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Hey, My name is kendra. I go through a lot in my life and I love to give good advice to people who have experienced what i have been through. Im not the type of girl to tell you what to do, that's not my job. I just give advice and what you want to do wit it..is ur decision. I'll do my besT to understand every problem or question that is being asked. I take any questions and I dont judge. So drop some letters on my page and i will definitly give the advice thats besTT for ya..smoochiez..

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i have been like flirting more and looking at like every attractive guy that walks by and then wen there is a guy in my class that is hot, i cant stop staring....like my eyes just look off my paper and look at him.........i have been flirting with like every guy too, is this normal? is it like hormones or something with puberty or something? cuz i just cant help myself hah

yes it is very normal. and most likely it's your hormones.. right now you're feeling "boy crazy", crazy about boys. when you go through puberty your hormones are raging and you have all types of new feelings about everything..however try your best not to let you hormones and urges take control of you because you get out of hand and do stupid things with guyz that you'll probably regret. hope i helped

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im thinking about getting my tounge pierced but not letting my mom find out. how bad does it hurt & how long is it sore. & like do you talk weird with it in at first. haha any info would be great. -- i would get it professionally done by my friends sister by the way. no need to worry about that.

It might be a little hard to hide it from your mom. when you get a tongue ring you're not aloud to eat or drink juice for at least a day or else it will get infected. you do kinda of talk funny for a while but then you become use to having the ring in your mouth so you talk normal. Also during the first weeks you get it, dont take the ring out at all because your tounge hole closes really really fast. hope i helped:-P

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ok im 14/f and im almost 15 i have this boy friend who i really love i mean i think he is the one or some thng...but my best friends sister (who is also kinda my fried) likes him and makes it known when i am with him...and rite now im just scared that she will do something with him because she has done stuff with my boy friends befor but that is in the past and she is known for stealing boy friends even thoguh she is ass ugly and i dont kno i wanted to take my relaton ship woith my boy friend a little further but now idk because what if she dose somthing to him???? im just confused someone help me! and if i dont get any bs ill rate high

If your boyfriend goes with her or does something with her then that's on him. It's his lost. And if your best/F sis munipulates him to do shit with her then he's not for you. And is not worth going further in the relationship with. If he is for you he wont do anything with her.. Just think of her as a test for all your boyfriends, if they make a mistake with her then leave them. Make sure your boyfriend feels the same about you how you feel about him if you really wanna go a little further. And just remember that there is always going to be a chick/chicks that envy and just gonna hate on you, the best thing is to let them continue doing that ..and again if your boyfriend is real then do what you want. hope i helped

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15/f
Aliright. I know this is kinda a stupid question but i wanna ask anyway. Well there is this boy that really likes me and i like him back(i told him). I have never really had a boyfriend, and never had a first kiss(he also knows this). We are planning on hanging out soon and im pretty positive that he will kiss me. But im soo nervous! I dont know what to do. any tips are great thanksss!

aww im so happy for you.. you should just follow his lead. It'll be cute and fine. And if he knows that you've never been kissed he'll make sure you're not embarrassed. you'll probably be nervous when the moment its about to happen but once it's over you'll be okay. It may not turn out how you want it to be but the more you kiss, the better you'll get at kissing..hope i helped
:-*Puker up

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I'm a pretty girl, I'm not trying to be cocky but I'm proud of my looks. When I'm out hott guys check me out, wink, smile, or wave at me all the time. However, the only boyfriends I can get are losers. What do I do?

the only boys you go out with are probably losers because maybe all they wanted is to have a pretty girl or just simply fuck you (I'm sure there are other reasons why their losers). You should try to build a friendship with someone before you start dating them. A friendship is all about honesty trust and fun, once you have a friendship with a guy you'll know the real him. It's nice to have cute guys attracted to you because of your looks but dont let it get to your head because many guys pretend to be a certain way at first and change after a while. So like i said, get to know the guy before you date him. And just because most of all your b/f's were loosers doesnt mean you're not girlfriend material. Simply make sure you're a real girl-friend to him and he's a true boy-friend to you. hope i helped.**

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In your honest opinion...

