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The hardest part about life is going through pain, but pain is often necessary. I question the relationships I have with people. Why I am constantly left disappointed? Well, I think I have found the answer. It is because I have no control over what people do or say to me. I often wish I could change people, maybe if I tell them how they hurt me they would change for the better. In my mind I have expectation of them and they are completely inconsistent to who the person actually is. I constantly look for someone I can depend on but I have attracted unreliable people. I am a reliable and considerate person shouldn't I attract reliable and considerate people? What am I suppose to learn from this? (link)
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Maybe that you have to learn to rely on yourself before others?
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There's this white/clear "gooey" substance in my underwear. I got my first period nearly a year ago. I thought it could be discharge, but don't you only get that before your period? (link)
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It's either discharge (which by the way you can get at any time, no just before your period), or your vaguna going through it's cleaning cycle.
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So I have a problem with sweating and it's pretty bad. I get hot easily and I sweat through my clothes and it not only looks disgusting, but I get so embarrassed! I have band camp coming up on Monday through next week Friday and I have to wear a certain color shirt each day. I'm so nervous that my team will see my shirt sweaty and they'll think I'm disgusting. I can't help it! How do I stop sweating?! I need advice before Monday and fast. Please help!!!
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I have the same problem and this changed my life: get a cup of baking soda and add just enough water to mix it into a thick paste. Slather it all over your armpits (preferably with a towel, but a paper towel or your hand will work as well). Let it sit for 20-30 minutes (be shirtless during this time so it doesn't get on clothing and mess with the effects of the baking soda). After letting it sit, rinse it off, dry well, and apply a THIN layer if deodorant or none at all, it depends on your body how much deodorant you need after this process. After doing this, if I don't put on deodorant, I start sweating again after about 7 hours. The process works best if you do it directly after showering and shaving your armpits. Dry them well after showering and get it on BEFORE you start sweating.
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I havnent been able to sleep very well for the past week, and when I do it's maybe 5 hours a night with me waking up every 45 minutes in that time span. What should I do to get some sleep? (link)
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DON'T take sleeping pills. Talk to a doctor.
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hello
I'm in love vd one of mine senior frnd she know i madly love her but i dont know what she feels cus she did such a things with me whick makes mee depressed and always hurting me not talking properly always in rude manner but sometimes she is talking in very soft manner and whenever we use to hangout together she is always observing my expression what i feel when she use to say that she like someone else she share all her past secret but not telling the name of guy (currently) to whom she like aur loved she is not ignoring nor allowing mee im quite no totally confused what she feels ...??
and always saying juss move on and concentrate on your future..! if i guess she love but not showing her feelings cus she feels dat im diverting from my goal and path thats y she do this to get me on track. (only predictions not confirm)
Thanku
From
Mad lover..!
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Write in real words and then I'll answer.....
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I have naturauly wavy hair, and it's HORRIBLE! Seriously, every night after I take a shower I have to put 2 hair products in and blow dry my hair completely, then in the morning brush it for an hour, and most times end up putting it back in a headband. On occasions I can actually style it but it looks stupid because the waves make my hair look shorter even though when I straighten it it's half way down my back. My naturaul hair is too short to put a fishtail braid in, and I've been wanting to do that forever. And it'll take me twice as long to grow out my hair, even just my bangs, then a girl with straight hair. But girls with straight hair are all,“oh I wish I had curly hair, you're lucky because you have wavy hair" bla bla bla. They could style it any way they want and they don't even have to work to actually do the style. If I want to do a French braid,I have to wet my hair, then do it quickly before it frizzes up. So why the f*ck would people want my hair? (link)
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I have like those super curly spiral curls so I understand where you're coming from. People don't really understand the effort we have to put into our hair to make it look good. Sometimes it's pretty when it behaves and that's all that they think about,
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My girlfriend is always texting this guy see says is just a friend that comes into work and he doesn't mean nothing to her. They talk everyday all day while she's at work. Lately I've found her texting him to see what he's doing instead of him looking for her. When I asked her about it she just said I had nothing to worry about and see won't talk to him anymore but now she has him under a females name trying to cover up so I think she's not talking to him anymore. Am I just looking into this the wrong way or should I be worried? Thanks Taz170 (link)
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If you think she's cheating, then she probably is. I have super close guy friends, but you kind if have to draw the line at some point. I never tried to hide any of my guy friends from my boyfriend, he could have been reading the texts over my shoulder for all I cared. If she hasn't been your girlfriend for that long, you should probably just dump her bow, but if it's been over a year, the talk to her about it.
