I am 17, living in New England.
I have a brother (6) and a sister (11) and two parents who I get along with really well. (it's not always easy!)
I like writing poetry and music. I play piano and guitar (and a little bass). I love reading, shopping, and being stupid with my friends and my boyfriend.
I like giving advice because I love writing, connecting with people, and sharing things I've learned.
Ask me anything and I'll try and help! :-)
Some areas of expertise: long distance relationships (my boyfriend is 3 states away at college!), family stuff (I have learned how to tame parents, haha!), messy breakups, makeup tips, and anything about clothes!
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Age: 17
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I'm thinking of getting bangs. Like not the kind that goes all the way around and is in front. Side bangs I guess you could call them. I part my hair to the side. I have brown hair, and it's a little past my shoulders. It's straight too. Do you think that this is a good idea? I don't want them to be extremely long though or anything. Does anyone know what I'm talking about and if so does this sound like a good idea or do you think it will look good? (link)
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I just cut mine like that a few months ago. If you have a face that is oval, rectangular, or heart shaped, it will look great. Avoid this cut with a round face.
Also, be sure to let the stylist know EXACTLY how long you want the bangs, otherwise you could end up with embarassingly short ones for a month or two (like me!!) luckily they grow out, but save yourself the hassle.
Lastly, be sure you don't have a cowlick or anything in the front, otherwise your bangs will stick up! uhoh!
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Wat do i do to get a guy to notice me? Should i become friends with him or just try to be around him or something else? (link)
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Be his friend. Be interesting and confident and have plenty of interests that aren't him! Just strike up conversations about what he likes and dislikes and be yourself. It's a lot more simple than you think.
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Does anyone know of anywhere that a 13 year old could work?? any help is appreciated..thanks (link)
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If you can't babysit, and you can't work for a family member, there isn't much you can do.
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what kind of things do you give guys on valentines day? Like really good things, or simple things are good to. I just need some ideas. i like to get my shopping done early so i wont have to woory about it later. but im completly lost on what i should get for him as a v-day present. Any Ideas? please help (link)
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Guys love creative gifts. Give him a mix cd with all his favorite bands, or a nice letter with 100 reasons why you like him. If you're stuck on something nice/expensive, try a video or computer game he wants, or a gift card to his favorite store.
Good luck and have fun on vday!
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im a 14 female. and i have big boobs, and all the signs of my period.but i haven't gotten it yet. what the eff IS WRONG WITH ME GOSH.heheh (link)
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I had "boobs" for about 3-ish years before I got my period. Don't stress, you're normal, and getting your period isn't nearly as exciting or fun as it may seem. Assuming you are a healthy weight and don't have any other serious illnesses, it is only a matter of time.
If you turn 18 and you still haven't menstruated, then go see a doctor. Before then, you're still plenty healthy and normal.
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okay so i like this guy and we hang out alot and when we do i always feel relaxed and feel confertable but when ever we hold hands or sumthin my hand always start to sweat! and i dont kno wut to do! its gross! i mean im embarrased to like hold hands with him now! wut can i do? (link)
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Haha...
Oh sweetie, everybody does that! Just make a joke out of it. Let go, wipe your hands and giggle. Make a crack about how he makes you nervous or something like that. Confidence and a good joke can make almost any situation instantly less mortifying!
Good luck!
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i'm in love with a guy whose a hindu and i'm a christian i love him a lot he love me to but his saying his parents won't allow what should i do?i'm 20 his 22 (link)
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Sometimes differences in religion are too great. It hurts, but maybe the only thing to do is move on.
I hope you don't have to resort to that, and good luck.
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My friend is a horrible singer and he wants to be fameus and sing on american idol but he sucks really bad.. i dont know how to tell him
PLEASE HELP ME !
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This is problem that seems amusing but does put your friendship at stake.
First of all, just support him if he doesn't ask for your opinion. Sooner or later someone who is not you will let him know.
If he does ask you for advice/opinions, tell him you think maybe he has talent elsewhere. Think beforehand about what his really great abilities are and tell him that you love those things about him.
And buy earplugs. ;-)
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ive been seeing this guy for about 2 months now and i think our relationship is just based on sexuality and looks... i mean when we first started our relationship we were like awesome friends and we loved to talk all the time and now i feel as if we never talk anymore and he isnt the person i once thougtht he was.. like we never talk anymore and i feel all we do is like make out... i try to read books and see if he is interested in what they have to say and sometimes they have poetry and i leave him sweet notes in his locker but we still like never talk anymore... help!
how do i tell him how to change without looking like im tryin to make him the person i want him to be? (link)
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Well, this is a perfect example of how realtionships corrode.