How realistic is it to think that you will one day marry your first love? I don't think it's likely, but it happens, right? I'm 16 and he is 17. And I've never felt this way about anyone in my entire life. I just want to experience everything in life with him. We talk about getting married sometimes, I mean seriously talk about it. When we do talk about it he tells me that he is serious, that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me.

Opinions? Advice Please?

well nowadays it really isnt that realistic but it can happen and it has happen many times..i think that you do have a chance of being with him til death do you apart. however even though your future with him is very important you have to realize that you are in the present..dont get your hopes up because it hurts really bad..things may change in the future as well as him. you may meet a new person and feel the same about them as you feel about him or he may do the same thing..but dont think im tyring to put you down because no matter what any one says if you are honestly in love and you know for suure he feels the same about you then you should go through with the idea of getting married with your first love and experience everything in life with him like you want..but then again you may experience some doubts because if you decide to marry your first love you know you've missed out on a lotta things with different guys.. but it doenst matter if it's realistic or not to marry your first love like i said if you are both in love then go with what your hearts says ...hope i helped

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so ive been on my period for about..3 days now *first time* and it is getting heavier each day, or it seems to be. and i was wondering if that was normal and if there is anything else i need to know. thnks in advance :]

yes it is very normal for it to be light the first time and then eventually get heavier..you'll later start to experience cramps as the months go by which really suck..it is also normal for your next period to come late so dont be worried and you stay on your period usually for 5-7 days. also maybe you should wear pantiliners a couple of days after the end of your cycle and a couple of days before you began your cycle incase of any discharge. and if you didnt know you can also record your cycles on a calender to determine when will you begin your next cycle for example cycle starts: june,5 through june,11 then the next is august,4 through august10... from june 11th to august4th there is about 29 days between so in about 29 more days after august 10th you will start another cycle...sorry if you didnt get that.. hope i helped oo and your period is mostly heavy in the fall

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Oh man, here goes, and it is going to be long. Sorry about that. So I used have a crush on this guy who rode in my lessons at my old stables (yes, he rides English....no, he is not gay)and then he was at my camp. We were kinda unofficialy going out, like we danced at the camp dance and stuff but it was not official. Then, I switched barns and I miss him so much because I haven't seen him since. (My best friend still rides there and sees him all the time and likes to rub it in, but that is irrelevant.) We are going back to camp this summer (in a couple weeks) and I know that once I see him, all my feelings I used to have for him will come back. I'm not even sure what his past year has been like with girls, but I know he doesn't have a girlfriend right now. However, I just got out of a messy, messy relationship that was not worth all of my effort. I don't want another one of those. So the main question is, if the feelings come back, do I go for it or do I lay low? If I lay low, how do I ignore my feelings?

well im sure your feelings will come back for him since you still think about him..but then again you haven't seen him in a while and people change...anywayz when you do take the chance to get reunited with him again i think you should take things slow instead of getting into a relaionship because you did say you dont trust yourself with guys hearts and if you really like this boy then you shouldnt be in a rush to have a relationship with him to then later break his heart. however, dont ignore your feelings for him..try flirting or kissing just have fun.. but dont take it to a level where someone can get hurt by mix feelings or anything like that...good luck hope i helped

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well...im female, and 15 years old.

i'm not very popular, but i wouldnt say im a geek either.

i really dont feel like i have any friends. im sort of friends, or what you would call aquiantences (sp) with probably 15 people, but i dont actually feel like i have someone to be there for me when i need it.

school really sucks. nobdoy call tell though. i always act hyper and friendly but its beginning to get harder lately, just because.

i would like to know if other people feel like this...or if its just me. adivce would be nice too. sorry if i sound depressed or something. i dont think i am, just the place im in right now does not fit very well with my personality.

thanks for your time :)



ps.
please dont say join clubs or something to get new friends because my school is very small. i could name every single student in my grade. most of the upperclassman too. i know everyone...so yeah

no its definitly not just you...i feel this way too and i'll admit i cry about it because i really want someone i can run to and hug and someone to comfort me and understand me when im down and depressed and not someone over the internet that gives me advice even though that does help a little...im not a geek and im not popular in my school and i hate my school it's really big and it's just to much going on in my school. i guess i feel this way because i dont trust people that's probably your problem...it's noone outside of my family that i can actually be myself around..i guess there are people that i can go to to talk to but i dont feel that way. most people think im cool when the first look at me because im attractive but i dont open up to people so they get tired of me acting shy.. but im really not shy when im comfortable around people and im definitly not in the place where i think i fit in..i dont think people that dont really know me will actually like me for me. i guess im kind of insecure and i dont know if thats your problem..but i guess you should try to talk to people more and open up...i probably ddint help you that much since im going throught my own problems but hope i did a little

