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Im melissa and im 16 living in Illinois. I'm very good at advice and i will try my best to help you as much as i can! I will give you advice that i think is right and appropriate. I will answer any question of any category.(: Thanks.
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So I have worked things out with my boyfriend after a terrible situation we both went through,I wanted so much to sort things out with him once again so we had a second chance,but now that everything seems to be right again,I feel like I'm not that happy anymore with him and just think that it'd be best if we just finished our relationship,help?I just don't know what to do since I know this is not quite normal. (link)
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it's your life! you need to be happy and so does he. if you don't think it's working anymore then talk to him and be completely honest & see what he has to say, if he truly cares wait it out & if it goes back to normal then just say you have to end it because it's not working and if he doesnt care at all dont scream & shout and everything because your going to make everything worse just say something simple like "well i guess this is it" and smile at him hug him and just leave and don't go back. if you do something like that he will think about what he has done but if you just scream and yell and call him names (like most of us girls do haha) he's going to be glad you too are done with and prob think your weird loll
just be honest & see how everything goes and be calm
the best way to get someones attention is to stop giving them yours! :)
well i hope i helped, good luck, hope everything goes well
if you have any questions or anything just message me
melissa! :)
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ok well my mum grew up never seeing or knowing her father because when she was born he father left her mother and her mother remarried.as a kid she never got told that her mum's husband wasnt her real father.she found out when she was twelve and saw her real fathers name on her birth certificate.she met up with her real father once but isnt in contact anymore.her father had 3 other kids in which 2 my mum has contacted years ago but has never seen them.all of them also have kids(my step cousins!)and one of them is the same age as me...
i really want to meet them or atleast be in contact with them!they're my cousins!
how can i find a way to contact them?? (link)
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well maybe ask your mom if she has your number and ask her how she met up with him. ask her your wondering on meeting her dad and your cousins! just let her know how you feel.
maybe try finding them on facebook or something and adding them and chatting and try to find time to meet up and get together!
i hope i helped! good luck, hope everything works out. if you haver anymore questions just message me
melissa! :)
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I've been told that this guy I was talking to has started to see my sister behind my back. of course she denied it. He and I haven't really spoken to each other lately. She has bit of a pattern of doing this, but if it's real and she loves this guy it will hurt as he was my high school sweetheart. How do I handle this situation in a way I dont look crazy and can be the bigger person, but cut ties with her at the same time? I don't want to look bitter. It's just that she was the one I cried to about him and everything and so if she can't stop repeating this behavior whos to say she wont go for the next guy? It's not just her fault but he's no longer in my life nor do I care to ever speak to him again. (link)
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well what i would do is STOP telling your sister about the guys that your talking to or hanging out with.
what i would do is when she tells you something about him just smile and be like "really, wow thats great!" and dont think about it and drive yourself crazy about it! who cares? its some guy! you will probably find a better guy that loves you for you!.
just let it go and forget about it, when your sister is telling you something about it, dont get mad and start yelling because its just going to make you look bad.
if you have to, pretend everything is okay. (and try to start acting and really think it is)
and when your sister wants advice, i would give it to her, the right advice though, be the cooler sister, because obviously shes not. help her with her relationship as much as possible. karma comes around.
and when you start doing this and are nice to her, she might not realize it right away, but down the road i guarentee she's going to know that she made herself look like an idiot and she was the bitter one. she will realize it and know it's wrong, whether she keeps it to herself or comfronts you about it
but always remember, never trust your sister about things like that again.
i hope i helped & good luck. if you have any more questions just message me!
melissa! :)
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what do i do when stock take lands on the day i go on my holidays an i get told i cant have it off naw because the manager who told me i could have it got sacked an if i go i could loose my job (link)
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i wouldn't contact anoyone else but the person who told you you can't because if you get other people involved and if the other people override him or he gets in trouble, he is going to make your time their miserable! and DON'T say something like "the other manager that use to work here would have let me" because he will probably get mad & thats no good.
no matter how mad he gets you DON'T
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Hi.I am 17 yrs old girl.I am from India. I had read that you shouldn't phone your bf more than twice a day as it will make him thinking about me and he'll wonder when i'll call him. I had tried it once but instead he was so angry with me that he didn't speak to me for 2 long days!! what can i do??? please advice me!!! I want attention from him (link)
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Hi :)
well in my opinion you should phone your boyfriend whenever you feel like it.
