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I am 17 and a female. I am a jumior in colleage and is stoked for the christmas holiday! I love to have friends and i love to help people so everyone give me a chance and write to me and i believe everyone will enjoy, if not then your loss.

advice

From the time we met I had my eyes on you
This feeling I have is so brand new
I love the way you hold me and kiss me sweet
You make me smile every time we meet
I love your blue eyes
I love your smile
Each minute with you is worth the while
You give me something to look forward to each and every day
I can no longer linger what I must say
You need to know how much I care for you
How much you mean to me
You are unlike any guy I’ve met
I love your quirky personality
I feel safe when im with you
You arms around me like a shield
I can’t explain this feeling that came upon me
But it feels so real
You help me forget all my problems
When im with you they seem to vanish
You’ve taken me out of darkness and lifted my spirits
And for that I can’t thank you enough
You bring joy to my life
Got rid of my strife
You are more wonderful then words can express
You help me get rid of my stress
Thank you for being so amazing
For lighting up my days
I’m so lucky to have a guy like you
Someone so loving and someone so true

I write poetry and I can say that, that poem is a perfect poem to give to your boyfriend I think he will love it! I loved it too. Poetry is a good way to express emotions so keep it up, your doing very well.

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Okay for starters I'm 19 and I know I have the rest of my life ahead of me, which is why I need some advice. I met my best friend when I 16 years old. We were so close even when he had girlfriends. When I turned 17 the truth came out and he told me he was crazy about me. I've always been afraid of getting hurt, and I never felt like I ever met someone who truely liked me for me, they only liked what they saw. I took it slow with him and he asked me out 5 times before I finally said yes, I was petrified of losing our friendship. But it ended up turning into the best decision of my entire life. I completely fell for this boy, head over heels in love with him. And he felt the same way about me. Other than school and work we invested a ton of time in this relationship, made connections with eachothers family and I thought we were perfect for eachother. He always would get mad at me if I even mentioned the word "breakup". In October of this year he broke it off with me, out of no where. Our two year was suppose to be in January and I was completely devastated. Ive never felt so much pain in my entire life. I never thought it was going to be serious and he would miss me enought to tell me he made a mistake. I asked him what happened and he "fell outta love with me" and missed being single. I felt like I was being punished for something I didnt do. I bought this kid everything, gave him all my spare time and to my knowledge I was a pretty good girlfriend. I spent weeks in my room, I lost 14 pounds, I attempted to commit suicide and I talked to a psychologist for several weeks. Now 4 months later I feel no different. Ive never been the type of girl to let someone into my life close enough to hurt me other than my family, I use to be the strong one about everything and Ive never got myself stuck up so much on a guy before and let him have such control over me. It scares me, I still try texting him to be my friend or anything and hes just cruel. He goes out constantly to bars and clubs.. when he would never go with me when we dated. Theres pictures of him and other girls floating around facebook and him hanging out with new girls. And I have no desire to even be with another person. I love this boy so much and I am so hurt and I cant seem to get over it, no matter what I do. We walk into eachother at school and he'll say hi but its usually all i can get out of him. He told me today theres a chance for us in the future but not til hes done with college.. but thats not for another year and a half and I dont even think I could wait another day to be with him. I lost my best friend and my boyfriend all in one day and I feel like my life has just been falling apart. I miss him terribly.. what should I do :(

I am very terrible sorry for what has happened. I can also say that I can relate. My boyfriend did the "I fell out of love with you." thing. I was like, what in the world just happened? I can say that it is harsh and it will be awhile before anything remotely seems better. He was a jerk for breaking up with you and you should realize that you can do better if he was stupid enough to break up with you. I promise you that it will get better and you will find someone else again. After something like that it's hard to give yourself you another man, but you have to ask yourself if you would rather go for it and have the possibility of getter hurt or do you want to never give yourself to someone and shun everyone out and be lonely for the rest of your life? I know its a hard thing to consider. But if there is also a chance that you and this guy do get back together than that is also good too. I gave my boyfriend another chance and we are great. (does that help any?) But do you really want to wait that long? You are only 19 and I would say go have a little fun! Show him I didn't bother you and I bet he will come running back to you. It is a struggle and i know that it can make life totally suck with these stupid decisions that we are sometimes forced to make, but just follow your heart and be strong. I have a good feeling that you will over come this and also find Mr. perfect. God bless!

