy so I'm not really sure what I need/am looking for?

I have N64, Gamecube, PS2, and Wii(includes classic) controllers. Do I need to buy a specific adapter to use one of them? Or do I need a whole new controller in general?

If possible I would like you use an N64 controller since I'm hoping to play old N64 games but I'm willing to compromise.

I have Windows 7 Pro. (link)
Your best bet would be to buy a USB video game controller, because it would be compatible with all systems, and you could map the buttons to whatever system you are playing. The N64 would present a problem in certain games, especially with something like Goldeneye due the Z button...

There are adapters that let you plug the actual controller into your computer, here is one I found:
http://www.amazon.com/May-Flash-Controller-Adapter-Nintendo-64/dp/B002B9FIUU

Here is one for gamecube, PS3, and XBOX:
http://www.amazon.com/Gamecube-XBox-Controller-Adapter-favorite-PC/dp/B000ND3XXA/ref=pd_sim_vg_6

Here is one for N64 and PS2:
http://www.amazon.com/Nintendo-64-N64-2in1-Controller-Adapter/dp/8565000168

Click around on amazon (or other sites) to find one that has the most systems you want.


Is there really much of a difference between a 9.0 earthquake and a 9.1? (link)
Yes, quite a bit. A 9.1 has over twice the energy of a 9.0:
http://simple.wikipedia.org/wiki/Richter_scale


Hey, so in the past 2 years I've been tested 4 times for every STD, and I say it because its relevant, I haven't had sex in those ENTIRE 2 years, no kissing, no oral, and no "petting". But only recenly in my last test did my doctor say it's a possibility and I need further testing. How is that possible??? I don't even share water and drinks with people, how is it possible an STD is showing up now???

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Well it depends on which STD... Some could incubate for a fairly long time before showing up on a test. Maybe the latest test was more inclusive than previous ones? It could just be a false positive, the doctor did just say you need further testing not that you definitely have one. Also, public toilets are a possibility. The chance of it happening is greatly exaggerated in media/legend, but it can technically happen.

I'm kinda curious though. If you aren't active, why are you getting such regular tests?


Mormons believe there are 3 levels of Heaven, but the Bible only mentions Heaven and Hell?

The Bible doesn't say anything about the Celestial Kingdom, Terrestrial Kingdom, and Telestial Kingdom. It just says Heaven & Hell.

Are there 3 degrees of heaven? (link)
Mormons have an additional testament, the Book of Mormon, presumably it mentions the extra kingdoms. The New Testament mentions a lot of things Jews don't believe in because they only follow the Old Testament, and the Book of Mormon has stuff Christians and Jews don't believe in.




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