I look like my mother in this picture...is that a good thing?! Lol.
I often feel like I have been through far too much for my age. I've battled depression (several times), emotionally abusive relationships, men walking all over me, an eating disorder and a suicide attempt and I still pulled through. And if I can then you can too.
I'm a great listener, so feel free to ask me anything, I WILL reply to you. Be warned though, my advice is very blunt and I'll say exactly what I think! But then 9 times out of 10 people need to hear the truth rather than be wrapped in cotton wool!
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Okay this might be kind of confusing but bear with me please. So at the end of summer last year, I met this guy, Joe, through my best friend, Liz. Joe dated one of Liz's good friends, Grace. They dated for about 2 & 1/2 years and then at the beginning of summer, they broke up. So now its September, and Joe with his friend come by Liz's house, and I'm there with her. So I meet Joe, I knew who he was and about him & Grace and I thought he was pretty cute. He thought I was really cute too. He liked me and all. I wasn't even THINKING about me and him together, the thought of US never came to mind. I felt like I had no chance. Grace (his ex) was unbelievably gorgeous and so much different from me.Well anyways, so we started hanging out. He'd come by more often and we were both very shy. Later I found out that one of the reasons he fell for me was because I was so quiet. But anyways, so we would hang out; play tennis and just hang out with friends. I also got drunk for the very first time with him -- and that's a very goodmemory. I remember how he was so worried about me geeting home and everything that day. Ahh memories. We went downtown by the lake and shopped and everything. Then one day, we were walking, just the two of us, and we kiss. Later on the walk home, he told me about how he wanted to kiss me sooner but that didn't work out cause it was never good timing with his friends and all. So yes, then the following week we would hang out and kiss :) and talked online. He asked me do I see him as a boyfriend and all that and talked about us dating. The next time we hung out, he asked me out. It was perfect. I never met a guy like him. Never dated ANYONE like that. Too perfect for words. It was awesome, the best time of my life. Everything was going great, I couldn't have been happier. He was a bad boy, ditching school, band with his friends, typical guy stuff. But I was always able to count on him. He always chose me over his friends, and even stopped drinking. We went to different schools, and then I started working with my dad, so things got harder. He had his friends drop him off whenever just so he can see me -- it was like a dream come true. My prince charming had come. But meanwhile, Grace (the ex) found out and went crazy. She hated me and my friend/her friend for letting it even happen. She had people watching me and threating me all the time on the interenet that they're going to kick my ass for dating Joe. But I didn't care. My friendshad my back. I remember when Joe was over and I wasn't supposed to have anyone over, and he was over and my dad came home, haha... he ran out the back door and jumped the gate and everything barefoot. Lol poor him left his shoes. He had written me a song and everything, we even wrote each other notes in school. Now back to the psycho ex-gf, well me and her were sort of friends, we just knew each other because of my best friend Liz. She would always follow me & Joe, (she had a car so was EVERYWHERE) and yeah. Then one day, me and joe sort of got into an argument. Me and my friend Liz and some of his friends were all walking around the nieghborhood onour way to chill at this one park. His ex would drive by and stop and talk to Joe's friends. We were with a bunch of friends all walking when these little 12=14 year old were with us and they were talking shit to joe about me and just because bitches and giving me and my friend attitude so I wasn't gonna deal with it and me and my friend Liz turned around and left. He didn't even bother to go after me or call. I regret doing that, I know he must have gotten mad, I remember when I hung up on him, that upset him also. but anyways, so the same day I call him. And I call again. And I call again. No answer. Same thing the following day, Saturday. Then Sunday I call all day. Finallly I try one last time on SUnday night and Grace picks up. And she said he's with her now and all those times he wasn't with me, he was with her. I dropped the phone. It was crazy, my friends wanted to go right over there and beat her up. But I thought about and decided just to forget it. Lateron, I signed online and he was on -- so I instant messaged him. And I yelled at him and everything and then signed off and cried. And cried. I thought I got over him, I was into another guy -- well then he chose another girl over me, and yeah. Then he came back and I rejected him and all that because I'm not gonna deal with someone liek that. SO I really don't even know what I'm asking. Him and Grace have been together ever since. I ran into both of them the other day at a store which was really awkward, he was with his friends in the store and I was with mine. Then they left the store and his girlfriend -- Grace -- and his sister come in. Then they leave and are waiting outside in the car for us. We goto our car and trhey pull up and then she says something and flicks us off and drives off. But anways, I just can't seem to get over him. Its crazy cause this all happened quite a while ago. Maybe its just because he was my first SERIOUS boyfriend? I have no idea what to do... and I really want to believe that one day WE WILLE get back together. I just hope and pray something along the way will happen and we will be together.Like today for example, I felt like breaking down and crying. I went with my friends downtown, on the train. And they were with their bf's and it reminded me how we used to be like that. Last time I took the train was with him. We went to musuems on Columbus Day. Memories :( It was just so heartbreaking. Do you think that we will get back together? People say "THINGS HAPPEN WHEN YOU LEAST EXPECT IT!" and I wanna follow that, because well thats how I met him. I wasn't even looking for a boyfriend. ANd now every guy I look at or my friends want me to meet/date, I just can't. And it kills me because I want to be with him and no one elsre. DO you thinkin it's possible for us to get back together? Maybe later on in life? It was my mistake because I was always so shy and not really OUT with my feelings, and I regret not telling him how I feel, he always thought I didn't like him or anything. Although we dated for only about 2 months, the memrories and the times we had together even before we began officially "dating" ... they mean soo much. I just wish I had another chance. Do you think it's possible for us to ever get back together? Do you think he ever thinks about me the way I think about him? Is there ANY chance of us getting back together in the future? (link)
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Hi there, thanks for your question and sorry about the late reply!