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i have a friend i've known for some years we were talking alot last year and we got disconnected over the summer. now we are talking again, but i'm not shure if he likes me how do i find out?

I think that the best possible way is to just ask. Or you could come up with a conversation to have with him that might give off hints. It's alright to be bold but if you are not that kind of person then it's also okay to go around the edges. The worst that can happen is for the two of you to remain friends. I would rather have that then not having him as a friend at all.

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so i posted a question about this guy in my class & everyone told me to talk to him and i did. well see when he sits next to me, he sometimes sees what i am doing. like the other day i was drawing & he was watching me. and then today before class he saw me & smiled at me, and i smiled back. the problem was when i went to class, i asked him if he's started his collage. he told me he hasn't, so then i asked him what will his collage be and he said he doesn't know, and he'll have to s it down and plan it out. & then he didn't say anything after that so i decided not to say anything either because i didn't want to annoy him. but i was upset that he wasn't really talking to me. & i feel like i got too excited when he smiled at me because i mean its not like he likes me just because he smiled at me. so am i just wasting my time, and getting too excited? and should i still talk to him?

You probably got to excited, it happens. You should still talk to him, you still have a chance. Just be calm and make sure you have a good few questions in the back of your head to keep the conversation going. That way it won't become awkward. It's okay to be nervous but just make it seem to him that you are a very confident lady and I am sure you will get somewhere.

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i am 13 and i desperately need a way to make money. i don't have time to babysit and my parents won't pay me to do chores because i'm "already supposed to do that. it is my job as a teen..." i cant do these things because i am in integrated classes with lots of homework and i play sports...

i just saw a website called teenseyes.com where you fill out surveys for money. this is the perfect job for me because i'm obsessed with filling questionaires out.

what i need to know is if this is a reliable source. i dont care if it doesnt pay well because its just a little online job and i dont have bills so who cares? but i need to know if it is a scam or if it's the real deal.

do you think i should sign up for it?

thanks !

no no no! That website is a porn website! I do not think that is something you need to mess with. Plus that was just a scam.

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he hasn't talked to me in three days becuase he wanted a break.
and today I texted him and I'm like tell me if were broken up and he said yes.
and I'm like why? and he's like because were too far away I can't do this
and I'm like well thanks for not telling me. and he's like I just decided. and I'm like can we still be friends and he's like I was hoping we could be.
and I'm like yeah so I'm guessing I don't get to see you in march or when I come down there ( I have family who lives by him )
and he's like maybe if you really want to.,
and I'm like of course I do. and he's like well I don't know maybe.
and I'm like ok well just text me when you want to talk to me I guess :/
and he's like ok bye.

im heartbroken. I don't know waht to do.
i feel like I should say something to him. but I don't know whaat
help meee :[

honestly i can say from experience that long distance realationships do not work out. It has to do with not seeing that person everyday, a realationship needs that. All I can say is let him come to you. Dont bug him with texting, I know it bothers you, but he doesn't have to know that. When I went through this the guy just stopped calling me and that let me know that we were done, and he got in touch with me like a half a year later and we decided to stay friends and that was four years ago. So who knows what will happen. Just stay strong and put on a poker face and you will be fine. There are more fish in the sea, and if he realizes what he lost, trust me he will let you know.

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me & my friend have been feuding over this for days.

we all are genetically programmed to stop growing after puberty. This usually happens after the age of 16. You are at your tallest when you first wake up but as the day goes by you go down to your average height. Sleeping really does help you grow but if you don't sleep well then it can stunt your growth.

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Hii
I'll just get right to it I guess - after sex it burns when I pee, and also my vaginal lips are just sore in general for a bit afterwards
I don't have any other symptoms, and to be honest this has always been the case in the four years that I have been sexually active. So I really tend to think it's normal?
I also get frequent UTI's and I find that if I drink a lot of water after sex, the burning goes away, so I think it's something related?
I haven't been tested in around a year and a half, but aside from maybe 15 minutes of tenderness after sex and a little sting when I pee, nothing really happens to concern me so I just haven't considered it necesary
but anyways someone I'm with started complaining today that the head of his penis hurt and that he'd like us both to get checked out
he mentioned stinging, but not stinging during urination
he just basically said that the tip has persistently hurt all day
so anyways, we're both gonna get tested ASAP because he hasn't had many sexual partners and he's apparently really freaked out about this, but I honestly think it's normal? I mean we've hung out like a grand total of four times & had sex nine, all within the last week and a half or so. So it seems normal to me that he would be a little sore? especially after almost a year of inactivity, and considering we're a little rough.
anyways, obviously only the doctor can give us a solid answer but I just wanted some opinions? Because his freaking out has got me freaking out a little bit :P I was hooking up with a kind of shady guy a few months ago, and he's the only person I can think of that I could imaginably contract something from. But it would be SO embarassing if that were the case and I somehow just didn't notice before passing it on to this new partner. I would feel terrible even if it were something easily curable, so I'm just hoping that my gut is right here and it's something normal
so yea any opinions or similar experiences would be appreciated :P sorry this is so long & thanks in advance!

