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Friend /Parent trouble
My parents will no longer let me hang out with one of my friends. I don't even see why. She's very respectful and nice. They just don't like her for some reason. How can I make them let me hang out with her again? She's a really good friend and I don't want to lose her. I will rate any1 who helps. So please help. Thank you in advance.
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Talk to your parents. See if you can find out why they don't want you hagning out with her. There could be a very good reason why they don't want you to hang out with her anymore. It could be because of her family, or past history. Parents know a lot more than you may think. Respect their desicions & explain to them that she's your friend, & you like her a lot. Just see what's causing this problem first off, & then after you find out, leave me a message and i'll tell you what to do. I have had this problem before.
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I think it will be very difficult to convince your parents of anything until you figure out what their problem with your friend is. You are not an infant, so you have a right to know why this rule is being imposed on you. Stay calm and explain to them that it isn't rational or fair to insist you cut a good, kind person out of your life without some sort of explanation. They should give you a reason. No one, not even parents, can expect an intelligent teenager to obey a rule like that without a good justification.
After you've discovered their problem then you can negotiate. Maybe all the really want is you not to go over to her home, or maybe they will be okay if you hang out with her if there are other people they do trust about. Once you figure out what their problem is, you can try and figure out how to solve it.
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you can try having your friend talk to your parents instead of yourself, because most of the time it really does work.
Have her tell your parents that she would really like to hang out with you, because you guise are really good friends, and she doesnt know what she has done wrong, but what ever it is about, she is sorry!
This should work, because it has happened to me before, and that is what i had done to fix it, and now we are talking again, and my parents are now cool with her and all, so it is good!
I hope that you solve your problems!
Hev
PS: By the way, let me know how it goes if you can, and my email is hev7777777@yahoo.com!
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They must have some reason they believe is valid and it's big enough that they don't want to share it with you. Maybe something to do with her family and they don't want you around that? In any case you should try and sit down and ask them what exactly their concerns are and then you can tell them that regardless, your friend is a good person. Ask for a compromise that you two can hang out at your house.
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Well you have to ask your parents what the reason is. Because maybe they know something you dont? I really suggest that you ask your parents, and you tell them that you think shes respectful and nice. And tell them how nice she is, and see if that doesnt change their mind.
It could be beacuse your parents arent telling you something about it.
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Why don't you talk to your parents and ask them exactly why they don't want you to be friends with her anymore. They might now tell you if it's a reason that isn't appropriate to discuss with their child, but I know it'll help to some degree. They might know something you don't.
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you are gonig to HHHHHAAAAATTTTTTEEEEEE me when i tell you this- but ALOT of the time- parents can sense a bad seed when they see one. im not exactly sure how, and you may not even see it- but eventually you will if you keep hangin out with her. a fine example would be with my boyfriend and his friend from a nw school thats in a small town- so everyone knows each other- but his parents didnt know who he was hangin out with. my boyfriend saw him as a good kid, just a guy who likes to have fun. but his parents, right away told him they didnt want him hangin out with him. he called me up one day all upset at his parents for actin so crazy like that- but come to find it- his friend wasnt so innocent after all- after a while he started showin his real side- he smoked, drank, cussed- you name it- he did it.so, as mad as it may make you sometimes- about 90% of the time- parents are right about this stuff. hope i helped.
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