if he really loves you and cares about you, he won't get mad at you for calling whenever you want, just to say hi, but don't annoy him tooo much! haha
and he might be mad at you because he's having a bad day, & most guys don't like talking on the phone or texting like girls do, so keep that in mind (their weird haha)
sometimes the best way of getting someones attention, is to stop giving them yours.
i hope i helped, if you have any more questions message me!
melissa! :)
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Well, my crush is one of my good friends. I really think he likes me back, and all of his friends that are my friends think so too. But he had a crush on one of my friends, and he still sort of does. He also jokingly accused me of liking him. I'm afraid it's going to be awkward, what should I do? (link)
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don't make it awkward! that's the worst thing you can do! if he accuses you of liking him & is joking around, then go along with it, play along. jokingly say "yeah your right i do" and kinda role your eyes and smile and kinda shake your head. you don't want to be like "" no i don't, what are you talking about" because he's going to think wow she can't take a joke, or wow she got really insecure about that. so what i would do, is whatever he says, (even if he's right on what he's saying, like you like him) just play along with it and joke around.
do that for everything, not even for this. if someone is laughing and and making fun of you then do the same thing back and laugh and make fun of them, just go along with it! the worse thing you can do is make it awkward and get mad at it.
i hope i helped. good luck! if you have any more questions or anything, just ask!
melissa :)
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so im in spanish class with this cute boy, and he is always complamenting me, once when i said a girl in a magazine is kinda pretty(not a lesbian just my opinion) he just laughed and said that i was prettier than her. he walks me to class sometimes and now im always looking forward to seeing him everyday. a few days ago i heard that he broke up with his gf, and his friend said he did it so he could ask me out. its been about 5 days and now im noticing that he is looking down my shirt, what should i do about that anyway?
do you people thinks that he likes me or am i just imagining it?
any advise is very thankful!! :) (link)
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well to me it seems like he likes you, but he wants to get in your pants (and i dont think you want that, especially being that young) DON'T put yourself in a situation that you can't get yourself out! and if he asks you to go to his place DON'T go, it might sound like fun but you never know what he's going to do and what if no one is home and he's doing something you don't like... then what? think before you do things loll! :) not saying you don't but just saying haha
if i were in this situation i would start wearing t-shirts, that cover everything & don't show your boobs & see if he still talks to you, if he doesn't you know what he wanted & if he does, then try it out! it doesnt hurt to try! :)
i hope i helped, if you have any questions message me!
melissa! :)
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Lately i have trouble focusing in school. i daydream endlessly in class and i am tempted sleep during class. Also, i can't do my homework or projects early, i procrastinate all the time, which can sometimes be stressful but i am too lazy to stop. In addition, i keep spending my money away on junk food, and i do not exercise at all. When it comes to religion, i am borderline deist, i want to get close to God but i am too lazy to put in the effort, making me a deist. Furthermore, my relationship with people is stressful. I am a pest, annoying, and pathetic sack of flesh. I am so weird and bizarre. Don't get me wrong i have some associates,but no friends. Sometimes i get criticize by my parents for my laziness, selfishness, and greediness for food. As a result, i hate myself i want to roll and die, i can't do suicide because of my religious belief, but i have been feeling down. My personality is childish and evil. My teacher was right i am Satan. And my sister was right everyone will only know me as a pest. I tired of trying change. I am tired of all of this criticism and stress. Why do people bash you but they do not help you to fix yourself. I am only seventeen, i just want to sleep peacefully for once in my life. (link)
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well you have won by knowing all of the things you have confessed! the only thing you have to do is change. if you put your mind to something you can ACHIEVE ANYTHING! if you really wanted to change yourself you can.
start with NOT buying junk food, maybe instead of a brownie buy an apple (maybe limit yourself to one piece of junk food a day) and for working out it doesn't have to be insane. just go to the park and play a sport or walk around your neighborhood. walking is great for you!
try to start going to church, once a week. im not saying read the bible everyday of your life, im saying go slow with it. when you go to church dont just go because you have to, go because you want him on your side. and when you go actually listen to what the priest is saying. you don't want to be like satan or be named by him.
