Hey:) I'm Julie. I'm a fun girl and I like to live life to the fullest. I have a lot of friends and I guarantee I have either been in your situation or know someone who has. My friends always turn to me for advice and I would like for you to feel that you can too. Anyone who approaches me on this site I will react to as though you are my friend. Your problem is my problem and I will help you with finding a solution. I have dealt with everything from drug addicts, to people with depression, to men saying every line in the book. I've been to all time lows as well as situations so weird and funny that you don't even know what to do. I have asked the questions that seem too awkward to ask face to face so do not fear asking me anonymously. I love awkward, embrace weird and live to help. Ask me anything and I will help you to the very best of my ability. Thanks for reading.
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Okay, so I just got braces on the other day. I really want to have the whitest, cleanest teeth possible with these braces. I've been brushing after every meal, and flossing too. I want to know everything about everything to do with keeping my braces and teeth clean. How should I brush? How often? Also, on my bottom front teeth, behind like 3 of them, it's really kind of yellow and then one or two of them has like, this white outline that looks like food. I've been brushing there for the past 3 days but it's not going away. What is this?? Will brushing make it go away soon? (link)
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The brushing method that is most effective is to brush in little circles. brushing after every meal is a smart move so food doesnt build up. that could be plaque. brushing can make that go away usually. point it out to your dentist next time you go. oh and you didnt ask but crest vivid white toothpaste is amazing in my oppinion. hope i helped!
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If you have your period is it possible to still be pregnant afterwards. I know i got my period because it came when predicted as usual and was a period lol. I am on the pill but i was just wondering if theres anyway possible. Ive never missed a pill and take it accurately so dont go there. So my specific question is .....you have ur period is there anyway to be preganant even after having your period? Thanks in advance for the advice (link)
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your period is the result of the egg not being fretelized by the sperm. if it had been fertelized you would not get your period and you would be pregnant. if you had your period than that means you are not pregnant. hope i helped!
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Ever since I started my period many years ago, I have gotten watery discharge when I awake in the morning. It's not pee, mind you, it is surely discharge.
Now, before I get my period, I get many signs for weeks. Also, my periods are usually late.
However... my ex-boyfriend and I had sex while we were dating and did the old pull-out thing. I never got pregnant for the 5 months of it happening but I always end up worrying myself to death each and every month.
Is clear, watery discharge, cramps, bloatedness, sore nipples, heavy breasts and a want for salty food pregnancy signs? Should I get a test or should I stick it out a few days and wait for my period?
I was supposed to get it on May 1 and it's May 3. The signs of my period coming are all here and I honestly feel like I'm going to start gushing blood any second... when I do think I have, I check and it's clear, watery discharge. (link)
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the signs of being pregnant and the signs of an oncomming period are so similar its scary. with those symptoms it sounds like it could be either of the two. the choice of whether to wait a couple of days or not to take a test depends on how nervous you are about the situation. personally i think you should calm yourself down, save 20 bucks and wait for your period to come which it most likely will. if it doesnt within the next 2 days then test it out. and im not meaning to be your mom but that is really not safe. boys precum so the pull out trick is not at all effective. hope i helped!
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16/f. This girl, she's 17. She's more mature and experienced I guess. She does drugs and pretty sure she had sex. I can't really bring myself to hang out with people like that, yet she's still one of my best friends. She intimidates me. I can't talk to her without looking down at the ground and whenever I do start talking to her, I don't make eye contact and I really want to end the conversation. I can't talk to her online either...I get really agitated and nervous. I have no idea why. I can talk to my OTHER friends..just not her. Why is this? I mean, I like her...yet I can't talk or relate with her... (link)
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its perfectly normal to be intimidated by someone with more life experience. you are afraid to sound childish and immature. the best thing to do is work on talking to her more. break the ice and see if you have any ability to relate to her, if not maybe youre best off as acquaintances.
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13/f
ok
lets make this short.
my best friends bf likes me.
he has liked me before and they broke up.
and now they are back together,
i dont want them to break because of me again
what should i do?
how do i get im to stop liking me?
thanks for the help (link)
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try to talk to him as little as possible and when you do talk to him be a bitch. complain alot and call yourself fat even if you dont think that. oh and make fun of him for being gay. he will be over you in no time! hope i helped!
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so last night i peed out some blood.
is this normal or what? whats wrong?
16/f
sexually active (link)
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it could be spotting between your period. or im not trying to scare you or anything but a warning sign of pregnancy is bleeding randomly. you might want to check on that. hope i helped!