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Well me and this boy talked for about 3 months! At first when i found out that he liked me i had no intrest once so ever but as we started talking we got closer and eventually i fell in love with him! {my 1st real love} But then all of a sudden we just stopped talking and got in a huge fight {it was mostly b/c i wouldnt have sex with him}. One of his friends hated me and called me a whore so one of my guy friends {hes a big guy!} confronted him about it!...The boy's {that i love} sister and i are also very good friends so when she told me that he was getting into dangerous things she asked me to talk to him about it. I did that and i thought maybe he would be happy that i at least cared about him. We didnt talk for a few more weeks then he asked me to go his party so me,my best friend, and my guy friend {the big guy}all went. He was with another girl the whole night but told me that we wanted to get back with me!...the next day he was going out with this girl and having sex with that hes only known for a week and we had a huge argument 2 days after the party, where he told me that he found someone "better" then me and things like that! i still love him and i kno i shouldnt :S what should i do!
*catherine*

since he was your first love it's only natural that you'll still have feelings for him, even though he may treat you wrong. him argueing about you not having sex with him is unfortunatly something most boys do but it's wrong. and if he gets mad because you made your own decison about not having sex with him then he's definitly not worth loving or having feelings for. I know you say you love him (but think, did he really love you?) people change and sometimes you have to deal with it and sometimes you don't. he's really being a asshole...he's all over this girl and has sex with someone he's only known for a week and asks you out is really stupid...and that argument you guys had about him saying he found someone better is a clue for you....you need to go find a guy that is better and treats you good but im not sayin the first guy you think is sexy or sweet just chill for a while and then go out with a better guy for you. try not being sad or jealous over him just let him do his thing but of course let him know you care, not verbally because that'll probably be another arguement....hope i helped

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14/f

A few days ago My friend, Stephanie told me that her friend said that I'm not a people person he doesnt like me and kinda piss him off, so I got mad at him and I started to cry. Then he was labeling my dad as a Hippie (I don't think there is anything wrong with hippies but I don't like labeling people whom they don't know well). Stephanie was saying things like "I agree with you" or "you don't need him" Then a couple days later stephanie told me that her 2 cousins whom i've only met on about two occasions wanted to fuck me and they got my home phone number and they were calling me and telling me they wanted to fuck me and I felt uncomfortable so I hung up on them and called my friend Heena to call steph to ask her cousins to stop because I was afraid that if I called her her cousins would answer but steph refused to do anything about it because she was pissed at me. So alex called me and asked me whats wrong and apologized for what he said because I started to cry out of so much stress. He put me on the phone with stephanie (he was over at her house) she said "I don't understand how you could get sad he was only telling the truth." I got sad and a little mad so I was talking to Heena on the phone and we both thought she just contridicted what she recently said. I really want to be friends with steph again and I don't know if I should apologize for being mad at alex or not, or what I should do.

friends are suppose to be there for you instead of against you. NO you should not apologize for being mad at alex..he said something that hurt you, but it was nice of him to apologize. It seems that alex said what he felt even though it was rude, you shouldn't be mad just okay that he told you. steph is really not being a good friend right now. having her two cousins call you and verbally abuse you is wrong, she could have apoplogize on thier behalf. You should not have people that cause negativity in your life like stressing, crying or probably depression. i dont know steph and please dont think im trying to break a friendship...but if she is treating you wrong it's no need to call her a friend or become friends with her again..and also i think that she was probably showing off infront of alex when she said that he was telling the truth. if she comes to her senses she'll probably apologize about what she said then maybe you should forgive her..but just remember you shouldnt have someone you call a friend hurt you..hope i helped

