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hey last sunday (of this week), a guy i really like asked me out and i said yes. i dont know how to tell my parents. my mom has said im not allowed to date or go on dates until im 16 or 17. how do i tell them with out getting in trouble?
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what momma wont know wont hurt her. besides why go on dates anyway? that requires money. Why not just meet at school and hang out there? play it on low key till then, then when you get older just tell her that "you found someone"
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It's never easy for parents to like the idea of their "little girl" dating. However if just talking to them does not convince them then you have to show them you're trustworthy - tell them exactly where and when you want to go, how you're getting there and back, how long you'll be gone and when they can expect you home. If necessary then even offer to let your parents meet him beforehand. This all seems like a lot of trouble admittedly, but he's worth it right? ;) And if they STILL say no then the best way round it is to plan a date with him to the mall or movies (something that won't arouse suspicion) on a weekend like you might do with your friends and say you're going with one of them (and tip that friend off first so they don't call while you're out!). I'm NOT suggesting lying to your parents is a good idea but I understand that they can be overprotective (hell mine were and I did it all anyway) - and I know how hard it can be to relate to the opposite sex sometimes and this is obviously important to you. Use the fibbing as a last resort though, as if the first approach works then you'll be free to go out with him again, and that's MUCH better! ;)
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Hey. Parents usually joke when they say that. And even when they don't they usually change their mind when the time comes. When I found out a guy liked me (back when I had never dated) I prosponed talking to the guy until I talked with my mom. I told her some guy liked me and asked her if it was okay to say yes. She said it was and gave me some good advise. but she was nice about it and supportive and has been supportive about me dating ever since. ...Maybe you can talk to your parents and tell them that some guy likes you and he's nice and smart (point out the qualities parents like to hear) and that he asked you out and you said yes. Ask them if it's okay with them and if they say no (which I doubt they'll say) don't freak out or anything. Just be reasonable and ask them why not. try to reason with them and tell them you like this guy and you think you're mature enough to be in a relationship. And remind them that high school relationships help us improve daily relationships and give us a better idea for what kind of person we want when we get married (if you don't date your marriage life will be screwed up). but I'm sure they'll be okay with it and see you're mature and responsible enough to have told them. Good luck!!
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