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do guys really like to go down on girls?
This question is for all the guys out there
My boyfriend is 17 and im 16 but i was just wondering, do guys really like eating out their girlfriends? I know they like the girls reactions or whatever but do they actually get turned on by the action of doing it? Same goes with fingering their girl, do they really enjoy that too? If so, why? And be honest please theres so many curious girls out there with this question!
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This is a really tough question to answer as it is really up to the individual.
If the situation is a one night stand a guy probably will not eat a girl out for he is only looking for his personal pleasure. In a situation where a long term relationship is possible then fingering and eating a girl is something I would say 90% of men will do voluntary and 90 % of the remaining 10% will need some coaching to do so. The remaing men are probably a lost cause in this area.
If you are looking at a long term situation with someone and you want the sex to be good for both of you then at some point after you become a couple you have to communicate your sexual needs and desires to each other. If oral sex is important to you then you need to tell this to him.
This goes to all aspects of sex and starts at the beginning with foreplay. How much you need to become excited. How you like to be touched. If your more clitoral than vaginal he needs to know this. Most boys take their sexual cues from porn which shows then fingering a girl in her vagina. If you are more clitoral then this is not much of a pleasure for you.
The same for a guy. He needs to tell you how he likes to be touched. A hand job is not always just a hand job. Where each have a way we lik to be touched. The same is true with oral sex for us.
The more you communicate the better your sex life with each other will be. This includes fantasies, and fetishes. Sex is the one activity where you truly lay yourself bare to each other, no pun intended. Nothing should be off limits as long as both of you agree to it and both of you understand that no means NO and stop means STOP RIGHT NOW.
I hope in some way I have answered a part of your question.
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Don't think there's a blanket answer. Some do, some do it but don't especially enjoy it, some don't like even the idea of it. Personally I've always adored doing, but only with a woman I really want to do it with. So you have to add that it depends on the woman and your feelings towards her. Implying the 'giving pleasure' aspect must figure strongly I suppose? Is there a personal pleasure and gratification? For me, there certainly is. Looking at why it excites the guys who enjoy it, and also why fingering (or caressing a woman intimately in general) we have to look at sensual feedback. Arousal could be split into the physical side (the responses of the body) and the mental side, though in practice the two are entirely combined and really impossible to split in any meaningful sense. Since the mind receives input from each of the five senses, then taste, scent and touch all get favouarble stimulus during oral. Sight, well a girl we like the look of gives us guys plenty of 'eye candy' all the time. Sound...well a woman can say very exciting things and make the most arousing noises that can fall on the ears of a guy who's crazy about her. So a sensual 'full house' then! Some say the brain is the most powerful 'sex organ' in the body, and with justification. So, depends on the guy...depends on the girl. I couldn't give a biological reason why it's pleasurable, since it serves no reproductive function, any more than a girl giving her boyfriend oral sex does. Assume it's tied up with courtship and bonding behaviour. It certainly feels just about as intimately connected as it gets for me. Hope I've shed a bit of light?
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Some guys do and some guys don't. Some guys will do it just to make their girlfriend happy and some won't do it no matter what. It's pretty much the same as girls and giving blowjobs.
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