This has happened to me too since i have become sexually active. The burning and frequent UTI's can be from forgetting to immediatelly pee after sex. I did that a then got a UTI and it burned and was awful! U must treat it because I didn't and ended up getting a kidney infection. If you get that then your lower back aches and you abdomen sometimes hurts and you notice you have to pee more than you normally do. You do not want that to happen! Treat it quick because you never know what the long-term damage can be. It is good to get checked, but like my guy, your guys penis is probably just worn out. Too much sex can wear it out.

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im a girl, and i have a bump 'down there'. its small and it hurts a little bit. not itchy or anything and ive had it for a couple weeks. ive never had sex, but im starting to get nervous. ive givin my [ex] bf a handjob and hes fingered me (the last time this happened was december 5th) . its only one bump and it hasnt spread. what are ALL of the possibilities. what do i do? should i tell my parents or do i wait for some more time? is there a chance it isnt sexually related . please help. thank you

there are other things that, that bump could be than a STD. So don't panic just yet. From experience, There are only two things I can say that it is. One is that if you have shaved down there than it could be a bad hair falicule or two it just could be a zit. That can happen, believe me. They can get really big, it's not good to mess with them and if it is a zit it can take a very long time to go down or go away completely. If it urts don't mess with it. They can both pop so just work at it or leave it alone, but don't infect it.

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My Boyfriend of 4 months and I just had sex for the first time. Although this was my first time ever, it wasn't his, he's been with other girls of all shapes and sizes. He's very confident in his... sexual abilities. Anyway, we tried it a couple different times, and he just could not hold an erection. He said Its the first time that's ever happened to him, and he didn't know why he couldn't cum. He kept reassuring me that it wasn't me, and that he was interested, but he just couldn't stay hard. I Don't know of any other reasons why this problem would occur if he's done it so much before. is there anything I could do, or are there any other reasons why this could be happening? Thanks guys..
Sincerly, First time Failure.

this hapens sometimes to men. So don't think it's you because it's not. guys body has never wanted to respond to the brain, it is just who men are. I had this happen to my boyfriend and I and what I did is kinda spice things up. I made him lay back and feel comfortable while i did some work. I kinda teased him and then played a little. That really would get him going, so you try it. It works for me and my guy. Oh and you maybe new at this but trust me it will become natural. But don't do anything that you do not feel comfortable doing.

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i was in love...scratch that...i AM in love.. completely head over heels...and i know it wasn't infatuation, it was love. and to top it all it was my first love. this guy was amazing and treated me like a princess...like it sounds corny but i felt like i could fly when i was with him. we dated for over a year then like a couple months before we broke up, he just changed...he would blow me off to do absolutely nothing...then he dumped me because he said it wasn't fair to me, which i agree...but i have this hole in my heart and it won't go away...and its been 3 months since we broke up...

he also tells me he doesn't believe in love lasting forever. his parents are getting divorced so i could see where he's coming from, i think this is a big thing to do with it but i don't want to seem desperate for him back...but its so hard....i've already tried talking to him about it but it seems like he's made up his mind that he doesn't want to be in a relationship...advice? anything will help ...thanks.

The best thing to do is give him space. He probably has it rough right now because of his parents divorce. Just let him know your there for him no matter what. But if he doesn't want to be back with you, you cannot push him, it will only drive him away. You will get through it, promise. Just stay strong, all in good time. Maybe one day he will realize what he lost.

