Hi my names Miren, I'll give you stacks of advice on anything =] I've got an Art&Design diploma and I'm studying a Film Production degree in Staffordshire. I'm also a black belt in Taekwon-Do. I'll try my best to help anybody needing... help.
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okay so lately i havent felt really needed by anyone at all. like i know that my family needs me and its not like im a total nerd or loser or whatever and i dont have any friends. but i seem to be the only one planning everything. you know when we hangout and stuff. and its real bad between me and my one friend. like i keep droping hints to her but she doesnt seem to notice.
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yep i've been in that situation so many times =[
really don't like it, you should try and relax a bit on the term "organizing" next time you do anything just make it chilled out.. like call your friend and some others to just like chill out on the beach or something like that, or crash at your house or something.. it seems like your friends are a bit more relaxed then you are which will annoy you because your not really like that
your missing a friend who is a bit more like you.. with all the organizing and everything (you need to find a friend who is like that.. one is enough)
and this girl your friends with.. just talk to her like.. all the time and it will slowly make you feel better because.. the more you talk to her the more important you will be in her life.. and you will find that if (after talkin to her atleast 2 hours a day) if you don't talk to her one day.. the next day she will be the one ringing you.. or checking if your online on msn :)
its a really small thing but i know it makes me happy.. - I just started talkin to this girl who ive known for about a year but i hadn't spoken to her or seen her for like 6 months - and for the last week ive spoke to her on msn about an hour every day.. then for the last 2 days she was the one starting the convo.. and yesterday (lol) she started talking and i wasn't there and so she thought i was ignoring her and was getting really upset. even though she was upset, it made me pretty happy =P im sure you know what i mean
i hope i helped....
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16/m
Alright so Ive just begun to have an active sex life and Im really worried. Yesterday my gf and I were about to have sex and I could not get and maintain an erection. I had one earlier when we were still in foreplay but when it came time for sex I couldnt get one.
We ended up finishing up in otherways but whats going on? im really worried about this. I dont want my girlfriend to think that I dont like her or i think shes ugly because she really isnt. Do I have erectile dysfunction?
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There Isn't anything wrong with you, you can't force an erection, it will come naturally, seeing as you had one during foreplay (which is perfectly fine) you wouldn't be able to just get another straight away.
People can maintain erections for different amounts of time..
Next time just spend a minute or so on foreplay, or skip it entirely =P
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can you love someone after dating them only two months? me and my boyfriend think are in love but im not too sure about it all..
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sorry, you probably got your answer months ago, i havnt been on this in quite a long time... but.. i might as well answer... - i dont think you were in love.. you probably thought you were but weren't i'm not sure if you are with him still, but if you are.. then i gess it was close enough to love :P
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Im a girl, i dont have a girlfriend or a boyfriend and as i said before, im not 100% sure im gay. The problem is, everytime my parents or anyone else mentions guys or me dating, i start to feel realy sick and feel like im lying to them. What should i do coz' i don't want to say nothing but how can i maybe make myself feel better? (link)
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The other guy got it right, =]
just say you don't have time to have a boyfriend - maybe they will think your studying a lot more often :P - or if ther like active parents and want u to be dating some1 just say your not interested in them and tell em there not cute enough for you or something, but if you are dating someone and you don't want them to know, then do what the person below said, - jst shake your head and say no, feel a little more confident when you talk to them.. i dont think u know for sure about if you are gay or not, a lot of girls i know go through a bisexual stage, and rarely do they turn out to be lesbian. just experiment a little to find out, you will know when the time comes.
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Ok I'm going to give a lot of detail so it can be more understandable:
My best friend of 5 years, Alex and I because really good friends with a girl named Jen in June and then a few days later we became friends with Tara. So Tara and Jen became best friends and we became a group of four. Tara was going off to university though. We had a good summer but right before she went off, her and Jen had a fight but then they made up.
