Just your average nice girl next door. Married the love of my life at 24, widowed at 29.
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I have to go for a breast exam and a pap smear in a couple days and im totally flipping out becuase i just read an article on how and what the doctor does (http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_body/medical_care/obgyn.html) and this is scaring me becuase its the most private part of my body. or parts. the part im most worried about is me being 15 female and my doctor is a male. I feel uncomfortable now and im really driving myself crazy. If anyone has been in my position please tell me anything to make me feel better. thanks so much. (link)
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It's over quick, they usually tell you what they are doing at the time and there is always a female nurse or assistant in the room too.
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Ever since we met, my boyfriend always had this thing about grabbing my upper arm to pull me closer to him when he wants to talk to me or something.
Sometimes it's like he isn't aware of his own strength or something because it'll hurt. And I always tell him not to do it because of that. He apologizes and tells me that he doesn't realize he does it that hard and says he'll try to stop.
Well, of course, he doesn't stop. He just did it last night and that time it left marks on my arms. I didn't even notice until my mom said something about it this morning and I had to sit that and explain to her why the guy I'm seeing left marks on my arm! NOT EASY.
I haven't showed him the marks yet but what should I say to him when I do? I mean, I know what to say but how do I make it clear to him that he NEEDS to STOP?
And by the way, he is in NO WAY abusive, if he came off that way. I'm 18/f -- He's 21/m
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If you've asked him to stop and he hasn't AND it left marks - it IS abuse, whether intentional or not. Someone who genuinely cares about you would have heard your request to stop the first time. No one does this to get someone's attention... would you grab your friend's arm like that? Or even let it become habit? And do you see him do this with anyone else?
You should show him the marks and say it IS inappropriate to get anyone's attention in that manner and it is clearly hurting you physically and mentally because you asked him to stop. If that doesn't get his attention, you should move on.
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Yeah, my granmother just died, we're having a funeral for her on saturday, and I don't want to be there. My dad says "Its not your decision to make" does anyone have some persuasion techniques? Or have you ever heard of a way to convince someone to do something your way?
I don't want to go. What' sthe best way to say it so I get to stay?? (link)
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Suck it up and go. Act like a mature kid and be supportive for your family. Trying to get out of doing the dishes is one thing, but avoiding a family funeral is inexcusable. You can say lots of things.... like it hurts too much and you're afraid of making it worse for everyone else.... but the bottom line is that someday you will regret not helping your family.
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There's this girl,(lets call her B) who's been saying mean stuff about me on her blog, like how i'm annoying and blahblahblah. Some of our friends(we both know the same people)read her blog,and my crush knows her pretty well.I'm worried that B will tell my crush bad stuff about me,and he'll get a horrible first impression of me. Also, I don't want B to go around telling everyone how she finds me irritating etc. What should I do ?
thanks*
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Girls are brutal when it comes to being mean! And with the web it's possible to be even more cruel by actually putting in writing, mean things about you! If she truly identifies you and is posting untrue things that is defined as "harrassment" You should leave a comment that says, Your comments about me are untrue and by continuing to post them on a website constitutes harrassment, please cease and desist. That way the legality might scare her off a bit and if it does come down to that, you have acted respectfully and told her to stop. I hope it doesnt go any further... good luck
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My parents will no longer let me hang out with one of my friends. I don't even see why. She's very respectful and nice. They just don't like her for some reason. How can I make them let me hang out with her again? She's a really good friend and I don't want to lose her. I will rate any1 who helps. So please help. Thank you in advance. (link)
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They must have some reason they believe is valid and it's big enough that they don't want to share it with you. Maybe something to do with her family and they don't want you around that? In any case you should try and sit down and ask them what exactly their concerns are and then you can tell them that regardless, your friend is a good person. Ask for a compromise that you two can hang out at your house.
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I just got a job as a Hostess at my Aunts Restaurant and I was just curious as to what exactly I would do. Do I greet people? I'm a really friendly person, I just don't know what to say.. I'm sure my Aunt will tell me, but I don't want to say the same thing, all the time, to everyone, I'd like to change it up a bit. (link)
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Say things like:
Hi how are you folks tonight?
Thank you for coming in.
Are you celebrating a special occasion today?
Hi there! Is everyone good and hungry today?