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Hello advicenators, I just need a few advice to share with my brother. He is 29 and has been under a lot of pressure lately. My whole family wants him to find a girl and get married. I personally believe that they shouldn't be forcing him to. Now there are two girls that he has been talking to and my family wants him to choose one of those girls but they want one of the girl most than the other one. Let's just call them girl a and girl b. Girl a is very shy and antisocial and doesn't really talk to our family members that much or try to get to know us better and my parents don't like that about her. My brother is deeply in love with her but my family want him to choose girl b because of how social she is and how she wants to know everyone in the family. My brother doesn't love girl b as much as he loves girl a. Personally I believe he should choose girl a who he's madly in love with despite of how shy and antisocial she is. I just need some advice that I can share with him so he could really think about what's best for him and not our family. After all we are not the ones who will marry the girl, he is and he needs to be happy. (link)
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It's HIS CHOICE. He doesn't have to get married yet if he doesn't want to. Who cares if his "biological clock is ticking" or whatever people say to convince you to get married. When he does feel ready, he should propose to girl a, the one whom he truly loves.
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hey guys my name is Jenna and i have a relationship crisis there is this guy and we are bestfriends he is the sweetest and he seems intrested in me but my friends are always embarrasing me infront of him we have a good friendship he lives wit his grandparents they will let me and my friends in. i went in to his bedroom and spooned him he was asleep and he woke up and i said that was great last night it was so funny i almost died well tonight he was asleep me him and my two friends went in to his room and my BESTFRIEND (female not male) was flirting with him so we went on a walk we joked around a little then said good night and im gona go to his house tommorow how should HOW SHOULD I PRANK HIM AND SHOULD I TELL HIM I HAVE FEELINGS FOR HIM???????????? (link)
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YES AS SOON AS YOU CAN!!!! TELL HIM
ASAP OR YOULL REGRET IT WHEN YOUR FRIEBD HAS HIM
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I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over 3 years. He moved out of the country for college and now he's living with his dad, his step mom and his step siblings. His mother has hated me since the start. She always puts up a face and acts like everything is okay when she's in front of me and my family. I just found out recently that she has been trying to get rid of me by telling my boyfriend to leave me. She also keeps pairing my boyfriend up with girls that she is comfortable with. I dont know what I should do or how I should react. My boyfriend is very close to his mom and I dont want to ruin their relationship as much as possible. I hope he fights for me when the situation calls for it. (link)
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First, try to be extra nice to his mother. Send her presents on Mother's Day, Christmas, etc. When you see her, compliment her blouse or her shoes or her house. If that fails try asking your boyfriend why she doesn't like you and make sure that he has no interest in being paired up with these other girls. Talk to him about the whole situation. Maybe it's just some behavior or characteristic about you that you can easily change around her. Ex: covering up a tattoo that she doesn't like or whatever it is about you that she doesn't approve of.
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I'm 15 and I haven't masturbated vaginally before. Well, I did with my finger, and it was pretty rough. I am a virgin and haven't had sexual experience of any kind with anyone. So after, I noticed a bit of blood on my finger, so I checked it out and I was bleeding very very lightly, but it terrified me!! Is something wrong? (link)
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You probably just scraped the inside of your vagina with your finger nail or you stretched your hymen.
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I'm thinking about sex constantly I need a girl to have fun with please give me feedback don't be harsh. (link)
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I'm a 14 year old girl and honestly, I think that all teenagers feel like that. I know I do. Just hormones and crap. You may think you're ready but you're not actually ready to go all the way until you're ready to deal with accidental pregnancies, sexually transmitted diseases, and buying condoms. Masturabate and try it get yourself a blowjob for now.....
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He's hot, what is his name?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ofwFr8o8p0Y (link)
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One male actor was named Galn. Look him up on google images, see if he's your guy.
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Well am a 15 year old boy with not much of a social life. When i get lonely which is most of the time, i tend to watch porn. Recently, i decided to try watching gay porn and i liked it very much. I even cum faster when i watch Gay Porn than when i watch Straight Porn. Could it mean that am gay?
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Gay means you are sexually attracted to guys. As in you want to date them. If you feel that way about guys you are gay, otherwise you are just experimenting which is normal for teens. If you are sexually attracted to both boys and girls then you may be bisexual.
