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well...im female, and 15 years old.
i'm not very popular, but i wouldnt say im a geek either.
i really dont feel like i have any friends. im sort of friends, or what you would call aquiantences (sp) with probably 15 people, but i dont actually feel like i have someone to be there for me when i need it.
school really sucks. nobdoy call tell though. i always act hyper and friendly but its beginning to get harder lately, just because.
i would like to know if other people feel like this...or if its just me. adivce would be nice too. sorry if i sound depressed or something. i dont think i am, just the place im in right now does not fit very well with my personality.
thanks for your time :)
ps.
please dont say join clubs or something to get new friends because my school is very small. i could name every single student in my grade. most of the upperclassman too. i know everyone...so yeah
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
can i say that i think i know you? that just you asking that question you have helped me?
I am not just going to give good advice here, this question i feel obligated to tell you i am completely the same. At school everybody knows me as the hyper perky always happy girl but the truth is i always feel like if i was ever really in need, nobody would be there.
the truth is that no matter what everybody makes it seem like, most people don't have really good friends they just act like it.
What i do is i find one person im capatable with and i become best friends with that one person. To me, this at least ensures that at least one person will be there for me
Just don't go around trying to make a million firends, focus on building one strong relationship then move to the next and so on. Because otherwise you'll just end up a girl with a million aqaintances.
and finally, tell some personal about yourself to your friends. If you open up, they feel like they know you. A one on one conversation where you expose what you really feel or something personal will make the other person feel almost, connected with you. That is how great friendships start
good luck and, well... thanks
you actually helped me realize where im at =]
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hey well this is also how i felt my freshman year even though i had been going to that school since i was in 1st grade. well just chill out a little don't act so hyper. also be outgoing to go and talk with some of the aquaintances. it will help. and maybe plan a girls night or something and invite some of them. ok well i hope everything works out and if you need anything else just let me know!!!!!!!
*~Zainab~*
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Their was a couple of times i felt that way about kids at my school. The thing that suprized me was when my brother left or iraq he called me in school to say bye. Not even 2 secands after he told me he was gunna leave i started to cry thinking i would never see him agian. But the thing is the people that i thought where only aquiantences helped me out. They told me it would be ok and and not to cry cause for someone like myself for me to cry is big cause my role in any group is the tough guy so for me to cry its something big. The point of the story is that you might think of them as aquiantences but if you just let them try to be your friend it would really help.
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I feel exactly the way you do! I have ONE best friend..and one friend, to say that. The rest are aquaintences. And she is from a different town. I know you dont want me to say join a club, etc. But it doesnt necesserily have to be from school. You could always take a class OUT of school and meet people from other towns. The best friends I have are from acting classes, etc. And those friends are from different towns. Friends arent everything, either. I know its cliche and you dont want to hear it but in 3 years or so, you wont remember anyone from high school. And your job, husband, and friends wont depend on how many friends you had in high school or if you were voted prom queen. So, take up a hobby or just try to be nice to everyone from your school to make friends. Talk to your aquaintences more and ask them to hang out so they become friends. By the way, everyone feels this way. :]
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Well, when i was in like 6th grade & mostly below.. I only had like 2 real best friends. & I always saw everyone with there big groups. & my friends & I always felt so left out.
You know those 15 aquaintences you have.. instead of keeping them as aquatinences, make them your friends. Just start talking to them one day, like not hyper or anything.. just start talking. Like if they have a picture of a dog in there locker [or whatever.. idno. lol] just be like "Awww what a cute dog, what kind is it?!" & you guys will start talking. + since its summer now, just talk to them online.. & be like "OH MY GOSH, WE SHOULD HANG OUT!" & then you probaly will end up doing something with them & there friends.
Also, I know you said 'no clubs' but if your school has sports [which I'm sure they do] then join one. I mean, just because you know the kids.. like their names, doesn't mean you know them personally. When you join something, then you both will have something in common.
I hope I helped!
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Yeah I feel like this also. Lots of teenage girls do in my opinion. But I think who cares if you have a Best Friend or not. I know I don't. I'm friendly with everyone but I'm just quiet and a good listener. Sometimes people think i'm mad at them because I never have anything to say.
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Your not the only one, Some times now and then i feel like that too. I dont mean to sound concited [ sp ]
but throughout my school im known as the silly goofy happy girl that knows basically everyone in the grade. Just beacuse you know alot of people doesnt mean you actually trust those people.
Now and then its hard to realise whats real and whats not. So get closer with your aquantanses [ sp, i suck =p] or like talk with some of your classmates and hangout . Its not weird at all. But make sure atleast you know the person first , and then hangout. Go to the mall or watch a movie. Anything thats good for you.
And I understand why it is getting harder and harder for you to be more hyper and free, its because you have no one to share it with. If you try out the things i tell you im sure things will end up peachy. Comment back if you need more info or have any [??]<-questions
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no its definitly not just you...i feel this way too and i'll admit i cry about it because i really want someone i can run to and hug and someone to comfort me and understand me when im down and depressed and not someone over the internet that gives me advice even though that does help a little...im not a geek and im not popular in my school and i hate my school it's really big and it's just to much going on in my school. i guess i feel this way because i dont trust people that's probably your problem...it's noone outside of my family that i can actually be myself around..i guess there are people that i can go to to talk to but i dont feel that way. most people think im cool when the first look at me because im attractive but i dont open up to people so they get tired of me acting shy.. but im really not shy when im comfortable around people and im definitly not in the place where i think i fit in..i dont think people that dont really know me will actually like me for me. i guess im kind of insecure and i dont know if thats your problem..but i guess you should try to talk to people more and open up...i probably ddint help you that much since im going throught my own problems but hope i did a little
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