Kind of silly, but personable. Don't comment on someones clothing, except to say something like - you all look very nice, are you celebrating?
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So, I have this boyfriend of 4 months. But now I want to break it off. But I just don't know what to say. I really don't want to hurt him, but.....idk. I'm also scared that he might do something stupid, because that's just the type of person he is. And he's toally obessed with me and clingy. It's annoying. I know that's mean but it's true. Anyone have anything I can say, because I suck at breaking up with guys, I just don't know what to say or how to say it. Sorry for the stupid question 5's for helpful answers. (link)
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Be honest and say you don't think you are as compatible as an exclusive couple. Stick to your guns and keep saying the exact same answer. if he's as obsessed and clingy as you say then nothing's gonna truly get through to him anyhow. But you will know that you were straight up.
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i am going to be redoing my room this summer and i cant seem to find any furniture i like online...
im looking for a few things in particular-
-a dark walnut stain bar stool (round seat, not padded)
-a dark walnut corner desk/desk
-a dark walnut bookshelf
-a dark walnut armoir that is longer than it is tall.
sites and stores are appreciated, thank you!
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Bombay has mostly dark pieces like you want. The other thing to do, is find decent wooden pieces that you like (in different styles) but give them all the same 'finish'
sounds like a fun project!
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I have awesome friends theres a group of us made up of girls and guys and we joke around about everything and you know the deal with friends thats just us... but in the group theres one girl who everyone likes or would go out with in a second i mean i love her to death too but i mean i dont see any difference between her and the rest of us, i mean she plays sports but so do the rest of us and were all kind of alike and we all have our different "fallbacks" if you know what i mean. i just dont understand. why is it like this?
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There is just some magic in some people. My best friend for years is tall, and pretty overweight, i'm about 5'4" blonde, 105 pounds etc., we go out and the guys are just all over her and I try to listen to what she says and all. All i can figure is that she gives off a much more approachable vibe, and most guys (except senior citizens and wierdos) don't have the nerve to approach me.
I've worked in sales and find that you have to be approachable, smiling, etc., don't sit back with your arms folded because it's very closed body language.
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I am going to a wedding and im not sure where to get a dress or ideas for what an acceptable one would be... heres some questions i need answers to...
-where are some cheep places to get nice dress for about $40 at the most?
((websites?))
-what type of dress, its in the summer so what would good ideas be.. pictures would help?((websites?))
-how should i do my hair and make up?((websites?))
*** i would LA LA LA LA LOVE it if you found a picture of a dress, shoes, make up, hair if you know what i mean***
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www.thefifteendollarstore.com
and ebay - search for your size, style and price range! and you can pick new w/tags or gently worn.
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Can too much attention freak a girl out and make her back off? Even though you're really close? I've heard people say this before, but I'm not too sure, and now I'm affraid that I've been bothering my girlfriend with too much attention. (link)
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Yep it sure can. Most girls end up wanting the ones that they have to chase (at least a little bit). The ones that fall all over us, we're not interested in. Back off a little, do your own thing once in a while and make her miss you!
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This is kind of long and confusing, but bear with me.
Well, I like this guy Jerry. We've talked and flirted before but we usually never see eachother that much. There was a weekend at my friend Kia's church called Disciple Now, and Jerry was there. Usually he would talk to me or say SOMETHING but he he didn't say one word to me the entire time! My friend Kia talked to some people, that don't seem like the people that Jerry would tell his business to, but she that they said that he liked me. But the weird thing is that she finally said that AFTER I admited to like Jerry. She's not the most trustworthy person, but she can be. So then I hear that he gets a girlfriend the week after she told me that. That kinda made me feel down but I knew that I probably wouldn't have a chance with him.
A few weeks after that Kia said that Jerry told her to say hi to me, which made me smile. He acts like he likes me yet he has a girlfriend.
And another problem is that we are in two completely different cliques. He's preppy, and I'm classified as emo/punk. It's really weird too.
A lot of people found out I like him ((like the youth leader)) and I think he knows.
Now, that you've heard everything, do you think he likes me?
