I am the mother of 5 sons. We were always very close. Three years ago, my 2nd born was married to a girl he had been dating for several years. Both were in their mid to late twenties and already well established in their respective careers. It became evident after the engagement, that she did not care for our family very much. At the wedding reception, when the happy couple went around and visited each table after dinner, she decided that she would only visit those tables on her side and not ours. Our son did carry on and visited the rest of the tables despite her snub. After she had danced with her father, and he with her mother, my son came over and asked me to dance. It was so beautiful and I still cherish that time. He came over to his father and asked him to dance with the bride. At the start of the next dance, my husband walked straight across the dance floor to her and asked if she would dance with him. She looked him straight in the eye and said "NO".
In 2009, my dear mom died and I was devastated. My son called me and told me he was sorry for my loss. It was a terrible time. Later, I realized his wife didn't call me or even send a card. I was still emotional but I felt he should know this upset me. I emailed and told him how hurt I was, and felt that she didn't have any respect for me. As his mother, the person that gave birth to him he should give me respect for at least giving birth to him. I could not believe his response! He said I had to earn his respect, and "should the bastard son of a crack whore give her respect just because she gave birth to him?" Those words keep echoing in my mind. I cannot get over the hurt they caused and broke my heart.
I need advice on how I can move on with my life. I especially would welcome advice from other mothers. I don't know if I should talk to him or show him how much he hurt me, give him silence and maybe having my husband standing with me and saying how dare he did this to your mother. He didn't say anything to him back then. I feel all alone. I have no females in my family. Just males, they can't understand a mothers heart. Please help me. I would appreciate your feedback.
BTW - I've never done crack or any other drug. I homeschooled all of my boys through high school and all except my 18 year old have done exceptionally well in college. And my 'baby' will be starting next semester!
Jann (55 Female)
Listen as a stranger I would like to say that I am very sorry for your lost. I know I'm 17 and my response might not matter but I think you should tell him how upset you are. My mother has about 8 kids mostly boys in the house now and we are struggling. I'm her oldest girl and I respect my mother completely cause without her I wouldn't be here today. Let him know that his wife might be the biggest bitch ( excuse my language but your story upsets me) in the world and that her love can change to hate but your love is forever. Remind him that when he was a kid that you was the only woman in the world who took care of him the way no one else could. Tell him that no woman in the world can deal with him the way that you did, tell him that you are always going to be there and his wife is currupting him in a way that it hurts for you to witness. Let him know cause in the end you won't be here forever. Then what will he do? My mother always said that love can set you free but in this case that isn't true cause it seems like he's being caged in and that isn't right. If he still doesn't understand then let me know. After you talk to him let me know what happens i would like to know.
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I dated this one guy like 2 months ago. He broke up with me because supposively he didnt want to cheat on me. I got mad because before we got together he was dieing to go out with me and becoming bf and gf and he said he was in love with me and all this crap then he just ends it like nothing. :/ AFter about a month he texted me and started bragging about his new gf. I got mad and didn't text back. Then a month later he texted me again asking me how have i been. Should I keep talking to him as friends or should I just forget about him and lose contact ?
P.S. I'm 15 and he's 16 .
I think you should tell him the truth about how you felt about him before and tell him that you don't want to hear about his new girlfriend because you're his ex now and you rather that your friendship doesn't revolve around his new relationship. If he has a problem then tell him you can't be friends with him and delete the number.
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So ok I'll sum up from the way beginning alright so during the summer I was in a a group thing and me and this one guy let's say G well me and him became very close we always talked bout kissing each other but we never did and I regret it to this day. So G is a sophomore and I'm a freshman we have french together now but before we had math in math it was just awkward between us he was allways flirting with girls and he would barely make eye contact with me but now in French we've actually started to talk so since sweethearts are coming up I with the little confidence I have asked him to the dance. But since it was right wen the bell rang and we were going opposite ways he paused and turned around and said L I'll let you know later. I was so proud of myself but now it's Saturday and he hasn't texted or called. I think he called on restricted but I don't know because my phone wasn't with me at the time. I feel like I'm starting to regret this. He's kinda a Bad ass guy so he likes to to do stupid stuff and talk to girls and I'm pretty sure he wasn't going with anyone cause he said the day before to his friend if he goes stag he won't go. So like I don't know what I'm suppose to do now this is all stressing if he says no I have a backup but I kinda need to know so I could inform my backup friend well there's some side stories to this that might be why but if you want to know I'll send yous a private message!
i would like to know the side stories.
