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holding in to much!!!!!!!
see i have a big problem im good at talking to people about there problems and they like talking to me but im not really good at talking about my feelings when they get really badn i mean talking baout boys is ok and things like that. but i found out recently my friend has cancer and isnt going to be alive much longer this persons haveing a really hard time and it jurts me so much i think about this person everynight and i cry to myself at night the person kinda had a heart attack the other day adn i feel that its a warning that this person wont be with me much longer they thought about ending there life and there was nothing i could do i was up all night in tears afraid that when i woke up they wouldnt be there anymore and this person means so much to me and sure its hard to deal with loosing the person but i guess i just need to have faith but its tearing me up inside i hide it from everyone. i know its not good to keep this all inside becasue its takeing me over but its so hard to talk about ive only told one person about the least bit that the person only had cancer and i stopeed at that maybe im just afraid to open up and face that im going to be in a great deal of pain soon. i just need help to open up and to stop keeping it all inside i so much think of calling my friend and telling her everything but i stop and just think i need to open up im hurting so much inside becasue im holding this all in and i guess i dont want the person to see that becasue it will put them in so much more pain but plezz help me if u can i ll rate 5'd if good advice thanxs so much
and srry for the wrong periods and stuff but im typeing fast and trying to get this done without backing out thanxs so much in advance
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This must be very hard to deal with and you feel as if you will always be sad. But think about the person with cancer. He/She wouldn't want to see you sad while they are alive, they would want to make what time they have on earth good. Also, you will have an easier time if you are happy while the person is still alive. It makes it easier for both of you.
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Hi, this must be a very painful time for you. It's good that you know that you cant hide this in any longer, but its not that good that your going through this alone. Just try and share it out amongst others who care about you. Close friends and family are good. What you need to do is spend really good time with your friend. Just spend time with her, it does'nt have to be quiet time but just do something together everyday if possible. It might only be a walk in the park. Try and make her laugh by being funny and sharing jokes and maybe watching stupid videos together. I know alot of silly videos that might make you both laugh such as, Austin Powers or Ali G. You've got to enjoy the time you have left with her, while you still have it. Tell her your feelings. Just because shes got cancer does'nt mean that you can't share your feelings with one another. If you show her what a great friend you are. Then your a golden star. You are a really nice person. Just imagine what a friend you are being to her. Please don't hesitate to ask me for more advice. I hope Ive given you what you wanted to hear. Daniel.
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you should continue to have hope for her and if you believe in God then you must have faith in him that he will take care of your friend. and even if you may think there is no way your frined will make it..you should know anything is possible with your faith in God..and i understand you are hurting alot inside but it's okay because you're scared. you should tell a friend your problems no matter how hard it is for you..if you think you should stop holding everything inside then SPEAK! you'll feel much better when you get things off your chest and get advice from a friend you care about and that feels the same about you. Again if you believe in God you must know that this is his world not yours..you cant have everything you want,need,love,or have a passion for because that is Gods choice..i will pray for you and your frined and i hope you'll pray too...everything will be okay...hope i helped.
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Oh my gosh. Well, there's a problem really needing to be solved. Try this: have a little girl's night with your friend at your house. Get ice cream and happy, funny (no sad/romantic/sappy movies!!!) movies. When you're both having fun and relaxed, ease into the topic slowly. Unless she brings it up first, then go along slowly. It might be better to do it around the time when you're about to go to sleep. It will be easier because you're going to be more loose. Just say, "You know when I told you that ----- had cancer, well I've just been feeling----. I don't really talk about my feelings much, but I just really needed to get it out and....." Try and let it flow as much as you can without having to think about it. When you're finished, you'll feel like a great weight's been lifted off you.
Hope I helped!
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