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is 13 too young to get married. i mean yeah it is but like i mean if you really felt you were ready could someone marry u without a parents consent. or even with one
Are you wanting to know legally or illegally? I guess you could go somewhere and do it but you legally have to be 18 to get married. I dont know if you would officially be written down as married if you did it any early. so not till 18
ok well i have sweaty armpit and i want it to go away i want to tell my mom but i dont now how to strike up a conversation..like hi mom i need to go to the doctor for my arm pits...what should i say??help please
Just pull your mom aside and say, "hey mom I've been noticing lately that my deorderent isn't exactly working and my armpits are sweaty, do you think i should go to the doctor to get the problem fixed?" just something like that, it's your mom I don't think she's going to laugh at you. good luck, don't be shy!
my bf and i hav been goin out for 2 months or so.then we started to not see each other. also w/ xmas break. but we hardly talk to each other. every1 says hes cheating on me. i dunno wat 2 do. anyway, other ppl says he still likes me. wat should i do?:/...
The only thing that's gonna solve your problem is communication. To have a stable relationship communication is vital. Just talk to him, ask him why you guys haven't hung out that much and if he's been hanging out with anyone. Don't acuse him, just ask, asking can never hurt. If he gets mad at you for just asking why you haven't hung out then he's not worth it. A guy should spend his time with you, not every second of the day but at LEAST once a week. good luck, I hope you get this figured out!
first of all, my boyfriend and i have been together for two years, and about three months. i love him with all my heart, and i know he loves me as well. well, last month i was going through his sidekick and i went through his text messages. i wasnt looking for anything particular really, i just wanted to read my texts that i sent him. i came across a message from another female, and i guess he was trying to talk to her. i approached him right away about it. he told me that, yes, he hangs out with other girls, drinks with them, etc. im already aware of that, and thats perfectly fine with me. but then he told me that when he sees a cute female, that he does try to get her number for the challenge, and flirts with them. he said he's never done anything sexual with any other girl, he just likes to get to know other people. i let him know that bothers me and that if he still wants to be with me, he needs to stop approaching other females because thats unneccesary when he already has me. he said he'd stop. i really love my boyfriend, and i used to trust him, but after some of this stuff, its hard to trust him. im kind of stuck, and i dont know what to do because i find myself worrying about him cheating on me and things along that line. so.. i'd like to know, what would you do if you came across this situation. thanks. sorry about the length ;\
I'd say stop worrying about it. Your guy sounds like a great guy and just acts like a typical guy. He said he'd stop. The thing that surprised me is that he actually told you that he likes to get girls numbers and thinks they're cute, he's obviously a very truthful guy. I dont know any guys who would admit to what they did, I think he sounds pretty trustworthy and you shouldn't worry. Worrying about other girls is what kills a relationship. The only time you need to start worrying is when he withdraws from you or if you find anything else. Don't worry he sounds great, truthful, and trustworthy. Goodluck, I hope he's good to you.
In the aftermath of the tsunami, the eternal theological question is again posed: what sort of God permits the slaughter of blameless humanity on such a scale?
On the abundant available evidence does it not seem that, if there is or was a God, it is now malevolent, mad or dead?
No, religious nutters please - this is a serious question I'm posing.
Dr Kesha
what sort of God permits this? A loving God. Isn't it true that if you truly love your child you will discipline it? that shows love. Just maybe these people brought this pain among themselves. Have you noticed the the tsunami hit in the asian countries, those that do not worship God? Speaking as if you were a teen, If you beat up a person and your parents were to ground you can you really ask what kind of parents would ground an innocent child? It says in the bible that God is a jealous God, he doesn't like to see us worship other gods. He took away those who were sinning and weren't ever going to come to Christ. He also called home those who were meant to go home.
As far as does God exist? Let's assume that God didn't exist. How did we get here? the big bang theory? how can nothingness hit nothingness and out of nothing comes something? Where did the particles in space come from? where did the empty space come from? Isn't it easier to belive we had a creator than to belive something poofed out of nothing? Look outside, what do you see? Trees, grass, birds, houses, people. They all came from God. Everyone knows that God exists in their hearts is just whether or not they choose to listen to their hearts. If your doubting then God has to exist. If I look straight infront of me I see a computer. If I look to my right I see nothing. I don't doubt that there could be a table there because I can clearly see that there isn't a table. My point is why would you doubt something if it clearly wasn't there. You don't doubt unless something is there. It's your choice whether or not you want to believe in God, but I know he's there. If you want to talk about it feel free to e-mail me or drop one in my inbox. Hope this makes you think
Well I have this friend and everytime I talk she just says shut up or no one cares or something mean but sometimes she says she is joking after she says it but most of the time she doesn't.I don't really have the courage to go and tell her how I feel because she is not the kind of person that would actually care.Or she would just tell me something mean..What should I do?Sorry if it is long!