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Okay, I'm sorry if this is long, or complicated I just need some advice. So I guess I'll start from the beginning then:
So it started in fall of 2009. I met this incredible guy on facebook... ( family friend knew him, not a complete stranger or anything) We didn't talk or anything, maybe comment on each others status's occasionally and then birthday's. Then I had some health problems and he was really nice during it. So a while passed and summer began. Around June we started talking a LOT .. like all the time just about anything. Then in the end of June we started dating. Again talked ALL the time about absolutly everything, our future, each other. It was amazing. We visited each other and everything.
Well apparently his mom found some of our IMs that she didn't approve of and I will admit we did mess up and talked a little to much about somethings we shouldn't. She doesn't like me, thinks I listen to bad music and that I'm a bad influence on him.
Now we get a limited time to talk, like it even matters because she reads everything!!! I feel like I'm talking to her. I can't talk about my music, or school, or heck no on our future. Idk what to do. Its so frustrating. I Love him but I just don't know if I can do this much longer... what would you do, or what do you suggest for me to do.. please I am so confused
okay its okay if its long i have no problem with that at all as long as your heard and getting the advice you need. try talking to the mother about the situation and how you feel, i'm sure your a good person show her that your different then other girls. make sure she understands and have her tell you how she feels after you get your point across.don't let her interupt you cause once she interups she might turn the whole conversation around. if that doesn't work let me know what happens and i will assist you again. the best way possible.
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i have not been able to sleep well at all. i take about 2 hours to fall asleep, and then i'll wake up about 10 times during the night, and then take another 10 minutes to fall asleep after each time. i don't like to take sleeping pills cuz they make me wake up in a haze the next morning, and i get up really early. what can i do?
maybe your a little stressed out or have alot on your mind. try drinking tea or hot chocolate before bed
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It's a bit of a long one!
I have two friends who I've known for a few years and in this time they've made their feelings known for each other which is fine by me. The trouble is, he doesn't know what he wants, where as she wants a long term relationship with him. She keeps asking me for advice and I'm just running out of things to tell her. I tell her that if something was going to happen, I think it would have happened by now. But then things do happen, like they kiss or he tells her he loves her and loves spending time with her but then seems to pretend like it never happened. When she asks him if they're going to get together he says maybe, I just don't know what I want. They're planning to go away on holiday together for two weeks in June this year and she wants to know if she should go all the way with him, but she doesnt want to ruin their friendship as she thinks he'll just pretend like it never happened, which will mean she will end their friendship because things haven't changed, which would also ruin my friendship with them too. What advice should i give her?
Thanks in advance!
wingyan has a point..The best thing your friend can do on this holiday is back off a little and let them both get to know each other in a more intimate way and discover how compatible they are.if that doesn't work then just hit me up if you need any more help mii name is lillyen and you can contact me in anyway
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Awkward question but my stomach is killing me. Yes I'm on my period. Any suggestions on how to feel better.... SOON
take motrin that usually works if not go to your doctor and maybe they can help..I'm sorry i couldn't help better
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About a year ago my ex lost his mother and then a couple weeks later his brother followed. And soon after that we ended up breaking up. I thought he had moved on because i found out that he was back with his ex girlfriend a month or two after we broke up. I was happy for him because it meant that she could help him cope with everything that had happened to him. We last talked in August and he was really rude so I never again tried to make contact with him until about a week ago he text me and we started talking again it was fine for a couple of days he seemed like his old self until a couple days ago he starts getting really depressed about his mom and brother and I try to talk to him and he shuts me out... But heres the thing he was with his ex for 7 months after his mom died how come he could act so cold towards me but have a real relationship with her? I don't get it.. I want to be there for him but I don't want to get screwed around either.. What should I do?
you have to tell him that being rude to you is wrong cause all you trying to do is be nice and help and if he throws a fit then tell him to leave you alone.