Mid-September, Alex, Jen and me went to stay at Tara's for the weekend to party. Jen and Tara had another fight where Tara's real feelings towards Jen came through and from then on she kept telling Alex and me how much she hated Jen. We didn't tell Jen about this because Tara had a few valid points for not liking Jen that we agreed with.
So Tara came down a few times and the three of us hung out.
There was this one time me and Alex had a fight in October and I was talking crap about Alex to Jen (I was just really really mad) but it turns out that Alex had phoned Tara and talked crap about me and to a few other people to her so eventually we moved on. A few weeks later, I told Jen that Tara hated her and Jen just shrugged it off.
Now last week Alex was going to go visit Tara by herself because I couldn't get off work. Just before she left, me and Tara were IMing:
Tara: You two seem like you have a lot of conflict
Me: Yeah but it's okay we've always been like that. Why is she saying anything?
Tara: No not really
Me: Don't be bothered by her, whenever she gets mad, she just goes and b****es to people
Tara: Or maybe she just tells me because I'm her good friend
Me: No she told blah and blah and blah about blah
Tara: Oh ok
So Alex left and I had a really bad feeling about it. She came home yesterday and today we were IMing and she told me that she wanted to go to Tara’s university. Now Alex has no idea what she wants to be and the only thing she’s seen of the university is people getting drunk on weekends. She doesn’t know about the school or the programs they offer. She would be paying $9000 extra a year and she had a plan to save up and pay for it herself leaving no money for anything else. It was just this plan they made up this weekend and I was like wth you don’t know anything about this school and what if you and Tara have a falling out?
She told me that I was an a**hole for assuming that she only wants to go there to party and that Tara is a really good friend and at least she doesn’t talk crap about her behind her back. She told me Tara told her I was talking **** about her.
I am so furious right now. I never said anything to Tara other than that convo above because you can’t take one wrong step with her. I saw how she hated Jen so fast and I thought it was pretty scary. Now she’s trying to turn Alex against me? And Alex keeps bringing back past fights we’ve had and how she wants to leave the city and stuff that she’s never even mentioned before just because of this weekend. She’s actually seriously considering it. So I left Tara a message asking her about what I exactly said to her about Alex and if she could enlighten me and she hasn’t answered back.
So what am I supposed to do about Tara? And how am I supposed to convince Alex to stay? I’m turning 21 in August and how can I not have my best friend there to celebrate my first year being legal?
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tara is being a b*tch talk to alex about it, phone her and ask her why she was being mean to you all of a sudden, makesure its jst a 1 on 1 convo maybe on the phone or in person, tell her that tara is talking poo. Hang out with tara a little more aswell, and try to be a nice friend to her, keep your friends close, and your enemies closer. the closer you are to tara the less she can do about your friendship with alex - specially if you get bak on neutral grounds with alex, and then finally you can start hanging out togehter again
i think you will make up - dont worry
let alex think that she is going to that uni, maybe she will start changing her mind soon..
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I mean I really want to try it but I don't know how and I don't think there is a way to practice... can someone pleasssseeee help me (link)
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u kiss them, but with tongue, open mouthd so you touch each others tongue.. er... watch some random videos of people making out on youtube lol hope that might help =]
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I've kissed my boyfriend twice. The first time my brother told us to kiss and the second time my cousin wanted to see if we would actually do it. I want to kiss my boyfriend more often, but he is so shy and wont make the first move, even though he admitted and tells his friends he wants to. What do I do to build up my courage to make the first move? I'm too scared he wont want to kiss me when I want to kiss him. Please help me. Thanks
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girl u have to pull yourself out to do it, cuz he will ALWAYS want a kiss, don't worry - the girls have the power to do anything you have us guys on a leash seriously. Just kiss him - don't worry he will want it, and then you get to see his big grin after you kissed him, soon he will have the courage to kiss you more often, if you both like each other enough this shouldn't be a problem after a while of having to sum up loads of courage...
trust me - just kiss him and it will be fine, put your hand behind his neck and pull him closer to u, he will get the drift..
