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depressed about break up
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16/f
sorry its so long.
so this is the story: my (ex)bofriend and i met in a class that we have together and we fell hard and fast for each other. i love him. he has a terrible home life and he told me was moving so we decided to break up so it wouldnt so hard when he left, but i still loved him and it was sohard to see him everyday and know that i'm not with him. shortly after we got back together because he said hes not moving. i was so happy, the happiest i've ever been in my life. i was attracted to him in everyway physically and mentally. i loved about him the most that we had the same perspective on EVERYTHING and we could talk forever and about everything, it was astounding. but because of his deteriorating health and home life he says he cant be in a relationship but he still has feelings for me. i never cry because it doesnt solve anything and i hate it, but i cried so hard the night we brokeup i'm so crushed. i used to cut and i feel so depressed that i just want to go really deep but i dont want to start that addiction again. i really dont know how get past this, everyone says its going to get better, i'm sure it will but i dont know how to deal with my broken heart. any words of wisdom is welcomed. thanks
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I know how you feel. There was this guy I dated and his home life wasn't great either in the end he broke up with me and I was devastated. I felt as if I lost a huge part of me because we talked about everything. He was my first kiss and my first boyfriend I felt so much for him I wasn't in love with him but he was a big part of my life. Sometimes in life you can't control things...things happen for a reason and we need to accept it. Your ex boyfriend's home life isn't good right now which might have affected you in the long run. Maybe it was best to end it because things may have gotten complicated...I understand however that you still have feelings. The thing is though is that maybe this was for the best maybe this was a good thing. A broken heart is hard to deal with it but it will soon mend and before you know it you'll look back and remember the good times you had. For now though take care of you and talk to someone because you don't want to go back to those addictions. Good luck and Happy Holidays!
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I get what you mean about the cutting and being depressed over a guy. Trust me, this will pass. I know you want to do it in the moment but think about the future before you do. You don't want to get into the habit again right? Your thinking ahead of time. Don't let it get to you. You care about this guy alot. You have to understand there are reasons for your break up. You still know he has the feelings, he didn't blow you off. Just stay strong and hold yourself together. If you can stand the suffering it will make you stronger for the future. Good luck!
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ok....i really know what your going through, i have been there. first i must say cutting is not the answer. i have cut and it only supresses the pain for a little while but it comes back. that is why if you look at my profile name it means something, a saying that i came across and remember it becomes it comes in handy. "pain is inevitable but suffering is opitional." you do not have to suffer. you are only 16 and there will be more guys to come. if you and this guy really and truly still have feelings for each other then he will relize he made a mistake, but don't push him just let him come around. if not then it was never meant to be. look to friends for support and just try to find things to occupy yourself. i promise you will get through it.
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