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I'm saaaad (this is long and may be hard to follow)
14/f
A few days ago My friend, Stephanie told me that her friend said that I'm not a people person he doesnt like me and kinda piss him off, so I got mad at him and I started to cry. Then he was labeling my dad as a Hippie (I don't think there is anything wrong with hippies but I don't like labeling people whom they don't know well). Stephanie was saying things like "I agree with you" or "you don't need him" Then a couple days later stephanie told me that her 2 cousins whom i've only met on about two occasions wanted to fuck me and they got my home phone number and they were calling me and telling me they wanted to fuck me and I felt uncomfortable so I hung up on them and called my friend Heena to call steph to ask her cousins to stop because I was afraid that if I called her her cousins would answer but steph refused to do anything about it because she was pissed at me. So alex called me and asked me whats wrong and apologized for what he said because I started to cry out of so much stress. He put me on the phone with stephanie (he was over at her house) she said "I don't understand how you could get sad he was only telling the truth." I got sad and a little mad so I was talking to Heena on the phone and we both thought she just contridicted what she recently said. I really want to be friends with steph again and I don't know if I should apologize for being mad at alex or not, or what I should do.
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friends are suppose to be there for you instead of against you. NO you should not apologize for being mad at alex..he said something that hurt you, but it was nice of him to apologize. It seems that alex said what he felt even though it was rude, you shouldn't be mad just okay that he told you. steph is really not being a good friend right now. having her two cousins call you and verbally abuse you is wrong, she could have apoplogize on thier behalf. You should not have people that cause negativity in your life like stressing, crying or probably depression. i dont know steph and please dont think im trying to break a friendship...but if she is treating you wrong it's no need to call her a friend or become friends with her again..and also i think that she was probably showing off infront of alex when she said that he was telling the truth. if she comes to her senses she'll probably apologize about what she said then maybe you should forgive her..but just remember you shouldnt have someone you call a friend hurt you..hope i helped
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Okay. Two things.
1. You were being oversensitive about your friend's comment. Some people just aren't good with other people. That's nothing to feel bad about. It's just part of your personality. I'm like that too, but I've come to accept it. So you needn't be so sensitive.
2. No, your friend didn't contradicted herself. She she was trying to comfort you at the time, but when she later talked to you, she was merely expressing an honest opinion. She never said she disagreed with him. Although I can't say she was exactly straight forward, I don't think she really did much wrong.
In all, don't ruin your friendship over something silly like this. Just talk to her and let her know how you feel. Also, you need to express to her how much her cousins bothered you and have her tell them not to contact you anymore.
Good luck!
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