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this morning my mom came in my room and gave me a list of things to do like: clean up your room pick up the house do ur laundry do the dishes make 4 flower arrangements w/ the flowers i brought home from work hang up my clothes etc. i dont really mind b/c its summer and im used to helping out but the way she asked was just soooo degrading she didnt say please or anything along those lines and she said my dad is mad b/c he expects the house to be clean every day when he gets home and im on break to help around the house when i kno im on summer break to rest from school and get ready for next year. im just really mad my dad treats me like his maid not like his daughter i feel like the only thing hes happy about w/ me is that i do his laundry. he treats me like what ever i do isnt good enough even during the year im doing alot better in school than my sister ever did and hes always on my case about that stuff. i feel like i dont have a dad i have a boss. he gets home from work every day complains about the house being a mess even if it isnt then tells us about his day and goes upstairs. it drives me crazy because he doesnt know me at all i know he pays for stuff and i appreciate that but i dont feel like its enough to qualify him as a parent. i cant tell him or my mom this b/c theyll just yell so what should i do? my parents are driving me crazy!
(sorry this was so long i just really need some help)

well almost all parents drive their children crazy...i understand how you feel like you're not wanted only for chores around the house..your parents are really hard on you and the fact that if you tell them and they'll yell is horrible. try doing something productive and helpful to your life that will take your mind off their bitterness towards you such as music, art, sports, or hanging out with your friends..your parents seem like they arent understanding people but they need to know that you all cant live miserable. Try talking to your dad more he talks about his day so talk about yours, let him know you, even if there are times he may put you down. also know that you only have 1 and so it's better to build communication with him and have someone you'll know who loves you and appreciate what you do around the house. just try to grow a relationship with him and a better relationship with your mother. Parents are best at driving you crazy but it's apart of life sometimes...hope i helped

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well you see there is this guy. we see each other often only because my best friend's brother is good friends with him so we all hangout together. we usually dont flirt..just lookin at each otehr and that kind of stuff. but lately its been different like we get into an argument or im like give me that! and if doesnt im like dont make me come over there so then i like jump on him and he grabs my hand and all that stuff. then it kinda seems like we are going out. i love bein in his arms even if it is in an argumentative way. the only thing is i dont know if i like him or just like flirting with him. the only problem is he really really likes this other girl and i guess wants to do stuff with her. but my best friend is always like ohh im gonna tell "your girlfriend" (jokingly we call her his girlfriend) manda if he says somethin stupid or whatever(the girl he likes) and hes like i dont care she is not my girlfriend. thats when im around him. but then again he still really likes her so what do i do? im scared we wont be able to flirt if they do somethin since he wont want to with me since he kinda likes her. but i have a feeling he kinda might like me? or just likes flirting with me because he always likes to get me mad so we can flirt in a sexual kinda way. what do you think he is thinking? what do you think i should do!?
thanks so much for taking the time to read this!

The only way to find out if he likes you is to ask him or have someone else ask him. i think he likes to flirt with you and and may have a crush on you but also likes someone else. but then again you know how boys are..(they love to play around and are sometimes confusing). flirting is fun and can be sexual so im sure he loves flirting with you. he's probably thinking that you're good to hang with. but understand that it could be just his hormones that is makin him seem attracted to you. so definitly find out if he has a thing for you...hope i helped

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i like this guy who likes me as well but the problem is........ im going to high school and he's staying in middle school. he might ask me out and i don't know if i should say yes, or just stay single for summer and find someone even better in high school. help please

Well the summer is all about having fun and if you think that you'll have fun with the guy that you like then i think you should go out with him. even though you both will be in different grades when school comes around im sure they'll be ways to work the relationship out...If everything isn't all peachey with the relationship around school time then just break it off with him and go out with someone even better thats in your high school...have fun...hope i helped

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My friend has always dated someone younger than herself. And she is again. And liking it. And she is a freshman in highschool and is dating this 8th grader. And just today she told me that she might be pregnant. But shes really not sure: they did it once two weeks ago and they were protected and all, but the numbers say that condoms dont work all the time and she hasn't gotten her peroid.
Could having sex just mess up the time it comes? Or is it more likely shes pregnant?
Thanks.

condoms work about 90% of protecting you from geting pregnant..she should defently take a pregnancy test because the 10% chance of the condom breaking could have occured. and the reason she hasnt gotten her peirod is probly cuz she is just late which is very normal for freshmen sophmores..or it could mean she is pregnant so be sure that she takes a pregnancy test..hope i helped