Is this person really a friend you want to have? I dont see the whole friend relationship, maybe I'm just assuming from what your saying but if you can't talk to your friend about it that's a problem. Why do you want to be friends with her if she always says shut up and no one cares? well anyways the next time she says that just say are you joking or are you serious? Don't be afraid to ask, she shouldn't get mad over a simple question. Good luck, I hope she understands
I didn't know what to put this under. My mom and I want to help out with the tsunami disaster by sending $, but my mom doesn't think it'll help. Like it won't be enough. What do you think? Should we send the money or no?
Thanks
yes! You have the realize that a tsunami just hit these places, they have NO money left. Every cent counts. Even if you just sent in a penny it would help, if everyone sent a penny there would still be a lot of money to help them. That's like saying well let's not vote because one vote doesn't matter. What if everyone decides that their money won't help? Do anything you can, it's good you're thinking about them and willing to help them out they will be grateful for whatever amount.
does anybody know where i can find codes to put in my live journal? like ...
love me
sorry I dont know anything about live journals :(
my best friend and i have been like really close since freshmen year and now like everytime we want to do sumthing she always has to bring someone else along i mean sometimes i just want to hang with her like we used to because its no fun when the people she brings im not friends with and i end up getting ditched...i dont like it what should i do??????????
First of all if you feel comfortable you should talk to her about it. Tell her you have no problem with her bringing other friends you'd just appreciate it if she asked you first. this way you could say no if you didnt' want someone there. maybe just say hey you wanna go see a movie just you and me? or something like that. Im sure she'll understand, just make sure you say just you and me. Also don't be too controlling. I know i've had friends who wouldn't let me have any other friends and that really upset me. Just hang out wiht just her soemthing and then hang out with her firends too sometimes. You could also possibly bring along one of your friends. good luck! I hope this helped.
Hi i have not really had a girl friend let alone been on a date. But there is a girl at my church and i like her but somtimes i think she likes me and then there are day i dont. We are friends and i was wondering if there was any way to tell if she likes me?????
Let me first start out by saying that there is nothing wrong with never having a girlfriend ;) As far as telling if a girl likes you there is no easy way to tell. Girls express themselves differently, some are very flirtatous and some are very shy. If they are shy with showing how they like people then it will be hard to tell. I can't really say the girl will do this and this and this if she likes you because we all show signs differently. What I would do is just talk to her a lot. Don't annoy her or follow her around every single place she goes. but dont back out of a friendship, sometimes people do that. They talk to you some days then some days they dont. That makes it 10 times more confusing so talk to her whenever you see her. Just note how see responds to you, if she enjoys talking to you then you know she's somewhat interested. If you talk to her more and more and she wants to talk more then I think maybe something should happen there. Sorry there's no direct way to see, not unless you know one of her friends that might know. Just talk to her and see how she responds to you. Good luck!
i liek 2 girls but i cannot choose which one i like more, one of my friends likes one of the girls i do but he doesnt know,im 14 and a male, its basically a love triange.
I'm sorry I really don't understand the question, but here's what I think on the issue. Do yo know if a girl likes you? If a girl likes you i'd assume you'd like her more, but if you dont know if anyone does just see which girl you feel more comfortable with, which one makes you happier, which one you are more excited to see. I can't exactly decide for you, you just have to see which girl makes you feel better. As far as your friend liking the same girl you like, I'm just gonna warn you that that happens a lot. The matter of the fact is that if you click better with the girl your friend likes then he shouldn't have a problem with it and if your friend clicks with her better sometimes you just have to accept that. Whatever the situation is just choose the nicest girl :)
i've been kinda cutting myself...it was kinda stupid at first but now it's serious. my life is kinda like crap rite now. grades, family, friends, and love...all that jazz. sometimes i feel like i just randomly wann cutt myself. i hate it. i know there is other ways to work it put but i don't wanna talk to my family and i've already talked to my friends. please help me and don't just pick on or make fun of me...really answer this question.