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I'm 11 year old female my sister is 4 year old female
OK, my dad verbally abuses me, my mom, my (autistic) brother, my sister especially, and my grandma. He even did it to her when SHE HAD FUCKING CANCER!!!! HE DIDN'T SHED A TEAR HE ONLY BITCHED ABOUT HOW SHE WAS SLEEPING SO MUCH AND HOW SHE IS BEING OVER DRAMATIC ABOUT HER PAIN SHE HAD FUCKING CANCER! CANCER! And even though she's been cured she's still tired from it and he says she doesn't want us. My mom knows but she just says that we have to deal with it. One day he took us to breakfast down the street and we were walking home my sister was running in flip flops so she fell and scrapped her leg, so he called her a fucking bastard so I told my grandma and I was crying and she helped me, but I still think about suicide a lot. My dad says he's nice because he takes us places and buys us stuff and he doesn't insult anybody. But he promised to be nicer and he did improve. But I still don't like or trust him. So one night my mom had to practice court reporting and my sister wanted to be with her but she couldn't. So my dad brought her in his bed and she started screaming. I was trying to go to sleep so I came in there to complain (I know,I know) anyway so he was kind of holding her down and I was gonna go get my phone and take pictures to see if he's doing anything bad, but I was already talking by the time so he stopped. A women accused false rape on him when I was 3, and even planted that thought in my head but we did a test on my private and she even admitted to lying. My grandad asked me if it was true and I told him no. I've been really stressed about this I don't know what to do (link)
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I had a dad like yours once so I might be able to help you out a but here. If he'll hit you or anything don't try to talk to him about it alone or at all. If you get a moment by yourself you can call police or find a child protective services number. If your grandma/mom will help you that would be good. You have to do something honey. Tell the cops or whoever what you just told us before it's too late.
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I'm quite embarrassed to say that I am a 33 year old female virgin and have never masturbated. I don't think there is something wrong with me, it's just an opportunity to have sex never happened. But now I am constantly thinking of sex, getting sexual urges sometimes for days on end etc. I am even thinking of getting a vibrator just to please the urges. I am quite scared to do it, since it will be my first experience but I am also quite excited at what I might feel. Is there something wrong with me or my sexual urges? Will it calm the urges a bit if I masturbate? I am quite shy about this subject as sex and masturbate is not a common subject in my family / friends circle. I am quite a sorry Suzi / sad case and feel like I am doing something so out of character by ordering a vibrator. Any advice? Should I masturbate? (link)
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Don't listen to that Julia girl below me because that's a religious belief that masturbartion is wrong or whatever and it also DOES NOT spoil sex. Yeah, if you don't have a husband or boyfriend get a vibrator or dildo, it really helps.
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If the fallowing offends you I dont care.
About a year ago I came out to my parents that I was an Atheist. Well they are young earth creationists(which means they take everything in the bible literaly.) so they did not take to kindly to it. They made fun of me for not beliveing in there god and the fact that they are so positive that I'll regret it when I find out I'll be wrong. Well I shook it off I'm very strong with my belifs and at another time after I let things cool down I asked them if it was necisary that I go to church. The gave me no other reasoning other than yes because thats what our family dose. So ive put up with it for along time and I don't think I can any more. All I do at their church is sit there and stare off into space. Its truly a waste of time for me. I know the religion is not for me ive read the whole bible 4 times. More than most believers and I cannot stand for what they belive in. Dose any one know any reason
that my parents would be like this and only give me such a bland reason for making me go? (link)
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Just stick it out till you're 18
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Hi! I was just wondering if I could where a push up bra? I DO NOT want to be slutty with it I just really want more support because my boobs are a bit bigger then most girls ( my bra size is a 36A) and how do I ask my mom with out her freaking out? Please help and please no hate (link)
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Try getting a bigger bra or one with underwire. Or the next time you're shopping for bras or clothes or whatever just pick a cheap one up (it's more likely she'll let you get it if it's cheap) and say "can I get this one?"
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Hi I'm 13 And I masturbate with a 4 inch rounded tip marker And my electric toothbrush. Sometimes when I pulled the marker out of me after I masturbate their is white stuff on it But it's not dripping out of my vagina. Does this still count as cuming? Please help! (link)
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Doesn't really matter much, but yeah, that white stuff is cum.
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Hi I am 13, Do you think it's appropriate from me to were G string thong? I have three pairs of just regular thongs. How do I ask my mom for a g string? Or am I at the Appropriate age to where one? Please help! (link)
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I'm your age so I'm hoping I can help you out here......Why do you want to wear a thing in the first place, they're sooooo uncomfortable (unless you're trying to hide panty lines lol) but anyway, next time you're out shopping for underwear just pick one up and say "can I get these?" Or something like that. Or if you're ever at a mall or something with your friends without your mom, then just buy it yourself.
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