(13/f)
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It sounds like he is definitely attracted to you, but maybe too chicken to go against his 'clique.' Preps can be really bad about looking down on people and it doesn't sound like he looks down on you, but maybe his friends would and he's not individual enough to date who he really wants to. You are in a really tough age range.... usually when you get to 16 or so, then it's cool to be different and friends with all kinds of different people.
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me and my boyfriend are expecting a baby in february. we are obviously not married- but im wondering if when it comes, will it obtain my last name or his?- i was thnking itd have to be mine- since hes not really my spouse- but is there any way can request that it has his last name if needed? (link)
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You can put whatever name you want on the birth certificate.
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I am going to Club Paris in Orlando, Florida on Sunday, June 18th. And I'd like to know if any of you know good stores in the Mall that would have good clothes for me to wear. Like I want to wear a low-cut cami type shirt and maybe a skirt, I'm really unsure, what would you wear? Any Suggestions for what I should wear, or good stores? (link)
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That sounds like the perfect thing to wear... add some pretty sandals and you'll look great. btw - it is super hot in FL already, but take some type of light jacket/cardigan. When you go inside some places they have the a/c cranked way down and you end up freezing!
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i heard that the boxes on rubiks cubes just pop out. is that true? (link)
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No it's not true - They ARE little stickers, that you just peel off and stick them back on.
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My boyfriend treats me like gold and i have a HUGE attitude problem and i want to change. But i have no idea how to start. Dont state the obvious people like just do it because i tried and it doesnt happen. he is very annoying but i love him to death and he doesnt deserve what i do. I yell/hit/and give him an attitude. I dont really hit him just m,essing around like im not an abusive girlfriend. but I can get out of hand of messing around.
PLEASE HELP! (link)
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Abuse doesn't always mean by physically hurting someone. Mentally hurting them is just as bad... and yelling, hitting and giving him attitude is abusing his good nature and the entire relationship.
Would you ever stand for a boyfriend treating you, the way that you are treating him and say it's not abuse?
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ok so i have liked this guy for about a year now and the hard part is that he's a senior and im a freshman. he's graduating friday night and my friends were suposed to tell him i liked him but they didn't and i want him to know before he goes. he leaves saturday for a summer tour thing and then off to california for college for four years so the time is now to let him know. should i write him a letter and give it to him tomorrow night or is that to forward? guys opinions will help too thanks. (link)
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Don't put anything in writing... that seems silly and childlike.
You should walk up and say "Hey, congratulations (on his graduation) and before ya take off for college and all that, i just thought I'd let you know that you're a great guy and I wish we'd had a chance to get to know eachother." Flash a winning smile and walk away....he'll be thinking of you and you got to say what you wanted.
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i just now started going tanning and i really need a good lotion to wear in tanning beds. i rate high (link)
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California Tan makes awesome indoor tanning products. You start with a level 1 and as you get more of a base work on to level 2 etc. They smell great, they soak in and don't leave you all slimy and best of all they work great to help you tan faster and deeper.
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ok this is sort of personal but i don't care who answers it because i really need help. i'm fourteen years old and have a boyfriend that's been off and on for over a year. but we're so close now and are in love..no matter who says were "too young" we've gone pretty far in our relationship already, but not a home run. we've talked about going all the way before...but i'm not sure if i'm ready. sometimes i want to, but then i realize i'm only fourteen and shouldn't even think about wanting to. i'm risking a lot if i did this, but if we love each other is it worth it? so can someone whos experienced in this kind of stuff please help? cause i really need it.. thanks. (link)
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If you really feel you have to then go to family planning first and get birth control and condoms are a must. No matter how much in love you are...in reality, this will NOT be the man of your lifetime dreams, so you should think carefully before you have sex with him and how it's going to affect your heart/mind afterwards and after the relationship is over.
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Okay, I went to my doctor and was prescribed with "Levlen ED"
I want to startusing it now, but i was told to startwhen i get my periods.
I havent had my period for about 5-6 weeks now and i hadnt had sex since january but recently had it on the 19th of this month, i also had sex last night and he thinks the condom broke.
Is there a way i can start using the pill now without having to wait for my period to come? I know if i fell pregnant from a broken condom its not going to fix it, but i just want to start using this pill so my periods get in order :<
im extremely confused and i dont know what to do :<
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You have to wait until after your next period to start the pills and then they aren't fully effective until you've been using them for 3+ months.
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