signed,
confused and lost
oh sweetie! sry I'm a little late answering this question..computer problems. Alright I'm assuming you're in your teens or around there, and everyone around this time feels the same way you do! EVERYONE! I promise you that! It's just how someone takes it out. You're practicing an unhealthy way to do it. Everyone has problems in their life and all the problems u just mentioned are exactly my problems (amazing isnt it? lol) anyways try to think good about yourself. It's all in your head if you think everything is bad everything will be and feel bad. You have to change your mind and start thinking about good thoughts. Like if your grades are bad just think I'll try harder and I'll be able to bring them up. secondly, try taking your anger, sadness out in a different way, cut up stuffed animals write songs listen to music watch movies, write suff down, anything but cutting. Always wear a rubberband around your wrist and when you feel the urge to cut just snap it as hard as you can. I hope this helps, if you need anything else drop one in my inbox, remember everything will eventually get better! ;)
ok i need help. my friend, lets same her name is ash, well she's an AMAZING singer. she's 15 and she can sing really reaaly good. she's in a bunch of choirs, and she's been acting in plays for over 7 years. she has a band, and i want her to get discovered. she plays at everything imaginable, she's almost always available. well how do i help to get her noticed?
thanks in advance! =)))))))`~)~
You can always see if anyone around you can get connections. Have you ever heard of battle of the bands? if she enters in that and wins they automatically get a record label. For me, my aunt works in the record label buisness. I have friends who have bands and are really good too they just make demo tapes of some songs their band plays and give them to me then I simply give them to my aunt. If she hears them and think their good she can get them deals and record labels to have a CD. She could always make a demo tape and maybe you could send it to me in the mail, email me if you're interested. good luck, I hope she gets noticed soon!
ok i know its confusing but here it goes.3 of my friends and i were at my friend's house and we were all talking and we had a really deep heart to heart. See I started having an eating disorder last year and recovered but have now started up again but am getting help. It turns out all my other friends have gotten over e.d's too except one who recently started. Another thing that we've all done is cut. Thats my other prob, i still cut. But now im really scared about whats gunna happen to me. Does neone no ne good websites where ppl can help u, like professionals? thanks so much, also have u ever gon thru ne of this stuff?
I think just about every teenager goes through something like this. I had an eating disorder once not that I like to admit it. I got over it realizing that my body was good and I shouldn't want to change it. If you're anerixic maybe, when you recover and begin to eat again you gain weight :( so I decided that inside of not eating recovering and gaining weight I'd just eat heatlhy and exercise :) lol but as far as cutting. Every teenage has their emotional destresses and unfortunately a lot resort to cutting. I can't really recommend any websites sry I dont know any but I can help you. Don't cut, I'm sure you know all the problems with it. Cutting is a way of feeling pain, making sure you're still alive, or possibly even getting rid of emotions. Use this anger sadness despair or whatever emotion in another way. Write in a journal about how you feel. Take some time to yourself to just express yourself, draw play an instrument anything. Wear a rubberband around your wrist..whenever you feel the urge to cut just snap it really hard. It inflicts pain on you just like cutting but there are no dangerous physical problems attached. You could possibly find a pillow or paper or something to tear or cut just not yourself. Always wear the rubberband it really does work, good luck sweetie I know how tough it can be, drop one in my inbox if you need anything else I'm always listening
gah just got my period and im supposed to be seeing my guy this weekend what can i do to make it go away faster?
hey i know what you mean. You can't really get rid of your period but you CAN make it go away faster. Exercising will decrease your flow. exercise exercise exercise!! lol also wearing tampons usually decreases your flow too. Try exercising and wear tampons instead of pads that should help! good luck, I hope it goes away!
ok..most older sisters r mean to their younger sisters when they follow them around or sumthin annoyin like that. i try to stay away from my sister b/c all she duz is yell at me! and i really dont do nething!! i hate yelling at ppl so i dont want to yell at her back. ne advice on wut to do??