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i have this friend we were bestfriends but then we fell for the same guy he was are buddy but then i told her how i feel about him and she saide she only likes him as a friend then out of nowhere she told me that she loved him and then he told me the samething about her i told them i was ok with it but the truth is that it killed me inside then they started going out and i feel bad cause all i wanted is for them to break up and when they did she called me crying but i didnt care i was just happy they were over and i think shes mad at me cause she doesnt even talk to me its like she hates me but i dont think she has a right to hate me its not like i broke them up i just dont know wat to do should i feel guilty

OK, it is alright to feel guilty, and dont blame yourself for liking a guy, it can't be helped. If you and your friend are more like sisters than anything else in this world ask yourself this "is friendship really worth the price over one guy?" There will be more guys to come. But that friend you have is a specific individual and you will never find another friend like her. If you are okay with that then pursue the guy. It is your choice, no one can decide for you. Just go with your gut, im sure you will know what's right.

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Ok yes i know i could figure it out by having sex but like that seems to risky and i've been on the pill for a few months, like 6 or 7 months maybe more but the thing is i didnt start using it for having sex, it was for my skin. So i havent really been very punctual about it. Sometimes a few hours off and every rare once in awhile i miss a day and just take two the next day but that happens rarely. My period is extremely regular i get it on the exact same day every month, if that'll help. I just wanna know if its safe for me to have sex without a condom or is it too risky?

i can say from experience that it's alright to have sex without a condom. But it is wise to not do it if you skiped a pill the night before. If it worries you too much then just to stay extra safe, then use a condom. just keep watch.

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I'm 14 and a girl
Well, here it is. My cousin, Moy, plays baseball & this past summer I decided to go to his games/practices to see if there were any cute guys. Moy got suspicious when his sister, Alicia, told him I was going to his game. He asked "Who does she like?" & she told him "no one!" & he said "Is it Mason?" & she said "uhh..." & he said "Oooh! My man's got a girl!" & from then on he started to tease me about Mason. I started liking Mason (Mason's on Moy's team) I told Moy it was okay to tell one of his close friends on his team & when he did they both smiled like they knew something. Then my uncle had to tickets to an amusement park. So Moy invited Mason. My older cousin, Berto, brought a girl named Shelby so her, Mason, Moy, and I decided to go on a ride. While in line she told Mason & me to take a picture together so we did & she said "you two are so cute!" then she asked Moy to go on the ride with her & that meant I had to go with Mason. Pretty much from then on when the 6 of us went on a ride, I rode with Mason. We went on a ride & Mason & Moy rode together & Alicia & I rode together. Then on the next ride I heard Mason ask Moy "Are we going to switch now?" then Moy said "Alicia, you're riding with me." So I rode with Mason he asked me "where do you live" & I told him & he said "that's a cool place! I have cousins that live there" then we were going up a hill on the ride & he reaches back to ruffle Moy's hair, he looks at me & I smiled, so he did it again & I laughed & he got this big smile on his face. the 6 of us decided to go watch Shelby's friend perform for a sec. We sat down & Moy was going to sit in between Mason and me, but Mason scooted closer to me. We decided to go on a haunted house ride. The pairs were, Shelby & Berto, Moy & Alicia, & Mason & me. But when we got to the ride it was closed & Mason seemed disappointed. We got on a different ride & I asked him how old he was, he said "13 how old are you?" I said "14" & he just said "oh" & looked away. Throughout this whole day I caught him staring at me (a lot) so I would look at him & he would look away. Now I don't see if anymore (baseball season's over) but Moy's going to play with Mason again. I try talking to him on Facebook, but he ignores me. I want to know, is it going to be awkward seeing him in the summer? Did he like me? Is it weird for him to talk to me now? and Did I miss my chance with him?
Sorry it's so long

okay honestly it will be awkward to see him, but what you need to do is act like it doesn't bother you. make him sweat. show him u have better things to do then drool over him. he just probably got weirded out because you told him you were older than him. he just probably thinks he doesn't have a chance with an older girl. just show him who is in control. if he really likes you he will come around and the two of you can talk about it, just dont push him.

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is it normal to be bored of sex all of the sudden? me and my boyfriend were having sex (the safe way don't worry), but after a while.. i just got bored and just laid there looking around the room. two days before, i was watching a video and the person was giving advice to somebody who said what happened during sex which was that she started bleeding and everything. that kinda turned me off and i just wasn't in the mood. was that the reason why i got bored of sex or something or got turned off? is this normal?

it is common to become bored of sex. some girls dont have a huge sex drive. if you are birth control that can weaken it too. i am pretty sure when you want it, you will get it. it will come around just do it if you dont really want to.