Wow you poor thing, that is never nice to go through. If it helps I'll relate it to something that happened to me that was similar. I was sort of involved with this guy who had previously been involved with someone who was equally as crazy as your Grace! Anyway (as this is the shortened version lol) I found out about 3 and a half months later I found out he'd been sleeping with her for almost a month. So my advice to you is to do exactly what I did...never speak to him again and delete all evidence he was ever in your life. How DARE he treat you like this? You seem like such a nice girl and deserve far better than this. He didn't even have the courage and decency to break up with you - he had her do it for him...you do NOT want to be dating a coward. The other thing of course is that psycho exes are always very scary and I'll warrent that if you two ever were to get back together she'd constantly be on your back, and no one wants that. I know how hard it can be, and you will cry and miss him and feel rubbish...could take months, I expect the thing you'll miss the most is his friendship. But eventually it WILL get better. Once you've mourned the loss then go out, get yourself some new clothes or shoes, get a new haircut and go and show the world just what you're made of! Go out with your girlfriends and have a laugh. I really don't reccommed trying to get back with him at all, it's bound to get far too messy and I don't believe he's anywhere NEAR good enough for you! If you want anymore advice or support I'm happy to give it so just drop me a line :)
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Heyy. you seemed like an uber cool person so i thought i'd ask you...
okay. so this guy chris and i went out for like a month.. and broke up because he got super clingy and stuff...
so some time went by and we were still really good friends after we broke up and we talk every night and day
so then.. last night kevin, chris's best friend called me and told me that chris still liked me a lot.. and that he really cares for me and stuff...
and so i went to school thinking he liked me...
came home and found out that my best friend and chris were going out
and they weren't planning on telling me.. until i thought it was kinda weird that they were always on the phone together and at his house without me (i'm usually there) and yeah.
i thought everyone knew it was wrong to go out with your best friends exes?!
What should i do? just let them go out and be bothered, (i alreayd told my best friend i thought it was weird) or what?
please e-mail your answer back to superugurl7785@yahoo.com (i'm not a member) kthx. (link)
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I don't know if you'll get this...just emailed your answer to you :)
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Ok so how do i leave my house to go sumwhere if i cant go anywhere b/c of my parents and well no its not annoying not dating i kinda like not dating thx plz w/b! o by the way i act different when im around him and im always like im guna act myself but i always cum out acting like anotha person! my friends say i like him and say that i dont tlk to him it jist that i cant help it i get all jelatin inside wat do ido o and yes there is a ton of emotions! Answer both problems please!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! THX!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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Well I'd use the same tactics you have before. I personally used to tell my parents I was going somewhere with a friend (and then TELL that friend so they didn't phone lol). However, I don't like telling you to lie to your parents, and I think if you decide to date this guy you should tell your parents (I'm happy to give you some advice on how to do that if you need to! just please put your name at the end of the email as I get quite a few emails, and it'd be easier for me to follow that way!).
Secondly, about not acting like yourself - well that's probably because inside you're desperate for this guy to find you exciting and don't think you actually are. Simply try to act around him like you would do with a friend...I'm afraid there is very little advice I can give you on that as it's never easy, but hopefully once you get to know him better you'll relax more around him.
