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I'm single but I have gone through tough relationships so I can help anyone on that field...


I'm a tracky and I love soccer and most of my close friends play diffrent sports... so sport questions I can help with...


I have awesome friends but we have had our tough times so friendship problems, I know almost all...


I'll tell you straight out what I believe whether good or badd... but I try to be as nice as possible... I answer any type of question...


I'm a Junior in high school... which means I'm in 11th grade for those who don't have any special names and such... i'm 16 since july 9th


Im me on my screenname if you really need help with something that takes further more talking on... or you can just im me to talk... I'm me... xoxoxo


~Gomesy #11~

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Me and my girlfriend are in a delema she is makeing a dission between me or another guy she says she is confused. and she says she loves me but my point of view is if she loves me as much as she says she does then i would this it would be no comp. I love her like no other. Im thinking she is playing both sides she wants me to be here if she picks the other guy and it goes wrong with them. my prob is what should i do if she picks him. I would hope she'd pick me though.

Girls point of view... you should talk to the "other guy"... see what she is saying to her... she may be sincerly confused and loves you but from out of no where this guy comes... or she could be trying to have two guys at once... i don't really now her to say witch she is doing... just ask the guy and such... and talk to her... tell her whats on your mind... if she loves you than you two shoudln't have a problem... good luck and i hope i helped...

Gomesy

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hi... i think i am a very nice person and no one has told me other wise, i'm nice to everyone... but these two girls have been saying mean things about me and it hurts me a lot because i have just never saw it coming...now i dont know how to act around other people because im afraid other people think the same as them and i dont want people not to like me because i like everyone... what do i do?

If your nice to everyone then ur a nice person... there are some people who are messed up so they want to mess up other people's lives... if you let this bother you than they won... just let it go and be you... these girls are probably stuck up and such or just have too much spare time... show them that they are wrong... if you walk with your head up and ignore them than they will feel like crap... this girl on my track team said stuff about one of my good friends and it wasnt true... people are just asses... these girls probably didnt even say it to your face i bet... they just wanna think they are cool but in the end they are just embarrasing themselves... they are missing out... xoxoxo

Hope i helped

Gomesy

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I used to live with my brother but now i have to live with my other brother and he's constantly drinking and hitting me i don't know what to do if i go to the police then i'll end up in a home again and i don't want to go back to one of those places and if i run away then i'll end up on the street again and that's no good either, but i can't stay here it's getting harder and harder to deal with him and he keeps trying to rape me what can i do?

Sometimes we have to do things we dont wanna do... you really need to leave that type of place... your ruining your future staying there... i know you don't want to but get out and i mean by going to the police and such... i know going to a home isnt great but it is better than staying with your brother... keep your head up and gather strength... i have faith in you because no one deserves what your going through...

You are strong enough and i beleive you can do it... don't let people dictate your future... your in control of your future

Gomesy

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I am friends with the most popular girls in school but sometimes it seems like they dont want me around. I dont know what im doing wrong. I have always wanted to be friends with them. My best friend doesnt talk to me when they're around and i dont know why.How can i be better friends with them?

Dont ever change you for people... thats just fucked up... talk to your friend.. tell her how you feel... if she is ur best friend she should listen and be there for you... trust me... hope i helped

Gomesy

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So I'm sorta about to be going out with this guy. My best friend, hits on everyone, including him. lately i've been trying to hang out more with him (but i haven't like ditched my friends for him) so today, im sitting behind him in math, and my "friend" walks up, and sits on his lap.This made me angry but, he didnt appear to happy about it either but is to nice to say GET OFF ME! So then, she's trying to get her hands either up or down his shirt claiming she's "cold". then. when we are leaving math, i walked out with him. she runs up the hallway, litterally, shoves him off to the side, somehow wiggles between us cutting my totally off from him! i havent told her yet that we r going to go out, cause im afraid of her reaction. how can i tell her to lay off him, without being rude?! ty in advance, i rate high/

You have to tell her... just be like i like so and so and he likes me... if she is a good friend she should listen to you...

Gomesy

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is it possible to get pregnant the very first time u have sex, and don't wear a condom?

Anything is possible... pregnancy test???