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is it wrong for a 15 year old and 18 year old to be together? he's still in school yet and he just turned 18 in august? is that still bad? (link)
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Short answer - no;
If you two are happy with each other then there really is no problem, as long as he isn't using you and you're both happy then have a good healthy relationship it doesn't matter what others think. =]
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hi im 14 and about 5 foot 10, i weigh about 165 pounds...do i need to loose weight or am i oaky the way i am?
p.s i can take constructive critisism (link)
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not at all, your a tall guy so its fine, the least you wanna do is lose weight and end up tall and skinny - thats a no no. if you are really conscious about it though, then tonk up, turn the fat into muscle, then i bet you will love weighing 165 pounds
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I have an advicenators column and I'm really good, however I encourage my friends to visit my advice column if they need any sort of advice. It seems that none of my friends really care to tell me about their problems. I really like helping people. But none of my friends even bother to take a visit to my advice column. My question is- How can I make my friend's seem more interested in my advice column and get them to trust me with their problems. Help??? thanks! (link)
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You shouldn't force your advice at them :P
Maybe your friends don't need advice, your advice will guide them when you talk to them and they bring up problems they have, you can't just sit them down and say "I want to give you advice" if you get what I mean. Just play your role as their friend, when they need help or something then they will go too whoever they feel necessary and if it's you then good :)
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i like this girl but she one of my best friends and she only want to be my friend and nothing else what shall i do (link)
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try and treasure the fact you have a good friend, and try and move on - love life wise, keep her as a friend though, unless it really hurts.
You can always try and flirt with her subtly
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i'm 13, my mom's a 34double d, my cousin is a 36 d, and my aunt is a 34 c. but on my dads side, everyones around a 34a or b. i know i still have plenty of time for my boobs to get bigger, but all of my freinds boobs are wayy bigger than mine, i'm not even a full 32 a yet. should i worry i'll be taking after my dads side of the family? and is there any excersise/way to eat/kinds of bra that would make my boobs bigger or just look bigger?
and is there any excerisise or ways to eat to make my butt look bigger and firmer? :)
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Don't worry you have plenty of years to still grow, just makesure you keep healthy.
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16/f
so long story short.
this girl dumped her boyfriend.
he came to me. 4 months later we were dating
he broke up with me
back with his old girlfriend.
i want to send him a message over myspace but the thing is,is that i dont want his girlfriend to see it. should i send it anyway, its about our relationship. she never knew that we were going out and if she were to din out she would probably break up with him and i dont want that. i just have to tell him something. should i just send it anyway? i cant do it in person.
pleaseee help.
opinons?
anything
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On myspace you can send a personal message by clicking "send message" on their profile. This way only he will be able to read it when he logs on and checks his messages (not to be confused with comments)
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I just got my tongue pierced and i got these sore throat lozenges. It says "with pain numbing relief" and it also says "Benzocaine/menthol oral anesthetic lozenges"
Would this be okay to get rid of the pain and swelling? (link)
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Yes it is okay =]
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Hey iam 17 and my breasts are a 38 b and since my breasts probally don't stop growing until iam 18-20 are my breasts going to be real big?Iam nervous becouse my mom is a triple d and my sister is a d and my other sister is a 36 c somewhere around there. (link)
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Don't worry you are at a later stage of growth now, they will be growing at a lot lower pace now, they probably grow that much past a C
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Hey howzitgoing?
having had a disasterous childhood and now in the sixth year of clinical dysthymia and the third year of psychodynamic psychotherapy im just starting to ask questions about self... To develope the self i need a sport to play that will keep me interested and exercised. Im not much of a sport type person but have good gross motor skills and more brain than brawn but can use the brawn when needed..
Thanks ...
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Start a martial art, that will keep you interested and support your intelligence, and it will keep you fit and build muscle in areas you need it. It can also be very competitive at times so that will keep you eager to keep going.
