Question Posted Tuesday February 14 2006, 10:47 pm
Ok i am 15/f and i just found out i am pregnant a few days ago, and my boyfriend (the baby's father) knows. now we have talked about me possibly getting pregnant before and we were fine with it....but now i am and we are keeping the baby because we both want to. but we havent told our parents yet....but we are this weekend. but the thing is we already know hes mom is going to be abssolutely furious, and we were wondering about if he would ever be able to see the baby. because my parent will be fine with it, like they will support me and all, but his mom we dont know, so does anyone know if there is a law that says if he wants to that he has to see the baby? and this is in michigan, and i have not been able to find anything after long hours of researching on the internet...now please if you answer this dont tell me how much of a bad person i am and that i am only 15..i will have enough of that just please answer my question...
Nallie answered Tuesday February 21 2006, 4:49 am: You didn't say how old the b/f is, but I will assume he is under 18. Legally his parents could try to stop him from seeing the baby since he is a minor. However, by law he will still have an obligation to support the baby. I assume at your age you don't have the resources to pay a lawyer to file a formal custody agreement. So I would advise that the two of you decide in advance how often he will have visitation, when and where this visitation should take place and so on. Both of you sign the agreement and if the parents try to restrict him from seeing the baby present them with the agreement. If the parents push the issue and still refuse to allow him contact, call a lawyer. [ Nallie's advice column | Ask Nallie A Question ]
Thief answered Friday February 17 2006, 7:32 am: At least you admit to it, well, im pretty sure that he can see the baby cuase HE is the father after all and the mother has no custity or the athority to make her son not see his own baby am i right? If she does get mad, who could blame her ya know?, anyway i hope things work out for you and youre boyfriend but please be advised to be ready for the obsitcles ahead, plus childbirth. Anyway good luck, hope this helps [ Thief's advice column | Ask Thief A Question ]
ellamouse9 answered Wednesday February 15 2006, 11:24 pm: Well at the end of the day it takes 2 people to make a baby. Your boyfriend's mother can't stop your boyfriend from seeing the baby - I don't know about US Laws but I'm gessing that if he's paying support to the baby then he has legal entitlement to access, so there's nothing she can do. It's fantastic that you have a supportive boyfriend and parents, and I'm sure that your boyfriend's mother will eventually come round to the idea - it's her grandchild after all! Plus in my opinion a child needs two parents, especially at such a young age, as you won't be able to cope on your own. Good luck with the baby! [ ellamouse9's advice column | Ask ellamouse9 A Question ]
B0YgimmeTHATx3 answered Wednesday February 15 2006, 3:29 am: Oh Im not judging you hun. I agree wit the other person who answered, you should tell them all in one room. And yea, he will have to be apart of his childs life unless he and his parents want to pay child support. What kind of parent would force her son to stay away from his baby? Everything will work out, youre pregnant and youre having a baby, so your bf's mom cant change that so let her be mad for awhile, but eventually she'll get over it if she loves her son.
jammy12 answered Wednesday February 15 2006, 12:00 am: I don't know about any laws or anything but I think ya'll should explain that it will be both your kid and he should be able to see it. If I was you have everyone you want to tell in one room at the same time so that your parents and his mom can come up to an agreement which I'm sure they will say you are too young to decide. Hope you have a safe healthy baby and I know everything will work out! [ jammy12's advice column | Ask jammy12 A Question ]
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