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I have this really good friend, we're both girls and in 9th grade and her little sister, a few grades lower, thinks we're also close friends. I like her and all but she's always inviting herself over and keeps asking when I say no or hang on or I don't know, and when she does come over she eats my food, bullies my brother and doesn't listen to my parents. She also argues with her sister when they're over and doesn't listen to us. I don't want to hurt her feelings because she's kinda my friend but what should I do?
i agrree with gossip girl but if you confront her try to give it to the girl as gently as possible if gental dnt work then go forcefull
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I don't have bad acne, usually a very small handful of pimples at most. And most of those are barely visible, but my face doesn't feel smooth in that area, so it bothers me.
What is a good acne wash / treatment I can use to remedy this? I need something that works and isn't very expensive.
okay i gave this advise to another person with acne problems use a clean hot wet towel and clean your face using that only
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At a recent anniversary celebration for my parents, a well-meaning but thoughtless in-law sent them a gift from my deceased sister, with a card signed with her name. She died of cancer two years ago.
Her loss has been difficult and heartbreaking for all of us, especially my parents. I am furious at this guest for giving such a "gift." My parents were visibly shocked, but thanked the person anyway.
I knew the in-law was planning something like this, and I asked that it not be done at the party. I wish I had just said, "No! Don't do it!" I'm not sure whether I am madder at the gift giver or myself. I feel like the work we have done to recover from the loss has been set back. I could use some good advice.
i agrree with marinemom24 to a point that person had no right to do that at the party though she/he should have waited till the end to present that gift to your parents when they were alone
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how to get water out of your cell phone
slam the phone on your had see if water comes out make sure your phone is off! and let it dry after the slamming
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So my boyfriend came over a week ago and we talked for about 3 hours...at first I was upset with him because I felt like we were growing apart and fighting a lot more about stupid things and he didn't want to talk to me and fix things. After a lot of tears, he finally broke through and told me how he felt. After that everything just flooded out from both of us and we made a huge 'break through' in our relationship. We both decided that even though we're in love, in the long run we probably weren't going to last. But I asked him if we were still going to try and he said yes of course...sooo we're still going out and things have been going better then ever since then but I was just wondering if this will be good for me. I love him and I love hanging out with him, but should I keep being with him if our personalities clash? We haven't gotten into any fights lately, but I'm sure we will eventually start again...I mean, yeah we fight a lot but the good times ALWAYS make up for the bad times...So what do you all think? Should I run this thing into the ground? Or might we actually have a chance? Any advice is good, thank you all so much.
I don't want to sound like a bitch but I think that you should keep the relationship going if it doesn't work out the way you wanted then tell him its done and try to find someone who is some-what like you but who isn't exactly like you
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I'm 2o years old (female) in college. I just recently moved out of the dorm rooms and into a house. I am sharing the house with two other people. I want to decorate my room so its cute. The walls right now are a dark beige. The room is onnly like 10ftx10. I know its not huge, but i'm a broke college student. Does any one have a few ideas how to decorate? I can paint if i really want to..but at this point I really dont want to. I have a black shelf that will be in room, so i would like to some home incorporate black ish colors...but i definetly like bright colors
I agree with zane
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I have been wanting to go to a nudist beach for years, with my husband of 36 years. We are both in our 50's yet fit and well. My husband has a very large penis and he feels that will make him uncomfortable. I have told him that nudists do and will not look or share, just get on with being nudists. How can I get him to feel comfortable nude in public? I have told him there will be plenty of other large penis on the beach and not to worry. Thank you in advance!
Tell him to imagin just you and him on the beach...i am sorry but thats the best i got...
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my boyfriend loves his ps3 blacks ops game. most of the time its what he talks about. finally i told him i don't care about black ops. and then it was like, we don't really have anything to talk about. we have been together for about a year and a half and are both 16 in highschool. i love him, i really do, but i get scared that we will split up because we never have things to talk about. other than the same old, how are you, how was your day, we don't really have much to talk about anymore. should i look for topics to think of to bring up in a conversation? but that seems desperate because we've been together, its not like a first date. but it feels like it. :(
Try going out together to do new things you guys should have common interests if you been together that long. and try to just be yourself and talk about anything.