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i am frightened to drive behind the wheel with the instructor. i'm afraid of the instructors yelling at me. please help, i need serious answers. how can i make myself less scared? (link)
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Quite simply, if an instructor yells at you or is impatient with you in any way, change instructors! Generally instructors are very patient with first-time drivers - if he or she is not then just change! You don't pay money in a restaurant and say nothing if you are dissatisfied with the service, so don't accept the same from an instructor.
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Ok i am 15/f and i just found out i am pregnant a few days ago, and my boyfriend (the baby's father) knows. now we have talked about me possibly getting pregnant before and we were fine with it....but now i am and we are keeping the baby because we both want to. but we havent told our parents yet....but we are this weekend. but the thing is we already know hes mom is going to be abssolutely furious, and we were wondering about if he would ever be able to see the baby. because my parent will be fine with it, like they will support me and all, but his mom we dont know, so does anyone know if there is a law that says if he wants to that he has to see the baby? and this is in michigan, and i have not been able to find anything after long hours of researching on the internet...now please if you answer this dont tell me how much of a bad person i am and that i am only 15..i will have enough of that just please answer my question... (link)
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Well at the end of the day it takes 2 people to make a baby. Your boyfriend's mother can't stop your boyfriend from seeing the baby - I don't know about US Laws but I'm gessing that if he's paying support to the baby then he has legal entitlement to access, so there's nothing she can do. It's fantastic that you have a supportive boyfriend and parents, and I'm sure that your boyfriend's mother will eventually come round to the idea - it's her grandchild after all! Plus in my opinion a child needs two parents, especially at such a young age, as you won't be able to cope on your own. Good luck with the baby!
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ok so theres this guy. (lets say his name is Bob).
ok bob likes me alot i think its love anyhoo. i liked him and stopped and i did and i stopped. and he tells me very "corny" stuff on the fone and pervertive stuff. and well yea. i think about him ALOT!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I dont know if he is jist very very special or if i like him! I DEFINETLY want to make out with him!!!!!!!!! But maybe its jist a crush! and i dont get jelous! we cant act ourselves completly around each other and we only tlk by phone b/c i dont really see him and b/c i hang around different groups then he does! Wat do i reely feel for him! Oh and by the way im not allowed to go out w/ any one_ ( I still do but they dont find out but they get suspicious)_ but i want to make out with him but i never have a chance to see him wen do u think we can?! HELP! DESPERATLY! (link)
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Haha oh dear you obviously feel a TON of different emotions! Bless you. Right well you should be able to a) find out if you like him and b) kiss him in one easy step! Talking to him on the phone is probably easier you're less likely to get embarrassed. It's very annoying not being able to date, but if you do anyway then you may as well apply it to this situation! I suggest you ask him out for a coffee or for a bite to eat - somewhere where you can talk and therefore get to know him better - this should help you establish your true feelings for him. And if you decide you do like him, then there should be an opportunity at the end of the date to give him a little kiss if it all goes well! :) Let me know how it goes!
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My absolute best friend in the world.. will not stop talking about killing herself. She lives about half an hour away from me and when I ask her to hang out with me, all she does is say "oh it's about time you asked".. I respond with "I'm sorry.. exams and stuff were in January and you know it wasn't a good month..". And then I asked her to go to this concert that my friend's band is in and she said "No, I'll be the ugly duckling among all those beautiful swans. I'm sick of being the ugly duckling." I seriously don't know what to do. Everything I say she responds with "I'm gonna bash my head into a wall and die".. stuff like that. It's really starting to scare me. I've tried EVERYTHINg you can possibly imagine, and I'm in tears right now. I need help. PLEASE. (link)
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This might sound harsh but rather than your friend being actually suicidal, it seems like she might be trying to emotionally blackmail you. If you have other commitments a true friend will understand - I have been at University for 3 years and don't see some of my best friends for 75% of the year! Yet they understand, and she should too. It's not like you're not making an effort - I imagine if you asked her to do something just the two of you then she would jump at it, as it seems like she doesn't want to have to 'share' you at this concert. However, there is obviously no way you could ever say this to her...and I'd like you to bear in mind that it SOUNDS like emotional blackmail but doesn't necessarily mean it is. I suggest you talk to her parents about everything she's said: if she really is suicidal then clearly something has to be done and she needs professional help - her parents would need to take her to the doctor who should be able to get her professional help. And if she isn't really suicidal then this should nip it in the bud, as her parents would obviously talk to her about it and no doubt she'd be embarassed and hopefully this kind of behaviour would cease. If you need any more advice then just drop me a line. Hope this helps!