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well, I lost my virginity to someone that I knew I wasn't going to have a relationship with yet we were friends and I care about him. Yet he's older than me and doesn't think its a big deal... Anyway to cope with the hurt?

btw.. I'm 15---the guy is 18.

well of course you know there is no way to take losing your virginity back and most people regret it because of that or because they dont think about it before they have sex. you may always say that you regreted losing your virginity to that guy as you get older but you'll eventually have to get over that. Most guys dont really care about having sex and just want to use girls for sex(not all of them). To cope with the hurt i think you should just getover it because it is nothing you can change...hope i helped

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see i have a big problem im good at talking to people about there problems and they like talking to me but im not really good at talking about my feelings when they get really badn i mean talking baout boys is ok and things like that. but i found out recently my friend has cancer and isnt going to be alive much longer this persons haveing a really hard time and it jurts me so much i think about this person everynight and i cry to myself at night the person kinda had a heart attack the other day adn i feel that its a warning that this person wont be with me much longer they thought about ending there life and there was nothing i could do i was up all night in tears afraid that when i woke up they wouldnt be there anymore and this person means so much to me and sure its hard to deal with loosing the person but i guess i just need to have faith but its tearing me up inside i hide it from everyone. i know its not good to keep this all inside becasue its takeing me over but its so hard to talk about ive only told one person about the least bit that the person only had cancer and i stopeed at that maybe im just afraid to open up and face that im going to be in a great deal of pain soon. i just need help to open up and to stop keeping it all inside i so much think of calling my friend and telling her everything but i stop and just think i need to open up im hurting so much inside becasue im holding this all in and i guess i dont want the person to see that becasue it will put them in so much more pain but plezz help me if u can i ll rate 5'd if good advice thanxs so much


and srry for the wrong periods and stuff but im typeing fast and trying to get this done without backing out thanxs so much in advance

you should continue to have hope for her and if you believe in God then you must have faith in him that he will take care of your friend. and even if you may think there is no way your frined will make it..you should know anything is possible with your faith in God..and i understand you are hurting alot inside but it's okay because you're scared. you should tell a friend your problems no matter how hard it is for you..if you think you should stop holding everything inside then SPEAK! you'll feel much better when you get things off your chest and get advice from a friend you care about and that feels the same about you. Again if you believe in God you must know that this is his world not yours..you cant have everything you want,need,love,or have a passion for because that is Gods choice..i will pray for you and your frined and i hope you'll pray too...everything will be okay...hope i helped.

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me && my mom had a major fight && she hit me... and i have a fat lip.. i need help what should i do? it was a few days ago && my lip is still swollen.. should i forgive her? she keeps sayin im sorry, please forgive.. i didnt mean it.. and im like okay... what should i do?? i need help?

Yes you should defantly forgive her..she is your mother and you only have one so you shouldn't spend your time being upset at her..especially if she is apologizing. your lip will soon be back to normal..hope i helped:)

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I was wondering if there was any possible way to get pregnant if sperm gets on your clothes or in your underwear, but not directly inside of you? Example if someone is fingering you and you both get really into it. Thanks.

no there is no possible way for you to get pregnant if the sperm is on your under wear or clothing because once the sperm hits the air it is no loger capable of getting you pregnant. if its not directley inside you then you wont get pregnant...hope i helped

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14/f

my parents and i are going on a camping trip this weekend and they said i could invite one friend with us. well, this is really hard for me, because i can only invite one person, and i have two best friends. we always hang out together, but sometimes i do things with just each of them alone. i already mentioned the trip when we were all hanging out together and they both said they want to come. well, that was before my parents told me i could only bring one person, and i don't know who i should pick. one of them, hayley, said she might not be able to go because her parents are really overprotective and wouldn't want her to go for the entire weekend. my other friend, rachel, could probably go, but at this point it seems like it's a 50/50 chance that either of them could go for sure. i like both of them the same, and i have the same amount of fun with each of them. does anyone know what i should do or which i should pick?

well if were you i wouldn't take either of them because even though they know they are both good friends, i wouldn't want to be unfair to one of them..if you do decide to choose someone you should make sure they both know that you like them the same and have the same amount of fun with each of them..hope everything works out and hope i helped

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