Physical stuff can really mess things up. Not that kissing or anything is bad, but sometimes it means you stop talking.
If you keep trying all the great things you are right now and he's not interested in it, you might need to break up and move on.
It might be hard, but you will definitely learn a thing or two about communication. You gotta keep talking...and make your boyfriend not just your boyfriend, but your best friend too.
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Hi, I need some advice. See, I want to gain weight and get on a healthier diet and stuff. Right now I weigh about 104 and I'm 5'3. I'd like to gain some more weight but not in my stomach, more so everywhere else(legs, arms, butt, etc) So, I was wondering, how do I gain more weight without the weight without it all going to my stomach and still staying healthy? Also, I'd like to be able to have more energy to do activities and stuff but sugary stuff just brings my energy up and then when it goes away, I'm really tired. Is there anything that will make me more naturally energetic? Does anyone have any tips on how I can..
-Gain weight without it going to my stomach but still going everywhere else
-Have more energy without eating sugary products
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Gaining weight that isn't fat...we call that muscle, girl!
First of all, get your diet straight. Avoid junk food, stuff that's processed and greasy, and fast food. It might be hard at first but after a while, you will begin to *prefer* good foods! Weird, huh?
Also, drink as much water as you can! A huge percentage of people could lose wieght and feel better just by increasing their water intake. Have a diet that includes lots of vegetables, protein (nuts, lean meats), and whole grain pastas, breads, and cereals. You'll have more energy with this diet.
Secondly, get into a regular exercise routine. Since you want to bulk up a bit, you may want to look into pillates, yoga, or weight lifting to tone and sculpt your body. Check out about.com for some exercising programs and tips for beginners. Just search for "exercise".
Good luck!
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I'm 14-years-old so I'm not looking for my life partner or anything. Well, my friends and even some people I don't know call me shallow because I only go out with guys I think are hott. And it's true but only to a certain point. Yes, I do look at looks first but doesn't everyone? I look at looks and if I think they're attractive then I'll talk to them and such. But I'll only date them if they have a great personality to go along with their looks. Personality can also make a guy hott to me so even if I'd initially think they were ugly but they had a confident, amazing personality I'd think they were hott. And like I said before, it's not like I'm looking for they guy I want to marry right now; I'm just having fun and meeting different guys. Does the way I see that make me shallow? Or is the way I pick the guys I want to go out with wrong? (link)
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It's never wrong to be physically attracted to someone. It just happens. As long as you're interested in the total package (his personality, beliefs, intelligence, etc.) then you're all set.
Your friends may be turned off if you are constantly scoping guys and making comments about which ones are hott and which are not. If you do this a lot, that may be what is making them upset.
Otherwise, you're on the right track. Ignore anyone who tries to put you down!
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Does any one know of any good sites, that will take away my boredom... I am 14 and i jus need somethin to do while i am on the computer.. please helpp!! ((~*Kaile*~)) (link)
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Try bored.com! It has tons of stuff for someone who is, well, bored! Like you!
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i will dye my hair medium brown (my hair is naturally dark blonde) with an at home kit---at first it will look REALLY good...but the color fades in like 10 days!! it makes no sense..how do i get the color to stay? (i use color protectant shampoo). do i need to get it professionally foiled? (link)
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If you're using a color-protectant shampoo, and a dye that is marked as permanent, you may just need it done by a pro.
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Okay...well i know this is weird..but i definetly need help lol. See everytime theres like a hott guy or jus even a cute one that like talks to me or is looking at me, even jus for a second, i start to turn red. AND the worst part is i don't even like them! I mean maybe it's because im shy...but im not really that shy. I don't know wat to do about it...but like i can feel my face get red, and when they're lookin at me i get embarrassed cuz know that they can see my face red... So wat can i do to make it stop...or at least control is better?!!
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Some people just have this problem. One of my best friends is a really cute redhead, and she blushes all the time, even when she's not embarassed or attracted to wheoever is talking to her.
My only suggestion is to try and mentally think cool thoughts, but otherwise it's just one of those things.
Laughing at yourself is always a good way to relax an embarassing blushing incident. Just let people know that you know you're turning red and it's not a big deal.
lastly, it's likely that you'll grow out of it! Good luck! :-)
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my boobs are always dry and itchy and there are black marks on them. why is that? and what should i do?
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Not sure about the black marks, but boobs can get dry and itchy when they're in a bra all day.