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first of all, i apologize for the misspelling of 'skating', and the general idiotic appearance of the title. but it worked, didn't it? you came in here to correct me! :P

i am a 16 year-old rookie skater (female) who can't ollie yet.

i was at the skateboard-city.com forums, and this guy posts a rather mean post about how most of the girls that skate are posers, who skate to try to get with 'skater boys', or to get the whole 'skater punk rock' look.

whe someone calls you a poser, the first reaction is to deny it. so of course all of the female skaters on that site protested, but it made ME wonder...

am i a poser? i wish i could say no, but i honestly don't know. there are various reasons why i started to skate (about six mo. ago).

i can definitely say that i didn't start skateboarding because i thought the 'skater style' was hot or anything. i am a "girly-girl" however, i'm not so sure about the skater boy factor. what if i unconsciously DID start to skate because i wanted to meet skater boys? i know it's definitely true that i wanted to make some friends (regardless of gender) through skateboarding.

also the fact that skateboarding - just skateboarding around your town and on the streets itself looked "cool" was a part of the reason why i started. but is this necessarily bad? don't guys get inspired, after seeing a skating video, to do better because of how 'cool' it looks?

and, is it possible to start off as a poser (start skating to look cool or meet guys or whatever) but to change along the way?

sorry about the length. however, i'd really appreciate it if someone (hopefully a skater themselves) replied. thanks in advance. i rate.

your not a poser... when i read what you just said sounds like me... but i started because my boyfriend did and it was bonding and i learned to have fun while i was learning... im a rookie as well... learning to ollie... some asses call us grls posers because some dont want us females to take over the skating world... but some guys are cool about it... skating is a fun thing to do like any sport so i dont see the deal why some make it a bigg deal... skate and have fun chick...

Gomesy

Im a grly girl too... and skating shouldnt matter who your are it should just be about the fun

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So I started my spring track season pumped and ready to go in the beginning of March...then my hip started hurting me when i ran so i went to the doctor and she told me i had a growth plate problem and i would have to sit out for 4 weeks then get 7-10 days of physical therapy and i looked at the schedule and i was heartbroken but i was only gonna miss 7 meets and be back in time for one of my favorite meets for freshmen and sophomores only...well i finished my 4 weeks rest and today the physical therapy perscription came in the mail saying 2 to 3 times a week for 3 to 4 weeks....which means i would miss the entire rest of the season....i told my mom i wasnt gonna do it and shes like fine go run and i want to because my hip doesnt bother me anymore but i dont know if my coach will let me run without a doctors note saying i can...i spent an hour crying over this...sports are my life and i can't imagine not doing track, ive been to the meets ive missed to watch and i almost cried because i miss it too much..what do i do now?

IM A TRACKY TOO!!!...Only one season... i know its hard but you dont to ruin ur hip for good... go to the meets and support your team but you should stay out and get ready for next season...
Hope i helped

Gomesy

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Hi im Jess i really need to know how can i get more aggressive in soccer because i love the sport ive been playing for 9 years and i just cant seem to get aggressive. Ive heard people say i need t get more aggressive but i dont know how so if anyone has any ideas plz let me know. Thx
~Love Jess~

use your shoulders and want to get the ball... and when you loose it don't be like whatever... you have to go for it and try to get it... i dont know what position you play but every position you have to do your job and being agrresive is needed... hope i helped

Gomesy

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hi im Jess for some may know but when i run i get tired very easily and i get a cramp fast how can i avoid these problems thx i rate high.
Love Jess

you have to work at it... run everyday and you should get use to it... just work hard and you should get it

Hope i helped

Gomesy

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Hi im Jess i love soccer very much and i enjoy it until my coaches ruin it. If i make one little mistake they yell alot. I hate when they do that because im having a great time until they come along and ruin it what can i do to avoid their annoyance to me. thx i rate high
love Jess

trust me i know what ur going through... first year of highschool soccer was horible and i let them bugg me and soccer was ruined... if it wasnt for my town couch i would have quit... you have to let it go in one ear and let it out the other... only let the useful tips help... do your best and play the game... soccer is he best... and its one of those sports u cant stop loving

Hope i helped

Gomesy #11

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okay im in track and im not the best runner and the only reason i joined is to get in shape for the summer well anyways my friends think they are getting shin splints and i might be getting them too how can you help this or make them go away and it is really tough on your shins cuz we do hurdles even though it is in middle school level but thanks.

Im in track too but im a sprinter, long distance runner, long jumper, and shotputter... i know allot... but what i do is tap my toes.. like just stand there when ur streching and tap ur toes like 100 times fast... and ice em... that should help... my good friend is a hurdler.. she made states and thats what she did... hope i helped

Gomesy

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I look absolutly dreadful in the mornings, like most people. I get big bags under my eyes, I tend to break out right when I wake up, my face looks oily and dirty, my eyes look small and tired. I wash my face every morning and night, put on lotion morning and night, and I use concelar and foundation. Most of it wears off after a few hours, but my eyes are the same most of the day. Of course if I'm getting ready at night, everything is gone. Please if anyone has any tips to looking better in the mornings, let me know! THANKS!