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i cant sleep at night at all and im always tierd.what can i do to sleep better.nottake drugs or anything like that? pleaseeee help (link)
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i dont know if youre the napping type but if you are that can play a major part in proventing you from sleeping so if you want to sleep on time you could cut those out. some have trouble sleeping because of the amount of things they have on their mind so maybe you just need to talk to someone or write in a journal before bed. there are night time teas that help sooth you and make you pretty sleepy so that could help. also make sure your bladder is empty and your hunger is filled because those two things can keep you up. hope i helped!
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There are some girls in school that always bully me and I take and forget it like always but this time they've gone to far. They told me that if I didn't go with them to their house they'll do something really bad to my family and I beleived them so I called my mom on the phone and told her I was going to sleepover some friends house. Then I went with the girls and they had told me that if I didn't do what they say I would get beaten up. So when we got to their house There was this teenage guy on the door eyeing me everywhere and that gave me the creeps. When we got to the door he put his arm around my waist and told me we were going to have fun that night. The girls sent me to a room and demanded for me to put on the clothes on the bed. I refused (it was like a bikini thing) so one of the girl's slapped me and told me it was either that or naked. I changed and was ordered to go to a room and lay on the bed and wait. A while later the boy I had seen earlier he told me "Looking nice and that's the way I like it" I was so scared to answer so I just shut my mouth. The boy than came over and touched me everywhere and then suddenly stopped and he told me what he was doing was wrong but than again he came down on me again and kissed me and this time he got something that I think was a condum and sarted to undress himself and once again he stopped and said he shouln't be doing this but that my body urged him to and again he got on top of me and he forced something into my mouth and I dozed of. The next morning I woke up with his arm on my bra and the fingers of his other hand on my( you know). I tried to get up but found out I was tied and there was tape around my legs so I fell and my ankle twisted and I yelped and my stupid self woke the guy up. He told me that if I wanted to go I had to suck his private part but I refused so he pushed to the bed and started hitting me and when he was done he told me "that he was gonna do something weather I like it or not. He tied me good this time so that I couldn't move. He revealed my breast and poured milk on them and started sucking on them so hard it hurted me. He went licking down my body until he got to between my legs there he started licking everywhere and then put he's finger in there and pushed really hard until I let out a painful scream. He than said " u feel the pain well that's what you get". He holded my head got on top of me and put his private in my mouth and made me do it. Then he suddenly stopped and said that he'll be watching me at school and told me he knew about my grandma (she has cancer) and he could pay me $200 a week to do this just one day week. I really love my grandma so I decide to do this but I want to make sure this is the right thing to do and he also pays me $20 dollars just he can touch and feel me. He pays me $5 to kiss me and $10 to pose naked for him. $50 to shower with him. I would win good money with this but it just doesn't feel right sometimes he brings friends over, old men touch and even sleep with me and sometimes they even poor beer all over me and 3 at a time lick and suck on my skin and sometimes even bite me. it's been going on for days now and I want to stop but I care about my grandma also the girls say they'll kill me if I sop and I really beleived them because they once killed a because he was such a nerd but that was in another state. Anyways I'm really scared I don't know how to quit and worst how do I tell my family I feel like a prostitude ...just a girl who sold herself...I mean it was my fault inthe first place I should of been better getting beaten to death than to just sell my self to a boy I don't even know....I know I can trust on who ever gives me advice I had the guts to tell you this because none of you know me in person I just wish I had the guts to do what I need ti do.......I hope you can help me..... (link)
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i want to start out by saying how completely terrible i feel for you. that sounds like a horrible situation. not i know your reactions were out of fear and im sure your family would understand that, also they would probably appreciate the fact that you were trying to do the right thing to help your grandma but it wasn't worth selling yourself out for. honestly these acts are illegal that they performed and you could face emotional scarring later in your life. you NEED to talk to your family. they are the only ones who can really be there for you through this. hope i helped, and im always here if you need me!
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alright so im 16/f and im like head over heels for this one guy (haden) and he likes me too. at first it was kind of awkward but its gotten way cool and im starting to think it can actually work. we talk all the time now and hang out and stuff. he wants it to work and i really like him. but here's the problem: i use to like this one guy (john) a lot, differently from haden but still-A LOT. and for awhile too. he liked me but for some reason it just never worked out. he's a sr. and he asked me to prom and i said yes, thinking at the time just as friends. but i can tell he thinks its something more and something is telling me that i should want more as well and that i should finally let it work. but im just not sure what to do. im going to the dance but what if i give into my feelings and just kiss him? i dont know, im just confused because i really like haden and he really likes me, but then john likes me too. im positive about my feelings for haden but whenever im with john i forget about everything else. and i feel like im leading haden on whenever im with him and wont let myself do anything if im not sure its gonna work. even though i like him so freaking much. for some reason though i feel like im suppose to give up my "love" for the one who im meant to be with. i know i wont be happy not being with haden but im not sure if i should just let john slip away because of course i still think about him every so often. im not looking to break hearts but i do know that someone's is going to be broken, whether one of their's or my own, in the process of desicions. it sucks and i hate feeling this way but i know that whatever happens i can get through it because whatever happens is meant to happen that way... but any comments would be most helpful :) thank you (link)
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i think the best thing to do is be honest with haden. judging on his recation you will know what choice to make. his reaction will help you to make the choice between the two. also if you do decide on haden be straight up with john. let him know that youre sort of seeing someone and that you understand if he wants to take someone else. things will fall into place and you will learn what you need to know to make yor decision.
hope i helped!