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so theres a guy i used to like alot; he's cute and wonderful...
lately ive been talking to him, and those feelings i had have been coming back.
the problem is i have trouble starting conversations.
any ideas???
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The Last person said everything I would've said =D sometimes when I was constantly on the phone I would just sit there and have my phone on loud speaker and doing random stuff on the pc lmao, and yes the T.V thing =D and talking to friends on msn and saying what their saying on the phone.
Just random things which can be fun.. treat them as if they are actually there with you =D
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Well my boyfriend (of 6 days shy of 10 months) lets call him Steve, well, he has a problem with my best guy friend, we'll call him Joe.
Steve told me that he doesn't like Joe because i simply tell him too many things, and i talk to him too much. But Joe is almost like a best friend to me, and nothing more.
Now, Joe has a girlfriend, who i am good friends with. Accually today was their one year anniversery. So no, we have nothing going on between us more than a friendship.
So i don't see why my boyfriend is over-reacting, he knows i love him, and only him.
Joe loves his gf, and wouldn't like anyone else.
I mean, Joe has given me very sweet compliments, calling me beautiful, because i have a very low self-esteem, so he tries to change that, but nothing will ever change the confidence in my self.
He's just a nice guy, who i'm very good friends with i can trust Joe with a lot of things.
And i love my boyfriend to death, but i really wish he wouldn't have a problem with Joe, and Steve does know that Joe has complimented me, and didn't have a problem with it, he agreed.
How can i have Steve not have a problem with Joe?
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Get them to go out together. Steve is obviously insecure because he doesn't know Joe well enough, Steve is jelous and feels like he can't compare to your friend Joe.
If you were close friends with one of Steve's best mates then that would be different Steve will be able to trust the guy.
So basically, try and get Steve and Joe to be closer friends by making them go out with each other and stuff =D
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Okay so my boyfriend and I had this big thing well I may of over-reacted but I feel as if I was in the place to just because of the situation.
So my boyfriend and I have been dating nearly 10monthes. When we first met he did all that chewing tobacco also know as *dip*, well I told him I didnt like it an stuff an he quit it. Thing is before like his friends would do it around him an he never let it bug him he would just go get some sunflower seeds or ya know so he wouldnt have to think about wanting to dip.
Well seems like I was at a ball game with him an his sister was like *how do you feel about travis dipping* i was like umm last I checked he didnt do that he quit when we met. And by the way his sister is like 35, so like his sister was like well i dont know I seen it in his pocket today an askd him what it was an told him that its not good for him. And I was like i dont know ill have to talk to him then. SO yeah we were in his truck after the game and I was kinda silent so he knew something was wrong! And he asked me an I told him what I heard from his sister an he was like * you dont understands its a bad habit to break blah blah* so like idk why its such a BAD habit to break if he hadnt did it in all the monthes we have been together? Like what makes him change his mind now? And like i dont know I got real upset and was crying because he lied like we made a promise NOT to do that, an he always avoided dipping when his frineds had it or offered it. But am I in the wrong? Like i dont know I was so upset and crying because I feel as if he lied to me and broke some trust!? So am I in the wrong and would you in my position feel the same way as I did?
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I don't think he wanted to look bad in front of you, he probably does love you but didn't want to show that he couldn't quit it. Try and help him quit it, he clearly needs help, so do some research on how he can quit it and keep check up that he hasn't taken any, tell him your only doing it because you love him, and tell him to never lie to you again.
If you can show that small problems like this won't hurt you then he will be able to feel more open to you and to be able to look bad infront of you without him worrying it will destroy the relationship.
If you do this then you can see what kind of person he really is, if you still like him then this relationship you have if a very good one and will last a long time, if not then this guy is clearly not for you; this is how people stay together forever, or break up.
I hope you take the advice and be with him for a long time =]
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Is it more apropriate to tell a guy your home phnoe nummber or your cell phone number? (link)
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Give the lucky guy your cell phone number.
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