That use to happen to me... idk about the bags but my face i started to use Proactiv and i was less oily... you still have to wash your ace in the morning and at night its just when you wake up your face wont be oily unless you didnt wash it the night before... hope i helped

Gomesy

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Okay here it goes, my boyfriend is really unexperienced, and really shy. I want to know if I should just go for it or wait untill he goes for it (it being the kiss) Or is it more of a "we both will know when its right" type of deal. I was the one to initiate most everyhting else such as holding hands and whatnot,...now what?

OK... dont ask him to kiss you!! Its awkward my ex did and i wanted to slap him... you should let him come... the best kisses in my opinion are the ones you just look into eachothers eyes and know when its coming and know its right... sounds corny but most like it... i do atleats... just hang out with him one day and tell him how you feel about you and look into him eyes and such... hopefully you will get this kiss... good luck....

Gomesy

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theres this guy at school that all my friends are friends with, but i havent really liked him from the start... maybe its b/c i hear all these bad things he says behind one of my best friends back... anyways what should i do...
i've tried being nice to him and talking to him more but, he just obviously doesn't like me eigher...if i could learn to be friends with him... that would be great, but he doesn't really want to be... or at least thats what i heard from one of my friends
One more thing... should i try to forget all of these mean things that he has said behind my friends back??
-confused

Dont try to be friends with someone cause everyone else is... just ignore him... his lost... he seems like a ass anyway... and it depends how your friend is with hima nd hw badd the thing he said was... if your friend thinks he awesome and such you shoulk tell em what he said so they wont get too into him... hope i helped

Gomesy

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okay well there is this guy that has liked me all year long and he tells me all the time that he always thinks about me and he dreams about me and it really didnt bug me because i just ignored him when he told me stuff like that. But then all of the sudden he put something in his xanga that scared me and has haunted me ever since. It said that he would take a bullet for me thats how bad he wants me. And i have been scared that he will do anything just to get me. I dont know if i should talk to the police or a counselor but if someone could please help. He stalks me all the time and he knows everything about me like where i live, what my mom's car looks like and the sticker on the back of the car. To me that is very scary. If someone could please help i am afraid for my life here... i feel like one day he will bring a gun to school and shoot me thats how bad he really wants me and if i say no to him then that makes him really mad. Please help ASAP! ITS URGENT!
thank you

he is definantly a stalker... the way you are discribing him... you should tell someone... no one wants anything to happen to you... go to the police or a councelor... do this asap... hope i helped... good luck

Gomesy

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ok so heres my problem- i went out with this guy a couple of months ago and we only went out for like 2 months but i'm still not over him! im so in love with him! but i also think i'm in love with my best friend(hes a guy). we are soo close but i really think i love him. but my other best friend(whos a girl) also likes him a TON! but he deosn't like her.she doesn't know i like him but i'm just so confused with what to do. cause a lot of people say he likes me but i dont wanna be mean and go out with him. so i really have no idea what to do! help me PLEASE!

ok girl... lets breath... in and out... ok... i know what ur going through... i went out with this kid for like 4 months and i was soo into him and when we broke up i didnt get over him for awhile... try to get over him... someone new hels and you have found someone... but its not only you and him your friends in this too... you should st down and talk to her... i guys you should find out who likes him the most... sounds dumb but its a good idea... and you should also talk to the guy... find out how he feels about you... be like "so who do you like", put this in a convo with him... i think if you are with this guy riend than it will be easier to get over this guy... hoe i heled girl

xoxox Gomesy

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i really like this guy and we were at a party and i thought it would be fun to go to and have sex. ( hes really cool and popular) when we got to the bed i quikly changed my mind and said i didn't want to have sex. but i guess he didn't care. i don't feel like myself anymore since that nite. what should i do?

If you said "no" and he didnt listen than its rape... you should have gone to the police after but you should still go... put this guy where he deserves to be... show him ur strong and hopefully this will help... good luck

Gomesy

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I believe in sex after marriage, but my boyfriend is persisiting i have sex with him. He aggrivates me ALL the time and I can see myself giving in. I know I will regret it as soon as I've done "the deed". I'm confused as to what I should do; should I choose the easy option and give in? or go by my wishes and wait?

I'm waiting till i get married but most say i won't... if your guy is asking for some than explain to him that ur waiting... if he really cares about you he will understand... my ex did when i told him... he shouldnt be in the relationship for the "booty" as most say... lol... he should be in it because he likes you... hope i helped

Gomesy

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is it normal that when you put your hand on your stomach you feel a heartbeat-like thing? it like pumps and feels like there is a heart beating in your stomach? everytime i touch my stomach it is like that, as if it has its own pulse or something.

Doesnt sound good at all... CALL 911!!!... nah but seriously you should see a doctor... they know ALMOST anything... hope i helped...

Gomesy

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