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When I grow up I wish to become a magazine owner so I need all the experience I can get. I am going to be entering high school next year. I was thinking about being in the International Baccalaureate program but I'm not quite sure yet. If you are not informed this is an extremely rigirous program. My delimma is that it is out of district so if I don't do well then I have to go back to my home school the following year. So I want to know has any of you ever been in this program or know anyone who has. If so can you please share your personal experience with me and let me know how it is.
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My ex boyfriend took the Intertational Baccalaureate program so I know quite a bit about it. In the UK you have to take 6 units - a Language, a Science, a Humanities unit, Maths, English and an Arts unit (I'm assuming as it's an internationally recognised qualification it's the same over there). Unfortunately this qualification is very hard to do - he's a very intelligent guy and he struggled. However, as I said this is an Internationally recognised qualification and is extremely prestigious...so if you think that you can cope with the workload then GO FOR IT! It'll impress all empolyers and it's recognised around the world so it's definitely worth it! Best of luck to you if you decide to persue it :)
I don't know how to asnswer the question u said in yr feedback lol - yes feel free to drop me a line!!!
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I have to admit, I loathe the cartoon "The Little Mermaid." Hate it to death. So today, my 6-year-old sister was watching it and driving me insane, but there was one song that caught my ear in the middle of the film, I think when that stupid girl was sitting in the boat with the prince. It had a sort of Latin beat. The lyrics are really repetitive, mostly like "sha-la-la-la kiss the girl..." Does anyone know this song? This sounds idiotic, but I want to know (link)
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Yep it's called "Kiss the Girl" and should be pretty easy to download - also Peter Andre did a version so you could check his out :)
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I'm 17, thinking about going on the pill, I understand you need a doctors prescription to do this so I'm wondering what happens...
I've done research into side-effects and effectiveness so I'm clued up on it but will they make me have a pelvic exam or visit the gyn? I'm not really sure how it works, I live in the UK and know it works abit differently to the USA, could anyone help me out on what kind of things I'll be asked by my GP and what I should expect?
Thanks for your time! =) (link)
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I went on the Pill when I was 17 and they basically just take your weight and height, blood pressure etc etc. I'm not aware at all of having to have pelvic exams, I'm sure that I don't know anyone else who did either. Your doctor will give you probably only a month's prescription and then get you to go back after that for a check-up. It's natural to gain a few pounds when you go on the pill, but I gained 9lbs in about 3 weeks - so obviously this is somethign to look out for, and the doctor will most likely change you if this does happen. Other than that you shouldn't have many side-effects. Don't forget that the Pill isn't always 100% effective, and doesn't prevent STIs so always use condoms too just to be on the safe side. :)
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Thanks for your reply. Yeah this girl that i just want to be friends with came in my house while we were gone and put cupcakes to me on our counter. A little creepy!! But anyways I was leaving class today and I was right beside the girl i like and I asked her where she had been, because she was sick a couple days.She was smiling but kinda had her head down at times and seemed to be in a hurry. What do you think this means? Do you think she likes me, cause she was smiling and sounded really sweet, but she was acting weird and we just talked for a second. What should I do next time, and how can i tell if she likes me or not? (link)
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Hang on...she came into your house while you weren't there??? Not only is that creepy but I'm sure that's not legal!!! I'd give her a wide berth in the future.