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well there is this boy that i like a school everyone is tellin me i should be with him and i do like him be i think he is Conceded what should i do?????? (link)
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it depends on how much you like him. if you like him enough you will be able to see past that and wehn youre with him he'll probably reveal a different side of himself. if you dont like him very much though there is no point in trying to put up with that.
hope i helped!
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I feel my older sister is becoming anorexic, she is 36 and getting into modeling and they are telling her she needs to loose weight and she has been eating very little lately and doesnt ever sit down to eat with us and if she does she will only eat salads, but with candy she will chew and spit it back out and no one wants to believe or see that she may be becoming anorexic in mine opinion .. Please tell me if I am wrong? what should I do? (link)
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I'm currently going through this problem with a close friend of mine. She has actually fessed up to this sickness and from the sounds of it your sister may have it. The best thing to do is to make sure you are always giving her confidence and you have to try and trick her into eating more carbs. Her confidence is very low since she is constantly being torn apart about everything for that is part of being a model. You just have to be there for her through this time and help her out as much as possible. It is a very tricky situation but hopefully you will be able to bring her back to her senses. If not then professional help may be needed. Hope I helped! And if you have any more questions just let me know.
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my best friend of 11 years past away 4 months ago. he left a child and a wife. I just recently hung out with her for the fist time. we are both very intrested in each other and wonder if he would accept us being together. is this wrong of me to be with my best friends wife? im 28 and she is 32. (link)
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You can get many different answers to this question. Some will tell you it's a terrible thing to do and others will tell you that it's a nice thing. Personally I think when someone leaves this world, they would like for the people they care most about to move on and be happy. You two were so close for so long, so who better is there for him to trust with his wife and her happiness? Plus he would want his best friend to be happy too. Also since you two were best friends you will probably be able to have a deep connection with the child considering it has half of your friends DNA. Make sure the two of you aren't falling for each other for the wrong reasons. Make sure it is because you two reallyyy like each other, not that you both just need someone to fill the space of emptiness you both had in your hearts after losing someone so close. I hope I helped and if you have any more questions, I'm here.
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Would you consider a guy your friend if after kissing you he just stops talking to you like before
and he just randomly txt messages you only when he needs help or needs something! I wouldnt this happened to me right and Im so mad at this guy and I just wanna like not see him anymore. But this guy is friends with my bro as well and they still talk. ugghh i hate it but i cant do anything or can I??
i dont know what to do I dont wanna be rude and i dont wanna let my bro know we kissed, but i definitely wanna stay away from him as much as possible
any suggestions?? (link)
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I know exactly where you are comming from. Just because he is your brothers friend doesn't mean you have to stick around the house when he comes over though. I think its best you just avoid him. Don't reply to his texts. Also being mean to him might make things awkward if he comes to see your brother. Don't speak to him one way or the other and don't let him kiss you again because it's obvious the guy is scum. lol. Hope I helped.
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Ok if someone has anal and oral sex but not vaginal sex, can they consider themselves virgins? (link)
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All people have their different views on what is considered being a virgin. The most normal view is that you are still a virgin unless you have vaginal sex but there are always people who will see otherwise.
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ok so like 3 months ago my family and i started going to this new Christian church and well we liked it. there's this guy and he's very nice and sweet I think I might like him but Im not sure if its right because i met him at church..besides my dad wouldnt approve b/c im 17 and he's 22. Should I forget about him? or should I go for it? if yea How?? (link)
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It's fine to have a crush. Keep talking to him and see how strongly you feel. If it's just some small feelings then drop it and find someone a little closer to your age. If there are strong feelings there, go for him! Its not bad to meet a boy at church just the age may be a problem thats why you should see if hes worth the trouble with dad. Hope I helped!
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i got drunk at a party
did really stupid stuff
people are really pissed at me and im scared to go to skool
i go to a public school which makes it even worse because thers like 100 kids per grade
im a mere freshman and it was a senior party and im so embarres and i did terriable stuff and im scared to go to skool (link)
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When things happen we often thing that everyone is really going to care but surprisingly you'll find people most likely wont care very much. Like i remember last year i was a freshman and i made my mistakes and thought people would care but in high school most people are much too focused on their own lives and themselves. You will most likely be fine and if anyone approaches you just fess up to your mistakes. You drank a bit much and did things you wouldn't normally do. Everyone makes mistakes! Hope I helped.
