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i love one of my best friend she knows bt she is not fully ignoring mee nor fully allowing m totally confused what she feels for mee
hello
I'm in love vd one of mine senior frnd she know i madly love her but i dont know what she feels cus she did such a things with me whick makes mee depressed and always hurting me not talking properly always in rude manner but sometimes she is talking in very soft manner and whenever we use to hangout together she is always observing my expression what i feel when she use to say that she like someone else she share all her past secret but not telling the name of guy (currently) to whom she like aur loved she is not ignoring nor allowing mee im quite no totally confused what she feels ...??
and always saying juss move on and concentrate on your future..! if i guess she love but not showing her feelings cus she feels dat im diverting from my goal and path thats y she do this to get me on track. (only predictions not confirm)
Thanku
From
Mad lover..!
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I am probably going to be no more helpful than your message was. I can pretty much figure out text abbreviations but you are not using fully complete sentences, more like phrases with no period where one sentence phrase ends so I am a bit confused. But I will try my best. If this doesnt help, you may want to take the time to reword your explanation.
If she is purposely seeking to hurt you, I must mention that is not the behavior of a best friend. If you are feeling hurt because she is not responding to you romantically, well...thats one of the things of life that aren't fair but happens all the time. When one person feels something towards another, theres no guarantee that the other feels it too. There's no way to force it to happen, either there is that magic chemistry for the romantic side of a relationship or there isn't.
You say she talks about old boyfriends. Talking about old boyfriends is not an indicator that she is interested in you or looking for a boyfriend. She is simply choosing to talk about old boyfriends. However it is not the best way for you to find out more about her and how she might feel about you. So try asking questions of her that can not be answered with a yes or no. Find out what her likes and dislikes are, hobbies, life as a kid, hopes, dreams, moral views, etc... and if she answers and asks the same things from you to get to know you better, then there is a surface level interest. Whether its friend or not, you cant tell until you spend some time together and look for signs. People do a lot subconsciously unaware of really what they are doing but if really interested, they will smile often at the person they are drawn to, find excuses to sit or stand near enough to touch, find reasons to touch in some non sexual way, a pat on the shoulder, smoothing a hair back, picking lint, a bug off, wiping away an eyelash or speck of food on the others face. It might seem natural but the point is, you could point it out and they do it themselves or you take the chance to have a moment of touch.
If I understand, she is not showing feelings. Have you professed love to this girl? If so, she may feel put on the spot if its too early on and these feelings have not developed for her. Although she may never feel that way for you.
There are two ways that a couple can come to have deep feelings for each other....one person can feel it almost instantly, right at the start. For others, its like a coal in the fireplace, instead of that instant eruption into a feeling of passionate flames, the other type needs a tending of the coal, the feeding it, the nurturing and time and eventually the coal slowly begins with a couple little flames that eventually end up as big as blaze as the one that came on suddenly. Both are equal amounts of love, one just took longer to grow and is just as natural. People just assume because its not there at first that it may never happen.
A lot may depend on how you are treating her, to bring on that feeling of love...if you have a belief that there might be chemistry between you.
Each of us has our own love language and usually only recognize from others the kind we most like to recieve and give the same way but our partner may not recognize love the same way we do. I am talking about Gary CHapmans 'the 5 love languages'. Besides 'Giving of gifts' there are more ways to show you love someone. Perhaps she just hasn't picked up on it or doesnt know how to tell you without hurting your feelings that she doesnt feel the same way. So maybe you are right that she is not showing her feelings, hiding that she has no feelings. If she does feel something towards you but is new at relationships, she may be inexperienced, and has no clue that it is very important to have good communication.
Am I right that u say she said to you. "Just move on and concentrate on your future."
Those are words when I read them alone, sound like she has absolutely no interest in you.
What I don't know is what led up to her saying that. What incident...what she had been saying or doing lately...or the last thing you said or did that brought those words from her. That might reveal something more that we could advise you on.
The only thing I can think of, if she is willing to seek you out, contact you, willing to call, text, meet, then there is some level of interest and you have every right to ask this simple question:
We've been hanging out for a while now. I'd like to know if your interest in me is just as best friend only or if there is interest in me as more than a friend, by which I mean possible romantic interest? If she has no interest, then you need to be honest with her if you can still be just a friend or if it will hurt you too much and you need to stop seeing her. That also is a fair move. But both of you need to be honest with each other on all this or you'll both be going no where.
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