if you know that you are weird (which i am to haha, everyone is loll) but if you think people think your mean, annoying or selfish, try to change. your the only one who can change yourself. i can say all these things but the only person who can really fix this is you! if someone asks you something don't snap. if your going to the store and you want to have some junk food buy a cake for your whole family and share.
start changing yourself slow! when it comes to the homework situation, everyone is like that! everyone hates it. but you have to do what you have to do. your not the only one who has to do it, ALL the kids at your school have to do it (think of it that way) also think of it as, if you dont do your work your going to have to go to summer school. would you rather do your work and go to school when everyone has to? or blow off your work and have to go to school all year AND in the summer?
if you don't like when people call you these names just nodd your head & really think about it. dont take it as critisism, try to change it. they will all notice.
i guarentee you, if you change, (im not saying change who you are, just the things your having trouble with) then you will probably have more friends. and don't forget to have fun and laugh and sing, and make the best of life. YOLO ( as everyone says now hha) it means you only live once if you didnt know loll
& DON'T ever think of killing yourself. you have a few things to work on that are totally curable. it may be hard and a little challenging and may take awhile to get use to but you can totally do it! remember believe in yourself!:) & if you were to commit suicide, what are you accomplishing? nothing! everyone is going to be comfused and think less of you!
you are going to mess up, but everyone does!
fall down 7 times, stand up 8
^ which means you will fail at things but stand back up and try it again!
i hope i helped, if you have any more questions or anything message me!
melissa! :)
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I feel so lame for seeking out advice on something like this at the age of 20, but I don't know where else to turn. My family friends have this cousin who I am completely and utterly in love with, and I don't know what to do about it. I don't know if he would ever bother giving me a chance, or if I'm wasting my time because he is so close with my brother that he would never want to screw up their relationship. It's literally to the point where I can't even date anyone else because he's all I think about and I don't want him thinking that I want anyone else. Help! (link)
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it's okay if your 20! were here to help people all ages!:)
you never know until you try! your a person, he's a person! you never know, he can be the nervous one liking you but he's to shy to say anything. but maybe he doesnt like you... but you can make him! hang out with him. maybe you & your brother and the guy all hang out and do something, laugh and tell jokes and be funny. but dont be to shy because he might not notice you. be cool about it all. what's the worse that can happen? become friends with him first and take it step by step, you don't want to be to up front with it because you might scare him away!
you will be totally fine. just pretend like he's one of your friends. and the most important thing to do is act yourself, don't act or pretend to be someone your not just for him to like you. don't lie and DON'T tell him you love him, he will probably be confused and think your weird (haha) :)
i hope i helped, if you have any questions just message me! :)
melissa.
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Okay so this year I became really good friends with my friend and we had a class together and all but it was only for the first part of the year. For about 4 whole months we talked a lot on text/chat and the last two months we have talked basically every day from the moment we get back from school until one of us goes to sleep. We have become very good friends and I throughout this whole thing I started to notice that I actually have a thing for him. The problem is that I'm going to college next year and he is staying because he is a year younger.
My friend actually asked him if he had a thing for me and it turns out that he does. She told him to just enjoy the time and have fun since I only have two weeks left.
I am actually so devastated that I am leaving. I think about it all the time and I can't get him off my mind... I never thought it would come to this.
I barely see him at school though, and I see him some weekends if there is an event going on but we don't hangout just the two of us.
But we have many inside jokes and we talk for hours and when we see each other it feels nice.
I leave so soon and I don't know what I should do... should I tell him something? Confess somehow or what? I really wish he could invite me to hangout or something that would be so amazing and perfect. Im dreading the day I have to say goodbye to him. We are going to be thousands of miles away and I have no clue when I will see him again. All I know is that we will be friends for a long time.
I just need help with how to handle this situation and how to get over someone I never went out with.