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me and my bf have sex alot, but we're teens and limited with privacy i guess you could say, so like no baths and stuff, what are some things we could do to spice it up a bit... how can i turn him on! like him wanting me lol
thanks!!!!1 (link)
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A very easy vay to turn a guy on is to surprise him with some new sexy lingerie or to dissapear and come back wearing nothing but one of his sports jersey's. Try to be more spontaneous. If like dont let your sex habbits fall into a routine type thing. Play strip poker or randomly just pounce on him or mess with him before getting into anything. Make things fun!
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my parents gave me a good luck charm which was a small statue of a god in my religion to take with me to the nj state forensics tournament on friday. well, as soon as they gave it to me, i put it right into my purse and put the purse right into my tote bag. not once did i take the charm out.
when i got back last night i was very tired and took out all my stuff in my purse & tote bag and put everything away in the correct spot. even when i'm extremely tired, i know i'd either put everything in the right spot or keep everything on my table, and i put everything away in the right spot & didn't misplace anything... i hope. well, this morning i was awoken by the thought... "why don't i remember taking out the charm from my bag?" so i got up to look in my purse.
and -- conveniently -- the charm disappeared. i had NO idea where it went. i mean yeah the typical answer, "duh, you left it at the forensics tournament" but it couldn't have just WALKED out of my purse. and the odds that i was taking something else of of my purse & the charm got stuck on the item and fell ... are unlikely because the charm is heavy for its size.
so i now need some advice.
should i just look through ALL my stuff (again)?
should i just tell my parents right off that i lost it?
should i do a combination of the above?
what should i do if they ask me for it? (should i stall and say, "ohh i don't feel like getting it now"?)
should i just hope that they forget about it and never ask for it again?
i feel so terrible. they told me not to lose it and i LOST it.
and no, it's irreplaceable. it's not from this country so i can't just BUY a new one. (link)
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This sort of thing happens to me all the time! You seem like a very organized person and that probably has you extra stressed out about this.. Start out by taking a deep breath, you're not gonna get anywhere when you are in panic mode. Search through your stuff, your room, the house, and the car you took there. If there is no luck with that try getting the number of the place where the tournament was held and see if they had any necklace's reported to them. Also call your friends and people on your team to see if any of them may have found the necklace. If there is no luck you shouldn't hide it from your parents, just tell them the truth about what happened. You might get in trouble but they would find out sooner or later. Hopefully you will find it though! I wish you the best of luck and if you need any more help, I'm here!
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Ok this guy we went out and he broke up with me like 2 days after that..
And everytime i see him now he has like 15 girls surrounding around him!!!
And i still love him!!!
And i tell him i dont and he always stares at me and he talks about me to his friends and i dont know if he likes me but if he did why did he brake up with me???
I mean this is going through my head alot and it happened 2 weeks ago..
And i need good advice to tell him something!!
PLEASE!!
im only 11
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If you were able to get a boy cute enough that he was surrounded by girls right after you two ended then you are def good enough to get another guy. If he is really what you want though you should talk to him about things and see if he still has remaining feelings. If he doesn't then you will have to go through the hard process of moving on but if he still has those feeling then hey, you got your boy back! As far as what to say to him find a way to start a convo online (that way things are less awkward) and just suttley ask if he still likes you at all. Hope I helped!
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i flippin hate my best friend (we are both 15)
but we've been friends forever pretty much--- our friendship pretty much consists of us subtly puttin each other down in like jokes and shit, but I only do it when she starts doing it, so like you no it only continues the vicious cycle haha
no but seriously i cant freaking just not be friends with her
cause like im pretty shy until you get to know me---and no1 really sticks around that long cause they just get bored with me.
and she's got a really "strong" personality, if you know what i mean, and she makes friends really easily cause she's funny( her funiness pretty much comes from insults)
so i have no idea how i should act accordingly
any suggestions?? (link)
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Even if you aren't the loudest or don't have the strongest personality you can always switch friends. It's not an easy process but honestly is it worth being around someone who makes you feel like shit all the time? Either let her know that she takes things too far sometimes or work on branching out a little. Life is to short to stay in your little comfort zone all the time, sometimes you have to force yourself to do things that feel a little silly. So basically you can either keep things how they are and let her or whoever else offend you all the time, stand up for yourself or make some new friends. It's all up to you! You have options! Once you make a choice I'm always here to help you with your next step. Hope I helped!
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