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PARENTS STiNK!
i'm 15 and a girl and i have a best friend that is 15 and yes a guy. we like each other more than best friends and we really want to go out like boyfriend and girlfriend. the thing is my parents are very strict portuguese parents. THEY DONT WANT ME DATING UNTIL I'M 50!! i even asked my mom why she wont let me date..i asked if she didnt trust me and she just says well i dont ant any boy to take advantage of you and she doesnt want me to get hurt..and i told her that i'm not stupid & i know the consequences of everything..and its soo unfair because his parents dont mind..and my mom knows him well because he used to be one of her students but my father doesnt really know him at all..how do i get my parents to allow me to have a boyfriend? any tips? thanks =]
--jess
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It's always hard for parents to accept their "little girl" dating, especially if you're the eldest or only child. However, you need to explain to them (calmly!) that dating is just a normal part of growing up - and it's inevitable that at some point a boy might break your heart because it usually happens to everyone at some point. Your parents stopping you from dating now is not going to prevent this from happening in future; in fact you'll know less about men and probably won't be as prepared or as experienced with dealing with it. No one can simply stop you from getting hurt. You sound like a very sensible and trustworthy girl, and if your mother knows this boy it does help. It would be better to invite him round so your father gets a chance to meet him and the four of you sit down and discuss it together - if this boy can show he is mature enough to come to your parents to talk about it then this will most probably help your cause. It might be embarassing, but I'm sure it would be worth it - and you have nothing to lose by trying. I wish you all the best of luck, and let me know how it goes! :)
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wow that stinks! we'll you should tell them I'm old enough to make my own descions. & let them meet the kid that you like. Just keep on talking to them i'm sure it will work out hunn.
xo Erikanne
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I would suggest you bring him over your house to get to know your parents. Although he was your mother's student, she and your father should get to know him more than just that-don't you think? You parents could also talk to his parents, and maybe you could invite him and his parents over for dinner for everyone to get to know eachother. If your parents get to know that he's a respectible guy, they will feel more comfortable with you dating him. I hope I helped!
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ok, the only way to do it is to have your guy friend come over and meet the parents and then, after he leaves you talk to your parents about it. If they liked him they will generally let you be bf&gf.
You are falsely mad at your parents. I bet you feel they are wrong and not understanding and what not. My older brother feels the same way, but my dad has called (predicted) every move he has made with his girl friends over time. Its so odd to have my dad say my bro will do something and then to watch him do it. Parents have gone through the same thing even if you dont want to admit it, they know what is going on. If they still say no after they met him then you need to respect their wishes.
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your young i can see your parents point of view, i would suggest asking your parents if he can come over some time to watch a movie and have some popcorn or something. While your parents are in the house, or parent. if you parent<S> get to know him and like him then probably they will let you two do something on your own together. you may not like them being around but what do you have to hide? unless what you want to do is inappropriate then i could see the major problem with your parents being around.Get your parents to know and trust him and if he is a good guy they should get along fine, then a date just might be on its way. Oh and tell your parents he is just a close friend, you dont get a bf until your parents say you can have a bf. You can go against them but it will only cause problems, improvise with your parents that the trick. Hope this helps
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