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i hope this is the right category.
16/f
sorry its so long.
so this is the story: my (ex)bofriend and i met in a class that we have together and we fell hard and fast for each other. i love him. he has a terrible home life and he told me was moving so we decided to break up so it wouldnt so hard when he left, but i still loved him and it was sohard to see him everyday and know that i'm not with him. shortly after we got back together because he said hes not moving. i was so happy, the happiest i've ever been in my life. i was attracted to him in everyway physically and mentally. i loved about him the most that we had the same perspective on EVERYTHING and we could talk forever and about everything, it was astounding. but because of his deteriorating health and home life he says he cant be in a relationship but he still has feelings for me. i never cry because it doesnt solve anything and i hate it, but i cried so hard the night we brokeup i'm so crushed. i used to cut and i feel so depressed that i just want to go really deep but i dont want to start that addiction again. i really dont know how get past this, everyone says its going to get better, i'm sure it will but i dont know how to deal with my broken heart. any words of wisdom is welcomed. thanks

ok....i really know what your going through, i have been there. first i must say cutting is not the answer. i have cut and it only supresses the pain for a little while but it comes back. that is why if you look at my profile name it means something, a saying that i came across and remember it becomes it comes in handy. "pain is inevitable but suffering is opitional." you do not have to suffer. you are only 16 and there will be more guys to come. if you and this guy really and truly still have feelings for each other then he will relize he made a mistake, but don't push him just let him come around. if not then it was never meant to be. look to friends for support and just try to find things to occupy yourself. i promise you will get through it.

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I was wondering if you would have any advice on what I should do to ask out the girl I love. She may know I like her, but she doesn't know my true feeling. I've made loads of poems about her, but I've never gave one to her. I don't want to just walk up to her and say "Wanna go out sometime?" I want to at least have a chance. :/ Help?

well it is nice to get comfortable, at least you want her to feel comfortable, so just talk about random things. ask her about her day or what is her favorite this and that and then kinda ease in that you are really interested in her and would she like to go out on a date. the time will come when you will be able to full express how you feel.

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so say your on birth control and then you needed to take a medicine pill that would cancel the birth control but you still took your birth control everyday. you have sex he cums in you more than once is it like cummin in me like regular sex with nothing for protection?

depending on the medicine depends on wheather the birth control with continue to work. you need to speak with your doctor. if you are scared that it is not working than you should stay safe while having sex no matter what. you never know what might happen, so ask a doctor

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18/f - 19/m

Two weeks ago I got my period two weeks early. I thought it was just because I had gotten my first pap, but I don't know. So, I'm expecting my period this week. Except it's already two days late. My boyfriend and I sleep together on a regular basis, so I know I'm at risk of pregnancy. I just don't know if that could be it. Twice now the condom has broken, and twice we haven't used one. One time when we didn't use one, we were both intoxicated and I don't know if he pulled out on time, although I know he did pull out. I guess what I'm asking is: Can my missed period just be because I got it two weeks early, or .. am I pregnant (only a test can really tell that. And if I don't have my period by Christmas Eve, then I'm taking a test then)?

Thank you.

i do not believe you are going to have a a period if you got it two weekd early. If you are on birth control then the pulling in and out and the breaking of the condom should not be a worry, but if you are not on birth control then i believe to just be safe take a test. that early period may not have been a period at all, it might have been spotting which is a sign of pregnacy. so have a test.

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16/f

weird to say, but is it normal for a girl to erect just like how guys do? i hear that it's like wanting to urinate, but for some odd reason it never happened to me before.. i still don't think it does? but ever since i took plan b.. after sex, white stuff comes out of me.. it's not liquidy it's more like kinda gooey or something? i can't really describe it.. the only thing that worries me is that it comes out ALOT. not as much as it did a month after i took plan b, but it still comes out. is that normal? did plan b do something to my body?

it is perfectly normal for a girl to cum. It does feel like your wanting to pee. If white stuff is coming out but not while your having sex then its just discharge. It is normal. You are saying a lot and trust me i know what you mean. it is just cleaning itself out and preparing for the next time. If you really want to know what it feels like to cum and have the pee urge then ask your b/f or whoever, even you to play with your clit during sex. it feels absolutely awesome!

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