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What's best way to handle this weird situation?
I've been told that this guy I was talking to has started to see my sister behind my back. of course she denied it. He and I haven't really spoken to each other lately. She has bit of a pattern of doing this, but if it's real and she loves this guy it will hurt as he was my high school sweetheart. How do I handle this situation in a way I dont look crazy and can be the bigger person, but cut ties with her at the same time? I don't want to look bitter. It's just that she was the one I cried to about him and everything and so if she can't stop repeating this behavior whos to say she wont go for the next guy? It's not just her fault but he's no longer in my life nor do I care to ever speak to him again.
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well what i would do is STOP telling your sister about the guys that your talking to or hanging out with.
what i would do is when she tells you something about him just smile and be like "really, wow thats great!" and dont think about it and drive yourself crazy about it! who cares? its some guy! you will probably find a better guy that loves you for you!.
just let it go and forget about it, when your sister is telling you something about it, dont get mad and start yelling because its just going to make you look bad.
if you have to, pretend everything is okay. (and try to start acting and really think it is)
and when your sister wants advice, i would give it to her, the right advice though, be the cooler sister, because obviously shes not. help her with her relationship as much as possible. karma comes around.
and when you start doing this and are nice to her, she might not realize it right away, but down the road i guarentee she's going to know that she made herself look like an idiot and she was the bitter one. she will realize it and know it's wrong, whether she keeps it to herself or comfronts you about it
but always remember, never trust your sister about things like that again.
i hope i helped & good luck. if you have any more questions just message me!
melissa! :)
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Sometimes things just happen, you can't help who you fall in love with. This could be what's happening in her case. BUT at the same time, that's not fair to you. She should be a bit more considerate and honest with you about it. She is your sister so it's a lot easier said than done for cutting ties, but maybe try keeping some things seperate from her, like in this case, your love life. I don't think its necessary to cut her completely, but just keep some things seperately from your sister-to-sister relationship.
Or, you can always just sit her down and talk to her. In a non-threatening way of course. Just be like, "hey, I'm not trying to start anything but this is what I'm noticing and even though I know you're not trying to hurt me..." Honesty CAN be the best policy. But you know the situtation better than anyone else in terms of how she will react. So it really is your call. Just keep your head up, and keep moving forward. Easier said than done, I know. But it'll get easier :)
xo Good Luck!
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