Anyway to more important things...well it's difficult to tell with this girl on such limited information (I understand it's probably difficult to explain though, so don't worry). However, from what you have said, it could well be that she is just shy...or simply that she really was in a hurry! It's probably too early to tell, so if I were you I'd just keep the chat lighthearted - like you would do if you trying to get to know another guy better! Try and catch her at a time though when you know she'll be less likely to have to run off somewhere. It should become apparant after a while whether she likes you or not - keep me up to date on it and I'll help you decipher it further if you like! Hope this advice helps, looking forward to hearing from you again :)
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i'm 15 and a girl and i have a best friend that is 15 and yes a guy. we like each other more than best friends and we really want to go out like boyfriend and girlfriend. the thing is my parents are very strict portuguese parents. THEY DONT WANT ME DATING UNTIL I'M 50!! i even asked my mom why she wont let me date..i asked if she didnt trust me and she just says well i dont ant any boy to take advantage of you and she doesnt want me to get hurt..and i told her that i'm not stupid & i know the consequences of everything..and its soo unfair because his parents dont mind..and my mom knows him well because he used to be one of her students but my father doesnt really know him at all..how do i get my parents to allow me to have a boyfriend? any tips? thanks =]
--jess (link)
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It's always hard for parents to accept their "little girl" dating, especially if you're the eldest or only child. However, you need to explain to them (calmly!) that dating is just a normal part of growing up - and it's inevitable that at some point a boy might break your heart because it usually happens to everyone at some point. Your parents stopping you from dating now is not going to prevent this from happening in future; in fact you'll know less about men and probably won't be as prepared or as experienced with dealing with it. No one can simply stop you from getting hurt. You sound like a very sensible and trustworthy girl, and if your mother knows this boy it does help. It would be better to invite him round so your father gets a chance to meet him and the four of you sit down and discuss it together - if this boy can show he is mature enough to come to your parents to talk about it then this will most probably help your cause. It might be embarassing, but I'm sure it would be worth it - and you have nothing to lose by trying. I wish you all the best of luck, and let me know how it goes! :)
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One of my guy friends' birthday that me & my best friend act with is coming up soon. He's a regular 13 year old guy (8th grade... turning 14) & his favorite song happens to be "Afternoon Delight" featured in Anchorman (haha yeah he kinda has a sick mind).
We want to make him a cd with songs like Afternoon Delight.
So far I've got Afternoon Delight, All Night Long (lionel richie ((SP))).. but i can't seem to think of any other songs to put on there cuz that kind of music isn't my expertise (thank god)lol.
Please help me find some more songs!! I rate 5s for trying! (link)
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Amazon.com do the Anchorman Soundtrack, and if you don't want to buy it you can actually see the tracks that are on the album just by searching for it on there. Another idea is to have a secret snoop through his CD collection to see what his tastes are, and pick a few songs from there. You could also very easily just start to talk to him about music and then he's bound to mention some of his favourite bands then! Simple! :D
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This guy that I used to want to date is showing some less than desirable qualities. Firstly, I found out he's a gay basher. He says that when queer eye for the straight guy comes on the television he wants to throw his boot through the screen. He's also sexist, and has said to me that men are smarter than woman, and that woman are stupid. He also said that anyone over 30 who isnt married must be gay, and that I'm a prude for saving myself for marriage. He's also made nasty comments about my weight, and I'm not fat, just average.The funny thing is he thinks he's hot but he's really not, he's about 20 pounds overweight and has an ugly hairstyle and outdated clothes. I would love to put him in his place one day but am too "nice". But it makes me mad when he constantly puts me and his other friends down. Should I say something to him? (link)
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It's different when he makes random throwaway comments but when it's personal it is most certainly NOT okay. How dare he speak to you like this?! Sounds to me like this guy is so insecure about himself he puts other people down to make himself feel better. Yes you should definitely say something but the worst thing you can do is to get personal - you don't want to stoop to his level. Simply say firmly that you have your morals (and in this day of teenage pregnancy and casual sex some might say what you are doing is very admirable) and that you're not fat (and I'm glad that you haven't started to believe him when he says that), remind him that no-one's perfect and that he has no business saying what he does about you and your friends. And if this persists, just don't be friends with him - you're worth much more than that and he'll soon change his attitude when he realises all his friends have turned their backs on him.
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I have always had girls come up to me and say they think i'm cute or ask me out, and all the girls have had crushes on me. What I want to know is how do I approach girls that i like that might be shy or scared to? I've never had to and i'm pretty clueless of what to talk about and how to tell if she's interested in me or not, unless she has come up to me. I'd appreciate your feedback.
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Well to be fair if you always get girls coming up to you then you can't be ugly, so well done you! :P It might sound shallow but any girl is going to be flattered if a good-looking guy asks them out, whether they are interested or not. My advice is just to not be shy - at least if they say no they're going to be unlikely to laugh at you! Girls love confidence (but NOT arrogance!) and if you act confident you should feel more confident inside. Go for it, and good luck! :D
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My friend doesn't live in the same city as me--in fact, it's quite far from where I live. I barely see her anymore. We hardly ever get to talk to her on the phone or online. Lately, I've been missing her a lot. I'm not sure if she still even considers me her "friend." Sometimes I wonder if she still cares about me, because she never picks up her cell when I call... Is there anything I could do?