Here's some tips:
1) Use a lotion before you go to bed, and don't wear the bra to bed. Let the ladies breathe!! :-)
2) Try changing your bra. Buy one made of cotton, because you might be allergic to the elastic or another synthetic material in your bra. Bes ure not to dry the cotton bra in the dryer because it will shrink!!
3) If all else fails, try changing your deodorant, laundry detergent/fabric softener, and/or shower wash. Any of these things can cause itchy allergic reactions.
If all else fails, go see a dermatologist reccomended by your regular doctor.
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So I like this guy and Im almost 100% he's digging me back. But I need some kind of magic line to let him know it's all systems go so he can ask me out. Im old fashioned and not willing to ask a boy out so it's kind of up to him. How do I get it across that Im ready to take this friendship and turn it into something more? (link)
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If you are looking for a great, confident guy, you probably just have to wait it out. If he asks, then great. That shows that he knows there is a risk of rejection but is willing to take it because he is confident and likes you enough to take the risk.
If he doesn't ask, well...
This may seem harsh, but if he doesn't ask, you might not want to go out with him. I'm old fashioned too, and I am not interested in a guy who doesn't have the guts to take a risk and pop the question. Now, I'm not talking about a cruel game of hard-to-get, but if you give him all the signals and he's too chicken to respond; move on!
Hope you see the reasoning behind my theory and good luck!
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I was just shoveling yesterday alot and last night when I was sleeping I noticed my back hurt ALOT. Today even when Im typing I cant bend over because it hurts too much. What can I do to stop it from hurting? Please help!
Jacki (link)
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Try using a heating pad or a muscle-pain relieving cream, particularly at night.
If the problem doesn't fix itself in a week, go see a doctor.
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I am very new to this site and have only heard GREAT things about it. I have a very important question… I have never had a date on Valentine’s Day EVER!!! What can I do to make guys like me? I am very outgoing and intelligent. I am not the prettiest person in the world but definitely not the ugliest. If anyone can help, I would love to hear someone else’s opinion. Any help will do...Thanks!
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Confidence and completeness is the key.
What do I mean? Don't let your life revolve around having a guy in it! Learn to love yourself, develop your own interests and hobbies, and make lots of great friends. Be confident in your strengths and be complete as a person even without a guy in your life.
The funny thing about being confident and complete without a guy is that guys are so attracted to confidence. They love a girl who loves herself. After all, if you expect people not to like you because you don't...they won't.
You'll probably find that once you get to the point of being totally okay with just being you, all alone, a guy is really interested.
Funny how it works, huh?
Remember: confident and complete.
Good luck!
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I went out with this kid name Matt and About a month ago I dumped him. The kid is like obsessed with me he's alway just staring at me, at lunch, during classes, in the halls. If i walk across the room he watches me. He seriously watches like everything I do. I have a new boyfriend, named Jon, now and both him and i are really uncomfortable with him staring at me. Its so weird im like afraid to be myself sometimes. Like people come up to me and are like Matt is staring at you. It creeps me out and makes me so uncomfortable. Some of my friends have been telling him he needs to move on and get a new girlfriend and they've suggested hooking him up with people but he's obsessed. I dont like him that way at all. What should I do about it?!?!? (link)
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This could either be very serious, or it could just be a weird way of him dealing with the breakup.
Continue to ignore him if all he does is stare.
If he ever talks to you in a threatening way, calls you constantly, or threatens your friends or boyfriend, talk to a teacher, parent, or school counselor. They can help you make a plan to make him leave you alone.
Hopefully for your sake this is just a weird fluke and it doesn't end in a restraining order.
Hope this helps.
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I'm not a sloppy eater- it's just I drop stuff a lot. I have this dinner at our country club and it's very formal. I'm wearing this pretty dress along with all the other girls going and the guys wear suits and stuff. So, is there any way that I can try to eat neatly so I won't get junk all over my dress or embaress myself? (link)
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I have this problem a lot too!
Here are some pointers:
1) Take small bites. Cut your food well, and take it a little at a time.
2) Make sure your food is securely on your fork before you put it in your mouth.
3) Concentrate on getting the food to your mouth when you take a bite. Don't try and take one when you're laughing or trying to say something.
4) Try sitting close to your table to minimize the gap between your plate and your mouth.
5) If you can, choose a food that isn't messy. (some no-no's: lobster, spaghetti, etc.)
Try all these things, and if you still drop something, don't worry. It's not the end of the world. Just laugh at your clumsiness. When you laugh at yourself, you put everyone at ease and show that you are confident and not upright about a little mess.
Enjoy your night out!
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