Thank you :) (link)
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if i were in this situation, i would try to have as much fun with him as possible, but not to much fun ( if that makes sense) you don't want to have so much fun and hang out with him 24/7 because then when he leaves your going to feel even worse. and it's not like your never going to be able to talk to him or see him again! you can always visit or he can visit you and you guys can text and talk on the phone and webcam.
you guys can ALWAYS be friends, but i was in this same situation but the guy was leaving for college and my dad told me not to get to caught up in him because once he leaves im going to miss him like crazy and even if we were to have something big once he left for college he's going to find another girl. no one really waits for anyone. it goes both ways, you can find another guy in college and he can find another girl.
i'm not bringing your hopes down because no one never knows what can happen,!
just think both ways!
have fun though, im not saying don't but dont have to muchh!:)
i hope this helped, if you have any more questions or anything message me! :)
melissa
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So I noticed this girl in my class that was pretty cute but I didn't talk to her at all for about 2 months. but as the semester went by I really didnt talk to to her until one day as I was heading to class she noticed me and asked me if I i was in her class and as we walked to class i made her laugh a couple of times than the next week i sat next to her and we talked more for the next couple of weeks I couldnt stop thinking about her and I couldnt wait to see her in class. I asked her if she wanted to exchange numbers and she gave it to me without hesitation but what was bizarre is that she only got my number i asked if she wanted mine but she said just text me and say its you. So I texted her and she texted right back and we talked but one day i asked her out to lunch she said that she couldn't because she had work so than a week later i asked her out to lunch and she said she couldn't because she had a final that day and would be out of town next week but she will let me know when shes back. So i text her again a week later asking her if she wanted to go out to lunch and go the movies after but she didnt text me back and its been more than a week so I dont know if i should wait for her to text me back or should I call or text her? Everytime i saw her in the campus she would smile and would be very happy to see me and one day i saw her going to her car and some dude was talking to her and when she saw me she completely ignored the guy talking to her and she smiled at me and said hey my friend who was with me that day whose good with relationships told me that he can tell that she likes me so i just wanted to add that and I want to text her but she said that she would let me know when shes back and she has the iphone 4 so when i texted her it was through imessage and said the text was delivered so she probably saw it. I texted her a couple of days ago and again she didnt text back the imessage was off though. but if anyone can help me that would be awesome! (link)
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i wouldn't get myself to freaked out about this situation. it seems like this girl likes you (from ignoring the guy she was with) but i would lay off a bit. i wouldn't text her at all. you don't want to annoy her because when you annoy girls they tend to drift apart from you and forget about you. if she said she will text you then wait a bit. if a month or a long time passes by and she hasn't texted then you should text her and say something cute like "did you forget about me :( " or "hey beautiful" or something, but don't go to fast! become friends with her first, then ask her out! girls can be shy as well. she can be really busy doing something (that's what it seems like from not texting your friend as well) or she can be really really shy and doesnt want to mess anything up so she's waiting awhile.
sometimes the best way to get someone's attention is to stop giving them yours!
i hope i helped, if you have any questions let me know! :)
melissa.
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i need a cute nick name for my love he is funny fat and so loving he always happy (link)
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chubby cheeks? haha
umm well whats his name?
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Ok so homecoming is Saturday and I don't know what would be a good dress to wear. I don't want something expensive but I want it nice.
The theme is "Happiest homecoming on earth"
So it's Disney themed and idk if I should just wear a regular dress or what.
So any ideas? (link)
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well its just a theme so i think you should pick a fun dress that you really like. :) maybe a fitted one :)
i got one from DEB :)
hope i helped
melissa.
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Hey,
Im 11 turning 12 in 5 months, i started getting discharge 1-2 and a halve months ago but i still haven't had my period.
My hormones are going crazy, like when im talking to my mum i might just suddenly start balling my eyes out or when im happy i might suddenly just get angry by the smallest things so im really moody but that started a bit before i turned 11 but not as strong.
Periods normally start 2 years after you start to grow your breasts and its been to years and i started growing them when i was around the age of 10.
I normally get discharge about everyday, and sometimes i get cramps but after the cramps i dont get the period.
Is there something wrong? or are they signs?, when will i get it?
Plz help
Thxs :) (link)
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no that's normal! my sister had something like that and she went to the docotr and the doctor said you might get your cramps awhile before you get your period.
i use to get discharge... i still do before i get my period.
you might just get cramps and no period yet or it might be a sign your getting it!... but don;t rush it because you DONT want it... its a pain! i always couldnt wait until i got mine and now that i do, i wish i didnt have it!
and when you do get your period, make sure you write down when you got it and when it ends and how heavy it is.
and don't worry i didn't start growing boobs until about 8th grade and they were small. im a junior now in highschool and there stull growing...don't worry about that! :)
and i didnt get my period until the middle of my freshman year!
if you have any questions just ask :) hope i helped!! :)
melissa
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I'm running for Homecoming Queen. One of the things we have to do to get people to vote for us are to make posters. I need cute slogans/quotes to put on my posters? Any Ideas? (link)
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well.... whats your nameeee?
