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what and how am i supposed to do?
I went thru a bad thing with this guy "J." It took me a year to get over it. I stopped dating and looking for guys for 1 year 6 months. Mostly because I found that I never could like anyone in that way. Until I met "T." It was pretty much an instant thing we started talking in class laughing mostly. He makes me laugh. He has a girlfriend. They've been together almost 2 years. He's also a flirt. He's probably a player too. I don't know. I know he's never cheated on his girlfriend, just flirting. I know he likes me. I really like him. Sometimes we text a lot sometimes we don't. Right now he pisses me off because I don't know if he's playing me but when were together its diffrent. I can help but smile. He's beautiful to me. Maybe not to other girls but to me. I don't know what to do. Like he doesn't let me close to him like emotionaly. He does want physical but its hard to talk to him about us because I don't want him to know I'm so in to him if he's playing me. Ill play right into the game I don't wanna play. Like yesterday he texted me randomly and just said am I Hot? I said he was cute. He said why am I not Hot? Well he is but I wasn't gonna tell him that. So I said why does it matter he just said he just wanted to know. I said sure you are. He said that wasn't an answer. Why ami not hot. I said i dont know I can't think of any real reason your not. He said ok. I said what was the point of that. He didn't answer. He does that a lot when he doesn't want me to know something I guess. Today he texted me and said he was in the hospital. That he flipped his fourwheeler. Well naturally I freaked. I said What?! What'd you Hurt? He said I think I broke a rib. I said oh. Dang freak me out. He said what'd you think happened. I said I don't know I figured you'd really got hurt. He said a broken rib can puncture a lung and I could die I said yeah I know. He said exactly and I said. Okay. Bye. I realized exactly how freaked id gotten over him and id realized how close id let him get to me. Well he said whatever your such an a** I said want me to worry bout U? He said your an a** I get hurt and all you say is bye. I said sorry you got hurt he said whatever go do what u gotta do. I said I'm not doing anything. No answer. Soi sent him another saying I wasn't trying to b an a** I figured you'd be busy. No answer. I texted him again a couple hours later and said you alright and no answer. I guess he's mad. What do I do about that and what should I do about the whole situation. I don't want to get played. I don't want to get hurt. He has so much power ovr me and I absolutely hate it. I've never been so powerless. I'm a very strong person normally. Please and thanks for helping I'm 16 & he's 17 if that matters.
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okay just tell him what it is if he's not good to go then try giving him space to think....
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It sounds as if he has issues. He was clearly looking for attention with the whole hospital conversation (do you know for sure he was actually in hospital. It was as if he played on your shocked and concerned reaction of his situation and took it even further and when you didn't fall apart with worry over him and instead dismissed him, he got angry and felt uncared for and possibly a little abandoned.
Then he is always looking for your approval with the flirting and the constant need for reassurance. I can assure you that grovelling for forgiveness wont make him forgive you.
Go over to his place and just talk to him face to face. Explain the situation and assure him that he means a lot to you and that your relationship is important to you and secure. That he can depend on you for advice and support.That youre there for him.
Maybe spend a little more time with him and een if he closes himself off to you emotionally, he'll open up when he feels the time is right, when he is ready to.
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