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18/f
I'm really into this guy I've been talking to for awhile and I want to have sex with him, he's the perfect guy and he's so sweet. He wants to have sex with me too we just haven't picked a time to hangout yet. I'm ready so please no lectures about "finding the right guy". I haven't told him that I'm a virgin, I'm guessing he thinks I'm not because he knows that my last relationship was a year and a half long and probably figures I had sex with my exboyfriend. He's not a virgin. I'm really nervous about what it'll be like, so I have a couple questions: Did it hurt/what'd it feel like? Can you compare it to putting in a tampon? I wear tampons. And should I tell him that I'm a virgin? I don't want him to go like super hard on me because he thinks I'm not.
well all i can say is using tampons are really bad if you a virgin if you can use tampons then a guys you know what should be no problem. and tell the guy the truth he will be gentle with you
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I went thru a bad thing with this guy "J." It took me a year to get over it. I stopped dating and looking for guys for 1 year 6 months. Mostly because I found that I never could like anyone in that way. Until I met "T." It was pretty much an instant thing we started talking in class laughing mostly. He makes me laugh. He has a girlfriend. They've been together almost 2 years. He's also a flirt. He's probably a player too. I don't know. I know he's never cheated on his girlfriend, just flirting. I know he likes me. I really like him. Sometimes we text a lot sometimes we don't. Right now he pisses me off because I don't know if he's playing me but when were together its diffrent. I can help but smile. He's beautiful to me. Maybe not to other girls but to me. I don't know what to do. Like he doesn't let me close to him like emotionaly. He does want physical but its hard to talk to him about us because I don't want him to know I'm so in to him if he's playing me. Ill play right into the game I don't wanna play. Like yesterday he texted me randomly and just said am I Hot? I said he was cute. He said why am I not Hot? Well he is but I wasn't gonna tell him that. So I said why does it matter he just said he just wanted to know. I said sure you are. He said that wasn't an answer. Why ami not hot. I said i dont know I can't think of any real reason your not. He said ok. I said what was the point of that. He didn't answer. He does that a lot when he doesn't want me to know something I guess. Today he texted me and said he was in the hospital. That he flipped his fourwheeler. Well naturally I freaked. I said What?! What'd you Hurt? He said I think I broke a rib. I said oh. Dang freak me out. He said what'd you think happened. I said I don't know I figured you'd really got hurt. He said a broken rib can puncture a lung and I could die I said yeah I know. He said exactly and I said. Okay. Bye. I realized exactly how freaked id gotten over him and id realized how close id let him get to me. Well he said whatever your such an a** I said want me to worry bout U? He said your an a** I get hurt and all you say is bye. I said sorry you got hurt he said whatever go do what u gotta do. I said I'm not doing anything. No answer. Soi sent him another saying I wasn't trying to b an a** I figured you'd be busy. No answer. I texted him again a couple hours later and said you alright and no answer. I guess he's mad. What do I do about that and what should I do about the whole situation. I don't want to get played. I don't want to get hurt. He has so much power ovr me and I absolutely hate it. I've never been so powerless. I'm a very strong person normally. Please and thanks for helping I'm 16 & he's 17 if that matters.
okay just tell him what it is if he's not good to go then try giving him space to think....
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There is this girl at work that i really like. She's my age, 18, and she doesnt go to school yet. About a month ago i sent her a friend request on facebook, she accepted it, but she seems to ignore my messages and chat messages. I keep having dreams about her, where we are together. Everyone i talked tell me to just ask her out. But, im a shy guy and i think that going up to someone who i dont really know and asking them out is wierd or rude. We dont really talk much, and there really isnt much time to talk at work, and work is the only place that i see her. What should i do?
Try talking to her in person but be patiant and gentle don't go off on her if she feels some type of way. ask her out if everything goes well
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I have no idea what cup size I am. im too big for a c or a d, but sometimes dd's are huge on me. other times they mash em down & I get double boob. I need good support because after pregnancy they dropped a bit. I know im a 36, but thats it. how can I get measured without my other bras that dont fit throwin it off? & can I get measured for free? thanls
try putting the bra cup over ur shitr and see if it fits
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