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backstabber!
There's this girl,(lets call her B) who's been saying mean stuff about me on her blog, like how i'm annoying and blahblahblah. Some of our friends(we both know the same people)read her blog,and my crush knows her pretty well.I'm worried that B will tell my crush bad stuff about me,and he'll get a horrible first impression of me. Also, I don't want B to go around telling everyone how she finds me irritating etc. What should I do ?
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depending on how much you like this guy, I would talk to him. If he sees that youre a nice person, then he probably wont really listen to what person B is blogging.
Do youre friends know you well enough to know that youre not what this person is saying? They should, or they really arn't friends. Like if this person is saying that your so mean and you are a boyfriend stealer or whatever and your friends believe this, though its not true, they arnt really good friends. they could be nice people, but they wont stay true friends--- or ever be true friends.
As for this mean person, they might just have something against something small you did. Like I once accidentally told someone my friends secret (about her losing her virginity) and she was so mad at me for what seemed like forever! It was crazy though, because it was a total accident and I really didn't think of it until she told me why she was pissed at me a few weeks later. I appoligized and though she was angry, she forgave me and stoped acting all mean.
So yeah, Im always saying to talk, because that always helps!! =] So if I were you, I would talk to your friends, "person B" and your crush to make sure everything is straightened out.
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Girls are brutal when it comes to being mean! And with the web it's possible to be even more cruel by actually putting in writing, mean things about you! If she truly identifies you and is posting untrue things that is defined as "harrassment" You should leave a comment that says, Your comments about me are untrue and by continuing to post them on a website constitutes harrassment, please cease and desist. That way the legality might scare her off a bit and if it does come down to that, you have acted respectfully and told her to stop. I hope it doesnt go any further... good luck
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Are you annoying? Heh.
Everyone is entitled to an opinion and some people take it as far as judging others and talking about it, that's just part of life--get used to it. There is something you can do to minimize the drama of the situation though.
Confront her. Now, I don't mean you should step to her with an attitude because then she'll REALLY have it out for you. Just go to her without any ego at all and ask her if you can talk to her for a minute. Tell her that you realize that she's entitled to her opinion about you, but that you would be really relieved if she stopped talking about you to people and writing about you in her blog. Ask her if there's something you did to offend her and if you could make it up to her somehow.
I'm not suggesting that you ask if you could make it up to her because I think you did anything wrong, in fact I'm making that suggestion because then she'll feel guilty about talking about you and may try to be really nice to you if you present yourself in just the right way. That's why being completely egoless when you talk to her is so important. Egoless but direct and confident; you don't want to come across as a whiny bitch so speak purposefully and hold your head high, but let her see the hurt in your eyes.
If you're not annoying like she says you are then your crush will recognize that for himself if he's not a sheep, and if he is a sheep then you're better off without him.
Remember: direct, confident, egoless, and hurt eyes. And those, my friends, are the ABC's of manipulation.
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well, id say dont worry about her tellin your crush anything bad about you. if he likes you back, he wont believe the things she says. plus, a first impression isnt what you hear about a person- its what you see the minute you meet them. that crucial minute of actually talknig to him, and really 'meeting' each other- is probably the most important of all. not what some gir who has nothing better to do might say about you. dont even stress over this gurl. think about it- for you to be that enthused about a person to always be talkni about them- youve GOT to be jealous of tht person. so be happy- she wants everythng youve got, and talks bad about you to cover it up. it happens to the best of us. just ignore her because she truly has no life. hope i helpd!- good luck!
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