sometimes older sisters are just mean because everyone goes through those teenage stages when they just about hate everything and everyone and they want to be alone. Give her privacy and most importantly give her time. My sis is 5 years older than me and she and I NEVER got along. for all 14 years of life I basically hated her and she picked on me. She went off to college and now we're the best of friends. If she's not off in college yet when she will be you and her will be really good friends. Sometimes it's just a matter of giving her space and if she starts yelling at you just say sorry and try to not to get angry. Good luck, hope I helped I absolutely know what your going through. (I used to cry every night cuz we always fought..but now it's good :)
i have a 3 year old bichon frise, and he IS potty trained. when he was younger we would let him out like 10 times a day to pee. well all the sudden this year he's been peeing on the carpets like at least once a week. we're selling our house, so we got BRAND NEW CARPETS throughout the house, and he still keeps peeing on those! we even get the spray stuff to disguise the smell so he won't go back to the spot but he still does. my dad says if he pees in our new house we're giving him away! =( so how do i get him to stop? i suggested obedience school but they said no he's too old. how do we discipline him PLEASE help if you know about dogs.
Sometimes when dogs get older then tend to lose control of their bladder. You need to be really attentive to your dog to make sure when it needs to go to the bathroom you get it out of the house.
Sometimes when you stuff your dogs nose in its pee the dog is confuse, the best way to discipline your dog so it understands it's bad to pee in the house is to catch it in the act. If you see your dog peeing on the carpet run to it and yell no so it knows that peeing inside the house is bad. When you take your dog outside to go to the restroom say "go pee" or something like that when your dog goes, make sure you praise it by saying good boy/girl or giving it a treat. If it pees inside the house yell at it. Hopefully your dog will then realize that it's a good thing to go outside but not inside. Lastly, if you want to restart housebreaking you can always pick a room like mabye a bathroom or something and put down newspaper. Encourage your dog to go on the newpaper so he knows the sent of the paper and he likes to go there. Slowly move the newspaper outside so when he needs to go he'll want to go outside to the newspaper. You might want to see your vet to make sure it's not a urinary tract problem or anything. Good luck, I hope your dog learns where to go to the bathroom! drop one in my inbox if you need anything else
Does anybody have any pet care tips for a rat?? I just got one. Like, what are their favorite foods and what activities do they like??? Anyone who has a rat, gimmie some tips!!! Thanx!! I rate high
well I dont have a rat but I used to have a rat..that counts doesnt it? lol. lots of people have been saying, "why do u have a rat?" well newsflash but I think rats are the best pets. My rat was soo sweet I loved him to death and he never bit me unlike my hampster (evil) lol just kidding. Rats get big so make sure it has a big cage they love to run around.I had a 75 gallon (not necessary to have this big) fish tank that the top was open. I got it a tube to run through and my rat slept in it and loved it. my rat also loved little balls to play with and move. um basically any type of chewing block, plastic or wood they need something to dull their teeth. As far as food just any seed diet is good. They always love to be outside so you can buy a ferret or rat leash and take your rat in ur backyard. Lastly, at petco or any pet store you can find a book on rats that will give good advice. Don't plan on giving ur rat a bath cuz it could catch a cold and if it's dirty just get a damp cloth and wipe it. good luck, they love to be clean!
ok i like hate my name so much .. it's Liana.. and well people sometimes "cant pronounce it" so they just say "Hey you!" or they just pronounce it wrong. Or sometimes their like "um..you.. i forgot your name" .. and well like is there anything i can do to get people to pronounce my name right or call me something diffferent that is easy to pronounce .. (maybe like a nick name)
p.s. sometimes my friends call me Lee for short but not very often
Let's start out with my name is Danae. (duh-nay) when you look in my description on my advice column notice I do use the pronounciation for my name. I don't think I've ever met anyone who could actually say my name right or remember it right away. they call me dayna or danny or deenee...it's crazy. and at times I hated my name. then I had a lot of people say that's a really pretty name. well in reality my name isn't that bad i just have to realize it's unique,when I first read your name I thought it was really pretty (i'm not lying!) it really is. but if u really wanna change it here's a few suggestions : lee, leah, or ana. good luck, your name is really pretty!!!
hey yall,
in vanessa carlotn's song white houses... at the middle is she talking bout her first time ot have sex? i will rate!! i just wanna know.
It really depends on how you interpret the song. I've read that it's about frat houses and that she loses her virginity, but personally I think she's just describing love and then she breaks up with him because he wanted another girl being her first mistake. hope I helped!