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It's always difficult when people move away from each other...but it's not impossible to remain friends - people do it when they move away to University or college all the time! However it sounds like you're doing all the running which just isn't fair. By all means email her or send her a letter but you may have to accept the fact that your friendship might not last the distance - I lost my best friend of 8 years the same way and it really upset me, but somtimes it is inevitable. If the friendship is doomed then it'll fall apart no matter how much effort you make, so if I were you I'd concentrate on making new friends. Hope I helped :S
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I recently read a few pages of my gf's journal (I know, I know, I shouldn't have) and she mentioned another guy that she is interested in. She writes about how happy she is when she sees this guy. Should I confront her about it or just see what happens? (link)
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You're right, you should never have done that but I suppose what's done is done. Clearly if you read her journal then your relationship has some trust issues - and to me it looks like your suspicions are confirmed. I suppose it all depends on how you are mentioned in context - ie if she says that she's happy when she sees him but she still loves you, or if you're not mentioned at all. I would bring it up with her if you are still suspicious, mainly because otherwise you'll drive yourself mad imagining things that may not be true, and that's not fair to either of you. But I hope the two of you work things out - good luck!
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Everyone says breasts stop growing at 18. I'm going to be 20 next month and my breasts look the same size as they did when I was 13. Is this it for me? Am I doomed to wear push up bras all my life? :( *cries* (link)
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Well for a start scientists say you don't stop growing fully till you're 21. But unfortunately unless you go through a growth-spurt very late then they are very unlikely to get any bigger. However - you're probably blessed with a small waist, ass and killer abs! I have big breasts but if I want to be slim I have to work really really hard at the gym, so it doesn't always have its advantages! So focus on what great features you DO have rather than the ones you don't :) We'll just have to join forces to hate those girls with big breasts and teeny tiny waists!
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Hey guys, my name is Levi,Im 16, male, 5'11-6' about 155 lbs. I posted here last summer about a girl and i tried to follow what some you people said, and well let's just say, it didn't work...Yeahhh anyways, I met this girl beggining of my sophomore year, "this year", and she is a freshman, completely gorgeous, she plays softball and from what I know we have a lot in common. I talked to her the other day driving home from school on my cell and she said she likes guys who where athletic and confident blah blah, and I can say im both, I lift weights and I play two sports, the only problem is that im afraid to ask her out sometime, she's really intimidating because I've never met a girl like this before and wow, I really wanna get something going. I always here her talking to her friends about how she wants to find the right guy, with a low drama relationship, and im pretty much looking for the same thing. I mean I want it to be fairly serious but I don't want everyone and thier mom involved. How should I approach asking her out, "should it be on a date? A trip to block buster then to my house? With friends out to eat somewhere casual? She seems to be really easy going, and she isn't stuck up and self centered like most girls I know, please help me out...
Levi (link)
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Something like this happened to me once. I thought this guy was COMPLETELY out of my league when I met him at college so I never did anything about how much I liked him. Two years later he's my best friend and it turns out he likes me too...and oh yeah, he now has a long-term girlfriend. See how easy it is to miss an opportunity and kick yourself for ages after? Exactly. If you like this girl you should definitely go for it. Ask her casually if she'd like to go for a coffee or for something to eat with you one day after school - that's the best way to get to know someone, in a relaxed and familiar environment. And if she says no? Yeah it will suck. But it's NOTHING compared to the feeling of having missed your chance. Go for it ;)
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hey last sunday (of this week), a guy i really like asked me out and i said yes. i dont know how to tell my parents. my mom has said im not allowed to date or go on dates until im 16 or 17. how do i tell them with out getting in trouble? (link)
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It's never easy for parents to like the idea of their "little girl" dating. However if just talking to them does not convince them then you have to show them you're trustworthy - tell them exactly where and when you want to go, how you're getting there and back, how long you'll be gone and when they can expect you home. If necessary then even offer to let your parents meet him beforehand. This all seems like a lot of trouble admittedly, but he's worth it right? ;) And if they STILL say no then the best way round it is to plan a date with him to the mall or movies (something that won't arouse suspicion) on a weekend like you might do with your friends and say you're going with one of them (and tip that friend off first so they don't call while you're out!). I'm NOT suggesting lying to your parents is a good idea but I understand that they can be overprotective (hell mine were and I did it all anyway) - and I know how hard it can be to relate to the opposite sex sometimes and this is obviously important to you. Use the fibbing as a last resort though, as if the first approach works then you'll be free to go out with him again, and that's MUCH better! ;)
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