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What are some good excises that will help you loose stomach fat quickly?,
i dont want to get a six pack or lots of muscle, i just want to get thin.
what are some good excises for it? any suggestions are great thanks :) (link)
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well im actually trying to do the same thing as you!
if you want to get skinny you need to eat right. if you excersise and not eat right... it wont work.
what i do is i go on the tremill early morning before i leave the house and i dont eat anything before i go on the treadmill... but after i eat!
while going on this diet, you need to have eaten at least 1,200 calories a day or your body will go into a starvation mode, and you dont want that!
when you run, it works out everything! mostly your heart though!
if you want a flat stomach you have to do crunches.
but not normal hard ones... all you have to do is flex and do a 1/2 sit up... you will feel it in your stomach! do at least 50-100 a day! but you can't skip, you need to do it everyday or otherwise it wont work,
and dont think this is going to work over night haha (i wish it did) because it will take a long timee!
good luck! hope i helped :)
if you have any other questions just ask :)
melissa
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Melisa123 my sister Tori is 6 years old and she is really bad. She hits me, kicks me, bites me and alot more. What do I do. My family and I are sick of it. She has been like this forever!!!! I need help. I tried to ignore but that just make it worse! I need help!!!!!! I am Taylor. Age 10 and I am a girl. (link)
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well if i were you i would talk to your parents about it and tell them to punish her. yell at her and try to scare her to never do it again! give her a spanking or something or pretend to do something really bad if she does it again!
she is little and she doesn't really understand things like that!
if she des this to you give her a really dirty look and DONT do this put pretend your going to punch her or slap her to frighten her. once you scare her, she wont do it again! :) (but dont hurt her! spankings from your parents are fine but none other!)
hope i helped! if you have any other questions just ask!! :)
melissa123
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loved that quote :) and thanks .. i guess thats what im going to do because i really love him. & i just dont want to let go of him for something like that. (link)
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good! :) and good luck! :)
if you have any questions just ask!
melissa.!
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So my boyfriend went out of town a few weeks ago and promised he'd kiss me when he got back and that sorta didn't happen we both got nervous and he kinda kissed me right above my lip... so anyway he's gone again and I had been so mad that I didn't go for the kiss the last time so I promised I would kiss him on our next date which is in a week. I'm terrified! I really want to kiss him because I love him but I'm just so nervous about how to bring it up and when to actually do it on our date. This is my first kiss and his also so I have no idea what to do.
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in my opinoin if your this nervouss then i don't think your ready. when you kiss someone it just happenes, it's not planned because when it is, it just doesn't turn out righht.
good luck, hope i helped :)
melisssa.!
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hey :) I'm sorry if this is too long. I just need some advice. Thanks.
I hadn't seen my boyfriend since last Sunday. He told me to go to his house today and i went. I went at 6pm. we stayed there having a good time. Then his friend came over. After an hour passed his friend said he had to go to the park to be with his friends which are girls too. My boyfriend told me he was going to walk me so he told his friend to go with him. I felt very disappointed at this because i went to be with him but he decided to go to the park and just stay stay with his friends. When they were walking me my boyfriend friend turned in a street and he called him and told him to walk me to my house because he was going to the park with him too. I really don't know what to think. He pulled me over and he asked why am i mad, i told him i was okay. He said he wanted to be cool with me not arguing then he asked for a kiss and whatever i gave it to him and then left to my friends house because at least she had time for me. I really love him but i don't know what to do :( I'm just disappointed. (link)
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it may be that he's just shy to be only around you. try to talk to him and tell him how you really feel... because if you don't he's not going to know... but a true boyfriend that really cares would know that somethings wrong and would fix it and know whats bothering you.
well if i was in your situation i would try to stop texting and calling him and communicating with him and see if he text or calls you because if he wanted to talk to you then he would.
"sometimes the best way to get someone's attention is to stop giving them yours"
i hope i helped and good luck!
if you have any questions about anything just ask!(:
MELISSAA!(:
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